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Tue Feb 19, 2013, 02:02 PM

(aside) An old friend died last night.

He had a number of long term medical challenges going on. AIDS, chronic heart disease, HCV and diabetes. Went into the ER/ICU with chest pains. Apparently a cascade of organ failures occurred over the course of a few hours and he flat lined. I hear the ICU staff was terrific. They had treated him before, helped him be as comfortable as possible and supported a group of his friends to be with him.

He was gay, it was a Catholic hospital and one of his friends who stuck with him through it all was an Episcopal minister. I mention that in context of our forum here. Everyone did really well by him.

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Reply (aside) An old friend died last night. (Original post)
pinto Feb 2013 OP
Angry Dragon Feb 2013 #1
ZombieHorde Feb 2013 #2
riverbendviewgal Feb 2013 #3
cbayer Feb 2013 #4
sinkingfeeling Feb 2013 #5
Mnemosyne Feb 2013 #6
grantcart Feb 2013 #7
pinto Feb 2013 #8
Thats my opinion Feb 2013 #9
okasha Feb 2013 #10
Marrah_G Feb 2013 #11

Response to pinto (Original post)

Tue Feb 19, 2013, 02:05 PM

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Response to pinto (Original post)

Tue Feb 19, 2013, 02:05 PM

2. I'm sorry you lost an old friend.

I am glad he received excellent attention.

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Response to pinto (Original post)

Tue Feb 19, 2013, 02:06 PM

3. I just found out that a long time friend died last week

She was a brillant woman...so intelligent. She supported me when my son and husband were dying of their cancers
My friend had a brain tumor . She lived with it since 2002. It is hard to have good friends die.
She had one daughter who was gay. My friend raised a wonderful kind supporting daughter.

It is hard to have our dear friends die. but I know my friend is no longer in pain
I am sorry for your loss.

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Response to pinto (Original post)

Tue Feb 19, 2013, 02:07 PM

4. I am so very sorry, pinto.

I am glad that he was surrounded by comfort and care, but so sorry for your loss.

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Response to pinto (Original post)

Tue Feb 19, 2013, 02:29 PM

5. I'm sorry for your loss. Nice to know that the hospital did everything they could for him.

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Response to pinto (Original post)

Tue Feb 19, 2013, 02:34 PM

6. I'm sorry for your loss, pinto. Glad to hear he had such loving support in the end.

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Response to pinto (Original post)

Tue Feb 19, 2013, 03:42 PM

7. Sorry to hear of your loss, glad to hear that he was treated with compassion.

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Response to pinto (Original post)

Tue Feb 19, 2013, 05:51 PM

8. For Ron -

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Response to pinto (Original post)

Tue Feb 19, 2013, 07:54 PM

9. When a good friend dies, it is not just an aside.

As a pastor I have sat with scores of people until their last. As have every pastor i know.
We have nothing to offer but our presence. It is not doctrinal, it is no more than the love and compassion we have--as do many others --for any of our brothers any sisters.

Thirty years ago, when AIDS was a forbidden subject, a dying man at our nearby hospital wanted to be interviewed on the local TV station to telll his story. Nobody would touch it, so I had him wheeled into my church office--which everybody in the city could identified, since I was on the news every few days--and he was interviewed by a physician who was part of our church. That broke the back of he hostility for AIDs sufferers.

May your old friend continue to live in your memory.

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Tue Feb 19, 2013, 08:52 PM

10. I'm so sorry you've lost a friend, pinto.

It's good to know he received such loving, compassionate care.

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Response to pinto (Original post)

Wed Feb 20, 2013, 08:31 PM

11. Sorry for your loss Pinto

I'm so glad his last hours were made as comfortable as possible.

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