History of Feminism
Related: About this forumThe so-called "double standard"
How many have heard misogynists complain that there is a double-standard, that if a man said the same thing a woman says about him something horrible would happen? So what would happen if a man mocked a woman? Nothing. Absolutely nothing. Not only are they able to mock with impunity, they can insult and describe women as "sluts," "bitches," and "whores" with absolutely no repercussions, not even jury hides. Consider for a minute that the English language contains no similar insult for men. There is no gender specific term to insult a man's sexuality, to demean him as nothing but an object of sex, or to refer to him as less than human--a "bitch," a female dog.
Let's examine the true double standard. Look at the recent hide in this group for "misandry": a series of cartoons that make no mention of men as a whole, a particular group of DUers, or an individual member. Whereas calling women "attention whores" and "sluts" is allowed to stand. "Bitch" has become part of the common vernacular in English. The thoughtless tell us it means the words aren't sexist, when in fact it shows that misogyny is so deeply ingrained in American culture than too many are accustomed to cavalier, daily degradation of women.
The male persecution complex is entirely divorced from reality. It shows absolutely no understanding of history, anthropology, sociology, or any contemporary mode of analysis. Some decry the fact that feminists engage in "sociological analysis." Higher education is indeed a liberal conspiracy that might one day dislodge white male privilege. That is why education is crucial to empowerment. But some wedded to the past century--or even the 19th--prefer to avoid thinking altogether. How else could anyone so mindlessly maintain a view of the world--male exploitation at the hands of female privilege--entirely divorced from reality? This argument is the hallmark of extreme right-wing Men's Rights Association (MRA. or as I prefer to call them, MRAsma) dogma. Women's rights oppress men. Our efforts to achieve equality--whether political, economic, social, or cultural--are themselves seen as oppressive. MRAsmas see male privilege as entirely natural, so much so they see any challenge to it an attack on their very being, prompting them to lash out.
So yes, it's horrible that women's struggles have allowed us to participate in the public sphere, that we are able to enter the work force and earn 77 cents on the dollar to a man. It's economically unfair that many women use more medical resources than men and that agencies can't charge us more because our diabolical wombs give birth to babies. Somehow the fact that they are also the children of men entirely escapes the attention of those who whine about women taking up disproportionate medical resources. So yeah, "fuck every last one" of us. The hell with us for having the nerve to occupy the same planet with men and propagate the continuation of the human species. And mostly, fuck us for thinking we have the audacity to voice opinions. There is nothing MRAsmas hate more than women who disagree with them in public. The fact we think we deserve to be treated as actual human beings makes us "evil." The only good woman recognizes her inherent inferiority and doesn't let on the fact she reads or thinks. She lets you pretend you are actually smart because it's our job to prop up fragile egos. When we don't, we are "evil, dark, and whiny."
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)a poster said.... parents pick the bitch out of the litter referring to our daughters. stands on du. no one batted an eye. i cannot get beyond anyone feeling that girls, who have done nothing, to anyone, deserves to be referred as the bitch in a litter.
this is an excellent post. i wish it mattered to those that could make a difference.
niyad
(113,262 posts)chervilant
(8,267 posts)is another pejorative that targets women, on a par with "your mama" insults.
I find that the more vociferously a person (usually male) denies their sexism, the more sexist they tend to be. Straight to my IL they go!
niyad
(113,262 posts)without the slightest thought about their actual meaning. and, when said meaning is pointed out, one gets a response along the lines of "you are too sensitive, too touchy. . whatever"
chervilant
(8,267 posts)TOO SENSITIVE" meme! Those types are just swimming in their sea of sexism, and there's little hope they can get a clue.
niyad
(113,262 posts)Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)Last edited Wed Sep 25, 2013, 11:56 AM - Edit history (2)
and, while I am at it: GIVE ME MY OTHER 23 CENTS ON THE DOLLAR
edited in order to be PC and to realize just how pervasive it truly is.
