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Thu Aug 22, 2013, 10:36 PM

Today I learned that many people posting here are transphobic.

Last edited Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:49 PM - Edit history (1)

I wish, as the parent of a transgender child, I could say I was shocked, but I wasn't.

Your expressions of your prejudices were hurtful.


On edit: and this op is now a magnet for transphobic idiocy. Again, no surprise there.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 10:40 PM

1. I've learned more here about transphobia than gender dysphoria

sadly



DURec

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 10:40 PM

2. It's absolutely maddening.

I understand the problems with the pronouns, because I had that issue for a while and sometimes still do, but there's been some unbelievably hurtful and downright bigoted shit going down recently.

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Response to NuclearDem (Reply #2)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:17 AM

30. I have learned that being ambiguous about the pronouns is

as great a sin as expressing overt hatred of Trans people. Possibly even worse.

People here need to grow up and stop acting like children just because somebody else is not perfect 100% of the time.

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Response to kestrel91316 (Reply #30)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 06:54 PM

213. Why would you be "ambiguous" about the pronoun?

If you are making a decision to be ambiguous because you are willfully refusing to acknowledge Chelsea Manning as a woman, then yeah, it's bigoted and intolerant and you should expect to be called out for it. It's kind of right up there with someone thinking they aren't a bigot because they don't "hate" gay people - and explaining they hate the sin, not the sinner, and in the same breath talking about how they can probably get some anti-gay therapy for that, and then whining that Christians are being persecuted for not supporting marriage equality.

You can either acknowledge people's identity, or make a point of refusing to do so. But you don't get to make a point of refusing to acknowledge a transgender person's identity and then act like you are the victim and everyone else is an intolerant bully. If there's something in you that has a need for talking about transgender people as if they no longer have any gender at all, you are on the side of bullying; you aren't the one being persecuted.

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Response to noamnety (Reply #213)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:19 PM

215. I AM NOT WILLFULLY REFUSING TO ACKNOWLEDGE ANY GODDAMNED THING.

I don't know what the standard is for internet forums/journalism etc versus the courtroom standard versus etiquette in personal interactions. Hence my use of "s/he" rather than "he" a couple of HOURS after this was announced, in a SINGLE post, which I have since deleted when it became clear that I had accidentally committed a crime against humanity.

And I'm not a fucking bully. You people are, well, I don't even have words for what you are. "Amazing" just doesn't cut it.

Here's a post some of you need to pay attention to:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10023522291

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Response to kestrel91316 (Reply #215)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:52 PM

224. There are good ways and bad ways to respond to these things.

All of us, including myself, have been the culprit in committing an occasional offensive faux pas out of ignorance at one point or another. It stings when we get called out. I did once in a Katrina blog post, where I referred to the evacuees as "refugees." I had no idea when I typed it that it was offensive or why. Now I know.

Going back to delete your post was appropriate. A comment (and I don't know whether you did this or not) to the effect of "I'm sorry, I'm reading and absorbing what you are saying here and why it's offensive, but I honestly meant no harm" is appropriate.

Acting like you are the victim or that other people are out of line for being angry when people won't acknowledge their gender, getting defensive, and in effect saying that people are overreacting (tossing out hyperboles like "crime against humanity") is not appropriate. Anytime there is a power/privilege dynamic (white/black, straight/gay, etc), I believe the burden is on the group with the most privilege to make the greater effort to listen to members of the group with the least privilege, and put their own egos aside while doing it.

It sounds like you got called out once for a comment on using inappropriate pronouns. I truly believe - and I suspect you would agree - that any pain you suffered as a result of that callout is negligible compared to the pain transgender people deal with over and over and over again, when people refer to them deliberately with the wrong pronoun, as s/he, or worse yet, "it" - which I actually saw on DU once today. Understand that for you, the issue is simply saving face. For them, it's having their entire identity invalidated. You are not an oppressed person here, in other words, and if you inadvertently contributed to someone else's oppression, apologize, learn from it, suck it up and move on.

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Response to noamnety (Reply #224)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 10:34 PM

226. +1000000

Very well said.

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Response to kestrel91316 (Reply #30)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 02:03 AM

247. Sorry, I'm not buying it. You're a veterinarian, right?

If so, you're most likely a highly educated person, capable of grasping highly complex concepts and quickly solving problems. You're capable of expressing your own ambiguity about Chelsea Manning's gender identity in a more respectful way than "s/he" and you're capable of following up without doubling down.

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Response to NuclearDem (Reply #2)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 02:11 PM

256. reading and writing comprehension

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 10:45 PM

3. Must have disheartened you

While DU is far from a haven, I always thought it was somewhat friendly to the transgendered. Surely it must have been a rude awakening for those who thought the same.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 10:46 PM

4. I hope I'm not included in this

I strive to be open in every way possible.

But if I've ever said anything that could be construed as transphobic, I sincerely regret it.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 10:48 PM

5. what's weird for me is that I've only seen one thread. I guess that means I have the right people on

ignore.

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Response to liberal_at_heart (Reply #5)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 10:53 PM

6. I just logged on to read the latest. Maybe I was unlucky.

But I ran into one thread after another. I really don't want to get into specifics.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Reply #6)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 10:55 PM

7. you don't have to. I've seen how some of these posters can get regarding other topics. I can

imagine. That's why most of those people are on my ignore list.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 10:59 PM

8. All it takes is for an open minded person to meet a transgendered....

many open minded ppl have not is my guess...

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Response to alittlelark (Reply #8)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 04:33 PM

202. i've never met a transgendered person (edited ... opps, wrong, it was no big deal that i forgot it.

but i have no trouble accepting how they define their sexuality. Gender isn't just about organs, it goes much deeper ... I get that. I hope Chelsea Manning is treated with the respect she deserves as a woman. I fear for her safety in the system.

Edited to add ... oops! I have known someone transgender. It was so not a big deal that i forgot about it. It was my fav. math teacher in college. I really admired her for doing it.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:05 PM

9. I'm sorry for you and your child to have to see this

It's vile, and it should never, ever be acceptable on this site.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:06 PM

10. ...

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:09 PM

11. sorry u had to see that here at du

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:12 PM

12. All of us who are trans*

or love someone who is are hurting everywhere we turn today. I wish that did not have to include DU.

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Response to Ms. Toad (Reply #12)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 11:43 AM

126. Hugs

They won't win.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:14 PM

13. The BOGers get pretty dirty sometimes when defending the president

Sorry you had to sit through that. Trash those threads.

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Response to Doctor_J (Reply #13)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:46 PM

23. Manning will be remembered positively long after Obama has become a mere footnote in history and

 

even longer after all these bigots have faded into the dust of eternity. (See John Brown and James Buchanan, if you don't believe me.)

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Response to HardTimes99 (Reply #23)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 06:27 AM

63. Oh bullshit...

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Response to trumad (Reply #63)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 07:40 AM

77. What Manning taught us about our government is no small thing.

The total impact of what she did will last and be remembered for a very long time.

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Response to another_liberal (Reply #77)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 07:44 AM

80. First off---He is a he....

Secondly--- you saying he will be remembered far more than the first Black President in history is hilariously silly.

