Update on dating plunge with college boyfriend after 39 years apart.

[catbyte]

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It was seamless, it was as if we had been apart for 2 weeks instead of 39 years. I felt comfortable, safe, and loved. My cats even came out, something they never do. It felt right.

He asked me to marry him.

And I said yes.

We decided to wait for awhile to figure out the logistics, etc, but for the first time in years I am completely happy and I think he is too. After my husband died, I never thought I would or could feel this way. For all of you out there feeling hopeless, I'm here to tell you it's not. I found love again at 59. It's awesome!

[cwydro]

1. Wishing you the best.

Very good to hear!

[irisblue]

4. much happiness for you and soon to be Mr cwydro

[cwydro]

5. Oops

I think you responded to the wrong post!

Made me giggle though, so thank you for that!

[irisblue]

7. oops...fixed

[cwydro]

10. No worries!

It was a sweet reply.

[KMOD]

2. WOW!!!!

Hooray for you both!!!

[LiberalElite]

3. .

[irisblue]

6. best wishes

for catbyte & the soon to be mr. catbyte.

[hifiguy]

8. Sweet story,

and congratulations!

[femmocrat]

9. What a romantic story!

Just in time for Valentine's Day! Best wishes to you both.

[livetohike]

11. That's great!!! Thanks for the update. A long ago love never dies. Glad you found each

other .

[catbyte]

32. When we broke up, I remember saying something lame like, "Who knows? In 30 or 40 years we might

meet again" (or get together--it's hazy). Yeah, who knew? He told me tonight after he'd returned home, that the last time we'd slept together was during the Ford administration. Gack. He's a retired consumer protection lobbyist, very liberal, and funny as hell. My dream man, sigh.

[Mnemosyne]

36. Your words were apparently prophetic, not lame.

I love hearing about nice things working out! Congrats!

[babylonsister]

12. I am so happy for you!

And thanks for the optimism there, it was good to read.

[mopinko]

13. thanks for the hope.

wish you the best.

[Manifestor_of_Light]

14. Very cool.

I hope you are happy. Good luck!!!

[seveneyes]

15. The heart leads where we follow

Congratulations. Wishing you well.

[orleans]

16. wonderful story! i'm glad you're so happy! n/t

[hopemountain]

17. sunshine & roses!

lovely

[CaliforniaPeggy]

18. That is GREAT NEWS, my dear catbyte!

Congratulations to you both!

I wish you many, many happy years!

[madamvlb]

19. I'm so happy for you both.

[BlancheSplanchnik]

20. Very Happy For You!

❤

Yay!

[daleanime]

21. Better be careful....

a lot of us would crash the wedding!

[catbyte]

41. What fun THAT would be!

[Baitball Blogger]

22. This is so cool!

Congratulations!

[magical thyme]

23. that's so wonderful, catbyte

Best wishes to you both!

[Blue_In_AK]

24. Congrats!

I married my high school sweetheart after 40 years apart, and it's been working out great for the past 11-1/2 years.

[catbyte]

33. That's awesome, Blue. I guess some things were just meant to be. I love the life symmetry of it.

The first guy I ever really loved will also be my last.

[Blue_In_AK]

34. Yes, me, too.

[SwissTony]

25. If you wrote this up as a movie script, the critics would yell "Schmaltzy"

But sometimes life imitates art...and sometimes it simply exceeds it.

I wish you and your (soon to be) husband every happiness.

[catbyte]

35. We were laughing about that very thing last night & how implausible this all is.

Stranger than fiction.

[Turbineguy]

26. One of my classmates

and his Girlfriend from his college days found each other again after 3 marriages each to other people and spent happy years together.

All the Very Best!

[shenmue]

27. Mazel tov!

[appalachiablue]

28. How wonderful for you. You clearly love & cherish each other. All the best & thanks.

[Shrike47]

29. Congratulations! It's so nice for you to have love a second time around.

[petronius]

30. Congratulations! That's really fantastic news...

[mia]

31. Wonderful news!

Thanks for sharing it!

[Triana]

37. What a FABULOUS story!

All the luck and happiness to you both!

[lovemydog]

38. Congratulations catbyte.

May you both have many happy years together.

[Rowdyboy]

39. Sounds like there's a lot to catch up on....the sheer joy of discovering another person

Have FUN and once in a while remember us over at DU....

[Ilsa]

40. What an incredible story! I wish you

every happiness!

[catbyte]

42. Thanks to everyone for your good wishes. You helped me through some of

the bleakest times in my life, and it's great to share with you a really great one. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart. And thank you for the hearts! :

[eggplant]

43. My mom has hooked up with her college sweetheart as well.

She's 80, he's 81. This is after she grieved the loss of my dad to Parkinson's after a 50 year marriage. I doubt they'll get married, but she did pick up and move halfway across the country to be near him. And she's stupidly-giddy-teenager happy. It's really wonderful to see.

So, all the best to you and your beau. Enjoy your next grand adventure!

