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Stuckinthebush

(10,844 posts)
Wed Oct 16, 2013, 04:39 PM Oct 2013

It Matters Whom You Marry...

For your critical pleasure, I give you this brilliant piece:

http://thechristianpundit.org/2012/08/15/it/


"So to all the young, unmarried Christian girls out there, listen up: who you marry matters. You might think that the way he treats you isn’t so bad. It’s not going to get better after the wedding. You might think that he’ll change. It’s possible, but most don’t. You might think that you’ll be able to minister to him and help him. Possibly, but if you can’t now, you won’t then, and you will be at risk yourself. A husband should lead and cherish you, not need your counsel for basic personality or behavior issues.

Unless someone married is very frank with you, you can’t understand how much a husband will impact your entire life. Next to salvation there is no other long term event that will change so many areas of your life so deeply. Here are just some of the ways that marriage will impact every aspect of living.

1. It will impact you spiritually. If the guy is not a believer, you can stop right there. You have no business yoking a redeemed soul with an unregenerate one, even if he seems open to change. Christ has bought you with a price and it is not an option to give away that blood bought heart to someone who doesn’t know and love your Lord. It will cripple your spiritual development, open up a host of temptations, stifle your prayer life, make regular church going difficult, and cause massive parenting conflict if you have children."

{snip}

3. It will impact you physically. Is the guy you’re with going to provide for your basic needs? Will he be able to shelter, clothe and feed you? At one point in our marriage, I was worried that there was no employment opportunity. My husband assured me that he would work at McDonalds, dig ditches, clean up roadkill – whatever it took to provide for the family, regardless of his gifts and training. That’s the kind of attitude you want. A man who doesn’t provide for his household is worse than an infidel (I Tim. 5:8). You might have to help ease the financial burden, but unless your husband is disabled or there is another unusual circumstance, you shouldn’t have to carry it yourself.

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It Matters Whom You Marry... (Original Post) Stuckinthebush Oct 2013 OP
What a mass of hogwash... rexcat Oct 2013 #1
But but but Curmudgeoness Oct 2013 #2
"The health of your eternity is at stake. Think carefully." mr blur Oct 2013 #3
...work at McDonalds, dig ditches, clean up roadkill... deucemagnet Oct 2013 #4
Yes..My Love. I'll be a cook. BlueJazz Oct 2013 #5
Other than this bit... Iggo Oct 2013 #6

Curmudgeoness

(18,219 posts)
2. But but but
Wed Oct 16, 2013, 08:14 PM
Oct 2013

God lead me to fall in love with this guy. There must be a reason. If I pray hard enough, I am sure that I can save his ass.

Then again, I think it is great advise. If you are some religious nut, leave the sane people alone.

Iggo

(47,549 posts)
6. Other than this bit...
Sat Oct 26, 2013, 11:17 AM
Oct 2013

"...You might think that the way he treats you isn’t so bad. It’s not going to get better after the wedding..."

...it's crap.

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