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Response to trumad (Reply #80)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:13 AM

83. SHE.



Figure it out. Ignorance is no longer an excuse.

Her name is Chelsea.

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Response to backscatter712 (Reply #83)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:39 AM

87. May she soon be free . . .

And go on to live a long and happy life.

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Response to trumad (Reply #80)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:48 AM

90. You are confusing me with others on this string.

I did not suggest Chelsea Manning's legacy will be greater than that of President Obama. What I was trying to convey to you was the very real importance of what she did. It was an act of patriotism and personal courage. There is no way to lessen its value to our nation as a whole.

As to Chelsea Manning's sexual identity: That is properly her choice to make, right?

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Response to trumad (Reply #80)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 06:23 PM

211. One more voice for sanity...

Call me old fashioned, but I have a belief in objective reality that is coupled

with the notion that one can't automatically "be" something one is not just because

one wants to be.

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Response to whathehell (Reply #211)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:36 PM

219. One can be whatever one wants if they need to be free, grandpa.

 

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Response to East Coast Pirate (Reply #219)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 12:17 AM

231. In your head, perhaps

Getting consensus from the outside world can be a bit trickier.

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Response to whathehell (Reply #231)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 12:26 AM

232. In red areas and your yard.

 

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Response to East Coast Pirate (Reply #232)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 12:35 AM

234. Sure..

When gender becomes a political distinction instead of a biological one.

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Response to whathehell (Reply #211)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 12:32 AM

233. You do understand that she is transgender and that she wants to go through the transition process.

She prefers to be called a she because she identifies as a she.

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Response to hrmjustin (Reply #233)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 01:06 AM

236. Yes, I do understand that

but as far as I'm concerned he is a "he" until he makes that change.

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Response to whathehell (Reply #236)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 01:09 AM

237. Well that is rude. If a person is transgender and has not completely transition you still call the

person the gender that is preferred.

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Response to hrmjustin (Reply #237)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 01:23 AM

238. Well, that is your opinion, not mine.

Sorry, but I still believe in biological reality...It may not be ALL of what

determines gender, but it's certainly part of it.

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Response to whathehell (Reply #238)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 01:25 AM

239. If you were in front of a person who is transgender that has not fully transition would you still

call them a he if she wanted to be called a she? Would you do it to their face?

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Response to hrmjustin (Reply #239)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 01:30 AM

240. If I were in front of that person

I would probably call them "you".

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Response to whathehell (Reply #240)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 01:36 AM

241. If you had a friend that wanted to be refered to as she and she was not completely female yet would

you refer to her as he even though she does not want you to do that?

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Response to hrmjustin (Reply #241)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 01:50 AM

242. That's a tough one..

but I'm afraid I just couldn't deny what I see as reality...I'd feel as if

I were reinforcing a delusion.

By the way, how do you feel about the reverse?

Would you call a female friend transitioning to maleness "he"?.

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Response to whathehell (Reply #242)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 01:53 AM

244. What is a delusion?

And yes I would call him he if that is what he wanted.

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Response to hrmjustin (Reply #244)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 01:57 AM

245. According to the dictionary,


A delusion is " a false belief or opinion".

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Response to whathehell (Reply #245)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 02:02 AM

246. I know what the wrod means, I was asking about what you said.

"That's a tough one but I'm afraid I just couldn't deny what I see as reality...I'd feel as if I were reinforcing a delusion."

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Response to hrmjustin (Reply #246)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 02:07 AM

249. You asked me what a delusion was

and I gave you the definition.

If someone is completely male or female anatomically, I believe that's what they are.

Many people here are saying that gender is completely a matter of "social construct"

or the "brain", but as another DUer pointed out, that has NOT been scientifically proven and until it is, I'm not

throwing biology completely out the window.

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Response to whathehell (Reply #249)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 02:32 AM

251. I am going to bed. Had a bus day today. If you wish to discuss further I will can. Good night.

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Response to hrmjustin (Reply #251)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 02:36 AM

252. Good night. n/t

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Response to whathehell (Reply #242)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 03:36 PM

258. I'll be honest, I alerted on this post for calling transgendered people delusional...

and of course, it came back as 3-3 with at least two transphobes on the jury. The Jury system is failing, badly.

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Response to whathehell (Reply #211)

Sun Aug 25, 2013, 03:06 AM

259. Get some education

Transgenders don't just wish to be of another gender. Their brains are wired like that of the sex they feel they belong to. It's no more of a "choice" than being left-handed, gay, or having blue eyes. And yes, this has been proven scientifically, if you want objective reality.

I was born a ginger in a dark-haired family. Crude jokes about the mailman aside, it wasn't a problem. But if it had been, I could change that. The remedy's available in every supermarket and drugstore.

Trans people have options for change, but they're neither simple nor easily available. I can't begin to imagine what it feels like to be stuck in a body that feels just plain wrong. And I feel that losing weight is a struggle!

Human gender isn't a cookie-cutter affair. Pick up a medical genetics textbook if you doubt me. Lots of people's apparent sex doesn't even match their chromosomes, let alone their brains.

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Response to FloridaJudy (Reply #259)

Mon Aug 26, 2013, 12:58 PM

261. You get some education..

because as another DUer explained, the theory that gender, is "all in the brain" or a simple "social construction"

has NOT been scientifically proven.

Stating that fact, btw, is not the same as positing gender as "a cookie cutter affair". Very little about the human

condition is, and the above theory may in time prove true. That said, at present, the jury is still out.

If that fact disturbs you to the point of insulting those who won't swear unconditional

allegiance to a particular belief, I'm afraid that's your problem, not mine.

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Response to whathehell (Reply #261)

Mon Aug 26, 2013, 06:44 PM

262. Two points

1) Depending on when during gestation testosterone in is either given or blocked, you get baby rats that grow up to act in ways analogous to human transgenders. Males that think they're females, and vice-versa.

2) When you stick transgenders in a PET scanner, their brains light up like those of the opposite sex, not their own. This is not true of most gay people.

Is it genetic? Probably at least partially. It's epigenetic: a complex interaction of genes and environment. In any case, it's out of their control. Telling them they're deluded and need to get in touch with reality is inhumane.

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Response to trumad (Reply #80)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:30 PM

218. Maybe you belong in Florida after all.

 

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Response to another_liberal (Reply #77)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:01 AM

82. What Manning taught us is mostly what we already knew. If you were born before 1950 all of these

revelations are not new.

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Response to kelliekat44 (Reply #82)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:38 AM

86. I knew some things about how we really conduct our foreign affairs.

The way we treat other nations behind the scenes and then lie about it in public (American diplomatic history) is the field I specialized in for decades. What Manning revealed, though, were not thirty-year-old records dealing with events which most people don't even remember. She gave us the actual communications regarding our government's recent international actions and manipulations, conclusive proof of what had heretofore only been educated speculations. You can take my word for it, they were stunning.

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Response to kelliekat44 (Reply #82)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 04:57 PM

206. That is a persistent LIE at DU.

It has been repeated often at DU,
but it is STILL a LIE.

