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Fri Jan 25, 2013, 10:36 AM

Reliving my childhood -- the way it SHOULD have been.

OK, another "silver linings" moment (OK, maybe cliche, but I really like the movie and the book).

I'm doing all of the crap I wasn't allowed to do the first time. I don't think I need to go into elaborate detail about why my life as a boy was Hell on earth -- the phrase "psycho gun toting abusive father who made life like living in a North Korean gulag" pretty much sums it up.

So, what does a 47 year old guy do after a major life crisis and emotional breakdown?

Well, in my case, I am doing a lot of things I never got to do the first time around. This morning, even though I am absolutely awful at it, I was shooting baskets, well, attempting to shoot baskets, with a couple of guys at my gym. After I did my 10 laps and my fitness group.

You have no idea how much that made me feel like a kid again, in a very good way.

Anybody with the desire to throw a baseball around in the spring, let me know, I'm your guy.

So, anyone else have a "reliving my childhood" in a good way story?

PS - I also posted this in the Men's forum.

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Reply Reliving my childhood -- the way it SHOULD have been. (Original post)
Denninmi Jan 2013 OP
2theleft Jan 2013 #1
easttexaslefty Jan 2013 #2
LiberalEsto Jan 2013 #3
Terra Alta Jan 2013 #4
fizzgig Jan 2013 #14
libodem Jan 2013 #5
Denninmi Jan 2013 #6
libodem Jan 2013 #8
get the red out Jan 2013 #7
elleng Jan 2013 #9
get the red out Jan 2013 #12
Denninmi Jan 2013 #16
Denninmi Jan 2013 #10
get the red out Jan 2013 #11
Denninmi Jan 2013 #13
fizzgig Jan 2013 #15
mopinko Jan 2013 #17
Denninmi Jan 2013 #19
fizzgig Jan 2013 #20
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mopinko Jan 2013 #21
mopinko Jan 2013 #18
Still Blue in PDX Jan 2013 #22
mopinko Jan 2013 #23
mlauer59295 Jan 2013 #24

Response to Denninmi (Original post)

Fri Jan 25, 2013, 10:41 AM

1. Good for you...

I love it. You have discovered that you don't have to be great at something to enjoy it. Some things are just solely about fun and enjoying the moment. That's what kids do, that is what we all need to do sometimes. I'm still working on that in some areas of my life.

Keep it up, Denninmi. The progress you are making in overcoming your crisis is inspiring.

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Response to Denninmi (Original post)

Fri Jan 25, 2013, 10:56 AM

2. Art.

I make art.
We were never allowed to paint, glue, or do anything that made a mess.
Now, I have a spot I can create and make all the disorder I wasn't allow when I was a child.
It soothes my savage soul.

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Response to Denninmi (Original post)

Fri Jan 25, 2013, 10:58 AM

3. like they say

You're never too old to have a happy childhood.

I like the approach you're taking with this.

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Response to Denninmi (Original post)

Fri Jan 25, 2013, 11:01 AM

4. I got a Furby for Christmas

Yes, I know they're generally for children, but he's just so dang cute!

I love playing with him and listening to the neat sounds he makes. It calms me, in a way, and does take me back to my childhood(had a Furby when they first came out too, in fact I still have it).

Another thing that makes me feel like a kid is watching old cartoons. Animaniacs, Rugrats, basically any cartoon from the 90s takes me back to a time when I was just a child, and had no worries, stress, or problems to deal with.

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Response to Terra Alta (Reply #4)

Fri Jan 25, 2013, 04:30 PM

14. i love furbys

or would that be furbies?

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Response to Denninmi (Original post)

Fri Jan 25, 2013, 01:03 PM

5. Gosh Den

This sounds wonderful. I'm glad because you sound so genuinely happy. You have, so gone about feeling better, in the 'right' way. You can feel pride in your accomplishments.

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Response to libodem (Reply #5)

Fri Jan 25, 2013, 01:05 PM

6. Thanks, I'm trying.

Good days and bad days, but this was a good one.

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Response to Denninmi (Reply #6)

Fri Jan 25, 2013, 01:22 PM

8. Yes, it becomes

Reflexive to brace for the next let down to pay for your speck of happiness.

When I took my meditation course, the instructor brought up "equanimity" all the time. He was telling us to keep balance within our own emotional centers not to be too ecstatic nor too mopey but to stay balanced and calm.

You can do reparenting exercises in your mind and reprogram some of the damage by picturing yourself being nurtured and cared for as a child by your own inner parent. But you are living it . You are treating your inner child to a nice and fun time.

I collect minitures and old dolls. It must fulfill some childhood desires.

