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Wed Aug 8, 2012, 02:08 PM

What’s So Bad About a Boy Who Wants to Wear a Dress?

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/08/12/magazine/whats-so-bad-about-a-boy-who-wants-to-wear-a-dress.html?pagewanted=all#commentsContainer
The night before Susan and Rob allowed their son to go to preschool in a dress, they sent an e-mail to parents of his classmates. Alex, they wrote, “has been gender-fluid for as long as we can remember, and at the moment he is equally passionate about and identified with soccer players and princesses, superheroes and ballerinas


I really like that Alex's parents have decided to be supportive of their sons needs.

And then there is ...
Sometimes, isn't the adult world supposed to decide these things for children?

curious that at early ages like 4 and 5 most kids are just learning numbers and the building blocks to reading, can hardly coherently express themselves in any intelligible way, and then you have kids that can identify that they don't feel like their gender?


Was there ever a time when I didn't know that I had to hide any dress desires?
As Sarah Myles put it so well
I was just a " normal " little 5 - year - old boy, minding my own business and playing joyfully with my cars and trucks when my sisters closet door suddenly flew open and a big furry pink crossdress monster " Dragged " me in and pulled a dress over my head and made me feel wonderful in it. Then it told me I couldn't tell anyone about this because everyone would tease me and nobody would play with me anymore.

And repeated in countless stories of gender variant young boys earliest memories. Aware from ages of about 5yrs of not only a desire/need but of the necessity of hiding it is well. Something we must have picked up from our parents but not something most of us can remember any particular event where we obtained the idea. And obviously all of the parental reinforcement of what boys and girls are supposed to do/not do. Had no effect at changing the underlying desires. Just caused us to hide ourselves from the world around us. Those of us fortunate enough to be gender fluid can hide in plain site. Yes I am the guy at the mall who spends a moment too long looking at the shoes in the window. Wondering if you have that cute Grey pair in size 12 and if I can think of a way to buy them without outing myself. Oh how I wish I could try them on! But you're a guy and move on doing the script you have learned so well, so long ago.




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Wed Aug 8, 2012, 02:39 PM

1. Absolutely nothing.

And thank you for an excuse to look at this photo again.

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