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MannyGoldstein

(34,589 posts)
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:15 AM Feb 2014

Which is better?


7 votes, 1 pass | Time left: Unlimited
"You suck."
2 (29%)
"There's a problem here; how do we work together to improve it?"
5 (71%)
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Which is better? (Original Post) MannyGoldstein Feb 2014 OP
Other. It depends on who I have to work with to solve this problem. Autumn Feb 2014 #1
Huh? hrmjustin Feb 2014 #2
I'll take a wild guess BainsBane Feb 2014 #4
this is the one who mocked chicken and watermelon? Whisp Feb 2014 #5
Not that I'm aware of BainsBane Feb 2014 #9
there was another one where it was pretty much mocking black people JI7 Feb 2014 #10
Yes, that one. Whisp Feb 2014 #12
Is it okay to give a pass to the ones that mock Aerows Feb 2014 #42
I'm sorry you are hurt, Aerows. Seems to be a hurtful place for a lot of folks here lately. Whisp Feb 2014 #46
Actually, it really isn't the same. Aerows Feb 2014 #52
I really don't know what I said to get my assed kicked, Aerows... Whisp Feb 2014 #54
I've brought it up Aerows Feb 2014 #60
yes there was. And then another mocking women here for being "oversensitive" . bettyellen Feb 2014 #41
Gay baiting Aerows Feb 2014 #44
I think I did ask if the "gays want a pony" trope was next..... bettyellen Feb 2014 #53
They go hand in hand Aerows Feb 2014 #57
This is the one JustAnotherGen Feb 2014 #93
That's pretty good if you do it in a Mel Brooks voice. n/t A Simple Game Feb 2014 #117
n/t JustAnotherGen Feb 2014 #121
... M0rpheus Feb 2014 #132
bwahahahahaaa JustAnotherGen Feb 2014 #133
No; this is of the "waah, I can't listen to old Beatles songs" opus REP Feb 2014 #13
There should be a list, yes there is the Beatles thing As Well. n/t Whisp Feb 2014 #15
That's a great idea! MannyGoldstein Feb 2014 #19
We could even have a two minutes of hate! JVS Feb 2014 #49
Two minutes? MannyGoldstein Feb 2014 #51
It's not already? Capt. Obvious Feb 2014 #103
Oh ok. hrmjustin Feb 2014 #6
My guess was bullshit artists. Autumn Feb 2014 #8
Rather than making wild guesses, why not just be direct and ask the OP? I've never known him to be sabrina 1 Feb 2014 #23
... Whisp Feb 2014 #32
I know!!!! Manny ran over someone in a muscle car. Autumn Feb 2014 #39
It's a convertible which means it can be whatever you want it to be. cherokeeprogressive Feb 2014 #105
Nice car. Wish I could afford one, but you know, not to blow the theory or anything, I don't sabrina 1 Feb 2014 #45
It's a Rambler. n/t Whisp Feb 2014 #50
When you want to send a message, make sure you know the target. Cars are not my thing, I wouldn't sabrina 1 Feb 2014 #58
!!! Number23 Feb 2014 #72
Heheh... SidDithers Feb 2014 #78
LOL Cali_Democrat Feb 2014 #81
I know, 'ouch' is right. It hurts when you fire a dud and even that misfires. sabrina 1 Feb 2014 #141
Why are you replying to me? Cali_Democrat Feb 2014 #143
You mean you were not referring to the pain of that spectacular misfire? sabrina 1 Feb 2014 #144
Keep rambling. nt Cali_Democrat Feb 2014 #145
The only OUCH is revealing when one feels the need to hide behind a picture. polly7 Mar 2014 #157
Nice. polly7 Mar 2014 #156
That's a classic. nt msanthrope Mar 2014 #160
He has already been asked. BainsBane Feb 2014 #38
non whites and women CAN whine- they just need to submit their materials in advance so that anything bettyellen Feb 2014 #47
I was asked... what? MannyGoldstein Feb 2014 #48
What is this thread about, Manny? BainsBane Feb 2014 #69
You first... What was I asked? MannyGoldstein Feb 2014 #90
Hrmjustin wrote, "huh" BainsBane Feb 2014 #91
It's pretty clear what I'm talking about. MannyGoldstein Feb 2014 #100
You do realize that entire thread BainsBane Feb 2014 #136
What is your thread about? Cali_Democrat Feb 2014 #82
I don't know anyone like that, but then most of my friends are Liberal Democrats. Maybe you should sabrina 1 Feb 2014 #56
Yeah, we have been delivered to a lovely colorblind paradise!! And all who deny it are racist. bettyellen Feb 2014 #61
No, we have not, sadly. But some of us don't associate with bigots, nor do we use the very form of sabrina 1 Feb 2014 #67
I tried to say this the other day... you did it so much better. ty. nt 1awake Feb 2014 #64
Right on, Sabrina! Waiting For Everyman Feb 2014 #66
I only encounter them online, and I make a point of avoiding them when possible BainsBane Feb 2014 #94
This message was self-deleted by its author countryjake Feb 2014 #97
Here let me fix this for you, because I didn't apparently make myself clear and am more than capable sabrina 1 Feb 2014 #135
Welcome to the club! Number23 Feb 2014 #147
Put me down for the t-shirt. I don't pretend to have a full understanding, but msanthrope Mar 2014 #161
Lace trim or not? Number23 Mar 2014 #164
I suspect the Vlady Putin cheer squad is going to have a difficult week. msanthrope Mar 2014 #165
It has already been asked RC Feb 2014 #125
RC, you don't need to defend yourself at all. It is reprehensible that this forum has sabrina 1 Feb 2014 #137
WTF are you talking about? BainsBane Mar 2014 #154
As I have told you before, RC Mar 2014 #158
Fine, then why decide someone has attacked you BainsBane Mar 2014 #162
The thing that makes you think the jury system is skewed, it the fact you don't like most of RC Mar 2014 #163
Other. TexasTowelie Feb 2014 #3
If calling people cocksuckers is wrong then shouldn't you suck be off limits? JVS Feb 2014 #7
That would be an interesting song Pretzel_Warrior Feb 2014 #80
Other. Egalitarian Thug Feb 2014 #11
I voted You Suck for a much different reason that your poll. n/t Whisp Feb 2014 #14
Are you having some declarative/imperative confusion? nt MannyGoldstein Feb 2014 #18
