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How I helped Philomena track down her son sold by cruel nuns:

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It was a shameful episode, for which there has still been no official apology; and women from the Mother and Baby homes have not been included in the compensation scheme offered to former inmates of the notorious Magdalene Laundries.

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Philomena was one of thousands of unmarried mothers taken away from their homes and families in the post-war decades because the Catholic church said they were moral degenerates who could not be allowed to keep their children.

Many of the women who have come forward said they, like Philomena, had kept the ‘guilty secret’ of their illegitimate children for decades, not telling families or friends as the Church had told them they would be damned if they did. And many of them echoed Philomena’s story of appealing to the nuns for help in finding their children. Like her, they were rebuffed.

They have not been the only ones to suffer. The children who were taken away for adoption have also spoken up to say that they too had spent their lives wondering and yearning – for the mother they had lost. As with Philomena and her son Anthony, it was clear that parents and children had been simultaneously looking for each other.


Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2495391/How-I-helped-Philomena-track-son-sold-cruel-nuns-Its-film-toddler-torn-mother-reducing-grown-men-tears--REAL-story-haunt-forever.html#ixzz2ksZsNdoX
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Please read the story at the link...

Dismissive Statements


by: Sister Wish

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The purpose of dismissive statements is to individualize the experience and deny any link to a larger group feeling.



Guess what?



Adoptees feel loss.

Adoptees feel grief.

Adoptees feel pain.



There. I said it. I generalized.

I have spent a lot – A LOT – of time reading, learning, hearing and just taking in what adoptees write and say. There is a chorus of voices. I am justified in making some generalizations.

You go spend no less than 8 – 10 hours (sometimes more) every day hearing what adoptees say with no judgments, no thinking about what you want to say. Just listen. Then come back and tell me how wrong I am in making these generalizations.





I have honestly hit a wall on being dismissed. Not only for myself, but also for my fellow educated, well spoken, honest, selfless adoptee friends. We speak to you. We want you to listen.

But if you find that you just cannot hear us at all, please do not dismiss us.

Dismiss yourself from the conversation.
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much more @ link, please read:
http://www.sisterwish.com/dismissive-statements/#comment-6130


Please also read the comments on the blog site. This is not my blog nor anyone that I personally know, just someone else who shares a similar background and feelings.

Names

Rachel Rostad - "Names" (NPS 2013)


My heart breaks for this young woman, like so many others like her. No one knows if her birthmother truly never named her, or received communications from her. Anything is possible, but women don't generally give birth without a connection to their offspring. I've heard countless adoptees from China, Korea, and Africa that were told stories that simply were lies. They were told their parents were dead, but when they pressed to find the truth their mother had been looking for her child for decades.

Its a lot to take in. Just listen to it a few times.

Anti-adoption activists defy popular opinion



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An entire movement, it turns out--fighting with a primal passion to expose what activists insist is adoption's darker side: The lifelong trauma of women coerced into surrendering babies. Adoptees denied their heritage. And, they say, a billion-dollar industry that focuses more on money than youngsters' welfare.

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"Offering up fake parents is not serving the best interest of a child," DelBalzo said

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"I've never seen anyone more scared and vulnerable than a pregnant woman without resources," he said. The problem is, "if they ask for help, more than likely they are advised to give up their child."

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For instance, adoptees often are told their mothers made a loving choice to give them a better life. "But a lot of adoptees have said they feel like a nine-month abortion, which is exactly the opposite of what their mothers wanted," Frisch said.

~more @ link...please read~
http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2004-08-11/features/0408110320_1_adoption-supporters-adoption-plan-loving-home/2



I cannot for the life of me understand how anyone can view the purchasing of an infant as anything other than human trafficking.

Nancy's Daughter

My genealogy research has been a bit stunted. I was adopted at birth, so I (as others like me) have had more of a challenge than most. Last January I finally found and spoke with my mother! I spoke with her on the phone at least once a week until I finally made the trip to meet her just recently.