[mr.catbyte]

44. mr.catbyte weighs in

who loves ya baby? why, i believe that would be ME!

[CaliforniaPeggy]

45. Welcome to DU, mr.catbyte!

We are all thrilled to read the very happy news of your engagement. I wish you both many happy years together.

[catbyte]

46. Hi, baby

[catbyte]

47. Oh, welcome to DU!

[msanthrope]

51. Welcome.....and this misanthrope actually shed tears of happiness for you both....nt

[cwydro]

72. Welcome to DU

[MerryBlooms]

48. Congratulations!

[FairWinds]

49. Hey, 59 is young !!

Don't ask me how I know.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

50. Something similar happened to my mother

In 1992, she met up with her old boyfriend from 1947. Both of them were widowed and had not been terribly happy in their marriages. They talked on the phone, and when they finally met up, they were engaged within a week. It was great to see my mother acting like a 16-year-old, because she had been rather depressed before that and complaining that "her life was over." The two of them got married about two months later and enjoyed 16 years together.

[orleans]

52. that's a nice story. i'm glad your mom was able to get that bonus 16 years of happiness. n/t

[MADem]

53. If you were my sister, I would say a couple of things...

First, congratulations, best wishes for happiness forever, and may you know nothing but joy!

Second, run a criminal and financial background check. Yes--I am sounding cynical, but if you were my sister, that's the advice I'd give. Hope that it comes back clean, but protect yourself...!

[mr.catbyte]

54. ain't you just the love doctor..

i don't think the 18 years i spent in federal prison should come between catbyte and our love. i've told her that i still harbor warm affections for my cellmate "catfish," but none of that will prevent me from being true to her, loving and protecting her forever. and she gave me the wrong PIN for her ATM...

[catbyte]

55. oh my god...

...

[elleng]

60. You've got a good one there, catbyte!!!

[catbyte]

68. Don't I know it!

[elleng]

59. You are SO SWEET, dear mr.catbyte!

Good luck to you (and your probation) officer!!!

[calimary]

65. Welcome to DU, mr. catbyte!

GLAD YOU'RE HERE!!!! WOOOOHOOOOOOOOO!!!!!! We are so thrilled for the two of you!

Many hugs and much love - and may you both have decades more to enjoy the way you're supposed to: Together!!!

[panader0]

66. Congrats, and I think you'll fit in fine around here.

[MADem]

73. Ha ha ha!!!!!

Just make sure you tell her about EVERY restraining order before the nuptials!

I'm probably a lousy love doctor, but I am an OK relative--I give the same advice I give to my most beloved relations!

You have a sense of humor...you're growing on me, too!!!

[Raine1967]

56. This is just beautiful and wonderful! I am so very happy for you both!

[blondie58]

57. That is awesome!

And the fact that your cats came out says a lot. THEY know!!!
💗💖💜💙❤️😼

[catbyte]

58. I'm a firm believer in that. Even Cranky Nigel let him touch him.

[blondie58]

61. And in Reading Through the comments, i see that Mr. Catbyte Has Journed the DU Community!

Okay- DU'ers- writers- this is a wonderful Opportunity for a novel!!!
This is Fun and I am so happy for you both!
Pictures! At least of rhe ceremony. 😼


😼😼😼😼😼😼😼😼🐯🐯🐯🐯🐯
Okay, tried to change The misspelled Word Joined, but it would not let me.

[calimary]

62. Oh YEAH!!!!!! This is FABULOUS news, catbyte!

THANK YOU HUGELY for sharing it with us!

I'm smiling so broadly as I write this! Such GREAT news!!! Sounds like the perfect thing for the two of you to do. Your cats seem to have agreed, too!

[catbyte]

64. Mr. Catbyte has 3 cats of his own, so eventually we will have a

"blended" family. Thanks for your good wishes!

[3catwoman3]

63. Wow!!!

This is truly deserving of the oft-overused word AWESOME!!!

And I totally agree with whomever above noted the significance of your cats making their presence known. Cats are good judges of character.

[mr.catbyte]

69. silly me. no prison time

the only time i spent was 35 years with my soulmate. unfortunately, lou gehrig's disease took the last 6 years together and robbed us of what would have been the "wonder years." catbyte spent 30 years with her soulmate, and lost her "wonder years" too." my goal for 2015 was to clean the garage, and then catbyte dropped into my life after 39 years. fuck the garage! this story is beyond explainable. i'm just going to enjoy the ride. i've been in pain since even before my wife died. i now feel relaxed, comfortable, and loved. catbyte is one fine woman.

[catbyte]

70. wow, love you, babe.

Can't wait until Thursday.

[Chan790]

71. I'm happy for both of you...

and that's rare because I'm a misanthropic cynic if ever there was one.

Actually, I think it's great. Sometimes the right people come into your life at the right time; sometimes the right people who were the wrong people or the wrong time come back into your life at the right time.

[ailsagirl]

74. I know one isn't supposed to congratulate the bride...

but to hell with that nonsense!!

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!