Manifestor_of_Light
(21,046 posts)Unmarried person: Bachelor - Spinster
Married or mature person: Mister - Madam or Mistress
I'm not sure if "missus" is a real word or just a pronunciation of Mrs., which is technically Mistress.
I was married & divorced twice before, and did not change my last name, because I woke up one day and realized I was "Mrs. Asshole" even though I did not change my name.
I'm a slow learner.
Manifestor_of_Light
(21,046 posts)Because I'm learning brazing in my welding class and brazing refers to brass.
As in "brass monkeys".
niyad
(113,262 posts)me. as I have told several, "in order for me to be upset by that word, two things would have to be true: 1: I would actually have to regard the word you are using as an insult. 2: I would actually have to care about your opinion. TRUST ME, neither of those situations obtains". Usually leaves them scratching their. . . .
BainsBane
(53,031 posts)I guess I have been educated to think about the cultural meanings of words. Having done a fair bit of discourse analysis, I can't see these words outside their historical and cultural contexts.
niyad
(113,262 posts)an honour to be called such. generally shuts them right up. but then, I am one cranky old bat, and really do NOT give a damn what they think, or call me.
BainsBane
(53,031 posts)Goddess titles? Where did you read that?
BTW, pulled out the old remdi95 today. I was tempted to put it in the OP above as well but edited it out.
niyad
(113,262 posts)AWESOME book (must be, because just like when marija gimbutas is cited, you can count on some guy popping up to discount them, their scholarship, etc. I always point out that they are discounted by the very people whose lack of scholarship when it comes to women was cited in the first place)
remdi95, unfortunately, seems to be greatly needed some days.
ismnotwasm
(41,976 posts)The double-standard "misandry" posse are fucking whiners. They make me tired.
BainsBane
(53,031 posts)especially the ones who talk out of both sides of their mouth.
BainsBane
(53,031 posts)I have the sense that they are overwhelming white since their ideology is based on reclaiming a past of unchallenged privilege, but I don't have actual data to support this. It does strike me as unlikely that most black men would identify women as the source of their problems. After all, they have real oppression to deal with. They don't need to invent a female enemy to whine about.
redqueen
(115,103 posts)and mostly between the ages of something like 18-45. Not sure though, I'd have to find the source again.
chervilant
(8,267 posts)you mention was hilarious! I had bookmarked it to read the comments later, and was stunned that it was hidden! I pm'd the author and noted that I hoped she would consider posting a weekly thread of feminist funnies, and I remain hopeful that she will.
Those poor widdle whiny boys will just have to add us to their IL, and get over themselves!
BainsBane
(53,031 posts)Who would they have to complain about destroying the site if they just put us on ignore?
That of course was the obvious response to the alerter. It was all about how the alerter hated the author so jurors should hide the OP. That's why ignore exists. They don't need to fester in hatred. They can just make the person disappear with the click of a button.
redqueen
(115,103 posts)I've said before how important it is to me to include humor in feminist circles. So much of what we are discussing and raising awareness of and fighting is so dark and depressing. I think it is necessary.
niyad
(113,262 posts)humour called "knockers". each chapter was titled with a different slang for mammary glands, and it was absolutely hilarious. alas, my copy was lost years ago, and cannot even find it on amazon. I point out that feminists do, in fact, have senses of humour. it is just that we do not find misogyny, rape, woman-hatred, etc., funny.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)Though it tells me quite clearly that they've never been truly discriminated against in their lives. Because if they had, they'd know what it looks like.
BainsBane
(53,031 posts)That's why I feel pretty certain they are almost all white. What they are whining about is the fact that they don't have absolute, unchallenged privilege anymore.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)Like a more malevolent, adult version of 15-year-old emo kids...
BainsBane
(53,031 posts)than the 15 yr old emo kids. I mean, at least they've got the real torment of adolescence.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)pretty much...