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Thu Mar 22, 2012, 09:19 PM

calling to follow up after sending flowers. Faux Pas?

I've been dating this girl for about a month now. Today I had flowers sent to her house for just because. They should have arrived and she should have seen them by now. But I have no idea as I haven't heard from her yet.

Would it be a major faux pas to call to see if she recieved the flowers? Or is the next move now firmly in her court, where if I call, I'll just seem desperate?

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Reply calling to follow up after sending flowers. Faux Pas? (Original post)
charlie and algernon Mar 2012 OP
Duer 157099 Mar 2012 #1
charlie and algernon Mar 2012 #3
Duer 157099 Mar 2012 #5
charlie and algernon Mar 2012 #6
Sanity Claws Mar 2012 #2
Brickbat Mar 2012 #4
charlie and algernon Mar 2012 #9
Xipe Totec Mar 2012 #7
RZM Mar 2012 #8
rug Mar 2012 #10
seabeyond Mar 2012 #11
HeiressofBickworth Mar 2012 #12
elleng Mar 2012 #13

Response to charlie and algernon (Original post)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 09:23 PM

1. Do not call.

I know it's hard to resist the temptation, but it's really best if you don't. On the other hand, maybe something happened with the delivery and she didn't get them? Can you call the florist and verify that they were delivered and that someone received them?

Then you have to wait. At least until it's a time that you would normally call, but not specifically about this.

imho

edit: you did sign the card right? Or did you put something like "Guess Who?" and now she's home wondering who they are from?

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Response to Duer 157099 (Reply #1)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 09:31 PM

3. I think I will call the florist tomorrow just to make sure they were delivered.

Yes, I did sign the card. One concern is that the delievery guy just left the flowers on the porch and someone walked off with them.

Unless I've been completely misreading all the signals in the last couple weeks, there's definitely something between us. So I'm hoping that she didn't see the flowers as suddenly going to another level that she's not ready for yet.

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Response to charlie and algernon (Reply #3)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 09:37 PM

5. Try to think on the positive side

She probably got them and then got so excited and giddy and she had to stop herself from calling you, not wanting to appear too desperate.

If so, then you two may just be really suited to each other!

Also I agree that you get a huge for sending flowers just because.

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Response to Duer 157099 (Reply #5)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 09:41 PM

6. haha, thanks!

We were talking about making plans for this weekend, so I'll see if I hear from her by tomorrow night.

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Response to charlie and algernon (Original post)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 09:30 PM

2. Do not call

I agree with the previous poster.

She should contact you and thank you. If she doesn't, then she is not interested in a relationship or doesn't know basic etiquette. This is a chance for you to see who she is or whether she wants a relationship.

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Response to charlie and algernon (Original post)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 09:32 PM

4. Don't call. She could be late from work, dealing with a sick dog, or just Had A Day and wants to be

by herself for a bit. If you don't hear from her in 24 hours, though, I'd start wondering what was up.

In the meantime, I want to give you a thumbs-up for "flowers just because." This girl thinks that rocks.

ETA: I also agree with the "not calling to thank someone so as not to appear too desperate." Stupid, but I was that girl.

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Response to Brickbat (Reply #4)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 09:47 PM

9. Yeah, I'll wait it out another night

Certianly if I don't hear anything by tomorrow night, then I got something to worry about as we had been planning on getting together. Of course when I call the florist tomorrow, I may find out that they weren't able to deliver it today and so my worrying was for naught, haha!


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Response to charlie and algernon (Original post)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 09:45 PM

7. Do not call

If you don't hear from her in a week, flush her phone number down the toilet, cut your losses, and consider yourself lucky.

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Response to charlie and algernon (Original post)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 09:47 PM

8. Agree with the rest of the posters here

 

It's on her to say thank you. If she likes you, she'll be really flattered and will let you know what a nice gesture it was. Even if she's still deciding how much she likes you, she'll say thanks. If she doesn't respond in a few days, you'll do well to pay her no mind.

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Response to charlie and algernon (Original post)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 09:51 PM

10. There are rules.

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Response to charlie and algernon (Original post)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 11:41 PM

11. sending flowers, just cause. that was a really nice thing to do.

really nice. that always feels good.

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Response to charlie and algernon (Original post)

Fri Mar 23, 2012, 12:55 AM

12. What was the size of the floral arrangement?

If you don't know her all that well, a large, over the top bouquet could be intimidating and she doesn't know how to respond. In my old-fashioned opinion, you could have done better to stop at a flower shop, get a small but lovely bunch of flowers and take them to her in person. Save the delivered floral arrangements for an event such as birthday, anniversary, etc.

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Response to charlie and algernon (Original post)

Fri Mar 23, 2012, 01:48 AM

13. For encouragement:

Sent flowers to my DAUGHTER, and ended up having to ask HER whether she'd received them! She loved them (and the stuffed bear that went with them,) but DAMN, why not say THANKS, MOM, right away? Who knows???!!!!

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