HERE is the TRUTH:
reposting hat tip: JDPriestly
re-reposting hat tip: kpete



Below is a list of 10 revelations disclosed by Manning’s leaked documents that offer insight into the breadth and scope of what he revealed, help explain his motivation for leaking, and provide context for the ongoing trial. The list, in no particular order, is far from comprehensive but encompasses some of the most significant information brought to light by the leaked documents.

During the Iraq War, U.S. authorities failed to investigate hundreds of reports of abuse, torture, rape, and murder by Iraqi police and soldiers, according to thousands of field reports.

There were 109,032 “violent deaths” recorded in Iraq between 2004 and 2009, including 66,081 civilians. Leaked records from the Afghan War separately revealed coalition troops’ alleged role in killing at least 195 civilians in unreported incidents, one reportedly involving U.S. service members machine-gunning a bus, wounding or killing 15 passengers.

The U.S. Embassy in Paris advised Washington to start a military-style trade war against any European Union country that opposed genetically modified crops, with U.S. diplomats effectively working directly for GM companies such as Monsanto.

British and American officials colluded in a plan to mislead the British Parliament over a proposed ban on cluster bombs.

In Baghdad in 2007, a U.S. Army helicopter gunned down a group of civilians, including two Reuters news staff.


U.S. special operations forces were conducting offensive operations inside Pakistan despite sustained public denials and statements to the contrary by U.S. officials.

A leaked diplomatic cable provided evidence that during an incident in 2006, U.S. troops in Iraq executed at least 10 Iraqi civilians, including a woman in her 70s and a 5-month-old, then called in an airstrike to destroy the evidence. The disclosure of this cable was later a significant factor in the Iraqi government’s refusal to grant U.S. troops immunity from prosecution beyond 2011, which led to U.S. troops withdrawing from the country.

A NATO coalition in Afghanistan was using an undisclosed “black” unit of special operations forces to hunt down targets for death or detention without trial. The unit was revealed to have had a kill-or-capture list featuring details of more than 2,000 senior figures from the Taliban and al-Qaida, but it had in some cases mistakenly killed men, women, children, and Afghan police officers.

The U.S. threatened the Italian government in an attempt to influence a court case involving the indictment of CIA agents over the kidnapping of an Egyptian cleric. Separately, U.S. officials were revealed to have pressured Spanish prosecutors to dissuade them from investigating U.S. torture allegations, secret “extraordinary rendition” flights, and the killing of a Spanish journalist by U.S. troops in Iraq.

In apparent violation of a 1946 U.N. convention, Washington initiated a spying campaign in 2009 that targeted the leadership of the U.N. by seeking to gather top officials’ private encryption keys, credit card details, and biometric data.

http://www.slate.com/blogs/future_tense/2013/06/04/bradley_manning_trial_10_revelations_from_wikileaks_documents_on_iraq_afghanistan.html


adding these as well (for those who don't think the above is enough):

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=3518698

http://www.thenation.com/blog/175879/too-often-forgotten-amazingly-long-list-what-we-know-thanks-private-manning#axzz2coqF27hD


NOW that you have been given the TRUTH,
I expect to NOT see you repeating the LIE.



You will know them by their WORKS.

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Response to HardTimes99 (Reply #23)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 11:34 AM

124. this is not about politics

this is about trans hate, which affects many people who never even got near politics.

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Response to DonCoquixote (Reply #124)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 11:51 AM

129. Agreed. I was responding to the poster who referenced the BOG playing

 

dirty to defend Obama against all nay-sayers.

Even though I live in Los Angeles and have made common cause plenty times with the LGBT community here at various protests and rallies sponsored by ANSWER and other left-leaning affinity groups, I have not had much personal exposure to trans issues (or trans hate) before now. That said, I have been simply aghast at some of the bigotry on display here toward Ms. Manning, particularly the notion that she somehow chose (or 'elected') to be trans. She no more "chose" to be trans that I chose to be white or male. I don't feel like I'm the best person to be making this argument, though, given my relative lack of personal exposure to and experience with the trans community.

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Response to Doctor_J (Reply #13)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 06:46 AM

67. That's rich coming from you.

Zero cred.

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Response to Doctor_J (Reply #13)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 07:13 AM

71. You really hate BOGers. It shows all over you.

Poor thing.

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Response to DevonRex (Reply #71)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:13 AM

95. I don't think you understand what hate means,

based on the way you are using it here.

Dislike is not hate. Neither is lack of respect. One can feel dislike, and lack of respect for a group because of their pov, their words, or their actions, without hate.

It's become a political talking point, to call those who disagree "haters." I think that's dishonest and weak.

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Response to LWolf (Reply #95)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:06 PM

130. indeed. I am deeply disappointed in the president and those who

defend his positions on domestic spying and secrecy, Larry summers, school privatization, union busting, torture, drone murder, NDAA, Keystonexl, and so on. I actually think the president is a deep-down good man who has completely succumbed to the forces that really run the country -he would like to do the right thing, but simply can't, and instead of fighting the good fight, has decided to go along with the inexorable takeover by the Koch brothers and their ilk.

But ut you will notice that the BOGers are uniform in their support of the president on all of these issues. Now you see that the same group by and large are using personal slurs against Greenwald and manning. Their worship of Obama has touched their souls in a bad way. They too are decent folk (having voted democratic their entire lives), who have lost their way for a time.

Edit: A few more thoughts on this subject. My feelings on this president's character are much different than my views on his predecessor. I consider GWB to be a stupid, mean, entitled coke-head with basically no redeeming features. He watched the demise of the country with unabashed glee, while Obama watches it with regret and resignation. Now you know the difference between disappointment and hatred.

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Response to LWolf (Reply #95)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 02:20 PM

181. I understand it quite well, thank you so much. nt

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Response to Doctor_J (Reply #13)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:53 AM

106. I am not a fan of that

vacuous echo chamber but to be fair there are a number of Boggers that step up and I appreciate that. However some that scream loudest about Obama and their own sensitivities are nowhere to be found when a GLTB issue comes up.

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Response to Puglover (Reply #106)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:33 PM

139. Well, I have been banned from LGBT group due to a little skirmish awhile back

my 2-3 requests for reinstatement have been ignored/denied, so I can't opine as much as I would like to. I am glad some of the BOG is stepping up, but there seems to be a noticeable overlap. If i have misconstrued this, mea culpa.

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Response to Doctor_J (Reply #139)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 04:11 PM

201. Shoot me a PM and I'll chit chat with the other hosts.

I'll get back to you either way.

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Response to Puglover (Reply #106)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:25 PM

216. Thank you Puglover.

for what you said. It shouldn't have made me get all teary but it did.

I think some are afraid to say anything at all because of the kind of unprovoked attack above.

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Response to DevonRex (Reply #216)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:51 PM

221. God almighty Devon.

You would boot me out of your group so fast it would make my head spin. But people here get so messed up thinking things have to be mutually exclusive. If people want and need a group where they can admire the Prez without any dissention so effing what? It's not my style because I am a contrarian and a curmudgeon.

I have always been very very touched by your support for GLTB issues.

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Response to Doctor_J (Reply #13)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 11:12 AM

120. What has the President got to do with the price of eggs in China?

He has nothing to do with Manning's transgender status. Nothing whatsoever.

