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Sat Nov 17, 2012, 02:02 PM

Christmas is for lovers?

Maybe some Christian or ex-Christian -- or anyone else -- can explain this to me. It's something that's long puzzled me: The association of Christmas with romance and falling in love. That's not the main association one sees, of course, but it's a common theme in movies released to theaters or shown on TV at this time of year.

Where I grew up -- small-town South Africa -- Christmas was the main religious celebration of Those Other People, and as far as I could tell, it was purely religious. (Since there was no First Amendment to be embarrassed* by, Those Other People didn't feel the need to pretend otherwise.) It wasn't until I came to the US, and even then only in the last few decades, that I've noticed the falling-in-love theme. I suppose it could be an outgrowth of Christmas-as-family-time, but that doesn't make sense to me.



* Most of Those Other People aren't embarrassed by the First Amendment at all. They're just angry at people who remind them of its existence and relevance. Hence the insistence that Christmas isn't really a religious holiday or that America was intended to be a Christian country so shut up or move to (fill in the blank).

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DavidDvorkin Nov 2012 OP
cbayer Nov 2012 #1
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cbayer Nov 2012 #5
intaglio Nov 2012 #3
DavidDvorkin Nov 2012 #4
cbayer Nov 2012 #6
okasha Nov 2012 #7
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Response to DavidDvorkin (Original post)

Sat Nov 17, 2012, 02:04 PM

1. Other than mistletoe, I have not really seen this connection.

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Response to cbayer (Reply #1)

Sat Nov 17, 2012, 02:24 PM

2. It seems to be mostly in movies

That's where I first noticed it and still notice it.

There are a few Christmastime songs with that theme. Of course I can't think of any, now that I try.

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Response to DavidDvorkin (Reply #2)

Sat Nov 17, 2012, 02:51 PM

5. The movie business will work romance into any theme.

Not sure it is a reflection of what really goes on.

Not sure, but I would guess there are less weddings around Christmas than at most any other time. Too much else going on.

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Response to DavidDvorkin (Original post)

Sat Nov 17, 2012, 02:29 PM

3. I know what you mean but it seems less romance than new beginnings

It might be (might as it is based on no evidence at all) that the association is because of the solstice connection, traditionally the rebirth of the sun.

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Response to intaglio (Reply #3)

Sat Nov 17, 2012, 02:31 PM

4. That's a possibility.

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Response to intaglio (Reply #3)

Sat Nov 17, 2012, 02:53 PM

6. That's a good point and particularly true at the New Year.

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Response to cbayer (Reply #6)

Sat Nov 17, 2012, 04:30 PM

7. The assingment of special properties of mistletoe

comes straight out of Celtic pagan celebrations of the winter solstice. It grows in the sacred space between earth and sky, and so serves as a mediator between the human and the divine.

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Response to DavidDvorkin (Original post)

Sat Nov 17, 2012, 04:33 PM

8. I haven't seen that. St. Valentine's Day is another story.

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