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Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:11 PM

I have to have my kitty put to sleep this afternoon.

I know this isn't really a feminist kind of thing, but you guys are kinda my support group.

I can't tell my two best friends and ask for their support right now, because one is going in for surgery tomorrow and the other is her moral support so I don't feel right burdening them with this right now.

I have two other cats but Moochie is my heart baby. He was a feral cat that I was feeding on my patio until one day he crawled into my lap, put his paws on my shoulders to hug me. My heart broke open at the moment to let him in forever.

He had been losing weight lately, but he is older and I thought it was just arthritis, but he started coughing up blood.

I am devastated.

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Reply I have to have my kitty put to sleep this afternoon. (Original post)
Hatchling Jun 2012 OP
freshwest Jun 2012 #1
boston bean Jun 2012 #2
GreenPartyVoter Jun 2012 #3
LiberalEsto Jun 2012 #4
dballance Jun 2012 #5
Blue Owl Jun 2012 #6
hrmjustin Jun 2012 #7
BlueIris Jun 2012 #8
silverweb Jun 2012 #9
Scout Jun 2012 #10
redqueen Jun 2012 #11
ChairmanAgnostic Jun 2012 #12
Voice for Peace Jun 2012 #13
montanacowboy Jun 2012 #14
MadrasT Jun 2012 #15
catbyte Jun 2012 #16
Mnemosyne Jun 2012 #18
Mnemosyne Jun 2012 #17
sinkingfeeling Jun 2012 #19
Worried senior Jun 2012 #20
spin Jun 2012 #21
DarthDem Jun 2012 #22
seabeyond Jun 2012 #23
glinda Jun 2012 #24
Texasgal Jun 2012 #25
felix_numinous Jun 2012 #26
applegrove Jun 2012 #27
MerryBlooms Jun 2012 #28
SoutherDem Jun 2012 #29
LiberalLoner Jun 2012 #30
kestrel91316 Jun 2012 #31
virgogal Jun 2012 #32
OregonBlue Jun 2012 #33
hlthe2b Jun 2012 #34
seabeyond Jun 2012 #35
hlthe2b Jun 2012 #38
redqueen Jun 2012 #43
MadrasT Jun 2012 #45
Hatchling Jun 2012 #46
Little Star Jun 2012 #36
CrispyQ Jun 2012 #37
eridani Jun 2012 #39
laconicsax Jun 2012 #40
Hatchling Jun 2012 #41
redqueen Jun 2012 #42
MadrasT Jun 2012 #44
Violet_Crumble Jun 2012 #47

Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:12 PM

1. Sorry about the loss of your friend. Their love is honest and without strings. Take care.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:14 PM

2. Oh Hatchling!

I am so very sorry for you and furry baby!

I am sure the kitty knows how much you loved him and was as appreciative of you as you were of him.

Please take care, and feel free to make posting where you need support in this group.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:14 PM

3. I am so, so very sorry! *hugs* Kittehs are so stoic, and rarely tell us outright when something is

wrong. I missed illnesses in both of my last cats that way.

I wish you both vibes of peace and comfort, and memories of a good life together that he might not otherwise had if not for you.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:15 PM

4. Oh, how painful!

Sending you many hugs...

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:17 PM

5. So, so very sorry.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:17 PM

6. Nothing worse

My sympathies -- but I bet you gave that kitty a good home on this planet...

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:22 PM

7. I have had to do this just make sure that...

...when they do it that you are facing the cats face and let your face be the last thing he sees. You will see your cat again my friend. God bless you and your cat. Good luck with your friend. Again so sorry for you.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:23 PM

8. Awww. Sorry to read this, Hatchling.

(((( Moochie ))))

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:24 PM

9. I'm so very sorry.

Over the years, I've been through the same heart-wrenching experience more than once and I know just how painful it is. My thoughts are with both you and Moochie.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:26 PM

10. very sorry to hear that



i know exactly how you feel. and it sucks.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:27 PM

11. Oh, Hatchling, I'm so sorry.

You shared your heart and home with him, he's leaving this world loved. *hug* and *sniffle* too.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:27 PM

12. just a month ago, we had the same decision with

the best, sweetest, most wonderful rescue puppy you ever saw. He joined us at 1 yr, and stood by us for 11 great years. He was huge, smart (he could unlock cages with his paw) and extremely warm to family.