I totally support Manning in her quest for the proper gender. The BOG did not deserve that.

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Response to Doctor_J (Reply #13)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:35 PM

142. Are you trying to make up new acronyms on your own? You have to go through the committee dude-

I don't know what you are trying to espouse with "BOGer" but that term is already defined-


http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=boger


Boger
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Boger is the name given to what was believed to be the first golgothan shit demon. Currently, the term boger is used to define all that is wretched and nauseating. In order for one to become a boger, proper hygiene must be completely ignored to the extent that having to tolerate the smell of oneself causes a permanent look of euphoria. Intelligence is a huge factor in defining what is a boger as well. For the boger is, along with the gideon, one of the least cerebral beings known to man. With that being said, it can easily be understood that the word boger is one of the worst insults that can be given in today's culture.
"Goddammit, you freakin' boger, take a damned bath! And brush your teeth, too. Better yet, just shoot yourself!"

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Response to Doctor_J (Reply #13)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 02:15 PM

179. BOGer = Birth Only Gender?

What does gender (sexual preference) have to do with President Obama?

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:15 PM

14. Worst comment I've ever seen here was let stand 3-3

The poster, in the face of comment, self-deleted after the jury verdict, but that verdict shocked me.

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Response to cthulu2016 (Reply #14)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:22 PM

18. I've alerted two posts.

And they were both upheld. It's like Transphobia is a perfectly acceptable prejudice on here. Nothing is being done about it!


Let me speak to all the hateful, transphobic, "democrats" and "progressives" on here. Your words have the power to hurt. You may be anonymous on the internet but you will have to live with your own conscience!

There are many in the LGBT community who are afraid to be themselves because your hateful and bigoted rhetoric makes them feel not welcome.

You may not think you're being mean or hateful but every year many LGBT kids kill themselves because society is so cruel to them.

Re-evaluate your rhetoric.

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Response to cthulu2016 (Reply #14)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:32 AM

36. there is something funny going on with

the jurys imho
I see stuff that should easily be hidden go 3-3 constantly
I have no proof but my gut tells me something funny is going on when I see someone vote hide or leave and the comment they make is in direct conflict with the vote shown
add in the hunting and goading in replies trying to get someone to say something to alert on and the fact that hidden threads reflect on your jury duty
you can come up with a bunch of quiet socks who never do or say anything and by paying for their stars they remain at 100% jury call
at all times
just musing possibilities though I have as I said nothing but my gut feelings and a days research on how juries are worked here

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Response to SwampG8r (Reply #36)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:17 AM

46. There has to be

I served on a jury today for a post that not only should have been hidden, but the poster should have been TOS's immediately. I just barely got hidden in 4-2.

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Response to SwampG8r (Reply #36)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 04:30 AM

61. I alerted a transphobic post yesterday and got it hidden and MIRT'ed

I guess I was lucky to get a unanimous verdict.

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Response to SwampG8r (Reply #36)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:12 AM

94. being a quiet sock would not work totally

a star is worth 40 points, but "over 2,000 posts" is worth 20 and "20 posts in last ten days" is worth 20. So there would have to be SOME activity.

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Response to hfojvt (Reply #94)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:59 AM

111. many of those

who are suddenly very active signed up years ago and have low post counts
I would say yes some activity is required but really nothing more than "K&R" as a reply counts as a post
I bet I can get 20 "k&r"s posted in 5 minutes

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Response to SwampG8r (Reply #36)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 02:09 PM

176. You have to be logged in to be selected for jury. For your theory to work ...

You have to be logged in to be selected for jury. For your theory to work, a person would have to have a separate computer active with each identity logged in and be going around them all round robin refreshing their activity so that they don't appear inactive to the server.

That's more work and expense than it is worth it to a troll. Conceivably there could be one or two like that, but not the numbers your positing.

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Response to Bernardo de La Paz (Reply #176)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 12:16 AM

230. good points

plus it would require either access to a server to break up the isp id I am pretty sure du runs
or several different connections all live at once and running several different computers
like I said all I have is nothing but the jury oddities I see (and those are usually posted in a thread they refer to) and I am sure for everything I see there are several hundred that I do not see because no one posts them
so in reality a very small sample
but there is something weird with the results I do see and this is most likely why I see them
as I see them when someone goes "wtf?" and posts them publicly
I usually don't even log in when I come in du I have found if I wait until I read something I want to respond to the log in process usually makes me go "nah" and just read
saves time and trouble

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Response to cthulu2016 (Reply #14)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 07:31 AM

73. Sad. I had a comment hidden from a non-serious thread for using the word "teleprompter"!!

Most comments on the tread were cracking jokes and i had to jump in. But even slightly poking fun at BO gets you a jury!

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Response to 7962 (Reply #73)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 02:17 PM

180. Teleprompter? Teleprompter!

Teleprompter!!

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Response to Bernardo de La Paz (Reply #180)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 02:32 PM

185. Careful!!

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Response to cthulu2016 (Reply #14)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:41 PM

146. This may just be the free-flowing nature of DU

I haven't been on a jury on this topic, but I probably vote to leave on 90% or more of my jury services. Even when the comments are pretty harsh or in opposition to my own views. Unless the poster is an obvious freeper, I usually let them stand and take their lumps.

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Response to cthulu2016 (Reply #14)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:45 PM

147. juries lean intolerant. I asked Skinner about it

it would be rushing things to expect it to be addressed within 2 years.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:16 PM

15. I didn't have a problem with it when we found out about Chelsea

But I knew it was going to be the flame of the day at some point. Just like how she is a "traitor" and how Edward, Glenn and Miranda are.

I guess we're all traitors and scum of the earth now if we oppose Bushco and the person defending them.

We are all Chelsea Manning.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:16 PM

16. Sadly, not much surprises me anymore.

It has been a shameful day. I'm sorry for the hurt you've felt.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:25 PM

19. met my first transgender person a couple months back

there have most likely been more and i did not know it or care.

she seemed normal enough to me
no horns
no rotating head

i did not feel endangered by talking to her.

my hat is off to her-from what i understand she has had a rough go of it.

i would like to think that perhaps du is just more ignorant than prejudiced.
years ago an openly gay person was a novelty to me
i met more, i learned
would hope du would be the same
i fear we are a work in progress and not a finished product

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Response to dembotoz (Reply #19)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 06:45 AM

65. Met my first transgender 30 years ago when I shared an office. Everyone was cool about it.

It was basically a non-issue, though some women expressed discomfort about the restroom.

First transgender that I knowingly met.

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Response to Bernardo de La Paz (Reply #65)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 07:38 AM

76. Agreed. I've never met a transgender. That I KNOW of.

Not that it would have ever been any of my business either. We never know everyones full personal story.

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Response to Bernardo de La Paz (Reply #65)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:02 PM

153. I worked with a transgender gal

and only ONE woman was upset about her usage of the bathroom while in transition - she called HR daily to complain about it until I put a stop to it - I told her I was calling HR about her lies about this person and I followed through - to their credit, HR had already pegged her as a transphobe

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Response to Bernardo de La Paz (Reply #65)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 04:36 PM

204. I really

Appreciate the sentiment of what you are saying. Can I ask you a quick semantic favor though?

