An Economy of Generosity: For a multitude of reasons, we need to need each other

[marmar]

from YES! Magazine:


To Build Community, an Economy of Gifts
For a multitude of reasons, we need to need each other.

by Charles Eisenstein
posted Dec 27, 2011


Wherever I go and ask people what is missing from their lives, the most common answer (if they are not impoverished or seriously ill) is "community." What happened to community, and why don't we have it any more? There are many reasons—the layout of suburbia, the disappearance of public space, the automobile and the television, the high mobility of people and jobs—and, if you trace the "whys" a few levels down, they all implicate the money system.

More directly posed: community is nearly impossible in a highly monetized society like our own. That is because community is woven from gifts, which is ultimately why poor people often have stronger communities than rich people. If you are financially independent, then you really don't depend on your neighbors—or indeed on any specific person—for anything. You can just pay someone to do it, or pay someone else to do it.

In former times, people depended for all of life's necessities and pleasures on people they knew personally. If you alienated the local blacksmith, brewer, or doctor, there was no replacement. Your quality of life would be much lower. If you alienated your neighbors then you might not have help if you sprained your ankle during harvest season, or if your barn burnt down. Community was not an add-on to life, it was a way of life. Today, with only slight exaggeration, we could say we don't need anyone. I don't need the farmer who grew my food—I can pay someone else to do it. I don't need the mechanic who fixed my car. I don't need the trucker who brought my shoes to the store. I don't need any of the people who produced any of the things I use. I need someone to do their jobs, but not the unique individual people. They are replaceable and, by the same token, so am I.

That is one reason for the universally recognized superficiality of most social gatherings. How authentic can it be, when the unconscious knowledge, "I don't need you," lurks under the surface? When we get together to consume—food, drink, or entertainment—do we really draw on the gifts of anyone present? Anyone can consume. Intimacy comes from co-creation, not co-consumption, as anyone in a band can tell you, and it is different from liking or disliking someone. But in a monetized society, our creativity happens in specialized domains, for money. ..............(more)

The complete piece is at: http://www.yesmagazine.org/happiness/to-build-community-an-economy-of-gifts

[xchrom]

1. but...but...but...rugged Individualism, Bootstraps, Personal Responsibility!

and so on and so forth.

[The2ndWheel]

2. The cheaper the energy available to us

the less we need each other.

[PETRUS]

5. You're right, those myths do get tossed around a lot.

Oddly, the most rugged, bootstrappy communities I've had the pleasure of being involved with are characterized by exactly this kind of gift-based reciprocity. Rural places...

[Viva_La_Revolution]

3. I liked this very much

Thank you for posting it

[treestar]

4. What leads to the lack of civility, too

People who knew they had to deal with others would be careful before they were jerks to those other people.

This has been going on for a while. I remember a book called "A Nation of Strangers." We paid a lot for that suburbia.