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i kno what needs to be done. i am trying to get by the family on -board...that is the current problem. however, i am willing ot proceed without them. Mom is a master manipulator and liar....she learned from him. She has convinvinced my nieces that i am forcing her from her house, but she fails to mention that she says the house is too much for her and there is the matter of the drug addict that she cannot let got of, even with the restraining order.
Posted by noiretextatique | Tue Sep 16, 2014, 07:19 PM (0 replies)

My 80 yo mother is addicted to my drug-addicted nephew

He is 28 years old and has been living with her for 10 years. He has done nothing but get into trouble for 10 years. We've talked to my Mom about it, but recently I decided to take action. I convinced her to get a restraining order because he was using and selling meth in her house, and bringing drug addicts and dealers into her house. Over the past ten years, he has racked up an impressive petty criminal record, including two domestic violence convictions, and two possession of meth charges, and just two weeks ago, he was finally charged with felony possession and a 657b enhancement...that's CA's 3 strikes law.

My mother has been violating the restraining order by allowing him to come to her house and talking to him on the phone. Funny...she tried to visit him in jail, but the jailer told her she could not: because SHE has a restraining order against him. My mother is of sound mind and body...except when it comes to him...and my drug addicted brother. My brother at least has his own apartment, but he relies on my mother financially, to some extent.

He is a danger to her. And she is a danger to herself when it comes to him. I want my mother to sell her house, but she is resistant only because she wants to keep a home for him....but she really doesn't want him, or his drug activity in her house. Her latest solution is to house him in the garage, even though the restraining order prohibits that.

I think it is time for conservatorship, based on the fact that the nephew has undue influence over her...like battered woman or Stockholm syndrome. He has stolen her car, three new televisions from her house, and god only knows how much cash. He has assaulted both his sisters, and two women he was dating. He is using and dealing meth. I keep asking her: what does he have to do before you see him for who he is? I am afraid she is going to be hurt if she continues to deal with him, and I know she will because she is obsessed with him. And it is so sad. His two younger sisters are both nurses, and doing very well, But until I filed the restraining order, they would not even come to her house.

I am so frustrated. The family all agree that what has been happening is not good, and that she is a danger to herself because of her enabling. Yet, they want her to maintain her independence. And so do I, but I know she cannot break this cycle of co-dependency with him without our help. She even suggested that we get conservatorship. So...I think I am going to make the decision without the rest of the family, and do what I can to to keep my mother safe, because I know she will continue to put herself in danger.

Just needed to vent, but any suggestions are welcome
Posted by noiretextatique | Tue Sep 16, 2014, 04:26 PM (12 replies)

FACT: GOP voters are overwhelmingly older, whiter, and maler

than the rest of american voters. it is a verifiable FACT, so can someone please explain to me why stating that fact is problematic...for democrats? thanks in advance.
Posted by noiretextatique | Thu Jul 10, 2014, 06:15 PM (58 replies)

nothing "racist" about calling out racism


A thread about rush limbaugh's racist comments re: black mississippians was locked by...???? who would find that objectionable? Please comment.
Posted by noiretextatique | Wed Jun 25, 2014, 05:21 PM (2 replies)

For the umpteenth time: Calling out racism is NOT racist or divisive

It is the duty of every thinking person to challenge racism, at every turn. I have a black acquaintance who calls Asian people "chinamen," and I get on her case about it.

I see a thread was just LOCKED about rush limbaugh's ridiculous Uncle Tom comments about black people who voted for Cochran in Mississippi. Sorry...posting a thread about the overt, ever-present, and never-ending racism of the RW is NOT RACISM.
Posted by noiretextatique | Wed Jun 25, 2014, 04:58 PM (119 replies)

I do not want to date you

Would suffice. I will not date you unless you have sex with me is not the same as I will not date you.
Posted by noiretextatique | Sun Apr 20, 2014, 10:59 AM (1 replies)

Compare and Contrast: Two race-related threads


Remember when Cosby made his comments about the "lower classes?" See how many people agreed with him in the thread above.