"I met a transgender..." Makes us sound like some kind of subspieces if crawfish.

"I met a transgender person/woman/man..." Is a much more preferred way of saying that.

It'd be like saying "I met a black..."

And "I met a transgendered..." Is the same problem.

I don't mean to pick on you, but from what you said you seem very receptive to LGBT issues so I thought I'd mention it.

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Response to Tien1985 (Reply #204)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 06:12 PM

210. You're right. Sorry about that. I was probably posting too fast, which is a reason, not an excuse.

Thanks for pointing it out. You are absolutely right.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:27 PM

20. I wish there were a better suffix than "phobic"

picked up from homophobic, where I don't like it either. It means "fear of." The implication is that the dislike of or bias against a group of people is based on fear. And maybe that is a factor. But not every prejudice/bias is based on fear, and not every fear leads to bigoted behavior.

I have the same issue with "misogyny," which means hatred or dislike of women, which is not always at the root of people's gender-related prejudices or even objectification.

Of course, better than coming up with a better word for what people are referring to as these things, it would be better if they didn't exist.

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Response to thesquanderer (Reply #20)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 10:25 AM

115. Yup. Transphobia ISN'T a phobia.

It's people being assholes. Plain and simple. Don't tolerate it. Say something.

I've stopped being shocked when I see it. I got to see it firsthand when a friend came out and highly educated people we've both known for many, many years had the gall to argue whether she was really a she in front of her. Nice, huh?

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Response to thesquanderer (Reply #20)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:18 PM

163. Phobic can also be a suffix for something that is repelled

For instance, hydrophobic materials repell or fail to mix with water. In the case of transphobic or homophobic, people are repelled by the actions these people take in their personal lives (something I've never understood). I don't believe they actually fear the homo/trans actions or that they will become like them, they just can't comprehend that nature could have made people less "perfect" than them.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:29 PM

21. And the people who tell off the bigots get posts hidden.

Gotta love DU's "community standards"...

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Response to backscatter712 (Reply #21)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:34 AM

37. see my reply 36 think about it nt

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:39 PM

22. A pediatric surgeon I knew changed genders...

...was a top doctor before and was a top doctor afterward.

A lot of kids and their folks would second my opinion.

She was very lonely, as many docs, however, were surprisingly cruel. This was 1973.

I'll never forget.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Thu Aug 22, 2013, 11:53 PM

24. I've always believed that people should mind their own business.

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Response to pacalo (Reply #24)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 10:11 AM

114. Yep

Agree!

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:03 AM

25. I haven't seen a single one, which means I must have all the little piggie transphobes on ignore.

Yay!



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Response to Zorra (Reply #25)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:39 AM

100. I risked a hide telling one of the fuckers what I really think.

Hell, my chance to serve on a jury is already at zero, so I might as well give it to the bigots straight up.

I've got nothing to lose.

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Response to Zorra (Reply #25)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 11:32 PM

227. Yup, first sign of that, and I never have to see them again! It works well for me, too.

I pay to post here, not have my mind used as a trash can by haters.


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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:05 AM

26. I know this will sound cliche, but I have two dear friends who are transgendered.

The first was my boss and mentor and went through this about 25 years ago when it was somewhat rare. It was a shock to her reports, but we all supported her 1000%. We went through the process with her and could only admire her courage. Today she is happily living as a female and is in a committed relationship.

The second is undergoing reassignment surgery as we speak.

As difficult as it may be for other people to understand such a major decision, what they need more than anything is continued love and support and acceptance.

I'd like to think that any hurtful sentiments are being sent out of ignorance, not malice.

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Response to Flatulo (Reply #26)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:43 AM

102. I agree with you.

I met my BFF when she was finalizing her divorce & starting transition, 12 years ago. We moved into the same apartment building around the same time and would cross paths walking our dogs, so just struck up a chat & started walking together. Practically the first thing she said to me was "I'm transgendered". Apparently people had given her funny looks or made comments because she had her nails done & wore women's jewelry even though for her job, she was still "Todd". My response was "Oh ok. That wasn't my first question, but, cool." She has said on several occassions since then that when I said that, she knew we were going to be friends for a long, long time.

We sorta became each other's "big sister" in a way, because she walked & had posture like a DUDE so I'd jokingly tease her about "put your shoulders back and show off those boobies you're paying so much money for!" We go thrift shopping and makeup shopping (the things she taught ME about makeup!!), she taught me how to cook, we attend each others' kids' tennis matches, soccer games and birthday parties, and we sit for each other's dogs when one or the other is out of town. Now I can barely remember Todd - who I met all those years ago.

People are people. We all need friends, support, love, acceptance.

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Response to Myrina (Reply #102)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:55 AM

109. Yeah, I think some people believe that tolerance is enough, and in many cases it is, but

people want to be loved and accepted by family and friends.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:08 AM

28. The posts here broke my heart! I can not imagine how hurt you must feel.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:16 AM

29. I hope the world your child grows up to see

is a kinder one than the one that child is spending childhood in.

May both of you find healing and understanding.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:21 AM

31. Some of us are here for you

And always will be.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:29 AM

33. I'm so sorry you and your child endure such bigotry.

I truly do.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:29 AM

34. May we all become educated and compassionate toward all fellow human beings. n/t

 

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Response to Fire Walk With Me (Reply #34)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 11:24 AM

122. Unlikely, but we can hope.

My education has taught me that there is an awful mean streak in far too many human beings. It seemed that we were moving toward a more compassionate, open society, but the backlash is overwhelming. The publicity branch of the GOP, Fox Noise, has convinced millions that it's cool to be a hateful, selfish, bigot.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:30 AM

35. When Manning released their pictures an OP was made.

That OP resulted in me getting 4 hides in one day. A record, to be sure. The OP was just so "concerned" about said image would "damage" or "shame" Manning. When in Manning's logs with Lamo they said explicitly that images of them as a boy would be more hurtful.

There is an obvious connection between posters in that other thread and this thread.

I could say I was shocked, but I'm not.

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Response to joshcryer (Reply #35)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:36 AM

38. see reply 36 nt

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Response to joshcryer (Reply #35)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:22 PM

135. and I'm not shocked by you continuing your unfounded smear campaign

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Response to cali (Reply #135)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 04:09 PM

200. Chance of serving on a Jury: 0% ...looks like that poster has some issues. n/t

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Response to joshcryer (Reply #35)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:35 PM

143. I'm not sure that Catherina is homophobic or against transgenders from that OP.

 

It looks to me as though she was outraged by the army leaking the Chelsea photo as a presumed attempt to turn "real men" against her; that outraged me as well, then it turned out to have been part of the court documentation. All she did wrong AFAICS was to get the transgender pronouns wrong, and that's something we'll all have to learn to get right in order to honor them as fellow humans deserving the same rights and considerations.

Are you both on the same side and are unaware of it? Seriously, just attempting to understand.