Post removed Post removed Feb 2014 #22
I won't ask who the bell tolls for. MannyGoldstein Feb 2014 #25
... Gravitycollapse Feb 2014 #30
Yeahbut. MannyGoldstein Feb 2014 #55
This message was self-deleted by its author defacto7 Feb 2014 #68
John Donne, not Poe REP Feb 2014 #85
I surely missed that one. defacto7 Feb 2014 #146
Even though I'm far from religious, "Meditation 17" is a thoughtful and moving piece REP Mar 2014 #151
Beautifully said... defacto7 Mar 2014 #152
Good night to you as well ... REP Mar 2014 #153
"Here's a hit with you in mind" edbermac Feb 2014 #84
If you quote Donne, quote him properly. REP Feb 2014 #86
"You can run, but you can't hide, Manny." LittleBlue Feb 2014 #34
Manny shitstorms really are the best. Autumn Feb 2014 #43
I enjoy them Capt. Obvious Feb 2014 #104
If this is about what I think it's about 1awake Feb 2014 #16
That's where I'm at. Is this about the sacred cow or cheesecake? Autumn Feb 2014 #21
Cheescake can be a very serious and delicate thing!! :) nt 1awake Feb 2014 #28
I prefer cherry cheesecake m'self! BuelahWitch Feb 2014 #65
Yes! cherry cheesecake. Autumn Feb 2014 #116
If that's what it's about, then I agree. I was told to get lost for expressing MY opinion as a woman sabrina 1 Feb 2014 #24
lol awesome Sabrina1!! nt 1awake Feb 2014 #26
It is only through perfect agreement that we may show our independence. MannyGoldstein Feb 2014 #29
I always liked you. Cleita Feb 2014 #33
No way would I tell you to piss off. Love you too! Lol! sabrina 1 Feb 2014 #71
... Cleita Feb 2014 #74
YOU had a different opinion????? totaly shocked here. Autumn Feb 2014 #37
Lol, I know, I made the mistake of thinking I was allowed! But she let me know in no uncertain terms sabrina 1 Feb 2014 #70
Defintely #1. Le Taz Hot Feb 2014 #17
This poll is not analogous to the other DU discussions in reference. Gravitycollapse Feb 2014 #20
Yeah, and these here droids ain't the ones yer lookin' fer neither n/t Fumesucker Feb 2014 #63
I Wasn't Gonna Vote For "You Suck"... Until I Read Some Of The Comments... WillyT Feb 2014 #27
HA bettyellen Feb 2014 #62
It's better to try to fix problems than just acknowledging those problems exist. Vashta Nerada Feb 2014 #31
... Cleita Feb 2014 #36
You know which way I go. Aerows Feb 2014 #35
I like your response. Vashta Nerada Feb 2014 #40
Actually, more climbers die on their way back down Mt. Everest than on the way up Electric Monk Feb 2014 #75
Neat information Aerows Feb 2014 #76
I wouldn't have guessed that. Neat. Inkfreak Feb 2014 #108
Aerows, my friend ... polly7 Feb 2014 #129
I've been reading this thread while listening to this and LMFAO till I have to wipe my eyes Fumesucker Feb 2014 #59
... rrneck Feb 2014 #73
Glass is transparent. bravenak Feb 2014 #77
I am out of the loop; someone fill me in Skittles Feb 2014 #79
this is a "please stop using the words white privilege" support thread bettyellen Feb 2014 #83
This is about people seeing charges of privilege as personal attacks, I think (nt) Recursion Feb 2014 #88
Depends. Does the person suck? (nt) Recursion Feb 2014 #87
Other: FALSE DICHOTOMY. n/t nomorenomore08 Feb 2014 #89
The most amusing thing about this, to me, Waiting For Everyman Feb 2014 #92
And, it's disappointing to see "liberals" behave this way. pintobean Feb 2014 #98
How else are our more prolific posters gonna get that post count up? (nt) Inkfreak Feb 2014 #110
That sure is a long winded way of RC Feb 2014 #127
Pegged -- to a "t". pacalo Feb 2014 #139
Which is better: taking personally a systemic critique Recursion Feb 2014 #95
Other. We used to have a DU Activist Corps... countryjake Feb 2014 #96
"You suck" because it shows you care more than the "how do we work together" guy. pampango Feb 2014 #99
Depends on whom I'm addressing. Union Scribe Feb 2014 #101
Psychologically, it says allot if you take discussions of privilige personally. nt Democracyinkind Feb 2014 #102
Which is clearly what I did MannyGoldstein Feb 2014 #106
I think Manny Goldstein's passive-aggressive threads suck. kwassa Feb 2014 #107
He's just asking questions. sufrommich Feb 2014 #109
^^this^^ Bobbie Jo Feb 2014 #140
how about - "a day without superfluous DU polls" DrDan Feb 2014 #111
Apparently I have missed something. MineralMan Feb 2014 #112
And what if they refuse to acknowledge the problem? nt el_bryanto Feb 2014 #113
If people really care pipi_k Feb 2014 #114
You missed a classic, Manny. How about "STFU"? nt Zorra Feb 2014 #115
I see what you did, and it worked. A Simple Game Feb 2014 #118
Thanks, I guess, but not warranted. MannyGoldstein Feb 2014 #119
I think you were pointing out that name calling is not a good starting point... Well for anything. A Simple Game Feb 2014 #124
This one went off coourse when one of DU's prime thread-hijackers got in early. 11 Bravo Feb 2014 #128
Maybe you should just say what you mean, for a change. kwassa Feb 2014 #142
This message was self-deleted by its author defacto7 Mar 2014 #150
Polls that give the voter some sort of background are better. ScreamingMeemie Feb 2014 #120
That depends. When we say "you suck" are we talking about you, or me? Warren DeMontague Feb 2014 #122
you suck arely staircase Feb 2014 #123
Alerting! L0oniX Feb 2014 #126
Without no background info provided, I'm gonna hafta go with "You suck!" Iggo Feb 2014 #130
This is like vaguebooking on Facebook. gollygee Feb 2014 #131
If about white privelege - you can't fix something if you don't acknowledge a problem exists. -nt- DireStrike Feb 2014 #134
Mannymania warrprayer Feb 2014 #138
More less stuff XRubicon Feb 2014 #148
Narrow minds are hard to hide. GeorgeGist Feb 2014 #149
You suck. Control-Z Mar 2014 #155
You suck...nt SidDithers Mar 2014 #159

