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Tue Jan 15, 2013, 07:09 PM

r.i.p. my dearest barbie girl.



i would have 20 dogs at all times were it not for the duty to make sure they have a respectful and peaceful end. sometimes it is an easy call, and sometimes it it weighting what seem like a million factors. this one was a tough one. many little things on top of a set of hips that have been wasted away since she was a youngster. a painful life, borne like only a bully dog could. enjoying every difficult day. never complaining. always your sweet boxer self no matter what.
you were a fantastic companion barbie girl, and i hope i did the right thing today.
safe passage.
love always.

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Reply r.i.p. my dearest barbie girl. (Original post)
mopinko Jan 2013 OP
NYC_SKP Jan 2013 #1
Stinky The Clown Jan 2013 #7
annabanana Jan 2013 #2
LisaLynne Jan 2013 #3
Curmudgeoness Jan 2013 #4
yellerpup Jan 2013 #5
mopinko Jan 2013 #14
yellerpup Jan 2013 #22
Stinky The Clown Jan 2013 #6
mopinko Jan 2013 #13
shenmue Jan 2013 #8
Sunlei Jan 2013 #9
2theleft Jan 2013 #10
mopinko Jan 2013 #12
livetohike Jan 2013 #11
sinkingfeeling Jan 2013 #15
mopinko Jan 2013 #16
MuseRider Jan 2013 #17
mopinko Jan 2013 #18
MuseRider Jan 2013 #19
ceile Jan 2013 #20
Walk away Jan 2013 #21
phylny Jan 2013 #23
meti57b Jan 2013 #24
mopinko Jan 2013 #27
TorchTheWitch Jan 2013 #25
mopinko Jan 2013 #28
Purveyor Jan 2013 #26
fizzgig Jan 2013 #29
mopinko Jan 2013 #30
Myrina Feb 2013 #31

Response to mopinko (Original post)

Tue Jan 15, 2013, 07:14 PM

1. ((((hugs)))) And in case you haven't seen this:

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Being a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year-old Irish Wolfhound named Belker. The dog’s owners, Ron, his wife Lisa, and their little boy Shane, were all very attached to Belker, and they were hoping for a miracle.

I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the family we couldn’t do anything for Belker, and offered to perform the euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home.

As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would be good for six-year-old Shane to observe the procedure. They felt as though Shane might learn something from the experience.

The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker ‘s family surrounded him. Shane seemed so calm, petting the old dog for the last time, that I wondered if he understood what was going on. Within a few minutes, Belker slipped peacefully away.

The little boy seemed to accept Belker’s transition without any difficulty or confusion. We sat together for a while after Belker’s Death, wondering aloud about the sad fact that animal lives are shorter than human lives.
Shane, who had been listening quietly, piped up, ”I know why.”

Startled, we all turned to him. What came out of his mouth next stunned me. I’d never heard a more comforting explanation. It has changed the way I try and live.

He said,”People are born so that they can learn how to live a good life — like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?”

The Six-year-old continued,

”Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don’t have to stay as long.”

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Response to NYC_SKP (Reply #1)

Tue Jan 15, 2013, 09:33 PM

7. What a wonderful quote.

What's the source?

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Tue Jan 15, 2013, 07:24 PM

2. A beloved pup.

Clear through.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Tue Jan 15, 2013, 07:47 PM

3. So sorry for your loss.

You were there to make sure she had a happy life and a peaceful end. It's all we can do for them.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Tue Jan 15, 2013, 07:55 PM

4. You know you did the right thing today.

We know. We know because we are not doing this for ourselves. If it was for us, we would torture them by keeping them alive way too long. I am so sorry you had to do this, and you have lost a wonderful dog.

Beautiful eulogy.....it shows how much you loved her.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Tue Jan 15, 2013, 08:45 PM

5. So sorry for your loss.

What a beautiful girl she was, and she looks like probably a good kisser. You knew her better than anyone and she trusted you to do the best you could for her. You loved her and you spared her suffering. She wouldn't want you to feel sad about that.

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Response to yellerpup (Reply #5)

Wed Jan 16, 2013, 09:47 AM

14. she was a great kisser and i was very saddened

that her nervousness at the vet meant i only got a few kisses there.
she loved everyone, tho, and passed out those kisses very liberally.

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Response to mopinko (Reply #14)

Wed Jan 16, 2013, 09:15 PM

22. Animals (and little children) live so 'in the moment'

and she would have been nervous at winding up at the vet again in great pain and hoping that today they wouldn't have to hurt her even more trying to help her. Remember those kisses and the bliss you shared. I know you will.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Tue Jan 15, 2013, 09:29 PM

6. Your post was like a prayer. Peace to Barbie and peace to you, mo.

A respectful and peaceful end. That is the very least we can give these extraordinary creatures who ask almost nothing of us yet give is so very much.

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Response to Stinky The Clown (Reply #6)

Wed Jan 16, 2013, 09:46 AM

13. thanks stinky.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Tue Jan 15, 2013, 09:41 PM

8. Lovely dog

Rest in peace.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Tue Jan 15, 2013, 10:49 PM

9. What a sweet looking Girl, beautiful soft eyes.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Wed Jan 16, 2013, 12:19 AM

10. Oh mopinko...I'm so very sorry.

Even when you know it's the right thing to do, it is still so very hard. Boxers are the amazing dogs - I have a 3 1/2 year old female and she brings me pure joy. I know you had a wonderful life with her and that natural boxer happiness and joy in everything they do. And, I can tell by your post that she had a wonderful life with you and your love and joy in everything that she did (even when she was probably a crazy little boxer puppy into everything, but so funny that you couldn't stay mad for one second).