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Response to Fire Walk With Me (Reply #143)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:48 PM

148. It was outrage over calling it a mental illness too.

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Response to Neoma (Reply #148)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:09 PM

157. Did Catherina say that? I'd definitely like to know if so..

 

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Response to Fire Walk With Me (Reply #157)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:12 PM

159. She posted the article that said it It is at the end of her OP.

It clearly shows that they released it to smear Manning. THAT is her outrage.

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Response to Neoma (Reply #159)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:31 PM

166. Okay, thanks. This is mis-communication; Catherina is not homophobic but the army is, etc.

 

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Response to Fire Walk With Me (Reply #166)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:32 PM

167. Yeah.

She's pretty stressed out over this.

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Response to Neoma (Reply #167)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:36 PM

169. Hence the conversation-starters :) Communication, not reaction. Thanks!

 

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Response to joshcryer (Reply #35)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:35 PM

144. josh, that is simply not fair. Concern for the ramifications of that photo's release from segments

of our society who would place their bigotry above all else, seems clearly realized. Those expressing concern for that photo's release very likely did not know it had been put into evidence by the defense (as was the case with me) and assumed it was an intentional attempt to incite homophobic/transphobic factions and to thus diminish Manning's message with respect to our Nation's refusal to address war crimes committed in "OUR" name.

I understand the emotions that accompany these discussions, but let's take a step back before jumping to hurtful (and very wrong) conclusions and accusations.

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Response to joshcryer (Reply #35)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:49 PM

149. Just when I think you may have a decent bone in your body.

You prove that my instincts about you are accurate. This is low, but more so it is dishonest and stunningly untrue.

It is sime of the highest order and the only thing I am unsure of is whether you are more like a snake or a weasel.

Jury, do your duty, but I will defend an innocent person against these base accusations no matter what the outcome.

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Response to joshcryer (Reply #35)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:53 PM

150. I think you misunderstood Catherina's post

It was about the prosecution releasing it to cause harm to Manning.

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Response to maddezmom (Reply #150)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 02:13 PM

177. But the prosecution didn't release it....the defense did. The fact that she refused to acknowledge

that, and appropriately amend her OP was puzzling.

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Response to msanthrope (Reply #177)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 03:22 PM

189. I thought the defense used the pictures at the trial but the Army posted it....regardless

I guess the OP could have been edited but to say Catherina is a bigot or homophobe like some have done it beyond the pale.

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Response to maddezmom (Reply #189)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 03:31 PM

190. The Army is under a FOIA order, filed by the press and supporters of Manning, who wished

that all trial evidence and transcripts be released quickly. You can hardly fault the Army for obeying the order granted by the judge. The exhibit in question has been available since it was entered into evidence, here--- (DE QQQ)

http://www.alexaobrien.com/secondsight/wikileaks/bradley_manning/appellate_exhib/united_states_versus_private_first_class_bradley_manning_searchable_legal_filings_and_rulings.html


The OP should have been edited within minutes of several posters providing Catherina the facts that were apparent in her own links. It's a cautionary tale to those who maintain extensive iggy lists.

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Response to msanthrope (Reply #190)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 03:34 PM

192. Thanks for the info

And you are correct about the iggy lists.

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Response to maddezmom (Reply #192)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 03:45 PM

193. I happen to think that Skinner, EarlG, and Elad are fucking geniuses. And I don't say that lightly.

I think after many, many years of watching the bullshit that goes down on DU, they have made the perfect DU-surfing tool--the 'ignore list.'

If you are truly being bothered by one or two (or five) posters, it is a godsend that keeps YOUR sanity while they burn themselves out.

But if you cannot navigate DU without putting scores of posters on ignore, AND you like posting multiple threads that are, shall we say, "factually compromised" then the ignore list becomes it's own disciplinary tool. It bites you on the ass as your thread becomes filled with posts that challenge your facts but don't penetrate your bubble...because you have made your own choices.

It's genius.

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Response to msanthrope (Reply #193)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 03:50 PM

194. The only problem is some

Log out and read their ignores and then edit their OP's to talk to the people they are ignoring.

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Response to maddezmom (Reply #194)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 04:07 PM

199. They are soooooooo clever....nt

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Response to joshcryer (Reply #35)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:14 PM

161. Dude, you're just way out of line.

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Response to joshcryer (Reply #35)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:48 PM

174. your post is disgusting and purposely misleading. nt

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Response to joshcryer (Reply #35)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 03:55 PM

196. ...and then there is a mass of your self deleted posts ...to avoid getting them hidden? n/t

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Response to joshcryer (Reply #35)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 04:36 PM

203. That seems to be a blatant misrepresentation of the situation, to put it mildly.

Not fair and not cool.

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Response to Warren DeMontague (Reply #203)

Sun Aug 25, 2013, 03:26 AM

260. I got the impression it wasn't transphobia, but poor fact checking...

The person posted it because they thought the army had released the photo and didn't realise it was released because of an FOI request by the defence. They didn't help matters by refusing to edit the OP itself, but I didn't see anything there I'd think was transphobic.

Having said that, I have little sympathy for that person's supposed stress levels over being accused of transphobia when they themselves are no stranger to accusing other DUers of not particularly pleasant things. Live by the sword, die by the sword, and all those other clichés that apply...

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Response to joshcryer (Reply #35)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 05:23 PM

209. Can you give it a rest? Yesterday was enough as evidenced by the

juries. The OP mentioned was a passionate response.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:42 AM

39. K&R from a gay man. nt

 

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:47 AM

40. I must be truly gifted. I haven't seen a single hurtful post here.

I do have one small problem though. How to directly refer to Ex-Pfc Manning. I feel that people who throw themselves on grenades to save others are heroes and deserve respect. Any reference to rank held now or in the past seems tainted, I don't want her honor sullied by associating it with the corroded honor of the Army. I don't know her and am uncomfortable with calling her by her first name.

I think will use "Ms. Manning".

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:49 AM

41. Absolute ignorance - off the chart with some outright shameless bigotry imo

Flippant and not even trying ....."traitor' was added to discussions defensibly instead when appealed to stop it
I merely have friends and it pissed me off - Can't imagine the slam you felt today~~

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:58 AM

42. I do not believe most members of DU are transphobic.

Based on the recent threads relating to Manning's desire for treatment while incarcerated, a few posters were certainly less than sympathetic. The unusual comments by these individuals sadly overshadowed the vast majority of posters who are in no way prejudiced, and entirely sympathetic to the trials and tribulations of the transgendered.



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Response to branford (Reply #42)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:25 AM

84. No not most, but plenty are prejudiced against transgendered people and gay people it is

a DU constant, and it comes from the same regular cohort. You are not trans or gay clearly so your opinion is your opinion, like that of a white man who says there is no more racism in America. Just so you know.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:01 AM

43. wish things were different

That should not even come up.we are all equal.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:10 AM

44. Thank you, Warren Stupidity, for telling it like it is.

Recommend and

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:12 AM

45. It is utterly shameful to see -

on this site.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:24 AM

47. Yeah

it flares up like a nasty rash, around here, every now and again.

A lot of people who like to float around on clouds of their imagined moral superiority, have left a pretty icky trail of bigoted statements against transpeople in all kinds of interesting places. Ew.

