I'm hurting badly tonight. Family stuff. Any suggestions for how to survive the night to confront

[Coventina]

the other party tomorrow?

Music?
Book?
Poetry?
Movie?
Sleep with my dog?
Hit myself real hard with a hammer so I sleep?

[Hoyt]

1. Dog and music. Take care.

[Coventina]

2. Thanks! Will implement immediately!

[shenmue]

3. Lemonade. Ice cream. Dog hug. Nap.

Lots of cuddles with the woofy.

[Coventina]

8. Thanks.

[Arugula Latte]

4. I'm sorry you are hurting.

Can you write out what you want to say, either to give the letter to the person or to just clarify your thoughts before you speak?

Sometimes it helps to try to add up what is good and positive in your life so it puts the negative in a bit of perspective. It can be anything from appreciating health and friends to just being thankful to have a roof over your head and clothes to wear. Sometimes I try to tell myself how much better I have it than the vast majority of the world's residents due to simple things like plentiful food and clean water.

Of course, this is all easier said than done -- I have lain wide awake at 4 am many a night fighting thoughts of fear, remorse, anxiety, and dread!

So here is a hug.

[Coventina]

9. Thanks for the writing idea

I will definitely do that, mostly to organize my thoughts on paper.
My brain is too mushy right now to be able to organize.

[TreasonousBastard]

5. All of the above and add ice cream...

as has been suggested.

Chocolate.

I think we've all been there and commiserate, but tomorrow you have to face the reality-- unless you can find a way out of it, or stall it.

Good luck.

And, yes, dogs and cats just seem to "know", so let the dog do what it does.

[Coventina]

10. Thanks!! I would love to run away from this problem, but that would be worse in the long run.

It is much better to face and discuss the anger of the other party and try to work through it as best we can, if we hope to have a relationship going forward.

[Rhiannon12866]

6. Sleeping with my dog always helps me. It's comforting to have him close by

Kind of like sleeping with a fuzzy stuffed animal, only one with feelings who genuinely loves you. The only problem with my dog is that he gets warm and jumps down to sleep on the floor. Short of that, there are stuffed animals, may sound silly, but a psychologist recommended that to a friend of mine and she was in her 20s at the time.

I'm watching TV right now, plan to turn to the news at some point, but watching something with a storyline helps keep my mind off things...

[Coventina]

11. Well, the ambien is making that really hard

but the dog cuddles are a definite win!!!

[Rhiannon12866]

13. I sure hope that helps, though you probably have it covered with Ambien.

I took Trazodone for quite awhile since I have trouble sleeping, too. It never failed to let me fall asleep within an hour. But these days I usually get tired...

BTW, I don't think you've seen my dog. He's a Brussels Griffon, big for his breed, but small enough to fit on my bed, if only he'd pick a spot and stay there, LOL.

Jack

[fizzgig]

7. i'd say movie and dog

i'm sorry you're hurting

[Coventina]

12. Thanks so much to you and all the others. You guys are so awesome!!

Just the memory of this will help me be stronger and face the anger and lovingly respond to it.

[MADem]

14. Glass of milk and a turkey sandwich. Sleepy time food!

If no milk, go for ice cream--comfort food and it will make you sleepy! If you're a health nut, you can always go for those sleepy teas....

Definitely sleep with the dog--man's best friend will calm you down. His (or her) breathing will lull you, and make you feel safe and drowsy. Nothing better than a dog to de-stress you.

[Coventina]

15. That's for sure!

We really need some kind of pet cuddling smiley

The seagull doesn't quit cut it...

[MADem]

16. Yeah....something like this!!!

[Coventina]

17. Oh yes!!

That's wonderful!!

[MADem]

18. Hope tomorrow brings you a brighter day! nt

[calimary]

19. Will you let us know how you are?

Don't know if it's morning for you already, but I hope you were able to take some of the excellent suggestions here (especially the one about cuddling with your pooch).

Hope you are feeling better and the situation resolves itself smoothly.

[Coventina]

20. HUGE HUGS AND LOVE TO EVERYONE!!

It is morning.

The difficult call is scheduled for the afternoon.
I don't know when, as I am letting the other party choose.

I'll let you know how it goes......