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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsI think I might be a snob
Or at least kind of picky when it comes to friends and more.
I spent some time on the internet dating sites, years ago, and I noticed that most people just don't do anything for me. I got responses from many people, but very few that I actually cared to meet. Now I suppose that's true of whatever method you use to meet people, but I also noticed that almost no one took the time to actually read my profile. I made a point of stressing that I am an atheist and liberal, but I would still get responses from conservatives and fundamentalists. Maybe they didn't care, but I do. Grammar, spelling, and bad writing just turn me off too.
The thing is, I like really smart, really interesting people. And most people, quite frankly, are not either of those things. So I guess that makes me a snob. So be it. I've always been like that. Too smart for my own good, I guess. But life's too short to spend time with people who bore you. Or to settle for someone just to avoid being alone. This is what I tell myself at least.
I did find two chapters of Drinking Liberally in my area, so I will probably be spending election night with them and either celebrating postponing the apocalypse for another four years or making plans to move to Canada. And I have a local group of heathens that meets every few weeks in our church, a local bar. So that helps too.
mythology
(9,527 posts)And remember that half the population is less intelligent than that.
I find that my cat is better company than most people.
alarimer
(16,245 posts)Like I never quite fit in anywhere. That was true in high school and it's still true.
I guess I've been living in the wrong places.
MrsBrady
(4,187 posts)and I said to him, between the two of us, we probably know all of the good musicians in this town...
and he said something funny but probably true...
"there's probably only about 200 really, really interesting people in this town
...and we already know who they are."
alarimer
(16,245 posts)I've probably met most of them already.
raccoon
(31,089 posts)Especially growing up in a very small Southern town, somewhat like Maycomb in TO KILL A MOCKINGBIRD.
In college I found some interesting people. I now work in an environment where I meet interesting people.
But in RL, it's hard to meet them, esp. since I live in an area red as a baboon's arse.
MrScorpio
(73,626 posts)You're going to have to get out there and press the flesh. Go places that interest you and just meet people. Also, some of your friends might know someone that could interest you.
You don't have to lower your standards, just don't let them get in the way of finding someone to have a good time with.
pipi_k
(21,020 posts)what makes someone "interesting", in your opinion.
I noticed in your reply #3 that you say, growing up, you never felt like you were a part of anything...different from other people. Like you didn't fit in.
I've always felt that way too, but it was because I was afraid I wasn't all that interesting.
alarimer
(16,245 posts)That's sort of vague, so I will expand.
Generally someone with non-mainstream tastes in movies, music, books, whatever.
Somebody who likes to satisfy their own curiosity about things. Most people don't do that.
It goes without saying that I find liberals more interesting than conservatives.
People who want to expand their horizons, whether through travel or volunteering or whatever.
Needless to say, this is a very tall order to find people like that.
dawg
(10,610 posts)I get the impression that most of the women down here are looking for big burly men with tattoos who ride Harley's.
alarimer
(16,245 posts)I shudder to think what that might be. I guess E-Harmony is not right-wing enough?