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Response to Denninmi (Original post)

Fri Jan 25, 2013, 01:14 PM

7. My dog

My Dad never liked the mongrel pup my Grandfather gave me, and my parents never taught me to be a good pet guardian to begin with. My Dad wasn't evil, there was just so much family tension due to all the mental illness (Mom, Grandfather) and its consequences. I really felt kind of ripped off though, when later on they started getting these tiny, nasty-tempered little expensive dogs and treating them like gold, when my dog died at 5 from being poisoned by someone running the neighborhood. My Dad always said that mixed breed dogs weren't smart, but pure bred dogs were. Later, when my life went to hell and my folks took control of my life for about a year I lost the two cats I had, never being told where they took them.

I never felt safe enough to have a pet until 2 years ago, afraid something would happen and I'd lose another one. Now my husband and I have this little Border Collie mix we adopted as a puppy from the shelter (I'm always over in the pets group talking about my precious Layla). I wanted a mixed breed from the shelter if I ever got a dog. And she is smart as HELL too! Due to her, I've gotten involved in dog agility, talk about being a kid again! Here's a 48 year old woman chasing this black and white blur around an agility course. We're not very good yet (Layla likes to jump the gun and take off without me, usually to the wrong obstacle, LOL) but we're trying. And she loves it! She is so eager to learn. I also imagine how socially wrong I appear running around in a big field near our home playing "chuck-it" with my fast, active dog. It's just joy though, all the way. She brings such child-like joy to both my husband and I.


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Response to get the red out (Reply #7)

Fri Jan 25, 2013, 01:54 PM

9. Wonderful to read, and imagine you with Layla, red!

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Response to elleng (Reply #9)

Fri Jan 25, 2013, 02:54 PM

12. Thanks elleng

Layla:

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Response to get the red out (Reply #12)

Fri Jan 25, 2013, 07:16 PM

16. Oh, she is really pretty.

You are clearly a proud mom. Congrats on the bundle of fur love.

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Response to get the red out (Reply #7)

Fri Jan 25, 2013, 02:39 PM

10. That is sweet.

I'm so glad you found each other.

Don't worry about the agility training -- Layla will get you trained really fast to do just what she wants you to do.

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Response to Denninmi (Reply #10)

Fri Jan 25, 2013, 02:50 PM

11. Oh she already does

My husband has a saying "Dog smarter than people", LOL.

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Response to get the red out (Reply #11)

Fri Jan 25, 2013, 02:54 PM

13. My dog is the same way.

Very spoiled, and he knows exactly what he wants and how to get it.

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Response to Denninmi (Original post)

Fri Jan 25, 2013, 05:08 PM

15. i still like to run through sprinklers

i eat ice cream for dinner sometimes. i still watch cartoons.

you can still be a kid no matter how old you are.

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Response to fizzgig (Reply #15)

Sat Jan 26, 2013, 11:00 AM

17. banana splits

i have a really hard time convincing the rest of the family that a banana split can be dinner, but shit, it has 2 of the food groups. healthier that a butter burger and fries.

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Response to mopinko (Reply #17)

Sat Jan 26, 2013, 12:04 PM

19. I had one for breakfast yesterday.

Well, tasted like one, it was a chocolate sugar free protein shake that I blended with 1/2 a banana, 3-4 strawberries, and 3-4 pineapple chunks.

Tasted a LOT like a banana split, actually. Pretty good.

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Response to mopinko (Reply #17)

Sat Jan 26, 2013, 03:12 PM

20. they absolutely can be dinner

silly gooses

mornin' mo

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Response to fizzgig (Reply #20)

Sat Jan 26, 2013, 06:49 PM

21. .



silly is right.

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Response to Denninmi (Original post)

Sat Jan 26, 2013, 11:02 AM

18. i had 5 kids.

i don't really recommend it as therapy, but providing a loving connection to my kids meant a loving connection for me. it did heal a lot of wounds. i think this is why many people do it.
they are mostly pretty screwed up, tho, so......

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Response to mopinko (Reply #18)

Mon Jan 28, 2013, 02:57 PM

22. I had four for that reason.

I came from a small emotionally abusive dysfunctional family and wanted a large family.

I won't say I was the most high functioning mom on the block, but the kids all grew up well. Now that I've outlived my role as mommy I have issues I'm working through again, but it's all good.

I do shock my grown kids sometimes when my naughty inner child surfaces. I was so damned good when I was a kid the first time; it's fun to let go of that need to be perfect.

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Response to Still Blue in PDX (Reply #22)

Mon Jan 28, 2013, 03:39 PM

23. i felt like the size of the my family was a real buffer.

even tho my brother was a real bully, and i had plenty of other issues, i wasn't trapped with just my dad. i had my sisters, and i also had my boxer dog for a while who really took care of me.
my sisters also helped my mom around the house a lot and kept her from crumbling, which she might have done without help.

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