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Sun Mar 18, 2012, 02:24 PM

The Right Not to Know (Read this. And then read it again the day before the election. Please.)

http://www.texasobserver.org/cover-story/the-right-not-to-know

'We Have No Choice': One Woman's Ordeal with Texas' New Sonogram Law
The painful decision to terminate a pregnancy is now—thanks to Texas' harsh new law—just the beginning of the torment.
by Carolyn Jones

Halfway through my pregnancy, I learned that my baby was ill. Profoundly so. My doctor gave us the news kindly, but still, my husband and I weren’t prepared. Just a few minutes earlier, we’d been smiling giddily at fellow expectant parents as we waited for the doctor to see us. In a sonography room smelling faintly of lemongrass, I’d just had gel rubbed on my stomach, just seen blots on the screen become tiny hands. For a brief, exultant moment, we’d seen our son—a brother for our 2-year-old girl.

--snip--

My counselor said that the law required me to have another ultrasound that day, and that I was legally obligated to hear a doctor describe my baby. I’d then have to wait 24 hours before coming back for the procedure. She said that I could either see the sonogram or listen to the baby’s heartbeat, adding weakly that this choice was mine.

“I don’t want to have to do this at all,” I told her. “I’m doing this to prevent my baby’s suffering. I don’t want another sonogram when I’ve already had two today. I don’t want to hear a description of the life I’m about to end. Please,” I said, “I can’t take any more pain.” I confess that I don’t know why I said that. I knew it was fait accompli. The counselor could no more change the government requirement than I could. Yet here was a superfluous layer of torment piled upon an already horrific day, and I wanted this woman to know it.

--snip--

“I’m so sorry that I have to do this,” the doctor told us, “but if I don’t, I can lose my license.” Before he could even start to describe our baby, I began to sob until I could barely breathe. Somewhere, a nurse cranked up the volume on a radio, allowing the inane pronouncements of a DJ to dull the doctor’s voice. Still, despite the noise, I heard him. His unwelcome words echoed off sterile walls while I, trapped on a bed, my feet in stirrups, twisted away from his voice.

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Reply The Right Not to Know (Read this. And then read it again the day before the election. Please.) (Original post)
2ndAmForComputers Mar 2012 OP
Walk away Mar 2012 #1
saras Mar 2012 #2
grantcart Mar 2012 #3
saras Mar 2012 #6
Oilwellian Mar 2012 #13
grantcart Mar 2012 #4
enlightenment Mar 2012 #5
2ndAmForComputers Mar 2012 #7
Lone_Star_Dem Mar 2012 #8
mahina Mar 2012 #9
2ndAmForComputers Mar 2012 #12
mahina Mar 2012 #10
mahina Mar 2012 #11

Response to 2ndAmForComputers (Original post)

Sun Mar 18, 2012, 02:35 PM

1. I've read this in about 20 different places in the past 3 days...

I think I re-post it on Facebook again and read it a few more times. Is this what my beloved nieces have to look forward to if they decide to stay in the US?

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Response to 2ndAmForComputers (Original post)

Sun Mar 18, 2012, 02:38 PM

2. Fucking stupid liar deserves to die raped in jail

 

“I’m so sorry that I have to do this,” the doctor told us

He doesn't. All he has to do is not do it.

So he loses his job.

Big fucking deal. Waah.

It's better to become a serial rapist than lose your job? Fuck that. The guy deserves to be on the street, dying of perfectly treatable diseases that we refuse to treat him for. And his whole town needs to treat him like the rapist he is, and a whiny little twit of one at that.

The only thing even MORE pathetic and dishonest would be to meet this doctor out on some picket line, trying to get someone else to stop him from doing something he's not willing to stop himself from doing.

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Response to saras (Reply #2)

Sun Mar 18, 2012, 02:42 PM

3. If he loses his license who is going to perform the abortions in the area>


You do realize that in many hostile areas there is a single Doctor willing to risk his life to perform abortions?

They want him to lose his license, to quit, that is an even more effective deterrent than pasing laws that the SC will strike down.

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Response to grantcart (Reply #3)

Sun Mar 18, 2012, 02:46 PM

6. Well, he's not if he keeps this up, so what does it matter?

 

Surely you're not suggesting that the right wing is suddenly going to STOP here - that this law is good enough to satisfy them?

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Response to saras (Reply #2)

Sun Mar 18, 2012, 04:18 PM

13. Perhaps you should read the article

This was not a transvaginal ultrasound so calling this Planned Parenthood doctor a "serial rapist" is way over the top. You really should get your facts straight first.

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Response to 2ndAmForComputers (Original post)

Sun Mar 18, 2012, 02:43 PM

4. "Nobody ever expected the Spanish Inquisition"

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Response to 2ndAmForComputers (Original post)

Sun Mar 18, 2012, 02:44 PM

5. The Texas Observer website is unavailable.

Though the clipped part of this is awful enough.

What have we become?

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Response to enlightenment (Reply #5)

Sun Mar 18, 2012, 02:47 PM

7. Damn, you're right. It was perfectly OK 15 minutes ago.

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Response to enlightenment (Reply #5)

Sun Mar 18, 2012, 02:59 PM

8. It is down. I was just reading there earlier too.

Hopefully they'll get it back up soon.

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Response to Lone_Star_Dem (Reply #8)

Sun Mar 18, 2012, 03:44 PM

9. Been trying since the OP and never could read it,

even the Texas Observer main page. Hope it's up soon.

I don't know what happened but it seems entirely plausible that somebody out there didn't want this message heard. Probably also hollering about Rush L being 'silenced' and the injustice of it all. Pure speculation.

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Response to mahina (Reply #9)

Sun Mar 18, 2012, 03:53 PM

12. It's working now.

DoS attack? Maybe.

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Response to 2ndAmForComputers (Original post)

Sun Mar 18, 2012, 03:48 PM

10. Their twitter feed, meanwhile

http://twitter.com/#!/TexasObserver

@Maiab: Do you know why the site is down now?

@TexasObserver: There are many reasons. It's going back up now.

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Response to 2ndAmForComputers (Original post)

Sun Mar 18, 2012, 03:52 PM

11. It's back up

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