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Tobin S.

(10,418 posts)
Tue Jul 12, 2016, 09:35 PM Jul 2016

My buddy with the addiction problem called me tonight.

I'm not sure why. He was walking to a drug dealer's house when he called me. He had overdosed for the second time in a month a few nights ago- Xanax and heroin again.

I took him out to dinner a few weeks ago at a nice restaurant. I didn't preach. I mostly let him talk and listened. I just told him to take care of himself when we parted. Then I get this call tonight.

At the end of the conversation tonight, I told him, "You know you're in trouble." He said that the police weren't going to press any charges against him from when he overdosed. I told him, "Not that kind of trouble. I'm talking about your life." He then said he was at old dude's place and had to hang up the phone.

I wouldn't be surprised if he doesn't make it through the night. I don't know what to do.

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My buddy with the addiction problem called me tonight. (Original Post) Tobin S. Jul 2016 OP
Seems like you did what you could, Tobin. elleng Jul 2016 #1
Yeah, I'm 50 miles away and have no idea where he is. Tobin S. Jul 2016 #2
Don't beat yourself up over this Generic Brad Jul 2016 #3
Thanks, Brad. Tobin S. Jul 2016 #4
Yes, you are a very good man, my dear Tobin! CaliforniaPeggy Jul 2016 #5
Has he been in treatment at all? Does he go to any groups? Rhiannon12866 Jul 2016 #6
Mixing heroin and Xanax is no bueno Major Nikon Jul 2016 #7

elleng

(130,644 posts)
1. Seems like you did what you could, Tobin.
Tue Jul 12, 2016, 09:56 PM
Jul 2016

He was reaching out for help from you, but clearly you weren't going to be able immediately to meet him (and wrestle him away from his destination.) Was good you could, at least, talk to him.

Tobin S.

(10,418 posts)
2. Yeah, I'm 50 miles away and have no idea where he is.
Tue Jul 12, 2016, 10:04 PM
Jul 2016

I'm going to try to get a hold of him tomorrow and see if I can get his mom's contact info. I need to know if something happens to him.

Generic Brad

(14,272 posts)
3. Don't beat yourself up over this
Tue Jul 12, 2016, 10:26 PM
Jul 2016

When people are battling demons like that, it is hard to break through to the real them. You tried and that is what counts. At least he knows you care and he sounds like he needed to hear that from someone.

You're a good man, Tobin.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,499 posts)
5. Yes, you are a very good man, my dear Tobin!
Tue Jul 12, 2016, 11:13 PM
Jul 2016

And you helped him as much as you could, or as he would let you.

The rest is up to him. Remember this--it's important.

I'm so sorry.

Rhiannon12866

(204,460 posts)
6. Has he been in treatment at all? Does he go to any groups?
Wed Jul 13, 2016, 03:10 AM
Jul 2016

Those with legal issues are often mandated to do treatment. If he does, especially if he has a sponsor, those are the folks who would know what to do. Those would be the ones to contact, if you know.

But you did do what you could. And he knows you're there for him or he wouldn't have called you. That obviously means quite a lot.

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