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Mon Dec 24, 2012, 01:35 PM

Jack Sprat (2,500 posts)

Simply incredible

It's a Men's Group, but you are not allowed to relate to fellow men about the pangs of aging. I thought reminiscing about youth could not possibly be offensive to anyone, especially fellow men. Look at my recent post that was hidden by the jury.

I will not dare post anything again on any forum of DU. I have nothing to offer if I have to tread this lightly with my comments. This is beyond absurd. You would not believe the demeaning comments of a couple of the jury members. They were far more hurtful than anything I said. I am most thankful that even a female juror was more judicious in my behalf.

So long friends. I'm signing off forever from DU.

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31 replies	Author	Time	Post
Simply incredible (Original post)	Jack Sprat	Dec 2012	OP
No link but I found your post.	CurtEastPoint	Dec 2012	#1
I found the post you are referring to and see nothing	Arkansas Granny	Dec 2012	#2
Don't let them chase you off.	Behind the Aegis	Dec 2012	#3
It's ridiculous that that was locked.	DavidDvorkin	Dec 2012	#4
Hidden, not locked. Locking is a host decision.	Warren DeMontague	Dec 2012	#8
Yes, but that locks it.	DavidDvorkin	Dec 2012	#11
I just want to make it clear that the group hosts werent responsible.	Warren DeMontague	Dec 2012	#15
Oh, okay. Right.	DavidDvorkin	Dec 2012	#16
Board nannies suck..	Upton	Dec 2012	#5
I've participated in a lot of different ones and this one is by far the worst for it	Major Nikon	Dec 2012	#7
Seriously, I agree, nothing offensive in your post.	Denninmi	Dec 2012	#6
Apparently not.	TreasonousBastard	Dec 2012	#13
Nope	Macoy51	Jan 2013	#30
I agree, Im astounded that got hidden.	Warren DeMontague	Dec 2012	#9
Rather than getting antagonized over it, there's another way to look at it	Major Nikon	Dec 2012	#10
I thought about leaving after getting swarmed over an innocent remark, and then...	TreasonousBastard	Dec 2012	#12
I agree. Get knocked out of the saddle, get right back up on the horse.	Denninmi	Dec 2012	#14
Stupid fucking hide, plain and simple	ProudToBeBlueInRhody	Dec 2012	#17
I see no reason to hide it.	LeftofObama	Dec 2012	#18
Please don't leave	libodem	Dec 2012	#19
Don't leave	Gore1FL	Dec 2012	#20
Thanks for all the support...everyone.	Jack Sprat	Dec 2012	#21
Good.	Denninmi	Dec 2012	#22
Welcome again	discntnt_irny_srcsm	Dec 2012	#23
It's not all bad when sung with an Irish accent, either:	Denninmi	Dec 2012	#24
Well then...	discntnt_irny_srcsm	Dec 2012	#25
The problem with the jury system is that people only seem to read the alert...	lumberjack_jeff	Dec 2012	#27
Sure wish a poster name was included with the alert.	Old and In the Way	Dec 2012	#26
I have a different idea along those lines	Major Nikon	Dec 2012	#28
Agreed!	Old and In the Way	Dec 2012	#29
Keep Posting	Macoy51	Jan 2013	#31

Response to Jack Sprat (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 01:40 PM

CurtEastPoint (4,126 posts)

1. No link but I found your post.

What exactly was the issue with what you wrote that someone alerted on it? I am puzzled.

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Response to Jack Sprat (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 01:50 PM

Arkansas Granny (14,666 posts)

2. I found the post you are referring to and see nothing

Last edited Mon Dec 24, 2012, 02:02 PM USA/ET - Edit history (1)

offensive. I don't know what motivates people sometimes.

I don't usually post to the Men's Group, but saw this under "Latest Threads".

ETA: Maybe someone was offended by your use of the word "chicks".

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Mon Dec 24, 2012, 02:07 PM

Behind the Aegis (27,705 posts)

3. Don't let them chase you off.

I was going to respond, but saw it was locked. Can you share the results please.

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Mon Dec 24, 2012, 03:07 PM

DavidDvorkin (12,071 posts)

4. It's ridiculous that that was locked.

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Response to DavidDvorkin (Reply #4)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 05:13 PM

Warren DeMontague (46,401 posts)

8. Hidden, not locked. Locking is a host decision.

This was 6 random DU members, 4 of whom voted to hide. For the life of me I cant figure out why, but Ive got too much going on right now to raise the issue in meta, myself.

Bad hide IMHO.

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Response to Warren DeMontague (Reply #8)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 06:17 PM

DavidDvorkin (12,071 posts)

11. Yes, but that locks it.

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Response to DavidDvorkin (Reply #11)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 08:55 PM

Warren DeMontague (46,401 posts)

15. I just want to make it clear that the group hosts werent responsible.

Semantics, sure.

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Response to Warren DeMontague (Reply #15)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:11 PM

DavidDvorkin (12,071 posts)

16. Oh, okay. Right.

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Response to Jack Sprat (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 03:23 PM

Upton (9,228 posts)

5. Board nannies suck..

and for whatever reason the Mens Group has become one of their main targets. Sure the hide is unfair, but don't let it drive you away.

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Response to Upton (Reply #5)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 04:34 PM

Major Nikon (9,726 posts)

7. I've participated in a lot of different ones and this one is by far the worst for it

All I can say is there must be either a lot of people with too much time on their hands or a few with way too much time on their hands.

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Response to Jack Sprat (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 04:05 PM

Denninmi (5,558 posts)

6. Seriously, I agree, nothing offensive in your post.

Just the way guys talk at times.

We're still allowed to be men, aren't we?