It's pathetic.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:30 AM

48. +1

It's pathetic.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:32 AM

49. I did not see one thing

But I have a very extensive ignore list.

I love living in a trans-friendly city (Portland, OR) -- I know many transgender people who are able to live their lives in peace here.

I don't think you can say the same thing about any Internet forum, though -- ignorance and/or outright bigotry appear everywhere, and DU is certainly not immune.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:32 AM

50. You only learned that today?

This place has been heavily cisnormative for as long as I've been here.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:33 AM

51. I could see it coming so I avoided DU most of today...nt

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:40 AM

52. It has been very disillusioning

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 02:16 AM

53. There is a long history of transphobia and homophobia here.

When it comes to those two topics, it is very hard to tell the difference between DU and sites like FR and even worse right wing sites.

It is beyond hurtful. It is the height of stupidity. There is a difference between ignorance and stupidity. Posters with an ignorant state of mind are not aware of how offensive something is. Posters with a willfully stupid state of mind are aware of how offensive something is, but refuse to learn when people are right there trying to educate them. They are not only offensive, stupid and rude, but some go as far as to alert stalk the LGBT Group with silly alerts if any of us in the LGBT community dare tries to vent about the amount of outright hatred toward us on DU. In the past, there were homophobic and transphobic posters on DU who came to the old DU2 Forum and actively taunted us and posted outright lies as fact. We had to put up with it until those posters were tombstoned for other reasons for posting horrid nonsense in another part of DU on other topics.

DU3 seems to be a free for all with just about anything allowed. We do, as a community, have a little control of the LGBT Group nowadays with hosts able to block members, but there isn't a thing in the world we can do about the alert stalkers who try to shut us up through the jury system if we dare complain. It effectively shuts our conversations about the transphobia and homophobia on DU down...or makes us have to start new threads on those topics.

So, watch out. Your post here might get shut down as "meta" by the pro homophobia/transphobia contingent here on DU. I'm glad you said something/spoke up about the transphobia on DU though. It needed to be said.

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Response to Jamastiene (Reply #53)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 07:46 AM

81. Theres really a homophobia/transphobia contingent on DU? Of all places?

That amazes me. And the fact that they're still HERE posting. I get slammed any time I post anything slightly NOT left. I don't see how these people would last around here.

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Response to 7962 (Reply #81)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 10:02 PM

225. Yes there is.

It's pretty obvious except to those who are willfully ignorant or pretending to be and those who are part of said pro homophobia/transphobia contingent.

"I don't see how these people would last around here." Lol, good one.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 02:41 AM

54. I'm so sorry Warren, that you've had to endure



It has been maddening today and I am so saddened by some of the OPs and responses I've read.

I alerted on a couple of posts early in the day. I noted in one that what was written was "...hurtful to the transgender community and their loved ones," and that "we're a open-minded forum that emphasizes tolerance and acceptance and ignorant post like this serve to do the opposite."

The jury elected to 'Leave it Alone.'

More than that, however, here are a couple of the responses I received from jury members:

"...first I voted to hide, then I did not like the intolerant tone of the alert."

"Alerter needs to grow up. Poster admitted they are having a hard time. They didn't say shit about about being hateful or intolerant. Alerter is a fucking asshole for wasting peoples time."

*sigh*


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Response to Emit (Reply #54)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 07:37 AM

75. Oh man!

Did you ever draw some crappy jurors!

That second response should itself be hidden!

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Response to Emit (Reply #54)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:06 AM

92. Alert abuse on your jury results notice.

The admins can see who made the comments. Those individual comments wouldn't get them PPRd, but people who are repeatedly occasionally are shown the door. But when they use the jury system to hide it, the admins don't see it unless we bring it to their attention.

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Response to Ms. Toad (Reply #92)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 11:56 PM

228. +1

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 02:43 AM

55. Anyone transphobic should be instabanned

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 03:00 AM

56. Who are we to judge.

I say that to myself several times a day.



-p

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Response to Phlem (Reply #56)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 04:26 AM

60. with respect to right wingers

transgender,..people oppressed. Nuff said.

-p

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 03:47 AM

57. I finally read some of it. Blecccccchhhhh!

Trans hatred is pretty common - as open expression of hatred for gay people becomes more taboo, watch for an increase in hatred of trans people.

Hell, even HRC threw trans people under the bus (ENDA)

http://transgriot.blogspot.com/2013/04/why-trans-community-loathes-hrc.html

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 04:05 AM

58. The internet is a hateful place

Seeing those reactions here, it doesn't surprise me at all.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 04:12 AM

59. a lot of people have had little exposure to transgender people.

At one time not very long ago most Americans - as far as they knew - didn't think they knew one single gay person. When that changed - a lot of the prejudice started to evaporate. Frankly, until last year - I didn't on a personal level know one single openly transgender person. - Now a doctor I worked with is a transgender person and is a highly respected surgeon. Peoples' prejudices tend to at least start evaporating when they know people in real life.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 05:10 AM

62. My child's godfather is TG. 35 years of hell until the surgery was completed. But it still wasn't

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when he married and adopted a child and his wife neglected and abused his daughter, the little girl had PTSD by all of that and the mother had her in custody for weekend visitation only.

But she continued to be irresponsible and cruel and the child cried about being forced to spend the weekend with them. The mother's parents were wild-eyed fundie while he and his mother are Jewish. They told the little girl her daddy was going to hell, etc.

As they tried to reduce visitation due to the fear and trauma and the doctor came to court, the ex found a bigoted public lawyer to try to take away his rights.

It was based on nothing about his parenting; he was exemplary. It was all about what he was, but who he'd been and that he was TG. Oh, and that he was Jewish. They were relentless, didn't even have to pay. The papers they filed in court to argue custody were idiotic. It was a nightmare, not knowing what outrageous charges were going to be argued next, and going to another hearing to defend against.

It was all about bigotry, not the best interest of the child. This drug out for years to torment all of us. Every weekend it was, 'What did they do now?'

He and the family had to pay tens of thousands of dollars and hire private detectives to show what the birth mother was doing. And this woman was a mess, I won't go into the shocking details. But the judge did see through it and finally there was enough to made the visits only in public places like the zoo with several of us so they couldn't freak her out. She didn't want to see them, but as the biological family it was their chance to wage emotional abuse and it took its toll on us.

My heart hurts now just thinking about what he went through. He didn't ask to be born the way he was and nothing but surgery and hormones finally made him feel comfortable in his own skin. If someone has not experienced that, they should just respect that others are different. And it's none of their business.

So the hell didn't end. But we've supported him, his mother and I, my kid adores him (always felt he was a man) and after going through another nearly twenty years his life is now settled.

His daughter is happy and did excellent in school, brought up in the reformed synagogue and he has found happiness. He is a parent many kids would dream of having. She has grown up to be fine young lady and the pride of the family despite the dysfunctional maternal side of the family.

The pain of the physical changes, the financial hardship (over $100K) and social stigma were the things of nightmares. My kid is also different and been discriminated against.

There are sick, selfish, sadistic, self-righteous and petty people in this world that do great harm. Yet claim that they are 'normal' and others have 'something wrong with them.'

