Psychiatrist I'm seeing called me out on what he thought was "bullshit".

[Locut0s]

I told the psychiatrist I'm seeing that I know I need to get out of the house, get a job, do volunteer work etc. that I know these are the steps I need to take to get better. He said "I think that's bullshit, I don't think you feel any of that". He didn't say it in an angry tone. What he meant was that I don't personally feel these things even if I know them to be true. Then he said "how do you feel now that I've called you on your bullshit". I think he was trying to spark an emotional response since one of the issues is I hide my emotions all the time. Does this seem rather harsh to you or not really?

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. I think he was deliberately trying to provoke you.

And I really don't know if he should do that or not. I'm not a psychiatrist and I don't know their techniques.

And I'm not sure what his point is, beyond trying to provoke you.

I wish I had greater insight.

I'm sorry I can't help!

[Locut0s]

2. I agree I do think he was trying to provoke me...

When he asked how I felt that he had said that I said I felt a little hurt, and a little angry. He said that it was good that I felt angry. He wished I could have expressed that more. But he didn't agree that what he said was very harsh.

[elleng]

3. Trying to get you to 'unhide' your emotions, maybe.

Don't know whether that's good or bad.

[marble falls]

4. The question is, of course: "How do you feel about that?"

[Locut0s]

5. Now that I've had some time to mull it over...

I think he is right. I really don't embrace these things emotionally as things I have to do. I know them factually as the steps I need to take but I don't feel it emotionally. Otherwise I'd be taking those steps or I wouldn't be here. He is definitely a psychiatrist who practises "tough love" more than others I've met. Maybe that's a good thing. But I also know I don't like leaving feeling worse than when I started.

[marble falls]

6. The most important sentence from your last post......

"I don't like leaving feeling worse than when I started."

[hunter]

7. Why do you have to "embrace these things emotionally???"

It's just a practical problem.

Presumably you want to get away and be out on your own...

How do you do that?

I do not recommend many of the things I tried when I was young. But the more experiences (non-life-threatening, please!!!) you subject yourself to, then the more likely it is something will "click" into place.

I'm not in a great place now, I may never "get my act" entirely together, and frankly my parents and siblings are not all together either, but we do have lots of stories.

[nolabels]

9. To go past the thing that holding you back and become the master of whatever it is.......

what you might want to fight for. Finding that inner drive no matter what ever your issues are is the recipe to overcome it. Find slogans and ideas that fit you and that you make your own. Yea, get angry if you need but even more important, get up the strength to get on the horse to do it again or at least contemplate more action on that goal. Those everyday things about getting out of the house, getting a job, an education are secondary things that may or may not get done on your way to the goal. Doing them are that means to the end result of where you might want to be. The secret is you taking charge of you and going where you think you should be.

That may sound confused but it is the kind of thoughts i have when i find myself stuck in those ruts, and works for me. It's your life, you need to understand it and if you want to live it, and if you do than JUST DO IT