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Sat Nov 24, 2012, 04:18 PM

Thanksgiving Cleanup

My Mom refused to do any cleanup a few years ago, since she does 90% of the cooking on Thanksgiving. Good for her. My sister's family all help cook and clean up. My aunt and female cousin does everything, while the guys eat and then watch football or play pool or whatever. They get PISSED if asked to help.

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obamanut2012 Nov 2012 OP
yellerpup Nov 2012 #1
hrmjustin Nov 2012 #2
Freddie Nov 2012 #3
obamanut2012 Nov 2012 #4
rrneck Nov 2012 #5
kdmorris Nov 2012 #6
Warren DeMontague Nov 2012 #7
LadyHawkAZ Nov 2012 #8
Kaleva Nov 2012 #9
fizzgig Nov 2012 #10
FloridaJudy Nov 2012 #11

Response to obamanut2012 (Original post)

Sat Nov 24, 2012, 04:24 PM

1. I cooked.

He cleaned. Worked out great!

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Response to obamanut2012 (Original post)

Sat Nov 24, 2012, 04:24 PM

2. The women of my family would kill the men of my family if they did not help.

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Response to obamanut2012 (Original post)

Sat Nov 24, 2012, 04:25 PM

3. I shop and cook, he cleans

Thanksgiving and the rest of the year too. Works for us. However, on major holidays the kitchen is "casually unkempt" (leftovers put away but not much else) after dinner until guests leave so we can enjoy their company. Grandma is no doubt rolling in the grave.

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Response to Freddie (Reply #3)

Sat Nov 24, 2012, 04:28 PM

4. lol

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Response to obamanut2012 (Original post)

Sat Nov 24, 2012, 04:29 PM

5. Most thanksgivings cleanup is communal

unless the head mover and shaker demands otherwise. Back home one of the biggest differences of opinion was whether the head cook would allow help with cleanup. It was a ritual at most meals. Maybe it was a southern thing.

Nobody in their right mind would eat what I cook.

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Response to obamanut2012 (Original post)

Sat Nov 24, 2012, 07:10 PM

6. Most of the "main" cooking is done by tkmorris

but I add a bunch of side dishes. Afterwards, we all cleanup.

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Response to obamanut2012 (Original post)

Sun Nov 25, 2012, 07:42 PM

7. My wife did most of the cooking, i cooked the turkey, and I did 90% of the cleanup.

Pretty typical, since she's the better cook.

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Response to obamanut2012 (Original post)

Sun Nov 25, 2012, 07:50 PM

8. Anytime I cook something sizeable, he cleans

and that is final. I refuse to do both.

Luckily this wasn't a problem this year, because we went to his niece's house for dinner.

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Response to obamanut2012 (Original post)

Tue Nov 27, 2012, 01:14 AM

9. I helped my former father-in-law with the cooking & I did most of the cleanup

My ex did get the turkey in the oven but that's all she could handle before going to bed.

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Response to obamanut2012 (Original post)

Tue Nov 27, 2012, 03:22 PM

10. my sister and i cook

we'll pitch in with putting away the leftovers, but we don't do the dishes.

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Response to obamanut2012 (Original post)

Wed Nov 28, 2012, 12:29 PM

11. I *like* to cook.

So there's no problem there with turning it into a one-woman-band. Besides, that way I know I'll get something I like to eat. Don't care for creamed onions? Too bad: they're my favs. And marshmallows in the candied sweet potatoes are gross. If others want to bring a dish, that's fine too. Most of the really great Thanksgivings I've ever attended were at least partly pot luck.

But the clean up? Ick. It's like mopping up after sex. If you enjoyed the ride, you help pick up afterwards. And even if you didn't, it's the gracious thing to do. At other people's houses, I always start by busing the empty plates, and rinsing them.

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