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Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:20 PM

dating age range formula

I have always heard one half the older person's age plus seven years. So a forty four year old could date a twenty nine year old. A twenty four year old could date a nineteen year old. Thoughts?

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Reply dating age range formula (Original post)
arely staircase Feb 2014 OP
Warren DeMontague Feb 2014 #1
arely staircase Feb 2014 #2
Boom Sound 416 Feb 2014 #7
Warren DeMontague Feb 2014 #19
Boom Sound 416 Feb 2014 #22
arely staircase Feb 2014 #29
Cali_Democrat Feb 2014 #32
BadgerKid Feb 2014 #46
Cali_Democrat Feb 2014 #3
arely staircase Feb 2014 #6
rug Feb 2014 #4
Boom Sound 416 Feb 2014 #8
arely staircase Feb 2014 #12
rug Feb 2014 #16
Warren DeMontague Feb 2014 #23
arely staircase Feb 2014 #31
Warren DeMontague Feb 2014 #40
madinmaryland Feb 2014 #44
arely staircase Feb 2014 #48
madinmaryland Feb 2014 #49
dilby Feb 2014 #5
arely staircase Feb 2014 #10
dilby Feb 2014 #17
pangaia Feb 2014 #36
Fumesucker Feb 2014 #9
arely staircase Feb 2014 #14
Blue_Adept Feb 2014 #11
hrmjustin Feb 2014 #13
arely staircase Feb 2014 #18
hrmjustin Feb 2014 #24
Cali_Democrat Feb 2014 #26
arely staircase Feb 2014 #28
kcr Feb 2014 #38
CJCRANE Feb 2014 #41
PowerToThePeople Feb 2014 #30
hrmjustin Feb 2014 #34
panader0 Feb 2014 #15
Codeine Feb 2014 #20
CJCRANE Feb 2014 #21
arely staircase Feb 2014 #25
CJCRANE Feb 2014 #39
tammywammy Feb 2014 #27
Jamaal510 Feb 2014 #33
tammywammy Feb 2014 #35
treestar Feb 2014 #69
loudsue Feb 2014 #37
Brother Buzz Feb 2014 #42
BainsBane Feb 2014 #43
riderinthestorm Feb 2014 #45
arely staircase Feb 2014 #47
riderinthestorm Feb 2014 #53
arely staircase Feb 2014 #55
riderinthestorm Feb 2014 #57
arely staircase Feb 2014 #59
CJCRANE Feb 2014 #50
WillowTree Feb 2014 #51
arely staircase Feb 2014 #52
treestar Feb 2014 #70
Egalitarian Thug Feb 2014 #54
arely staircase Feb 2014 #60
cthulu2016 Feb 2014 #56
arely staircase Feb 2014 #58
valerief Feb 2014 #61
morningfog Feb 2014 #62
arely staircase Feb 2014 #63
morningfog Feb 2014 #64
arely staircase Feb 2014 #65
LittleBlue Feb 2014 #66
arely staircase Feb 2014 #67
treestar Feb 2014 #68
MadrasT Feb 2014 #71

Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:21 PM

1. Not really fair to Yoda

...just sayin

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Response to Warren DeMontague (Reply #1)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:22 PM

2. how old is he? nt

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Response to arely staircase (Reply #2)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:25 PM

7. 800 and change

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Response to Boom Sound 416 (Reply #7)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:35 PM

19. And there's only one other known member of his species, which Lucas didnt bother to name

I hope Dagobah gets good porn.

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Response to Warren DeMontague (Reply #19)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:36 PM

22. Lol

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Response to Warren DeMontague (Reply #19)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:41 PM

29. poor yoda. nt

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Response to Warren DeMontague (Reply #19)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:42 PM

32. hahahaha. nt

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Response to arely staircase (Reply #2)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:12 PM

46. "When 900 years old you reach, look as good you will not." n/t

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:22 PM

3. Love knows no age

Of course it has to be legal

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Response to Cali_Democrat (Reply #3)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:24 PM

6. an eighteen year old could go no lower than sixteen nt

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:23 PM

4. Dating isn't exactly baking.

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Response to rug (Reply #4)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:25 PM

8. Ding!

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Response to rug (Reply #4)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:28 PM

12. I am mediocre at dating but cant bake at all.

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Response to arely staircase (Reply #12)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:30 PM

16. Well then, just pick someone and go out for a cookie and a cappucino.

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Response to arely staircase (Reply #12)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:36 PM

23. When i was in college i used to "wake and bake"

Does that count?

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Response to Warren DeMontague (Reply #23)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:42 PM

31. breakfast of champions

Weedies.