One time, I was walking him with my golden(also deceased after 14 wonderful years). Both were off leash, because they simply stayed within 5 feet of me at all times. This HUGE pitbull, trained to fight, started snarling and escaped his fenced-in yard. My golden, (all 140 lbs of shivering, shaking, scared fear) immediately stood behind me to hide. you could smell his fear. My rescue dog simply walked up to the huge attack dog, tail raised, ears perky, and to my surprise and shock, he reared back and used his nose as a weapon against the pitbull, knocking him on his ass, backwards.

The pitbull yelped and ran off. I still miss him.

Time helps, and about 6 weeks from now, go to thine animal shelter and rescue a newbee.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:28 PM

13. so sorry Hatchling

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:30 PM

14. I feel so bad for you

it's a time we all face and it never gets easier - once we take them into our lives we have to be ready to make the hard decision to let them go. Good journey for your furry one.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:31 PM

15. Oh dear Hatchling

I am so terribly sorry. I lost one of my girls in January.

Even when you love them all, certain ones wiggle into your heart in an extra-special way. And ferals who decide to trust you are also extra-special somehow.

So very, very sorry to hear about Moochie.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:32 PM

16. I'm SO SORRY, Hatchling

My beautiful 19-year-old gray barn rescue Sophie died in my arms at home last Tuesday night. She was OK in the morning, but was extremely sick when I got home from work. I picked her up and put her in my lap. She began to purr, looked into my eyes and died. I'm sure Moochie is so grateful for the wonderful life you were able to give him. He knows that you saved his life and you are doing the kindest thing you can do for him now--giving him a gentle, painless passing.

I'm sitting at my desk in my office in tears. Your two other kitties will probably need some extra loving too. I put Sophie on her favorite blanket and put her in a box for transport to our vet so they could arrange for cremation. I woke up the next morning and her best friend, Nigel, was sleeping on the box and my other 2 cats were sleeping on either side of the box. They were holding a vigil for their sister. It was astounding. I will get back Sophie's ashes along with a paw print tomorrow.

Please know that you and your two other kitties are in my thoughts. My Sophie will show Moochie the ropes at The Bridge. She'll know where all the good catnip patches are.



Diane
Anishinaabe in MI & mom to Leo, Taz & Nigel, members of Dogs Against Romney, Cat Division
"Dogs Aren’t Luggage Even Though They Are Lower Life Forms--HISS!”

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Response to catbyte (Reply #16)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:39 PM

18. So sorry about Sophie, catbyte.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:37 PM

17. So very sorry, Hatchling.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:50 PM

19. So very sorry. Is there anything the vets can do? Do they think it's cancer?

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:51 PM

20. I am so sorry for your loss,

especially after the way he came into your life. He must have had a great love and respect for you.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:54 PM

21. I lost my best friend, a cat, 5 years ago ...

possibly due to contaminated cat food from China.

But four years ago I adopted a feral kitten. A neighbor's child brought this little fellow who could fit in the palm of my hand to my family for rescue. Her father had found this kitten in the engine compartment of his car and was planning to kill it.

He now weighs 13 pounds but is in excellent shape and not fat. He probably comes from a long line of feral cats as he is far more alert and wary of strange people than the average cat who is descended from a long line of domesticated cats. He will occasionally allow strangers to pet him but is very selective. He is however my best friend.

I should note that I have also owned and loved dogs, however I love the independence of cats. Often you don't own them as much as they own you. I can understand why they were worshiped in ancient Egypt.

My heart goes out to you. All I can say is that time is a great healer. It is sad that cats and dogs do not live as long as we do. I can assure you that you will always have fond memories of your pet and that eventually you may find a cat to replace him. Perhaps you will find that one of your other cats will step up and ease your suffering.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:59 PM

22. So Very Sorry to Hear


I'm not a member of the group but saw your post on the front page and wanted to pass on thoughts and prayers. I'm so sorry about the loss of your beloved friend.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 05:04 PM

23. I am sorry....

Another group member is going thru the same with her dog. It is a hard thing to go thru.... Lovin's to you

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 05:12 PM

24. sorry hatchling.....

