This message was self-deleted by its author (silentwarrior) on Mon Jul 2, 2012, 12:02 AM. When the original post in a discussion thread is self-deleted, the entire discussion thread is automatically locked so new replies cannot be posted.
As far as being (ahem) deceived, I think we all have been there. Do not dwell at that revelation or anything else.
Your main concern is to take care of yourself (and children if there are any).
Everything else will fall into place.
Although a long road ahead of you, please be assured that you are strong, that you are smart, and that you will come through to the other end a much happier person.