BainsBane

(53,029 posts)
9. Not that I'm aware of
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:28 AM
Feb 2014

The thread I saw was that fried chicken was soul food and therefore "honored" African Americans. It was by another member.

JI7

(89,244 posts)
10. there was another one where it was pretty much mocking black people
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:31 AM
Feb 2014

for being sensitive and offended at the chicken and watermelon thing.

 

Aerows

(39,961 posts)
42. Is it okay to give a pass to the ones that mock
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:02 AM
Feb 2014

gay people? I'm not accusing you of doing so, Whisp, I know you have an honorable heart.

I'm just wondering about the community in general.

I've had some hard hits lately.

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
46. I'm sorry you are hurt, Aerows. Seems to be a hurtful place for a lot of folks here lately.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:06 AM
Feb 2014

but if you want, I can do a semi-Skittles and kick someone's ass for you! Just send me the address.

 

Aerows

(39,961 posts)
52. Actually, it really isn't the same.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:10 AM
Feb 2014

When people stand up, offer examples of gay baiting and gay bashing and it goes ignored?

You can look for an ass to kick, but I suspect that a solid DUer like Skittles will be looking for yours.

 

Whisp

(24,096 posts)
54. I really don't know what I said to get my assed kicked, Aerows...
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:12 AM
Feb 2014

along the line of your post.

on other subjects, sure, lots of people want to kick my ass. I'm okay with that.

 

Aerows

(39,961 posts)
60. I've brought it up
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:30 AM
Feb 2014

even in ATA and it was ignored. If homophobia and bigotry is okay in DU, then I wonder what in the hell I am here for.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
41. yes there was. And then another mocking women here for being "oversensitive" .
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:02 AM
Feb 2014

I have never seen such clueless pointless nonsense labeled satire.

 

Aerows

(39,961 posts)
44. Gay baiting
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:04 AM
Feb 2014

and bashing when you can get away with it is a problem, too. And I'm not going to back up from that.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
53. I think I did ask if the "gays want a pony" trope was next.....
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:11 AM
Feb 2014

because it wouldn't shock me a bit after the other nonsense mocking DU women.

 

Aerows

(39,961 posts)
57. They go hand in hand
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:20 AM
Feb 2014

Bash the women and bash the homosexuals. Since I'm both, I'm familiar with it.

 

MannyGoldstein

(34,589 posts)
19. That's a great idea!
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:41 AM
Feb 2014

The big list of Manny's transgressions.

Perhaps pin it to the top of some group.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
23. Rather than making wild guesses, why not just be direct and ask the OP? I've never known him to be
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:46 AM
Feb 2014

shy about speaking for himself. You don't like the idea of people working together together then? I don't want to read your mind which is why I am asking, so you can speak for yourself. Just to explain, I got that idea from your comment which didn't seem particularly open to the idea. I have been wrong before though, so it's possible.

Autumn

(45,042 posts)
39. I know!!!! Manny ran over someone in a muscle car.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:01 AM
Feb 2014

Or Manny's in the trunk? I hate playing charades with pics, it's so hard.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
45. Nice car. Wish I could afford one, but you know, not to blow the theory or anything, I don't
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:05 AM
Feb 2014

even own a car right now. I suppose to look on the bright side, at least I'm not guzzling gas or blowing poison into the environment. There's an up side to everything, if you look for it. And not everyone fits nicely under a label. At least that's what I was taught and I still believe it. Labels, suck.

Let me go back and look at that poll again come to think of it.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
58. When you want to send a message, make sure you know the target. Cars are not my thing, I wouldn't
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:26 AM
Feb 2014

know a volkswagon from a mercedes. Lol, and when you have to explain an intended insult it sort of loses its impact, impala, there is a car called an impala, isn't there?

I'm a rambler, I'm a gambler, I'm a long way from home
And if you don't like me, then lave me alone.
I'l eat when I'm hungry and I'll drink when I'm dry
And if the moonshine don't kill me I'll live 'til I die!


That's a song! There IS a message there somewhere I'm sure.

BainsBane

(53,029 posts)
38. He has already been asked.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:59 AM
Feb 2014

And hasn't answered.

What I'm not open to is white people whining about how oppressed they are and telling non-whites they shouldn't speak about what concerns them. Working together for them means people of color following orders, keeping their mouths shut and letting white men tell them what forms of racism they get to care about. It's the same argument and same cast of characters who don't want feminists to speak in public. I understand a few here are heavily invested in propping up their privilege at the expense of the majority of the population. It's reactionary, and I don't like or respect it.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
47. non whites and women CAN whine- they just need to submit their materials in advance so that anything
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:06 AM
Feb 2014

that could potentially bruise anyone else's feelings, will be rewritten for them. we gotta know our place here at DU.