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Response to arely staircase (Reply #31)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:56 PM

40. Explains my historic performance in the '88 Olympics

Bringing home the gold in the 5 foot Graphics pull

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Response to rug (Reply #4)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:06 PM

44. But what if I am dating a tart??


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Response to madinmaryland (Reply #44)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:17 PM

48. apple or strawberry? nt

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Response to arely staircase (Reply #48)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:19 PM

49. Dammit! We have one apple tart left and my wife will kill me if I eat it!!



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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:24 PM

5. I am 38.

And I usually date women 42-52, older women are just sexier in my opinion.

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Response to dilby (Reply #5)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:26 PM

10. you are in their range based on the formula

A fifty two year old could go as low as thirty three.

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Response to arely staircase (Reply #10)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:34 PM

17. Yeah but I don't whip out a calculator.

I just go with what I am attracted to. Younger women do nothing for me, I have always been attracted to women in that late 30s to early 50s range even when I was 18.

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Response to dilby (Reply #17)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:48 PM

36. I've always been attracted to women in their late 30s to early 50s.

Still am.
Of course....I'm 70.

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:25 PM

9. You need terms in the formula for wealth, fame, looks, coolness or lack thereof

Those all play a part in people's perceptions.

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Response to Fumesucker (Reply #9)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:29 PM

14. I don't have any of those things nt

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:27 PM

11. Oh the way this works

When I was thirty-eight, I dated someone fifteen years younger than me. That year was the deepest and most amazing relationship I ever had. I had moved on from my wife of thirteen years at that point and dated some, largely around the same age, but nothing connected like it did with her. It didn't work out in the end, but it made a huge change in my life.

End up reconnecting with a former high school classmate after that, which has worked out well for the last three years or so.

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:28 PM

13. I am 35 but 24 seems a bit low for me. Like to stick to my age range.

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Response to hrmjustin (Reply #13)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:34 PM

18. yeah. I think the point is you should go no lower

But sure at thirty five I wouldn't have wanted to date (at least most) 24 year olds. I think of twenty four year olds as wanting to do their drinking while dancing at a club. Around thirty I quit going to clubs and started going to bars. I my forties my drinking is done in the restaurant where I am about to eat.

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Response to arely staircase (Reply #18)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:37 PM

24. Never liked clubs but always loved bars.

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Response to arely staircase (Reply #18)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:37 PM

26. I'm 31 and still drink and dance

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Response to Cali_Democrat (Reply #26)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:39 PM

28. not that there is anything wrong with that

I did at 31 too. But it just phased out organically to bars in my early thirties.

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Response to Cali_Democrat (Reply #26)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:50 PM

38. I'm 41 and a night of drinking and dancing still appeals to me

I just don't go out much anymore.

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Response to Cali_Democrat (Reply #26)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:59 PM

41. Be careful

you might spill some of it.

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Response to hrmjustin (Reply #13)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:41 PM

30. I am older than you, and 24 seems a bit high for me..

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Response to PowerToThePeople (Reply #30)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:46 PM

34. Oh my!

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:30 PM

15. Dating Range Formula--100 miles from home.

I'm just kidding Jeannie!

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:35 PM

20. I'm in a happy, fulfilling relationship with someone well out of that range.

Love and attraction aren't things that can be quantified and formulized.

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:35 PM

21. If that works for you...Go for it!

If it doesn't...Ignore it!

That's my advice.

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Response to CJCRANE (Reply #21)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:37 PM

25. just something I read

I am not preaching it. Just thought it worthy of a lighthearted general discussion.

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Response to arely staircase (Reply #25)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:53 PM

39. Well, thinking of my own group of friends

some are with partners the same age and the others are within the range you mention.

There is one friend of a friend who is in his early forties but he always seems to pick someone in their early twenties (and has done since he was in his early twenties).

It's slightly amusing to the rest of us, i.e. that as he grows older, the age of his partners never changes, but we don't make too much of a big deal about it.

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:39 PM

27. Not everything is done with a formula.

The only thing that matters is if they are happy.

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Response to tammywammy (Reply #27)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:43 PM

33. And that they are both

consenting adults (over 18 years of age).

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Response to Jamaal510 (Reply #33)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:48 PM

35. Not always.

It could be two 16 year olds or a 17-16 relationship. That doesn't mean I think a 16 year old should date a 40 year old.

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Response to tammywammy (Reply #35)

Fri Feb 7, 2014, 09:47 PM

69. what if they were happy?

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 07:49 PM

37. Rightwing churches preach this to their young men and women who can't find "christians" to date

That's what my fundamentalist extended family members are always telling me.

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:01 PM

42. Elijah Muhammad was the only person I ever heard espousing that claptrap

I suspect it was well received by 'the old farts' faction of the Nation of Islam.

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:04 PM

43. In general, I do not care what people do

As long as it's legal, it's their business. However, there are some exceptions, like taking up with the teenager sister of your children. Sure, it's legal and their right, but it also shows an incredible disregard for the well-being of the children and some serious boundary issues. Still their business, but it put me off his movies. Now underage is another story. The adult belongs in prison.

In terms of my own preferences, I prefer someone close to my own age. Yet for some reason the men most interested in me tend to be younger.