Frankly, the very last thing we talked about was the family tree, at least formally. Throughout our conversations family history that I was not privy to until finding her was woven into our conversations. Apparently I look and behave like Aunt Natalie, although Mom's and my similarities were pretty mind blowing.

My mother is 5'3", her mother was 5'2", yet at 5'8" I am the "runt" of the litter! My sister closest to me in age is 6' foot So much about us is so similar, from mannerisms, to the manner in which we speak, to outlook on life...we are family. I am no longer a mutant, a weirdo, I come from people just like me. I am Nancy's daughter. For right now that is enough.

La La La, I can't Heeeeear Yoooouuu

This has been the conservative response to President Obama's remarks today on the Travon Martin case and all of the issues that revolve around race in Martin's death and subsequent trial of Zimmerman that has lead to conservatives digging in their heals to their ideology of not wanting to hear people that don't "look" like them. As a non-African-American, it has been embarrassing, frustrating, and infuriating to hear other non-African-Americans stick their fingers in their ears, refusing to hear our Black brothers & sisters experiences and histories. Most people who consider themselves progressive are embarrassed and frustrated by this, wishing that others would open their hearts and their ears and actually listen to the reality of our African-American brothers & sisters.

What President Obama did today with his presser is easily one of my top five favorite things that he has done since becoming president. He reached out to those of the unreceptive audience of Caucasians who don't understand why some Black folk and others are upset with the outcome of the Zimmerman Trial. This was met with an immediate "push-back" from conservative commentators who condemned him for speaking his truth."SSHHHH, can't say that outloud..."

I have to tell you that this very much reminds me of the struggle of adopted people. Some(many) adopters and people whom love adopters take a defensive pose at the thought of an adoptee speaking their truth. When we speak our truth about our identity being stolen from us it met with a stark and saddening response. As other minority groups, we don't all believe the same things and have different outlooks, but the one thing that almost all adult adoptees agree on is that we deserve the same rights as others, so we demand our original birth certificates. It has been quite shocking to me to see the sentiment raised against our civil rights have such strength and hostility.When you see African-American conservative judge Larry Elders speak about how African Americans should be racially profiled(on Piers Morgan Show), and you are outraged by that, please keep in mind that this is how adoptees feel when one of their own are quote about how their second class citizenship is just fine with them.

Thankfully, the adoptee rights movement also includes adoptive parents who love their "children" enough to know that they are entitled to...and fundamentally need...to know their origins, history, DNA, and culture. I encourage others to drop what they think they know about adoption (from adopters point of view), and listen to adoptees.


Please listen to people who tell their stories. It may well break down long held beliefs that you hold, but if those are misinformed beliefs, wouldn't you like the truth?

Thousands may sue over illegal adoptions



Saturday, June 01, 2013

A High Court decision to allow a woman who claims her baby was put up for adoption in the 1970s without her permission to sue for damages could open the door to challenges from thousands of women who had their children taken from them in forced and illegal adoptions.

The woman is suing a religious order and the HSE, as successor to the adoption agency which arranged the placement of her daughter more than 40 years ago, claiming the adoption was done without her knowledge while she was a resident with the order. She is not contesting the adoption order.

The woman claims she was not even consulted when, as a teen mother, the baby was taken for adoption. She says that she suffered psychological harm, among other injuries, due to the defendants’ alleged negligence, breach of duty, and breach of her constitutional rights.

She also claims fraud and undue influence in relation to documents she allegedly signed for the adoption.

http://www.irishexaminer.com/ireland/thousands-may-sue-over-illegal-adoptions-232997.html

Breaking down adoption myths...



When I called my mother for the first time she broke down calling me by my original name, crying, sobbing actually. She has spent her life thinking of me and falling into depression around my birthday every year. My wonderful step-father has been there for her, holding her, comforting her as she has dealt with the incredible pain of losing her first child.

Speaking up against the PTB

This is my adoption anthem:

"CLOSURE" Trailer --- Documentary

For me personally, although I am very happily in reunion with my mother and family, there is no closure, just a sense of understanding and peace. There is no "getting over it", as I have been forever altered, de-constructed if you will. I live with this reality every day of my life.


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