 

MannyGoldstein

(34,589 posts)
90. You first... What was I asked?
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 05:23 AM
Feb 2014

You claim I was asked something, and haven't answered it.

Ok. What was it that I was asked (prior to your assertion)?

BainsBane

(53,029 posts)
91. Hrmjustin wrote, "huh"
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 05:25 AM
Feb 2014

Which means what. Why the evasion? Why not just tell everyone what you're talking about?

 

MannyGoldstein

(34,589 posts)
100. It's pretty clear what I'm talking about.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 08:14 AM
Feb 2014

That we should respect one-another and work together. Collaborative problem solving.

Somehow it's turned into a Rorschach test for some people.

BainsBane

(53,029 posts)
136. You do realize that entire thread
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 02:10 PM
Feb 2014

Last edited Fri Feb 28, 2014, 03:19 PM - Edit history (1)

was disrespecting the views of people subject to racism and instead focusing on what was perceived as the more important aggrieved white person. How can people possibly work together when some deny their rights to discuss and fight for their own rights?

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
56. I don't know anyone like that, but then most of my friends are Liberal Democrats. Maybe you should
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:19 AM
Feb 2014

try to avoid the company of ignorant people. Did you know, btw, since you appear not to know this, that many white people have suffered incredible oppression and would be stunned to know how privileged they are. Here are a few examples, Ireland, under the thumb of the British for eight hundred years, murdered, hung, beaten, jailed, tortured and eventually half the population starved to death. When some fled their native land and came here, they were further abused, greeted with sings 'no Irish need apply'. Shall I go on? I doubt they felt privileged.

As I said, I don't associate with bigots. Sounds to me like you need a new circle of friends and acquaintances. Of course ignorant bigots exist, but why you associate with such people?

Labels suck, they always have. Applying labels to minorities has long been a weapon against them. No person I know ever uses labels because it leads to creating 'an other', something most Progressives are intensely aware of.

Labeling of entire groups of people led to the holocaust. Labeling of the people of Ireland led to the slaughter of half the original population. Labeling is not a progressive value.

Iow, labeling IS bigotry, it is ignorant, it assumes all members of a group are 'the other'. Thanks for introducing a new one, assuming this was your idea. I could give you a long history lesson regarding 'privilege' around the world from the beginning of time. You would be amazed how the word 'privilege' has never been limited to people of any particular ethnicity, but you have to care about PEOPLE to bother spending the time.

Coming from a very oppressed heritage, I despise labeling. But that's just me. 'Camel jockeys' 'sand n@#$%@s' labeling, the military used it in Iraq in order to dehumanize the people we were there to invade and make it easier to kill them.

Labeling is dangerous. It should NEVER be acceptable in a civilized society.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
61. Yeah, we have been delivered to a lovely colorblind paradise!! And all who deny it are racist.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:31 AM
Feb 2014

LOL. Heard that shit here before.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
67. No, we have not, sadly. But some of us don't associate with bigots, nor do we use the very form of
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:47 AM
Feb 2014

bigotry, creating an 'other' that we CLAIM to oppose. No, MOST of us do not engage in that kind of dangerous boxing of whole groups of people on which we then slap a label. I find it disgusting to claim to oppose such practices, while attempting to create yet another 'other' group. Disgusting, and I really do not care what those who are engaged in such practices think of my opinion. It is mine and I will continue to oppose these practices, with NO exceptions, as long as I live.

BainsBane

(53,029 posts)
94. I only encounter them online, and I make a point of avoiding them when possible
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 07:05 AM
Feb 2014

Starting here. You make a lot of assumptions and accusations that come from no where but your own imagination. You clearly know nothing about me or my background. That you think the concept of class is some revelation to me is absurd. You've managed to avoid thinking about how race and class interact, despite the many discussions on the subject in the threads on racism and white privilege. You resent the "lables" people of color call themselves and somehow insist that you should be able to determine who they are and what they care about. That is the embodiment of white privilege, as is denying that race matters. It is unfortunate that you don't have enough respect for DUers of color to pay attention to their views and how they experience these sorts of proclamations. While I am concerned with the pervasive racism in American society, I know a lost cause when I see it. I've grown weary of your free association lectures and will not be engaging in future discussion with you again. I ask you to respect my wishes.

Response to BainsBane (Reply #94)

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
135. Here let me fix this for you, because I didn't apparently make myself clear and am more than capable
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:58 PM
Feb 2014

of using MY own words to state my position.

I don't RESENT labels, that is a MILD word to express how I feel about slapping labels on groups of human beings which you apparently do NOT understand the ramifications of.

Here's how most humans who have ever been subjected to 'labeling' feel about that particular, ugly form of bigotry, they and I OUTRIGHT OPPOSE labeling of ANY group, I don't discriminate, NO ONE gets labeled in a society where history has demonstrated the dangers of such bigotry.

Of course it FEELS good to be able to ACCUSE large groups of people you don't like of ALL being guilty of (fill in the blank) because the 'CRIME' is not the goal of labeling, is it? I mean surely Progressives at least KNOW what the purpose of labeling is.

And it works, this has been a nice little experiment here. But SOME OF US aware of history, understand what it is really all about and will not hesitate to make sure to say so.

I'm not clear on your position here. Have you ALWAYS supported the evil labeling of groups in order to 'identify' them or this something new for you?

And do not dare to speak for me, I don't cater to bullying of any kind.

Bottom line, there are no exceptions, labeling IS bigotry AND dangerous, it makes my skin crawl when I see ANYONE let alone progressive dems who are supposed to more informed, fall for it at all.

If you want to speak about bigotry, then start with the very thing you are using to claim to care about it.

I don't care one iota about your opinion of me or anyone else's. I see regression like this and wonder, all the work people have done to eradicate this kind of bigotry, because it is, unless you do not view all human beings in the same way. I know it is the latest 'look at me I'm so 'concerned and I'm using this very clever way to demonstrate it' fad but its intention is clear.

