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Fri Apr 6, 2012, 11:29 AM

Well, I gone & done did it

I have been working with the local women's shelter (which is run by an order of nuns) since I moved to this town & have been on the board for the past 6 years. My term is up this year & they asked yesterday if I wanted to sign on for a 3rd & last term. In the past, it's been a no-brainer to say "yes," because there really is a huge need for a DV shelter. However, at the past meeting, the head penguin gave a little speech against contraception & why the Church is against it & why we should support the Bishops, blah blah blah.

It was tough saying "no" & saying why, since this is the only shelter in town for women & children, but I just can't lend my energy & support to an organization headed by a Church that refuses to recognize women as human beings with full rights to control their own lives.

:sigh:

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Reply Well, I gone & done did it (Original post)
WolverineDG Apr 2012 OP
ellaydubya Apr 2012 #1
niyad Apr 2012 #2
1StrongBlackMan Apr 2012 #3
Neoma Apr 2012 #4
nashville_brook Apr 2012 #7
sonias Apr 2012 #5
Warren DeMontague Apr 2012 #6
southernyankeebelle Apr 2012 #8
nashville_brook Apr 2012 #9
LittleGirl Apr 2012 #10
ArtiChoke Apr 2012 #11
sinkingfeeling Apr 2012 #12
starfox172 Apr 2012 #13
proud2BlibKansan Apr 2012 #14
aggiesal Apr 2012 #15
customerserviceguy Apr 2012 #16
intheflow Apr 2012 #17
Kath1 Apr 2012 #18
MineralMan Apr 2012 #19
ismnotwasm Apr 2012 #20
stevenleser May 2012 #21
WolverineDG May 2012 #22
Control-Z May 2012 #23
WolverineDG May 2012 #24
daaron May 2012 #25

Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 11:34 AM

1. Bravo!!!

I know.....but you have done the right thing and have stood true to your principles. I applaud you.

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 11:35 AM

2. I know this had to be a very difficult decision, but I agree with you. I cannot lend my support

to ANY organization, group or politician who refuses to recognize women's full autonomy.

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 11:42 AM

3. I know ...

that must have been a tough decision.

I hope that you put your reasoning on paper and circulated it. So that others, beyond the "head penguin" and board knows your thoughts.

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 11:43 AM

4. Every sperm is sacred huh?

It's bad enough when an authority states it, but when the women believes it, that's the worst part. Knew a woman who dropped out of high school for getting pregnant, then proceeded with having 8 more kids... I don't think she was even catholic either. She just thought she'd go to hell for not having those kids. No back up support either. Never got her GED from what I remember...

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Response to Neoma (Reply #4)

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 01:21 PM

7. that reminds me i must watch Life of Brian this weekend

easter tradition

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 11:52 AM

5. You did the right thing dg

You have to keep your sanity above all else. When you don't take care of yourself, you can't care for others. You did your part with the 6 years of service you gave them.

There will be other opportunities come your way, where you can make a difference, and you don't have to twist yourself up in order to help.

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 12:34 PM

6. Ugh. It's awful when people with agendas try to hijack things.

I swear, there is this creeping "stealth" religious right influence, even in some circles masquerading as advocacy for women. We should call these people on what they're doing, and pull the masks off. It's the religious right, pure and simple. It's what's driving this guilt-promotion, slut shaming, anti-sex, anti-sexual freedom and anti-contraception agenda.

Clearly.

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 01:22 PM

8. As a woman I thank you. I Hope you find a place that can use your wisdom.

 

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 01:22 PM

9. good on you!

it's a rough decision, but i think you did the right thing.

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 01:42 PM

10. Why the sigh?

You did the RIGHT THING by rejecting their crap. Be Proud! I am and I don't even know you. You should write a letter to the local newspaper and tell them WHY YOU REJECTED ANOTHER TERM! Stand proud and show people that this crap has to STOP.

There are many things I don't do because I live in one of those RED STATES where there is a church on every other corner. And it's because of what you mention in your post. It stifles people like me because I just won't put up with that women hating crap ANYMORE. Sorry, don't mean to shout but being an ex-Catholic gets the best of me sometimes.

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 02:22 PM

11. Too bad...

...they let you go. What a loss for the women, the community and the Church. Glad you told them why, that certainly must have been difficult though, I suspect, not the most difficult part. The Church is suffering a loss of faith I'm afraid and ignoring the doctrine of free will.

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 02:27 PM

12. Excellent. Here's a medal for you. You deserve it.

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 02:31 PM

13. *stands up and applauds*

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 02:38 PM

14. Good for you.

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 02:47 PM

15. Start your own ...

I'll bet that you get more donations and qualify
for gov't grants.

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Response to aggiesal (Reply #15)

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 03:47 PM

16. Yep, that was my thought

The OP clearly has some expertise in this, and can use this story to raise funds for it.

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 09:20 PM

17. The pill was invented by a devout Catholic

and nearly approved by the church.

July 25 (1968): Pope Paul VI reveals his decision on the Pill in an encyclical titled Humanae Vitae (Of Human Life). To the dismay of Catholics around the world -- and ignoring the recommendations of the Papal commission on birth control -- the Pope states unequivocally that the Church remains opposed to all forms of birth control except the rhythm method.

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 11:45 PM

18. I know these types of choices are hard

A life-long Catholic, now 53, I quit the Church in 2004 in the midst of the perfect storm of divorce and disagreement over contraception. As a matter of conscience I just had to say no. Against the wishes of my entire family I gave my daughter, now 24, full access to birth control/contraception. You can still find ways to help you community with a clear conscience. Peace.

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Wed Apr 11, 2012, 08:47 PM

19. Wow! Good for you for making a statement.

I'm sure there's another place that can use your energy and skills.

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Thu Apr 12, 2012, 04:38 AM

20. I don't blame you

Catholics have stepped up their ridiculous rhetoric on anti-family planning. some friends and I were talking about an etopic 'pregnancy' the other day. This involves a fertilized, implanted fetus, so according to the church, it has a soul and a right to live, while the suffering woman is nothing more than fetus incubator. The fact that the fetus will die and the woman will either die or have lifelong complications doesn't matter to the church, if they want to maintain internal consistency of their woman hating bullshit.
I'm sorry the clinic is losing such a great advocate

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Thu May 10, 2012, 08:50 AM

21. Any followup to this Wolverine? I cannot imagine this passed without comment...

What has the reaction been?

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Response to stevenleser (Reply #21)

Thu May 10, 2012, 07:14 PM

22. the board only meets every other month

I declined to re-up after the March meeting. The May meeting is next week. I'm not going to make a big deal over it (out of respect for the one sister who has worked tirelessly to get this shelter up & running), but if the shit-stirrer opens fire, I will respond.

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Fri May 11, 2012, 11:31 PM

23. Wow!

That had to be such a difficult choice. I applaud you for your "tough love" decision. I hope they were listening when you told them why.

Did you get any direct feedback when you told them?

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Response to Control-Z (Reply #23)

Sat May 12, 2012, 08:29 PM

24. The "good" sister understands

not sure what the shit-stirring head penguin thinks as I haven't seen her since. But she'll be there at the board meeting (my last!!!) this coming week.

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Response to WolverineDG (Original post)

Sat May 19, 2012, 10:11 PM

25. Anyone care to post a link to this thread in the Religion section? nt

 

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