HomeLatest ThreadsGreatest ThreadsForums & GroupsMy SubscriptionsMy Posts
DU Home » Latest Threads » Forums & Groups » Topics » Gender & Orientation » History of Feminism (Group) » When DU3 began I explored...
Introducing Discussionist: A new forum by the creators of DU

Fri Jun 15, 2012, 02:12 AM

When DU3 began I explored all options and subscribed to the "Mens Group"....

I thought it had potential. Early on I posted once or twice (one thread dealt with celebrities you'd like to date-no problem!) but I was uncomfortable with the general direction of the group. Today I unsubscribed. It appears to have devolved into something I don't want to be connected with in any way and, while I am a man, I'm not a misogynist. Please accept my apologies for the crap you've had to deal with.

11 replies, 1631 views

Reply to this thread

Back to top Alert abuse

Always highlight: 10 newest replies | Replies posted after I mark a forum
Replies to this discussion thread
Arrow 11 replies Author Time Post
Reply When DU3 began I explored all options and subscribed to the "Mens Group".... (Original post)
Rowdyboy Jun 2012 OP
BlueIris Jun 2012 #1
Rowdyboy Jun 2012 #2
Violet_Crumble Jun 2012 #3
Rowdyboy Jun 2012 #4
hlthe2b Jun 2012 #5
seabeyond Jun 2012 #6
CrispyQ Jun 2012 #7
seabeyond Jun 2012 #8
Texasgal Jun 2012 #9
Rowdyboy Jun 2012 #10
MerryBlooms Jun 2012 #11

Response to Rowdyboy (Original post)

Fri Jun 15, 2012, 03:09 AM

1. Welcome. I confess...

I balked in fear when I saw the subject line.

I personally believe a "men's studies"/"men's group" here would not be the worst idea if it were not a place where sexism or misogyny ran rampant. What little I've seen of the existing group on DU3 scared the crap out of me, and I haven't been back since.

I think it's good you can recognize that it wasn't working for you. Good luck finding more appropriate groups to post in.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to BlueIris (Reply #1)

Fri Jun 15, 2012, 03:15 AM

2. There are plenty of places for me on DU....the LGBT group is homebase....GD is fine...I just thought

it might be interesting to participate in a "Men's" group...Didn't work out though. Guess I'm just not angry enough to fit in.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to Rowdyboy (Reply #2)

Fri Jun 15, 2012, 03:25 AM

3. Hey rowdy. I've subscribed and unsubscribed from a few groups...

Some suit me, some don't. I restrict my tolerance for *angry* to the I/P forum, where angry makes sense to me and I know who's who and why they're angry...

I'd just talk about what you want to talk about in the Men's group and ignore the angry. There's one or two familiar faces in that group that I really like from elsewhere at DU, and they didn't seem to be too angry when I read their posts

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to Violet_Crumble (Reply #3)

Fri Jun 15, 2012, 03:38 AM

4. I've never really found much in the Mens group that I really wanted to respond to...

I know there are some good guys there but my time here is limited so I try to avoid people that I find repugnant.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to Rowdyboy (Original post)

Fri Jun 15, 2012, 07:31 AM

5. One can only applaud at self-enlightenment...

Good on ya.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to Rowdyboy (Original post)

Fri Jun 15, 2012, 08:46 AM

6. thank you rowdyboy.

for your OP.

i had hope, too, for the potential and what i thought was much needed.

but, thank you. your OP matters.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to Rowdyboy (Original post)

Fri Jun 15, 2012, 09:39 AM

7. There's a men's group?

Who knew? I didn't even know we had multiple women's groups until the whole brouhaha a few months ago. I find my comfort zone & stick with it - lol. I hang in Latest, Greatest & here. Sometimes I bop over to the veg group to see what Will has been cooking. He's adventurous & reports on new products & places all the time.

You're welcome here, Rowdy.



Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to CrispyQ (Reply #7)

Fri Jun 15, 2012, 09:46 AM

8. the healthy way to do du. my kids and hubby are amazed that i cannot do that

i am so damn curious. and you know what they say. i dont know how to do what you do. i tell my boys, if i dont know.... then i wont know. i NEED to know. then i have a better picture of what is happening.

they say, but you get upset.

i say, but you dont know, and you should know, so YOU get upset. too many people dont look, dont get upset, and things get worse

BUT, they are healthier.

i go back and forth in my lifetime of the way to walk this

sigh....

big issue in our house.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to Rowdyboy (Original post)

Fri Jun 15, 2012, 09:14 PM

9. I've never been in there

and have no reason to do so.

I'm with Violet, I've subscribed and un subscribed to several groups. I like to hang out where I feel welcome! I don't think I'd be welcome with open arms there.

I have no problem that it is there, I just don't have any desire to be a part or even READ it.

I hope you stick around in here, it's always good to see new people!

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to Texasgal (Reply #9)

Sat Jun 16, 2012, 02:57 AM

10. As a semi-rural Mississippian with a very limited circle of friends DU has been an education for me

in many positive ways. For the last 10 years its been my only real connection to the gay and feminist community, to like-minded political junkies and to people who generally share my non-judgmental outlook on life. I was raised by a strong, supportive woman with a cadre of aunts, great aunts, cousins and church ladies and I am comfortable with strong women.

I don't post a whole bunch but I'm retired and I read obsessively. Thank you and all the others for your kindness. I really am sorry for the abuse you guys have experienced on this board. As a gay man I can honestly empathize.

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink


Response to Rowdyboy (Original post)

Sat Jun 16, 2012, 12:19 PM

11. ...

Reply to this post

Back to top Alert abuse Link here Permalink

Reply to this thread