The way you speak to people here who do not agree with, is all I need to inform me that you do not speak for me as a woman or as someone who comes from a background all too familiar with the evils of bigotry.



Number23

(24,544 posts)
147. Welcome to the club!
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 09:28 PM
Feb 2014
It is unfortunate that you don't have enough respect for DUers of color to pay attention to their views and how they experience these sorts of proclamations. While I am concerned with the pervasive racism in American society, I know a lost cause when I see it. I've grown weary of your free association lectures and will not be engaging in future discussion with you again.


We've got jackets!
 

msanthrope

(37,549 posts)
161. Put me down for the t-shirt. I don't pretend to have a full understanding, but
Sat Mar 1, 2014, 01:57 PM
Mar 2014

I am of the opinion that a great reckoning needs to happen on this site.

Number23

(24,544 posts)
164. Lace trim or not?
Sat Mar 1, 2014, 08:51 PM
Mar 2014
I am of the opinion that a great reckoning needs to happen on this site.

You and me both. I am absolutely sick of the garbage that gets pushed here and have been for a long time.
 

msanthrope

(37,549 posts)
165. I suspect the Vlady Putin cheer squad is going to have a difficult week.
Sat Mar 1, 2014, 08:57 PM
Mar 2014

They may cull themselves.

 

RC

(25,592 posts)
125. It has already been asked
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:53 PM
Feb 2014

And hasn't been answered.
Instead of picking a likely looking scapegoat, slapping a coat of mud on it, then proceed to try to tear it down, how about all of us work together to find solutions to the problems that are equable to everyone? That way, everyone wins. Not your way, with only some people winning and the rest losing. Because that way, the reality will be, nothing really changes and you can continue to be the victim - Which is the planned intent, isn't it?
None of us can help who our parents are. But scapegoating a class of people is nothing more than another form of discrimination in and of itself. Why that looks for all the world just like Reverse Discrimination. Especially when those same people you denigrate, do see the problems and want to help, regardless of how much mud you use to try to hide that fact.
Again, how many time must I say I am for Equal Rights for everyone and still keep getting ignored?

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
137. RC, you don't need to defend yourself at all. It is reprehensible that this forum has
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 03:18 PM
Feb 2014

in any way, condoned this ignorant, regressive practice of labeling ANY group of human beings.

Much has been written about this and anyone at all familiar with the danger of this practice throughout history, would in no way even attempt to promote it.

And worse, the bullying and personal attacks on anyone who refuses to support this latest attempt to divide Democrats, tells the story. If you are confident that you are on the right side of an issue, you do not engage in name calling, labeling, personal attacks, but when you do, you reveal more than you probably know.

There are plenty of bigots in this world who need to be dealt with. Joining them by adapting THEIR tactics sure isn't the way to do so.

To ignore the complexities within ANY group of people by slapping a 'one size fits all' label on them I thought was well recognized within at least the Progressive Dem community.

I wonder how 'white' gay teenagers feel about their 'white privilege' eg. Having had to deal with that within my own family they sure don't need yet another label slapped on them. Just one example, and one our family has personally dealt with, of why this is such a reprehensible practice. I could give plenty more, but those who are informed, already know, those who do not wish to be informed, never will be.

BainsBane

(53,029 posts)
154. WTF are you talking about?
Sat Mar 1, 2014, 05:00 AM
Mar 2014

Scapegoating who? Is this more whining about how bad white men have it in America? Do you ever think of anyone besides yourself?

When you shoot down every discussion about women's rights and racism and instead choose to whine about how rough poor beleaguered white men have it, very few people are going to believe you support equal rights, and with good reason. Why you thought anything I said had a thing to do with you, I cannot begin to imagine. I read a post that mentions white people, and despite my near translucent skin color, I don't think: Hey, they are attacking me. In fact, I don't assume the post is about me at all but rather about a general phenomenon. Why do you assume everyone is talking about you? Do you have a guilty conscience for some reason? Or is it that you can't imagine a conversation should take place where you aren't at its center?

Racism has absolutely nothing to do with whiteness because white Americans are above reproach. No one imposed slavery, Jim Crow, voter disenfranchisement, or the current racist justice system that values white lives more than black. White folks have absolutely nothing to do with any of that. African Americans enslaved themselves. They lynched themselves too, and Trayvon Martin actually killed himself. The same with women. It's already been argued on DU that objectification is entirely the fault of women. We wear make up and force men to treat us like meat. The most important thing in the universe is that we devote ourselves to assuaging the egos of white men 24/7. That is more important than the worst forums of racism, including being killed for being black. None of that compares to the far more important issue of your ego.

And you wonder why people question your support for equal rights? You oppose everything I care about and then you claim you're supposedly my ally? Exactly what would you support me on?

 

RC

(25,592 posts)
158. As I have told you before,
Sat Mar 1, 2014, 12:19 PM
Mar 2014

If I were actually guilty of what you accuse me of, not many here would be agreeing with views like mine, or even defending me in what I say in my posts. In fact I probably would have been gone, banned, a long time ago, if what you say were true. If you are having a problem with me, then you must be having a problem with a lot of other people here too. Some of us must be doing something right.

It is easier to get what you want by flattering people and being polite to them than by making demands that people be lock-step with your views. All you'll get with bullshit, is flies and disease.
Why haven't you been able to figure that out yet. You get in return what you give. You give derision, put-downs and warped interpretations of the posts of others. Do your know about Karma? What goes around, comes around? Is it any wonder that it is bad karma that you get in return and that in turn colors your world and not in a good way?

What's up with telling everyone in Hof, to clear their Ignore List and populate their Black List with people that object with your methods, not to post in certain threads, in an effort to stack the jury decisions you don't like? That sounds rather Republican to me. Not good on a Democratic site.
But now that I thought about it for a while, got any more ideas like that? The rest of DU would love to hear them too.