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Response to Denninmi (Reply #6)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 06:46 PM

TreasonousBastard (20,941 posts)

13. Apparently not.

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Response to Denninmi (Reply #6)

Thu Jan 3, 2013, 07:17 AM

Macoy51 (239 posts)

30. Nope

"We're still allowed to be men, aren't we? "

Nope.

Macoy

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Response to Jack Sprat (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 05:15 PM

Warren DeMontague (46,401 posts)

9. I agree, Im astounded that got hidden.

Last edited Mon Dec 24, 2012, 05:15 PM USA/ET - Edit history (1)

Id be interested to see the jury results incl. the rationale for the alert.

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Response to Jack Sprat (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 05:22 PM

Major Nikon (9,726 posts)

10. Rather than getting antagonized over it, there's another way to look at it

Think for a minute about the mindset of someone who would alert on it. Either they are so easily offended that they may even have trouble functioning normally in society, or they get their jollies from the action stage of misandry.

Either way I feel pity for them, not anger.

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Mon Dec 24, 2012, 06:45 PM

TreasonousBastard (20,941 posts)

12. I thought about leaving after getting swarmed over an innocent remark, and then...

after a stupid hide or two.

But, we leave, they win. I'm not here to cowtow to the various intolerant wings and make them happy. The more of us who leave the more their tiny voices are heard and whatever usefulness this board has is diminished.

Let's wait to leave until the board becomes useless, unbearable, or both.

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Response to TreasonousBastard (Reply #12)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 07:18 PM

Denninmi (5,558 posts)

14. I agree. Get knocked out of the saddle, get right back up on the horse.

I've learned a few things in life lately, one is to never give up or give in in the face of adversity, or it wins.

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Tue Dec 25, 2012, 02:00 AM

ProudToBeBlueInRhody (10,330 posts)

17. Stupid fucking hide, plain and simple

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Tue Dec 25, 2012, 07:28 AM

LeftofObama (2,451 posts)

18. I see no reason to hide it.

Honest discussion, honest responses. I thought that's what a "discussion board" was all about.

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Tue Dec 25, 2012, 09:55 AM

libodem (11,866 posts)

19. Please don't leave

I'd be upset too, but don't let them win. I think some go in search of something to be mad about. It is like having Nelly Olsen, tattle to the teacher. I never hung out with the snootie girls, even though I'm female. I don't like it.

I recently read of a truce between the groups. The hosts worked stuff out. This seems like someone is playing unfair, games You guys be good, but we get to keep being offended and alerting your business.

Oh, well. It is a shitty deal.

Don't leave!!!

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Wed Dec 26, 2012, 08:16 PM

Gore1FL (11,689 posts)

20. Don't leave

If you do they win.

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Response to Gore1FL (Reply #20)

Wed Dec 26, 2012, 10:19 PM

Jack Sprat (2,500 posts)

21. Thanks for all the support...everyone.

Sometimes it seems as if we have members who just lie in wait to assail anything possible. I thought the Jury system was all right for awhile, but I think there just might be people who enjoy sitting in the Judgment seat and handing out judgments without much deliberation or consideration.

When people respond as you all have, then I can't help but reciprocate in gratitude for support. I will stay, shake it off, and get back up to the plate again. Thanks.

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Response to Jack Sprat (Reply #21)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 03:25 AM

Denninmi (5,558 posts)

22. Good.

I'm glad you changed your mind.

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Response to Jack Sprat (Reply #21)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 09:31 AM

discntnt_irny_srcsm (5,685 posts)

23. Welcome again

Do not let the bastards get you down sounds much better in Latin so nill illigitimi carborundum.

Have a nice day.

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Response to discntnt_irny_srcsm (Reply #23)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:35 PM

Denninmi (5,558 posts)

24. It's not all bad when sung with an Irish accent, either:

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Response to Denninmi (Reply #24)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 01:04 PM

discntnt_irny_srcsm (5,685 posts)

25. Well then...

Here's to the land of the shamrock so green,
Here's to each lad and his darlin' Colleen,
Here's to the ones we love dearest and most.
May God bless old Ireland, that's this Irishman's toast!

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Response to Jack Sprat (Reply #21)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 02:56 PM

lumberjack_jeff (24,557 posts)

27. The problem with the jury system is that people only seem to read the alert...

... and accept it as authoritative.

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Thu Dec 27, 2012, 01:36 PM

Old and In the Way (36,257 posts)

26. Sure wish a poster name was included with the alert.

That would tell you a lot about the alert motivation, IMHO. I can think of a few people on DU that would do such a frivolous alert. Adding a name might also cut back on a lot of bogus alerts that are designed to make this board suck.

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Response to Old and In the Way (Reply #26)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 08:19 PM

Major Nikon (9,726 posts)

28. I have a different idea along those lines

The feature I'd like to see is that if someone has a certain number of alerts over a certain period of time, the ratio of hides vs no-hides would show up on their transparency page.

For instance, let's say the trigger number was 30 alerts over 90 days. A person who had more than that would have their ratio displayed on their transparency page. When people start showing up with <25%, it won't be too hard to figure out who the disrupters are.

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Response to Major Nikon (Reply #28)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 10:47 PM

Old and In the Way (36,257 posts)

29. Agreed!

I think it is relevant info for the DU community to know each posters-
(1) total # OF Alerts (what does the total time cost DUers in "jury duty"?)
(2) Won/Loss record and ave jury decision.

Seems to me we could use this data to rid trolls/disrupters, completely and automatically.

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Response to Jack Sprat (Original post)

Thu Jan 3, 2013, 07:22 AM

Macoy51 (239 posts)

31. Keep Posting

I agree that leaving just lets them win. Stand and fight for what you believe in. I have only received one “hide” decision, but I just shrugged it off and continued to post the next day.

macoy

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