This is the most unselfish thing you could do for her. Letting her go verses having her suffer is always the right answer.

Huge to you and cherish your memories of your gorgeous baby.

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Response to 2theleft (Reply #10)

Wed Jan 16, 2013, 09:45 AM

12. actually she was a dog pound rescue

skin and bones, and a day from the end. she came in pregnant, and the let her have her little of pups, adopted them out. she was supposed to go to a boxer rescue and they were holding her. but they never showed up and they were going to put her down the next day.
so, she got the gift of 7 years with us. happy years.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Wed Jan 16, 2013, 09:04 AM

11. I'm so sorry for your loss of Barbie

Rest in peace sweet girl.....I hope your good memories of times with Barbie will help ease the sadness of the duty we all have to perform to help our pets make their transition....she sure was a cutie...

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Wed Jan 16, 2013, 11:15 AM

15. I'm so sorry for your loss. RIP, Barbie Girl.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Wed Jan 16, 2013, 11:27 AM

16. btw, she was really barbara the boxer

a tribute to the senator, and a jab at the doll.
we got her shortly after the 2004 election and the senator's courage to challenge the count was on our mind.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Wed Jan 16, 2013, 11:34 AM

17. You gave her so many good years

she would not have had if you had not found her and rescued her. In the end you ended those years with extreme pain for yourself but a peaceful and painless ending for her. A selfless and painful act that we all must face. You absolutely did the right thing as hard as it was.

Sending you so many hugs, as many as you can take. It does not help but hopefully gives you a little encouragement.

What a beautiful dog.

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Response to MuseRider (Reply #17)

Wed Jan 16, 2013, 11:41 AM

18. no- the hugs help a lot.

thanks.
boxers are the best. it would be a different world if every child were assigned a boxer at birth. all that love, and that staunch protection would raise a generation that would make the hippies look like genghis kahn's hordes.

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Response to mopinko (Reply #18)

Wed Jan 16, 2013, 11:57 AM

19. LOL, how true. n/t

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Wed Jan 16, 2013, 12:17 PM

20. sweet face.

sorry for your loss.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Wed Jan 16, 2013, 01:31 PM

21. I just shed a tear for you and Barbie. She will always be with you...

and now she can be young and healthy forever in your heart.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Wed Jan 16, 2013, 10:55 PM

23. I'm so sorry for your loss n/t

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Thu Jan 17, 2013, 04:05 PM

24. The Fragile Circle

"We who choose to surround ourselves with lives even more temporary than our own, live within a fragile circle, easily and often breached. Unable to accept its awful gaps, we still would live no other way. We cherish memory as the only certain immortality, never fully understanding the necessary plan."

from "Separate Lifetimes",
a collection by Irving Townsend.

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Response to meti57b (Reply #24)

Thu Jan 17, 2013, 06:02 PM

27. nope. no other way.

thank you.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Thu Jan 17, 2013, 05:30 PM

25. Oh no! I'm so very sorry!

What a terrible loss. For what it's worth, you did the right thing. None of us want our fur babies to suffer at the end of their time. Of course that second guessing is par for the course. I don't think I ever really stop second guessing over the passage of my first two doggies... did I wait too long or should I have waited longer or tried something (anything!) else, etc., etc. So many factors and so many of them contradictory and all with our hearts screaming nooooooooooo! Hardest damn decision to make. And holy God does it ever hurt!

I truly believe that easing their passage humanely and gently while we're right there with them is the last act of love we could ever give them. Try to remember that when you get to second guessing yourself.

This makes me so sad. I'm going to miss seeing her photos with your other fur babies, but I'm so glad she lasted long enough to teach the new boys how to be good doggies by example. She was a perfect and so loving a teacher.





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Response to TorchTheWitch (Reply #25)

Thu Jan 17, 2013, 06:06 PM

28. i know that i wish i could count on such an end.

i want go quickly, and not have to struggle and suffer through every day. my family not only has detailed instructions for when it is my time, they have the example of what i did for my best friends.

she certainly did set the tone for this pack for the next generation. those boys are some amazing kids.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Thu Jan 17, 2013, 05:41 PM

26. I doubt Barbie ever had a 'difficult day' in her mind as she had your love to compensate. May

she be painlessly romping and playing with my Suzie, Max, Peppy and Ting Ting in that great doggie Heaven where I hope to join them some day.

Bless you and take care. This is never easy.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Wed Jan 30, 2013, 03:33 AM

29. i just saw this mo

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Response to fizzgig (Reply #29)

Wed Jan 30, 2013, 10:06 AM

30. thanks fizz

sometimes i think i should just go to little dogs that live longer. but the longer you have them the more attached you get, anyway. there is no escape from the pain of love, i guess.

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Response to mopinko (Original post)

Fri Feb 8, 2013, 02:07 PM

31. I am so sorry for your loss, Mo ...

.... went through it 18 months ago with my crusty old grandpa Beagle, and am going through it tomorrow with my Catahoula, Max, who's being ravaged by Degenerative Myleopathy.

It hurts so bad I can't even put words to it, you have my deepest empathy.


:hugs:

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