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Wed Feb 15, 2012, 12:18 PM

So, I have a bigger problem than the God thing

I'm polyamorous and explaining that can be draining and daunting. I think I'll be judged, even though I've never, ever, felt judged in a room, my inner voice tells me that this time, I will be. That would be my lower power voice, the Gremlin, not Evelyn, my higher power.

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Reply So, I have a bigger problem than the God thing (Original post)
tavalon Feb 2012 OP
irisblue Feb 2012 #1
Tripod Feb 2012 #5
NMDemDist2 Feb 2012 #2
tavalon Feb 2012 #3
Tripod Feb 2012 #4
tavalon Feb 2012 #6

Response to tavalon (Original post)

Wed Feb 15, 2012, 01:40 PM

1. i won't judge you.

from the perspective of my recliner, in my middle ohio house, and in this computer based 'room" there will never be a judgement from me. i truly believe humans can be polyamorous. love is too precious and rare. i respect any person/ people who can lovingly, respectfully and thoughtfully be that. tell the gremlin to sit down, drink a cafe au lait, eat a biegnet at cafe du monde, relax, enjoy the view. i wish i could be there now.

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Response to irisblue (Reply #1)

Sat Feb 25, 2012, 04:34 AM

5. Hi again.

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Response to tavalon (Original post)

Wed Feb 15, 2012, 08:51 PM

2. why bother to try to explain it at all

That stuff is what sponsors are for

IMHO, there can be such a thing as TMI at meeting level.

The book says "we share in a general way" and that's what I try to do and appreciate it when others do the same.

The feelings are the same, straight, gay, poly, queer, or questioning. We all wish for love, acceptance and a feeling of community.

Keep yourself safe, some of the people in those rooms can be real sick.

<------- my new favorite smilie

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Response to NMDemDist2 (Reply #2)

Thu Feb 16, 2012, 03:35 AM

3. That's an excellent point

I find myself trying to explain a situation that may not make sense without the context but honestly, my shares will make sense or they won't and it's not really my job to make sure they get what I'm saying. I'm usually saying it out loud to solidify my thought process.

It's funny, you are right that there are some real sick people in those rooms. I tend to just notice the healing, rather than the mess ups. I think that's a filter I want to keep, otherwise I go into helper mode and turn on my sickness. Ugh.

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Response to tavalon (Original post)

Sat Feb 25, 2012, 04:14 AM

4. I don't know how to ask this?

Do you have multiple personalities, I do? I don't know what polyanorous means. I guess I should look it up, don't want to now, sorry.

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Response to Tripod (Reply #4)

Wed Feb 29, 2012, 04:33 AM

6. No, I don't

I have one, very big, very screwed up personality. Polyamory is the word that we seculars chose to create instead of polygamy. Polygamy being quite taken by the Mormons and as well, our kind isn't sexist. For instance, in my own situation, I have two live in spouses, both male. They both have one outside girlfriend, one of whom we were looking toward possibly inviting her into the family, but she declined the invitation before it was even extended. Is causing some extra drama in our lives that I don't particularly like. I'm trying to figure out how to talk this out with her without it becoming both of us taking one anothers inventory, I thing that won't do any of us any favors nor help us one bit.

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