Why the constant anger against men and women, that dare to stand up to you and disagree with your angry and narrow view of the world? Why do you never come out for Equal Rights for All? But only on some sub-selection of Rights that suits your current screeds. And then use that as a club against those that won't toe your current line?

BainsBane

(53,029 posts)
162. Fine, then why decide someone has attacked you
Sat Mar 1, 2014, 02:14 PM
Mar 2014

When I wasn't even talking about you?

Attack the jury system? It's to encourage them to make themselves eligible for more juries rather than to have it so skewed. That's not an attack. It involves more DUers in the jury process. Naturally you find that unacceptable.

What is it that you think I want from you that I have to flatter you? You have to face up to a hard reality. You aren't nearly as important in the minds of people like me as you think you are. You don't enter my head except when I have to responds to one of your self-absorbed rants. I do not care what you do. That is your business entirely. I want absolutely nothing from you, and I have no need to flatter you. My role in life is not to assuage your ego.

Next time wait until someone actually attacks you before pitching a fit. Quit fantasizing that what I write is about you because except for the OP about your callout of me in GD, it isn't. Live your life, do whatever you want. Take your own advise about karma and leave me out of your bullshit.


 

RC

(25,592 posts)
163. The thing that makes you think the jury system is skewed, it the fact you don't like most of
Sat Mar 1, 2014, 02:50 PM
Mar 2014
the outcomes.
The obvious answer is that it may very well be that problem is you. The Alert/Jury system is a part of DU. Why would I find that unacceptable? I don't. You are the one that is finding the jury results unacceptable by attempting to stack the jury, I'm not. Attempted jury stacking is what I find unacceptable. But apparently it is still not working too well for you, is it?

I really don't care if I am important to people like you. I prefer to be a thorn in their side anyway, because the constant bully and intimidation of others they do. To say nothing of the put-down and belittling, as evidenced by the contents, the tone of your post, such as the one directly above, that I am responding to.
If you don't care what I do, then why do you keep responding to me and my posts, even when I am responding to others and not you?

When You write something, I know it isn't about me. It is usually about anyone on DU that does not go along with you or your script.
DU is a political web site. Does anyone here know anything about your politics? Other than the 'tear it down' type of Right-wing tactics that is?

The following quoit of yours, is wordy way of saying, "go away".
Live your life, do whatever you want, and leave me out of your shit. I want absolutely nothing from you EVER. Got it?

Ain't a gonna happen.

You don't like what I have to say;
1. Don't respond to me.
2. Put me on ignore.
3. Trash any threads where you see I have posted in.
Problem solved.

[center][/center]


Till next time, Have a good day.

JVS

(61,935 posts)
7. If calling people cocksuckers is wrong then shouldn't you suck be off limits?
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:28 AM
Feb 2014

The two insults imply each other.

 

Pretzel_Warrior

(8,361 posts)
80. That would be an interesting song
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 03:55 AM
Feb 2014

If Calling People Cocksuckers is Wrong Then I Don't Want to be Right.

 

Egalitarian Thug

(12,448 posts)
11. Other.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:32 AM
Feb 2014

There is an entire universe between "You suck" and "let's work together".

The first assumes intractable positions that can never be resolved. and the latter assumes a willingness on the part of both parties to negotiate.

Either way, it doesn't reflect the reality today.

Response to MannyGoldstein (Reply #18)

 

MannyGoldstein

(34,589 posts)
55. Yeahbut.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:18 AM
Feb 2014

I didn't like the sound of "I won't ask for whom the bell tolls".

Seems a little off. So I downgraded the thing.

Response to MannyGoldstein (Reply #55)

REP

(21,691 posts)
85. John Donne, not Poe
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 04:32 AM
Feb 2014

"Ask not for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee" is a quote from Meditation 17 (as is "no man is an island, every death diminishes me&quot

Meditation XVII
by John Donne
Meditation #17 By John Donne From Devotions upon Emergent Occasions (1623), XVII:

Nunc Lento Sonitu Dicunt, Morieris (Now this bell, tolling softly for another, says to me, Thou must die.)

Perchance, he for whom this bell tolls may be so ill, as that he knows not it tolls for him; and perchance I may think myself so much better than I am, as that they who are about me, and see my state, may have caused it to toll for me, and I know not that. The church is catholic, universal, so are all her actions; all that she does belongs to all. When she baptizes a child, that action concerns me; for that child is thereby connected to that body which is my head too, and ingrafted into that body whereof I am a member. And when she buries a man, that action concerns me: all mankind is of one author, and is one volume; when one man dies, one chapter is not torn out of the book, but translated into a better language; and every chapter must be so translated; God employs several translators; some pieces are translated by age, some by sickness, some by war, some by justice; but God's hand is in every translation, and his hand shall bind up all our scattered leaves again for that library where every book shall lie open to one another. As therefore the bell that rings to a sermon calls not upon the preacher only, but upon the congregation to come, so this bell calls us all; but how much more me, who am brought so near the door by this sickness.

There was a contention as far as a suit (in which both piety and dignity, religion and estimation, were mingled), which of the religious orders should ring to prayers first in the morning; and it was determined, that they should ring first that rose earliest. If we understand aright the dignity of this bell that tolls for our evening prayer, we would be glad to make it ours by rising early, in that application, that it might be ours as well as his, whose indeed it is.

The bell doth toll for him that thinks it doth; and though it intermit again, yet from that minute that this occasion wrought upon him, he is united to God. Who casts not up his eye to the sun when it rises? but who takes off his eye from a comet when that breaks out? Who bends not his ear to any bell which upon any occasion rings? but who can remove it from that bell which is passing a piece of himself out of this world?

No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend's or of thine own were: any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.

