Baby Boomers preoccupation with aging...
Speaking for myself....http://stephenjaymorrisblog.tumblr.com/ 3-31-14 I turn the big 6-0
Hoyt
(54,770 posts)Not sure that is exact quote, but close. Enjoyed the blog and get it.
BeyondGeography
(39,369 posts)frazzled
(18,402 posts)for the first time, it's not something merely psychological or connected purely to vanity: it's physical, and it's real. Your knees start to hurt, or your doctor tells you your cholesterol is high. It's a little bit about turkey neck. You simply can not pretend you're young anymore just because you look somewhat younger and keep up to date on the latest fads.
Sixty is not just about societal rejection or irrational fears. It's a reality. But don't worry ... you'll get over it pretty soon. The trick is just don't look in the mirror. Focus instead on how young at heart you still are. Enjoy your ability to talk back to young saleswomen and waiters in an authoritative voice, with privilege of older-but-wiser-than-thou at last.
Sixty is still young. And if you want a really wonderful take on aging, read Roger Angell's recent piece in the New Yorker. He's 93! It is one of the most beautifully written, funny, tragic, phenomenal things I've read lately. Here's a little taste; read it all if you can:
Check me out. The top two knuckles of my left hand look as if Id been worked over by the K.G.B. No, its more as if Id been a catcher for the Hall of Fame pitcher Candy Cummings, the inventor of the curveball, who retired from the game in 1877. To put this another way, if I pointed that hand at you like a pistol and fired at your nose, the bullet would nail you in the left knee. Arthritis.
Now, still facing you, if I cover my left, or better, eye with one hand, what I see is a blurry encircling version of the ceiling and floor and walls or windows to our right and left but no sign of your face or head: nothing in the middle. But cheer up: if I reverse things and cover my right eye, there you are, back again. If I take my hand away and look at you with both eyes, the empty hole disappears and youre in 3-D, and actually looking pretty terrific today. Macular degeneration.
Im ninety-three, and Im feeling great. Well, pretty great, unless Ive forgotten to take a couple of Tylenols in the past four or five hours, in which case Ive begun to feel some jagged little pains shooting down my left forearm and into the base of the thumb. Shingles, in 1996, with resultant nerve damage.
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Ive endured a few knocks but missed worse. I know how lucky I am, and secretly tap wood, greet the day, and grab a sneaky pleasure from my survival at long odds. The pains and insults are bearable. My conversation may be full of holes and pauses, but Ive learned to dispatch a private Apache scout ahead into the next sentence, the one coming up, to see if there are any vacant names or verbs in the landscape up there. If he sends back a warning, Ill pause meaningfully, duh, until something else comes to mind.
On the other hand, Ive not yet forgotten Keats or Dick Cheney or whats waiting for me at the dry cleaners today. As of right now, Im not Christopher Hitchens or Tony Judt or Nora Ephron; Im not dead and not yet mindless in a reliable upstate facility. Decline and disaster impend, but my thoughts dont linger there.
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We elderswhat kind of a handle is this, anyway, halfway between a tree and an eel?we elders have learned a thing or two, including invisibility. Here I am in a conversation with some trusty friendsold friends but actually not all that old: theyre in their sixtiesand were finishing the wine and in serious converse about global warming in Nyack or Virginia Woolf the cross-dresser. Theres a pause, and I chime in with a couple of sentences. The others look at me politely, then resume the talk exactly at the point where theyve just left it. What? Hello? Didnt I just say something? Have I left the room? Have I experienced what neurologists call a TIAa transient ischemic attack? I didnt expect to take over the chat but did await a word or two of response. Not tonight, though. (Women I know say that this began to happen to them when they passed fifty.) When I mention the phenomenon to anyone around my age, I get back nods and smiles. Yes, were invisible. Honored, respected, even loved, but not quite worth listening to anymore. Youve had your turn, Pops; now its ours.
http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2014/02/17/140217fa_fact_angell?currentPage=all
S.A.M
(162 posts)I printed it out and hung it on my wall
oldandhappy
(6,719 posts)I am in my middle seventies and find it a peaceful time. No more climbing the ladder, looking for a better job, worrying about so many things. I choose a few volunteer activities, read, exercise, am careful about food, spend very little. I welcome you!
heaven05
(18,124 posts)good read
dhill926
(16,337 posts)beats the alternative .
newfie11
(8,159 posts)Yep I've got wrinkles and arthritis but as a whole people are nice to us old folks here. Maybe because it's a small town.
MrMickeysMom
(20,453 posts)I turned it last October. Sometimes I feel that my right of saying anything I want increases with each passing year (except for some forums here on DU, where we duke it out).
Happy Birthday. A hell of a time to be that age, I tell ya
MMM
Raven
(13,889 posts)nobody seems to mind my wrinkles.
S.A.M
(162 posts)I wish I had a job.
Me too!