Wed Nov 21, 2012, 02:11 PM
redqueen (109,237 posts)
Meet The Predators
This is really long but it is really worth reading the whole thing. Four paragraphs does not do it justice.
This blog post is dealing with the issues raised by two large-scale studies which show that an estimated 4-8% of men are committing the majority of rapes. They rape again and again, and most of them will never be caught.
Change the culture. To rape again and again, these men need silence. They need to know that the right combination of factors —alcohol and sex shame, mostly —will keep their victims quiet. Otherwise, they would be identified earlier and have a harder time finding victims. The women in your life need to be able to talk frankly about sexual assault. They need to be able to tell you, and they need to know that they can tell you, and not be stonewalled, denied, blamed or judged.
Listen. The men in your lives will tell you what they do. As long as the R word doesn’t get attached, rapists do self-report. The guy who says he sees a woman too drunk to know where she is as an opportunity is not joking. He’s telling you how he sees it. The guy who says, “bros before hos”, is asking you to make a pact.
Change the culture. We are not going to pull six or ten or twelve million men out of the U.S. population over any short period, so if we are going to put a dent in the prevalence of rape, we need to change the environment that the rapist operates in. Choose not to be part of a rape-supportive environment. Rape jokes are not jokes. Woman-hating jokes are not jokes. These guys are telling you what they think. When you laugh along to get their approval, you give them yours. You tell them that the social license to operate is in force; that you’ll go along with the pact to turn your eyes away from the evidence; to make excuses for them; to assume it’s a mistake, of the first time, or a confusing situation. You’re telling them that they’re at low risk.
The rapists can’t be your friends, and if you are loyal to them even when faced with the evidence of what they do, you are complicit.
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