Wed Dec 5, 2012, 12:16 PM
alarimer (12,175 posts)
Kassandra Perkins did not have to die.
This from Jessica Valenti in The Nation:
A good person. Genuine. Pleasant. Nice. Hard-working. A family man. The media has used all of these terms to describe Jovan Belcher after he murdered Kasandra Perkins, shooting her nine times. In fact, these glowing descriptors are all from just one article in The New York Times. But don’t worry, there are plenty of pieces sharing lovely sentiments about the man who killed his girlfriend, the mother of his barely 3-month old daughter.
He was NOT a nice guy; he had a long history of violent behavior against women. But no one ever did anything about it. No one ever does. The biggest threat to women is their partners, especially when those partners are violent and when they attempt to leave them.
And "couples counseling"? Really? As Valenti says, that is the worst way to deal with domestic violence issues. She should have been encouraged to leave him and get a restraining order, though that is difficult enough for regular people, not to mention star football players.
Look, he was NOT a decent guy and I'm glad he's not around to hurt another woman. But I am very sorry he had to take her with him and leave his child an orphan. Can you imagine having to tell that kid what he did?
I am thoroughly disgusted by the coverage of this event so far. "He just snapped." or "We had no idea." Yes, you did, you just chose not to get involved, beyond some bullshit couple counseling.
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Kassandra Perkins did not have to die. (Original post)
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Response to alarimer (Original post)
Wed Dec 5, 2012, 12:18 PM
hlthe2b (49,079 posts)
1. All I can think of is that child left parentless...
There are a lot of issues here, but all I can think about is that poor child. What a senseless waste...
Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it. -- George Santayana
Response to hlthe2b (Reply #1)
Wed Dec 5, 2012, 12:22 PM
phantom power (23,291 posts)
2. All I could think was - I'm glad the child didn't get killed in the bargain
that's how low my standards have fallen