Neither can we call this a begging of misery, or a borrowing of misery, as though we were not miserable enough of ourselves, but must fetch in more from the next house, in taking upon us the misery of our neighbours. Truly it were an excusable covetousness if we did, for affliction is a treasure, and scarce any man hath enough of it. No man hath affliction enough that is not matured and ripened by it, and made fit for God by that affliction. If a man carry treasure in bullion, or in a wedge of gold, and have none coined into current money, his treasure will not defray him as he travels. Tribulation is treasure in the nature of it, but it is not current money in the use of it, except we get nearer and nearer our home, heaven, by it. Another man may be sick too, and sick to death, and this affliction may lie in his bowels, as gold in a mine, and be of no use to him; but this bell, that tells me of his affliction, digs out and applies that gold to me: if by this consideration of another's danger I take mine own into contemplation, and so secure myself, by making my recourse to my God, who is our only security.

defacto7

(13,485 posts)
146. I surely missed that one.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 07:48 PM
Feb 2014

I was thinking "The Bells" EAPoe. I'd better stick to my field and stop trying to be intellectual. I remember this now.

Thanks for the correction.

REP

(21,691 posts)
151. Even though I'm far from religious, "Meditation 17" is a thoughtful and moving piece
Sat Mar 1, 2014, 04:06 AM
Mar 2014

And through the years, Donne's meaning of "it tolls for thee" has been lost - that no matter for whom death's bell is tolling, we are all part of each other and therefore, even when it is calling someone else, it has called for you as well ("every man's death diminishes me&quot .

I don't think it's necessary to share Donne's religious views - or to be religious - to read and enjoy his writings; I'm not religious but yet I've always found his work to be thoughtful and thought-provoking.

I like Poe, too

defacto7

(13,485 posts)
152. Beautifully said...
Sat Mar 1, 2014, 04:31 AM
Mar 2014

It bring out a sense of oneness in humanity. Mysticism aside there's an introspect of the human eternal (quality). I shall take another look at it with interest. Thank you for jogging my memory. As for the religious aspects of literature, truth is truth no matter where you find it, sometimes you just have to... find it.

Maybe we can talk Poe another day!

Good Night.

REP

(21,691 posts)
153. Good night to you as well ...
Sat Mar 1, 2014, 04:39 AM
Mar 2014

... I'm afraid we're being far too civil for this thread anyway!

I love reading and being a pedantic jerk wad, so thank you for taking my first response in the manner in which it was intended

 

LittleBlue

(10,362 posts)
34. "You can run, but you can't hide, Manny."
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:56 AM
Feb 2014

What?!

Not sure what's going on. Looks like a Manny shitstorm so I'm in

1awake

(1,494 posts)
16. If this is about what I think it's about
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:38 AM
Feb 2014

it won't work. Those are an all or nothing, do as I say and be quiet kind of group. While claiming to want conversations, behavior indicates otherwise.

Unless your talking about cheese cake... then... never mind.


On edit... they are circling lol.

Autumn

(45,042 posts)
21. That's where I'm at. Is this about the sacred cow or cheesecake?
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:46 AM
Feb 2014

Cause you know, you touch that cow, and boom. And if you say the cheesecake needs a little more chocolate on top, boom.

Autumn

(45,042 posts)
116. Yes! cherry cheesecake.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 11:18 AM
Feb 2014

Quite possibly the most perfect food in the world. If I were a survivalist I would buy enough ingredients to make cheesecake, chocolate and cherry and the occasional caramel with pecan, for say 50 years. I would need nothing else. Well some coffee too, that would be it. I would be set.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
24. If that's what it's about, then I agree. I was told to get lost for expressing MY opinion as a woman
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:50 AM
Feb 2014

Apparently to them, women cannot have opinions unless they agree with them. As a fiercely independent woman, naturally I refused to obey that order. Lol!

Cleita

(75,480 posts)
33. I always liked you.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:55 AM
Feb 2014

Today I'm in love with you and you can tell me to piss off and I will still love you.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
70. Lol, I know, I made the mistake of thinking I was allowed! But she let me know in no uncertain terms
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 02:25 AM
Feb 2014

just how wrong you can be when you think we women are free to hold opinions that are not pre-approved here on DU. Put it this way, I like bathing suits, sure can't go swimming in 'modest' wear these days or you will attract even MORE attention! Lol.

 

Aerows

(39,961 posts)
35. You know which way I go.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:56 AM
Feb 2014

I vote to improve. Sometimes it seems like climbing Mt. Everest to improve things, but I'll keep trying.

Until I die of frostbite on the way up the mountain.

At least I climbed it and at least I gave a damn and tried.

 

Electric Monk

(13,869 posts)
75. Actually, more climbers die on their way back down Mt. Everest than on the way up
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 02:41 AM
Feb 2014

and frostbit is low on the list of causes of death.

I know what you meant, but I kind of like facts, too. So, to keep with the nature of this thread, I'm just trying to help

http://climbing.about.com/od/mountainclimbing/a/Death-On-Mount-Everest.htm

Most Die While Descending

Most climbers die while descending the upper slopes of Mount Everest, often after having reached the summit, in the area above 8,000 meters called the "Death Zone." The high elevation and corresponding lack of oxygen coupled with extreme temperatures and weather conspire to create a greater risk of death than on the mountain's lower slopes.

(snip)

Two Ways to Die on Mt. Everest

There are two ways that climbers die on Mount Everest-traumatically and non-traumatically. Traumatic deaths occur from the usual hazards of mountaineering-falls, avalanches, and extreme weather. These are, however, unusual. Traumatic death injuries usually occur on the lower slopes of Mount Everest rather than up high.

Most Die from Non-Traumatic Causes

Most Everest climbers die from non-traumatic causes. Climbers usually die on Mount Everest simply from the effects of exhaustion as well as injuries. Many climbers die from altitude-related illnesses, usually high altitude cerebral edema (HACE) and high altitude pulmonary edema (HAPE).