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 05:16 PM

25. I am so sorry to hear this...



Moochie was loved and he knew it. Take some time to grieve, it's never easy.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 05:17 PM

26. I wish kitties lived longer

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 05:20 PM

27. You gave each other a great life together. You'll be able to look back on him and smile some day

soon.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 05:32 PM

28. Oh Hatchling, I'm so sorry.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 05:36 PM

29. I am so sorry.

I am in tears just thinking of what you are going through. The hardest thing I have had to do yet in life is to do what you are having to do.

You are in my thoughts.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 05:41 PM

30. I am so sorry. It hurts so much to lose one of these angels.

I know Moochie will be waiting for you on the other side, but it hurts so much to lose him right now.

You were a good kitty Mommy and you gave him the best life. Bonds of love can never be broken, and he will always be connected to you because of that.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 06:11 PM

31. (hugs)

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 06:42 PM

32. I'm so sorry. Losing a beloved pet is brutal.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 07:08 PM

33. So very sorry. I had to have my old cat of 14 years put down and I cried for days so I know what you

are going through. You have lost one of your best friends. At least he won't suffer any more and you gave him a good life.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 07:49 PM

34. I'm sorry, Hatchling. I had to euthanize my beloved doggy girl, Tallulah on Tuesday.

I'm going to post a tribute thread to her somewhere with some wonderful photos, when I can finally collect my thoughts. It is still too painful and my thoughts too raw.

Perhaps you will do the same?

to you. I know of no magic words, but know that I understand. Truly.

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Response to hlthe2b (Reply #34)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 08:04 PM

35. i am sorry hlthe2b

she got lots of lovin.....

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Response to seabeyond (Reply #35)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 11:18 PM

38. thank you Sea...

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Response to hlthe2b (Reply #34)

Fri Jun 8, 2012, 08:32 PM

43. My goodness...

what a sad week.

Beautiful name, looking forward to the pics...

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Response to hlthe2b (Reply #34)

Fri Jun 8, 2012, 08:42 PM

45. *sniff*

I am so sorry to hear about Tallulah, hlthe2b. (What a beautiful name.)

Losing pets is really hard.

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Response to hlthe2b (Reply #34)

Fri Jun 8, 2012, 09:12 PM

46. Thank you.

Know that I understand as well.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 08:52 PM

36. My heart goes out to you. I know just how you feel because..

our beloved Rudy had cancer and after ten years of having him as a member of our family we had to have him put down.

I will never get over having to do that. I stayed with him and it was heartbreaking. The way he looked at me just about killed me.

I'm truly sorry for your loss. It hurts so much.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Thu Jun 7, 2012, 10:45 PM

37. A big hug for you & Moochie.



I've lost many furry friends & it is never easy, but my life is so much richer having known them!

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Fri Jun 8, 2012, 04:32 AM

39. Hugs and condolences

It just sucks that our furbabies have shorter lifespans than we do. I know you'll stay with him until the end.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Fri Jun 8, 2012, 04:50 AM

40. That's terrible. I'm so sorry. n/t

 

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Fri Jun 8, 2012, 08:00 PM

41. Thank you all for your kind support.

It was really hard because as a senior on a fixed income, I couldn't afford the $100 dollars to be with him at the end.

I took him to the San Diego County Animal Shelter where it was only $10. The minute I walked in I felt relief. All the staff was so supportive and the place was bright and airy not dingy and dirty as I had imagined. I saw how they were dealing with other animals, getting them their shots and microchips so I realized this was a caring place. When the staff member came to take him away she told me not to worry that she would stay with him the whole time.

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Response to Hatchling (Reply #41)

Fri Jun 8, 2012, 08:31 PM

42. Aw Hatchling,

I'm sorry for that extra hardship. Angry too.

Glad to hear the staff there was up to scratch though.

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Response to Hatchling (Reply #41)

Fri Jun 8, 2012, 08:41 PM

44. *sniff*

If it was his time you did the right thing and the most loving thing you could for him.

I am sorry about the constrained finances. It sounds like a nice animal shelter with caring people.

It is so very hard and hurty, I know.

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Response to Hatchling (Original post)

Sat Jun 9, 2012, 05:18 AM

47. *hugs* to both you and hlthe2b

I'm so sorry for the loss of Moochie and Tallulah...

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