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:08 PM

45. I've stayed out of the Woody/Mia/Dylan/Soon-Yi threads completely. Hidden them actually

But I'll comment here.

My husband's oldest sister Terrie had a fling with her father's best friend when she was 19 years old. He was 39 divorced but with children - they all went on family vacations together etc. In fact her father was involved in many business dealings with his best friend. Everyone close as close as can be. Max had changed Terrie's diapers and been involved in every last bit of her life as "one of the family".

So clearly a "father figure" in every respect to Terrie.

When it was discovered, there was horror, shock, outrage. They broke it off and went separate ways for 20 years. Shamed by everyone. She took off for CA, as far from NY and her family and her love as she could get. Married (unhappily), had children, divorced. Estranged from her father and all the nattering nabobs of negativity.

They reconnected at her father's funeral and discovered they were still madly in love. Terrie was sooo scared to tell everyone that she and Max were done living a lie and were going to get married and live openly together. Screw the social conventions.

They've now been married for 20 years. Crazy in love with each other and grieving that they let others' get in the way of their lives, social convention, church etc. Max is now pushing 80 and they adore every last minute together.

I say "run" to happiness. You only get one life and if you find your love, RUN to them. Don't let anyone or anything stand in your way including age differences (as long as they are consenting adults).

I also know several pairs of first cousins who've married (none of them have children by choice).

The heart is a strange thing. There's no rhyme nor reason there. Age differences melt away and you're just left with two people who love each other.

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Response to riderinthestorm (Reply #45)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:12 PM

47. thi has NOTHING repeat NOTHING

To do with whether a middle aged man raped a child. Seriously .

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Response to arely staircase (Reply #47)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:32 PM

53. Then withdraw your question. As long as two consenting ADULTS are involved, age is irrelevant

Sometimes, even family relationships are irrelevant.

In the context of the family drama going on with Dylan's accusations against Woody, Mia's rage at Woody marrying Soon-yi, then posing a question like this at this moment is toxic. The insinuations about Woody Allen getting involved with a 19 yr old Soon-yi (and marrying her at age 28) are certainly relevant.

And drawing conclusions about WHY this question is being posed right now is certainly ripe for speculation as far as I can tell. Imho...

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Response to riderinthestorm (Reply #53)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:35 PM

55. you are the only person putting it in that context

Thanks. Why are you dragging that into this thread?

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Response to arely staircase (Reply #55)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:41 PM

57. Ok. So your motive is pure. I apologize nt

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Response to riderinthestorm (Reply #57)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:42 PM

59. accepted nt

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Response to riderinthestorm (Reply #45)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:23 PM

50. Thanks, good post. I enjoyed reading that. nt

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:30 PM

51. So what you're saying is that I should be dating someone who's either 39 or 114.

Which to choose........Which to choose.......

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Response to WillowTree (Reply #51)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:31 PM

52. lol nt

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Response to WillowTree (Reply #51)

Fri Feb 7, 2014, 09:49 PM

70. lol. I never thought 95 was too old for me!

or for dating, actually!

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:34 PM

54. So I could date a 90 year old...

 

I've always preferred older women, but I'm not sure...

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Response to Egalitarian Thug (Reply #54)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:44 PM

60. so that means you are either fifty two or 173

If it is the latter then a 90 year old would be a catch.

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:37 PM

56. Assuming both are adults, not really your business, is it?

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Response to cthulu2016 (Reply #56)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:41 PM

58. both who?

Hypothetical people? Should I apologize to them?

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 10:32 PM

61. So Betty White could date a 53 year old. nt

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Thu Feb 6, 2014, 10:41 PM

62. Easier formula, two consenting adults.

The rest is nobody's business.

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Response to morningfog (Reply #62)

Fri Feb 7, 2014, 10:45 AM

63. I think that part goes without saying nt

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Response to arely staircase (Reply #63)

Fri Feb 7, 2014, 02:09 PM

64. And anymore need not be said.

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Response to morningfog (Reply #64)

Fri Feb 7, 2014, 08:09 PM

65. well if you are having a problem with the op

As I said it isn't something I am preaching but have often heard. I was kinda wanting feedback on if it fit into dating ranges people who wanted to comment were comfortable with. So far I think it has been a good and intertaining general discussion on dating - especially the DUrs whose prospects would range from 39 to over 100. Please take it in the spirit it was posted - to encourage a lighthearted discussion.

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Fri Feb 7, 2014, 08:19 PM

66. Crap! Guess I'll need a divorce

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Response to LittleBlue (Reply #66)

Fri Feb 7, 2014, 08:25 PM

67. yep. nt

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Fri Feb 7, 2014, 09:47 PM

68. Young men of 34 look out!

You are in big trouble now!

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Response to arely staircase (Original post)

Fri Feb 7, 2014, 10:00 PM

71. I don't think it matters.

As long as everybody is an adult.

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