Inkfreak

(1,695 posts)
108. I wouldn't have guessed that. Neat.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 10:21 AM
Feb 2014

Someone posted a neat thread about the bodies one can find on the way to the top (or down) a ways back. Intresting stuff. I feel like I don't need to climb Everest as I live in Oswego County, in upstate NY.

polly7

(20,582 posts)
129. Aerows, my friend ...
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:16 PM
Feb 2014

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(I include the mind in that, as long as it was well-used, and you/we-all made a difference with it along the way.)

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
59. I've been reading this thread while listening to this and LMFAO till I have to wipe my eyes
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:27 AM
Feb 2014

God I'm easily amused!

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
83. this is a "please stop using the words white privilege" support thread
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 04:06 AM
Feb 2014

don;t kick their asses, they'll just feel more oppressed!

Waiting For Everyman

(9,385 posts)
92. The most amusing thing about this, to me,
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 05:51 AM
Feb 2014

re: this current "beef du jour"...

Certain people here go on tirades, almost on a daily basis, about other peoples' word choices. They'll go on, and on, and on, endlessly about words that are even slightly not to their liking. The way it's done, you'd think it was a matter of someone's life or death.

Yet now they say, suddenly, when others bring up objections to terms used by them, it's a silly and inappropriate thing to do, even taking it to the extreme of calling into question the character and political creds of those objecting.

Headspin, anyone?

And another thing... I vaguely recall DU being lectured time after time, about how when someone tells you that you're offending them, it is your obligation to change the offending words. No "ifs, ands, or buts".

Yet now, what do we see? Oh my, all of a sudden that's out the window, and they're waving the stop-your-whining-we'll-be-as-offensive-as-we-want flag!

The daily dose of hypocrisy here is enough to give anyone a bad case of logical and ethical whiplash.

 

pintobean

(18,101 posts)
98. And, it's disappointing to see "liberals" behave this way.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 07:35 AM
Feb 2014


More great observations, Waiting For Everyman.

pacalo

(24,721 posts)
139. Pegged -- to a "t".
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 04:02 PM
Feb 2014

The funny thing is, I voted in this poll not knowing what it was about. I'm still not sure; I'm wondering if it's being misrepresented by some of the more hyperbolic posters (a sign that I've lost trust in what I read here). My headspin came when I saw all the contentious remarks coming in.



Recursion

(56,582 posts)
95. Which is better: taking personally a systemic critique
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 07:09 AM
Feb 2014

Or realizing that, yeah, systems have a way of blinding us to them?

countryjake

(8,554 posts)
96. Other. We used to have a DU Activist Corps...
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 07:27 AM
Feb 2014

This past Wednesday was the second anniversary of the murder of Trayvon Martin. I saw barely a mention of the day on this forum, but there were people across the nation who went out and stood together in solidarity.
With hoodies up.

That's what I think is better. Sitting around on my old ass may be more comfortable, but it doesn't do anyone much good if I type that they suck or that they should be ashamed or worse, that they should just shut the fuck up. Yup, I do admit that I've done that here, but what does it accomplish? I think identifying a problem and then organizing around direct action to try and solve it is the only way any of us will ever actually manage to make anything "better".

Union Scribe

(7,099 posts)
101. Depends on whom I'm addressing.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 08:20 AM
Feb 2014

Some people, here and anywhere, aren't interested in working on a problem or getting along. There are some too invested in drama and division and arguing. Those people do suck. Fortunately they aren't hard to spot. All it takes is for you to post a thread and a lot of them will rush to happily self-identify.

 

MannyGoldstein

(34,589 posts)
106. Which is clearly what I did
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 10:17 AM
Feb 2014

As opposed to, say, ascribing all manner of motives to a pretty simple question.

kwassa

(23,340 posts)
107. I think Manny Goldstein's passive-aggressive threads suck.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 10:21 AM
Feb 2014

Hiding behind humor rather than honestly making a point. He is also mocking the viewpoints of others, while pretending only to be funny.

MineralMan

(146,284 posts)
112. Apparently I have missed something.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 10:43 AM
Feb 2014

Can you mention what prompted this poll, please? I was sleeping when you posted it, and can't figure out what prompted it.

In general, though, I think "you suck" does not work very well in facilitating a discussion, so I wouldn't vote for that one. However, I've chosen not to vote at all, since I have no idea what prompted the poll.

pipi_k

(21,020 posts)
114. If people really care
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 10:49 AM
Feb 2014

about finding a solution to a problem, then working together is a way to do it. Win/win for everyone


If, OTOH, it's more about working out one's personal issues on other people and less about finding solutions to problems, then "you suck" will probably suffice.

A Simple Game

(9,214 posts)
118. I see what you did, and it worked.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:00 PM
Feb 2014

Some people just can't avoid making fools of themselves.

Intentionally set or not the trap is so obvious, and yet I see you caught at least one.

My admiration grows. Keep up the good work.

 

MannyGoldstein

(34,589 posts)
119. Thanks, I guess, but not warranted.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:11 PM
Feb 2014

In retrospect this thread ended up being mortifying and amusing, but this was not the intent - it was simply intended to point out something simple. Maybe I should stick to complex, less chance for guesswork from readers.

A Simple Game

(9,214 posts)
124. I think you were pointing out that name calling is not a good starting point... Well for anything.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:29 PM
Feb 2014

Hopefully most that chose You Suck were just being playful. A few, some would say the expected players, chose, by making examples of themselves, to make that point obvious.

Intentional or not, well played. Thanks for the amusing thread, even if unintentional.

11 Bravo

(23,926 posts)
128. This one went off coourse when one of DU's prime thread-hijackers got in early.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:06 PM
Feb 2014

From that point on it was, while probably not the discussion you had hoped for, pure comedy gold.

Response to MannyGoldstein (Reply #119)

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