Compare to this thread in GD today


Posted by noiretextatique | Thu Feb 20, 2014, 03:08 PM (27 replies)

General Smedley Butler is still right: War IS a Racket

“Yes, they are getting ready for another war. Why shouldn’t they? It pays high dividends. But what does it profit the men who are killed? What does it profit their mothers and sisters, their wives and their sweethearts? What does it profit their children? What does it profit anyone except the very few to whom war means huge profits? Yes, and what does it profit the nation?”
General Smedley D. Butler, USMC 1933

More from the book:

War is a racket. It always has been. It is possibly the oldest, easily the most profitable, surely the most vicious. It is international in scope. It is the only one in which the profits are reckoned in dollars and the losses in lives."

A racket is best described, I believe, as something that is not what it seems to the majority of the people. Only a small "inside" group knows what it is about. It is conducted for the benefit of the very few, at the expense of the very many. Out of war a few people make huge fortunes.

In the World War a mere handful garnered the profits of the conflict. At least 21,000 new millionaires and billionaires were made in the United States during the World War. That many admitted their huge blood gains in their income tax returns. How many other war millionaires falsified their tax returns no one knows.

How many of these war millionaires shouldered a rifle? How many of them dug a trench? How many of them knew what it meant to go hungry in a rat-infested dug-out? How many of them spent sleepless, frightened nights, ducking shells and shrapnel and machine gun bullets? How many of them were wounded or killed in battle?

Posted by noiretextatique | Thu Sep 5, 2013, 04:49 PM (3 replies)

Have you heard about this lunatic?

This guy actually works for Homeland Security If they can't even screen their employees properly...

The war is on! The smallhats (white so-called jews) have stepped it up.

So begins a defiant screed posted this weekend on the Facebook page of War on the Horizon (WOH), the anti-white, anti-LGBT website operated by Ayo Kimathi, a black Department of Homeland Security employee.

Kimathi was put on paid administrative leave last Friday after his double life – DHS employee by day, angry, homophobic racist by night – was confirmed and reported by Hatewatch on August 21. Kimathi, a small business specialist, works for a unit of Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) that is responsible for procuring such items as handcuffs, ammunition and guns.

Kimathi calls himself “the Irritated Genie” as he goes around the country predicting and advocating race war. He apparently has no intention of putting the genie back in the bottle.

Less than 48 hours after Kimathi was put on leave, the Facebook page for WOH declared that “the Irritated Genie is under attack from the zionist smallhats, the Uncle Tom koons, the white-sex offenders, the haters, the conspiracy theorists, etc. … Our website is getting flooded with traffic at the moment, but we expect the owner of our hosting to terminate our website any day now.”

Posted by noiretextatique | Thu Aug 29, 2013, 05:23 PM (2 replies)

I went to my local bar last night for a end of DOMA toast...but VRA had me down

local gay bar, everyone was excited about the SCOTUS ruling, and some people were making plans to get married as soon as possible. i, however, couldn't shake the feeling of being shafted as a black person, while celebrating as a gay person. I live in California, so I don't think my right to vote will be affected by the latest horrible, backward, crazy SCOTUS decision but it most certainly affect other black people. I can shake this feeling of...betrayal, disappointment, weariness. I find it difficult to rejoice in the outcome yesterday because of the outcome the day before.

scalia talks of racial entitlements...while the murderous bastard zimmerman stands trial for a real racial entitlement: the ability to murder black people, without consequence. roberts is an anti-voting rights activist, and had no business deciding this case (ditto for scalia). alioto and thomas: disgraces. there is a special place in hell for them.

my friend, a former DUer, moved to guatemala a few years ago, and i am thinking of joining her. i really admire the people who are energized to keep fighting, but i am tired, disappointed, etc, etc, etc. i've been engaged in this battle since ronald reagan was nominated, and i am not sure i want to do it anymore.
Posted by noiretextatique | Thu Jun 27, 2013, 01:56 PM (17 replies)
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