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hyphenate

(12,496 posts)
Tue Feb 28, 2012, 12:16 AM Feb 2012

Send some good thoughts to my mom, please!

My sister called me this afternoon, and told me that she had called 911 because my mom wasn't looking very good when she woke her up and something seemed wrong.

Paramedics took her to the hospital, and the hospital determined she had had a stroke last night. I have to wait on news because she was in the ER after tests, but I guess they're working on getting her a bed and treating her.

She's 83 now. She hasn't been in the best health for a long time, and she has been getting progressively worse. I saw her just about a month and a week ago, and I was shocked at how frail she has gotten. Still, she's a stubborn Scots woman, and I think that has helped her!

But good thoughts are always welcomed.

Thanks!

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Send some good thoughts to my mom, please! (Original Post) hyphenate Feb 2012 OP
Sending my good thoughts kentauros Feb 2012 #1
Hope things go well for her HeiressofBickworth Feb 2012 #2
My prayers are with you and her mdmc Feb 2012 #3
Sending good thoughts and healing vibes, hyphenate. Suich Feb 2012 #4
(((GOOD VIBES))) Odin2005 Feb 2012 #5
Sending healing vibes. MiddleFingerMom Feb 2012 #6
Vibes for your ma. denbot Feb 2012 #7
Good vibes to your mom KT2000 Feb 2012 #8
I just sent a good thought lovemydog Feb 2012 #9
best to your mother barbtries Feb 2012 #10
((( hyphenate's mom))) beac Feb 2012 #11
You've got them here. HopeHoops Feb 2012 #12
Vibes for the best possible outcome siligut Feb 2012 #13
You've got them! hedgehog Feb 2012 #14
Best wishes to your mom. frogmarch Feb 2012 #15
Prayers for you and Mom. emilyg Feb 2012 #16
Good thoughts to your mom, my dear hypenate! CaliforniaPeggy Feb 2012 #17
Best wishes for your mom! Phentex Feb 2012 #18
Sending out my best wishes. bigwillq Feb 2012 #19
Update on Mom hyphenate Mar 2012 #20
Final update hyphenate Mar 2012 #21
Oh, hyphenate, I'm so sorry marzipanni Mar 2012 #22
My best wishes... ellisonz Mar 2012 #23
My sincere condolences LaurenG Mar 2012 #25
I'm so sorry... Phentex Mar 2012 #26
I am sorry.... Tikki Mar 2012 #29
The best of thoughts for you and your mother. nt Live and Learn Mar 2012 #24
Hi everyone hyphenate Mar 2012 #27
So terribly sorry for your loss hyphenate auntAgonist Mar 2012 #28
Please take care of yourself, my dear hyphenate... CaliforniaPeggy Mar 2012 #30

HeiressofBickworth

(2,682 posts)
2. Hope things go well for her
Tue Feb 28, 2012, 12:22 AM
Feb 2012

At least she's in the right place at the right time -- she'll get the help she needs.

siligut

(12,272 posts)
13. Vibes for the best possible outcome
Tue Feb 28, 2012, 12:31 PM
Feb 2012

It is so hard to watch as our mothers deteriorate. She is where she needs to be right now, but boy hospitals can be so hard on older people. I hope your sister can visit often and that your mom gets the good nurses.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,534 posts)
17. Good thoughts to your mom, my dear hypenate!
Wed Feb 29, 2012, 01:59 AM
Feb 2012

I hope she will get better and go home soon!

I hope her doctor and the nurses have good advice for her, and that she'll follow it.

hyphenate

(12,496 posts)
20. Update on Mom
Thu Mar 1, 2012, 10:16 AM
Mar 2012

The hospital called my sister early this morning. Mom's breathing has slowed down quite drastically. They asked Deb if they should take Mom off her meds and let her go. I knew it was coming, as I couldn't sleep much at all and was sick to my stomach. I told Debby to have them keep Mom's meds going for just today, and then let her go. She will likely be gone today.

I finally got to see her again just last month, and knew it was going to happen soon, but I'm heartbroken. My mom and I shared so many adventures together, going everywhere. When my brother and I went last month, my nephew, Ryan, took some photos. This is the last photo of my mom with my brother Chris and I:




I have had a difficult time coming to terms with her mortality. I know it's a rite of passage for most of us that our parents are going to die before we do in most cases. Intellectually, I understand that. But I've spent a lifetime with her, and it's tearing me into a million pieces to cope with this.

Mom is 83, which I guess by all standards is a good age. I will miss her desperately.

hyphenate

(12,496 posts)
21. Final update
Thu Mar 1, 2012, 11:10 AM
Mar 2012

Mom has passed away. She went peacefully about 6:50 am, Pacific time.

I want to thank everyone for all your good wishes and thoughts. I miss her terribly already.

marzipanni

(6,011 posts)
22. Oh, hyphenate, I'm so sorry
Thu Mar 1, 2012, 11:53 AM
Mar 2012

I can feel your sadness, and empathize because my mother died a year and a half ago. Some relief comes from realizing that she didn't suffer for long periods, and was not "out of it" mentally, and I sense it was the same for your mom.
I lived across the country from my mom, but we talked a lot on the phone. I am grateful that we were such good friends, as well as mother and daughter. You and your mom were very close and had great adventures, that is wonderful!


hyphenate

(12,496 posts)
27. Hi everyone
Sun Mar 4, 2012, 12:51 PM
Mar 2012

I just wanted to thank everyone for your good thoughts. The day my mom died, I also had an eye procedure done, which got slightly infected, and so has complicated that as well. As a result, I'm not seeing very well, so find typing difficult, and spelling a nightmare.

Regardless, I would have gotten back to you all sooner if I could see properly and could stay awake long rnough to be functional.

Thanks again--the family and I are managing--it's going to be hard for awhile, but we'll get through it all eventually.

auntAgonist

(17,252 posts)
28. So terribly sorry for your loss hyphenate
Sun Mar 4, 2012, 12:55 PM
Mar 2012


Please take care of yourself and don't over do it.

aA
kesha

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,534 posts)
30. Please take care of yourself, my dear hyphenate...
Sun Mar 4, 2012, 02:01 PM
Mar 2012

I'm so sorry about your mom.

I hope that your good memories of all the great times you two had will sustain you during this time of grief...

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