Tue Jan 24, 2012, 10:21 AM
HopeHoops (47,675 posts)
Okay. I was always taught that guys were the ones who had to be strong.
I've been strong for the past two weeks, but my eldest is in Budapest now and I'm not feeling very strong right now. I'll admit that I cry. All guys do whether they admit it or not. I'm having a rough time. Am I weak?
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9 replies, 775 views
| Author | Time | Post | |
| HopeHoops | Jan 2012 | OP | |
| siligut | Jan 2012 | #1 | |
| HopeHoops | Jan 2012 | #2 | |
| siligut | Jan 2012 | #6 | |
| HappyMe | Jan 2012 | #3 | |
| ScreamingMeemie | Jan 2012 | #4 | |
| OriginalGeek | Jan 2012 | #5 | |
| irisblue | Jan 2012 | #7 | |
| elleng | Jan 2012 | #8 | |
| UnrepentantLiberal | Jan 2012 | #9 |
Response to HopeHoops (Original post)
Tue Jan 24, 2012, 10:25 AM
siligut (11,086 posts)
1. Nothing weak about crying/sadness/missing a loved one.
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Response to siligut (Reply #1)
Tue Jan 24, 2012, 10:27 AM
HopeHoops (47,675 posts)
2. I try to believe that, but I still feel weak. I had to be the shoulder for weeks now.
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Now I need one. Fortunately my daughter's dog needs one too. She's a good cuddle.
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Response to HopeHoops (Reply #2)
Tue Jan 24, 2012, 11:17 AM
siligut (11,086 posts)
6. Animals give as good as they take
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I am so glad you have her canine loved one to cuddle with.
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Response to HopeHoops (Original post)
Tue Jan 24, 2012, 10:46 AM
HappyMe (11,823 posts)
3. Absolutely not weak.
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Your daughter is far, far from the doorstep. You miss her and are probably worried. It's hard to let go.
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Response to HopeHoops (Original post)
Tue Jan 24, 2012, 11:05 AM
ScreamingMeemie (60,843 posts)
4. Not in the least.
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The one thing I have been trying to instill in my son is that it is okay to cry. And not just to cry, but to all out sob for his daddy. Families are meant to be together and when they are not, by distance, death or other issues, it is gut wrenching. You are stronger for admitting it.
By the way, anytime someone admires me for how "strong" I am, it irritates me. For one second I don't want to be strong. |
Response to HopeHoops (Original post)
Tue Jan 24, 2012, 11:07 AM
OriginalGeek (5,458 posts)
5. Any man who would criticize you for that
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is an overcompensating asshole. I find great satisfaction in being on the opposite side from overcompensating assholes.
That works for a lot of things in life - I know I'm not the originator of this thought but I do use it often - look at who is for a thing and who is against a thing and decide who I would be more proud to be aligned with. overcompensating assholes are rarely, if ever, on the list of people I want to stand with. |
Response to HopeHoops (Original post)
Tue Jan 24, 2012, 01:18 PM
irisblue (1,497 posts)
7. nope
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Last edited Tue Jan 24, 2012, 02:23 PM USA/ET - Edit history (1) you are man and a dad. cuddle with your granddog and tell stories about your kid. use the kleenex if you want, sleeves don't work well for nose blowing. use an alcohol free/oil free facial lotion on your raw nose if you need to.
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Response to HopeHoops (Original post)
Tue Jan 24, 2012, 01:36 PM
elleng (40,520 posts)
8. No, you're human.
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Response to HopeHoops (Original post)
Tue Jan 24, 2012, 02:05 PM
UnrepentantLiberal (11,700 posts)
9. "I don't trust a man who doesn't cry."
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- General Norman Schwarzkopf
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