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Thu Mar 22, 2012, 07:09 PM

It's tough to lose a hero, friend, role model because of politics.

By 'hero' I mean a person I really looked up to and respected.
Even a role model.

There have been three in my life.
Three guys I was really close to and respected.
Until I became...'politically aware'?...a dozen years ago.
And then I learned that they were right-wingers who got most of their 'news' from FoxTV.
It is such a disappointment.
And now there are four.

Bill and I have been close friends since we were next-door neighbors in the early 70s.
From the moment we met, something just clicked.
It was like we were soul brothers.
Yeah, I know that sounds trite.


Back then I was apolitical.
I really didn't give a crap, one way or another.
So Bill and I never discussed politics.

Bill headed his own electronics corporation. He made a lot more money that I did.
But that was never a problem in our relationship.
I thought he was one of the smartest men I'd ever known.
And one of the kindest.

We moved away, but Bill and I still kept up with each other over the years.
He came to our daughter's wedding.
At the time we hadn't seen each other for several years, but we picked up our friendship like it was yesterday.

Bill sold his corporation for megabucks last year.
We're both in our 70s.
He travels a lot now, so he came to see us for a couple of days.
I was really happy to see him again after 10 years.

And then last night, at our dinner table, somehow the subject of Fox News came up.
I don't remember how, but of course I waded in about that.
To my shock and unhappy surprise Bill said he watched them.
"All the networks...ABC, CBS, NBC...are notoriously left wing. I watch Fox because they present news stories that the other networks won't cover."
I was dumbfounded.

I protested that anyone with eyes and a brain could see how right-wing biased Fox was.
Not according to Bill.

He became defensive and I just said "OK, we just can't talk about this. It's off the table. I like you too much to get into this with you."
He made another comment in defense of Fox and bashing leftists and I again said "Bill, I won't discuss this with you. Let's move on."

And so we did.
The subject was changed and then we all went to bed.
But now I feel differently about Bill, and always will.
I don't really respect him any more. Never will.

Sometimes I hate 'politics'.





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Reply It's tough to lose a hero, friend, role model because of politics. (Original post)
trof Mar 2012 OP
CAPHAVOC Mar 2012 #1
Little Star Mar 2012 #2
EFerrari Mar 2012 #3
trof Mar 2012 #5
EFerrari Mar 2012 #6
trof Mar 2012 #8
cynatnite Mar 2012 #7
trof Mar 2012 #9
cynatnite Mar 2012 #10
cynatnite Mar 2012 #4

Response to trof (Original post)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 07:20 PM

1. Forget it

 

Just take their stakes.

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Response to trof (Original post)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 07:20 PM

2. That happened to me with my sil....

I always really liked her. Still wish her no harm. But I just can't get past that divide.

Funny thing is, that her brother, my husband has a hard time getting past it too. We work at it though cause she is family.

She never use to send us RW crap in emails, now she never stops. Guess she can't get past it either. We are just glad for the delete button. lol

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Response to trof (Original post)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 07:23 PM

3. Only people you love can break your heart.

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Response to EFerrari (Reply #3)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 07:37 PM

5. Trusim.

Yep.

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Response to trof (Reply #5)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 07:41 PM

6. My mom was a single mom

so her brothers were my surrogate dads. Those guys overwhelmed me with attention.

Later, when I was grown up, I accidentally learned one of them was propping up the death squad party in El Salvador. I couldn't put that man together with the kind man who had taken such gentle good care of me. Life happens.

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Response to EFerrari (Reply #6)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 07:56 PM

8. Wow! Same here. Single mom.

Her brother was my ideal.
Especially after she died at 50.
He was my surrogate father.
He's one of the aforementioned three.

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Response to trof (Reply #5)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 07:47 PM

7. I should also add that it's up to you to determine if the friendship is worth keeping...

Is having the same views and opinions important to you? Can you both retain the friendship and still have a spirited debate?

Good friends are not easy to find. It's up to you both to decide if this is a deal breaker for a friendship.

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Response to cynatnite (Reply #7)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 07:59 PM

9. No, not an end to friendship.

We just won't talk politics.
But I'll never feel the same closeness.
The same simpatico.
I now look on him as slightly stupid, at least in this one area.

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Response to trof (Reply #9)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 08:04 PM

10. You might be able to educate him here and there...

Throw a little fact on the lies he believes.

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Response to trof (Original post)

Thu Mar 22, 2012, 07:25 PM

4. My best friend is a diehard Christian and I am an atheist...

We value our friendship too much to let things we will never see eye-to-eye on get in the way of that. Those subjects remain off limits. She respects my views and I respect hers. We have a lot more in common and I love her dearly.

Although, I admit I did get her to vote for Obama on the last election cycle.

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