I told some of them when they started going off about me and mine, that if being cruel and hateful was normal, I'd take my 'not quite right' family any day.

It's about the heart. As I'm getting older, I have no patience for hatred, people taking advantage and hurting others for their own gain. I am quite intolerant on that, having seen there is no value in learning from them. Life is short, many have gone through or are going through incredible pain, and no one has the right to judge.

That's it for me.

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Response to freshwest (Reply #62)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 06:43 AM

254. i just want to hug you



life's too short for that kind of shit. i'm so happy it has turned out well for your friend and his daughter. love wins

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Response to barbtries (Reply #254)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 01:47 PM

255. Thanks, I'm having to go back and edit because it still makes me so upset I can't say it right.

I can't believe people are so ignorant. I miss the seventies, really.

We were taught about TG in college and there was nothing 'abnormal' in it for us. This is part of the Reagan era dumbing down of America.

It was later when we had to deal with all of this in public. Like abortions, no longer being between the doctors and families who were dealing with private matters, being judged by yahoos and fanatics now.



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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 06:39 AM

64. We have a crowd with all the decency and warmth of a Vogan payday loan company.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 06:46 AM

66. l think a lot of people need more exposure

and explanation.

Immediately shaming people who don't understand as "transphobic" is probably not the best approach.

We have a very dear friend who is transitioning F-to-M. We frequently slip up with our pronouns. It doesn't mean we're transphobic - we just knew him as "her" for years, and habits are hard to break. He's extremely patient with us, and while we feel terrible when we mess up, he understands.

I think this is an opportunity to teach, not preach. Honest mistakes should be forgiven. Manning is not a personal friend of (m)any people here, and if they say "Bradley" it's not necessarily an insult.

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Response to RudynJack (Reply #66)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:16 AM

96. There is a difference between slipping in conversation -

where there is give and take and no inherent chance to easily stop the tongue before the gender you've used for years slips out. A friend of mine tolerated her friends slipping with pronouns for as long as they had known her as a male. Most didn't need that long - but it is an acknowledgement that it is sometimes hard to instantly switch.

But when you are posting on the internet (especially with forever-editing, and especially as a response to a letter which expressly requested that she be referred to using female pronouns), there is no excuse to get gender wrong. I'll be more tolerant with slips like using transgender as a noun, or adding "ed" to the end. Those kinds of slips are part of getting used to a new concept -and might even require some research if you don't happen to stumble across a recent explanation of preferences.

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Response to RudynJack (Reply #66)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 10:00 AM

112. I think that is right

I don't know much about transgender and haven't been around anyone who I could learn about it first hand. Probably part of the reason is I've been outside the US for the better part of 10 years and those things are not as common where I live. For me it's kind of like being isolated to a certain degree (other than DU and Facebook).

I had a gay uncle who died many years ago and I always wished I'd gotten to know him better (I think I saw him twice when I was a kid). He was a nice guy who died well before he should have.

People have a tendency to jump to conclusions before they know your situation.

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Response to RudynJack (Reply #66)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 03:34 PM

191. My BNL, who I refer to above, was a person who made sure we referred to him as a 'he' long before

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he decided SAS was the way to go.

He did not fit into the categories people tried to box him into, he rebelled against it. We were regulars at a club that specifically catered to lesbians but all were welcome as most places were at that time. I chose to live in an area that was mostly gay as I felt much more comfortable and at ease there. My BNL had a relationship with a woman for some years then, and people assumed that he was lesbian and nothing more was said.

He was distinctly 'male' in all life endeavors, and in the social arena, was almost of the kind of guy I would not have liked to hang around with. Fierce as a bear, angry, had very definite ideas about how women 'should' act, stuff like that. He was into motor bikes, leather, pick up trucks, country music and had tattoos of naked ladies gracing his arms, the whole bit.

He was defiant about his strong interest in women and wouldn't let anyone tell him he was anything other than what he then defined himself to be His mom and I thought he felt he needed to prove something in a society where everyone seems to be forced to be hyper male or hyper female.

Or maybe it was just who he was, but a few years after the SAS and settling down, he had the tattoos removed, as if he had nothing to prove then. And most of his hyper male persona vanished. His life with women may have made him more sensitive in his role as a father of his daughter, as he was able to relate to her so well. He'd seen life from both sides and I felt she was lucky.

So the SAS (or SRAS) and finally getting to be a father let him be freer to express all of his traits, being at peace. He is a respected person in his work and the synagogue where they never had any issue with him. So that's why I think that.

The roles that people are pigeonholed into is a problem for straights as well as gays. I see human sexuality as spectrum and not able to be defined as it has been. I feel that trying to put someone in a box is coercion, and not done for their good, but to use them.

But I will say that he was a boy or man all along. He hated wearing dresses and all of that, but so did I. He felt like a freak in a dress and so did I. But I'm just a straight female, who doesn't go into all that social female stuff, it feels unnatual to me. But I am definitely hetero. I'm 'weird,' but it's just me.

It's much easier for a woman to dress as a man if we're talking jeans and stuff, than the other way around, more social acceptance. And not everyone who wears the clothes fitting another gender model can be said to be LGBT or straight. Roman men wore togas, some Muslim men wear robes and some Scots wear kilts. Meh.

My son loves to wear pink and purple and loves romantic and girlie things, always has and has been called names for that. But that ended up being the least of his problems, really.

At least that barrier has been broken, and no one gives me any flak for my choice of clothing, either, but as ridiculous as it sounds to us now, it used to be a social problem. I do remember the flap about men wearing pink or doing housework. My first husband was a quarterback who took ballet in college, very tall, hairy chest and big muscles, for flexibility. And he was good at sewing and cooking. Some people need to grow up and get their noses out of other people's business.

Okay, back to my BNL. One afternoon as he was taking my son for a ride in the truck to the circus and then came back and they were playing in the yard, his mom and I were watching them and I said to her, 'Please don't take this the wrong way, but your daughter is a man.'

I said that because my son reacted to men and women quite differently. Whenever he saw my BNL, his eyes lit up, as his father (my second husband) was AWOL. For him, my BNL was 'the man,' the father he wanted to have and he loved him. There was no doubt in his mind what gender his 'uncle' was. This was before the mastectomy and certainly my son didn't know what was or was not in his underwear. He just 'knew.'

He and my son saw each for years and my son experienced bigotry for that in addition to all the other things that life was going to slap him in the face with, because some people are pigs.

She replied when I made that statement, 'We have been talking about the same thing. That 'X' is really coming from a different place, and we're looking into changing that for 'X.' (I won't write his name here, which he also changed legally.)

We all went through this process at different levels for the next few years. The doctors explaining how it was that he was born a man, but not with all the 'plumbing' as some might say. Went into explanations of the pre-natal development of the brain, all of that. The psychiatrist counseled him for a year, as this had to be well documented to get the SA process going.

From then it was a series of taking hormones, but not having to experiment with clothing as he never wore anything but 'male' clothing, anyway. He'd been going to the men's bathroom for years and standing up in a stall to 'take a leak.' This is the solution to the TG bath room issue, too, I think.

But then came the harder things, the mastectomy and hysterectomy. Not all people go through that. Then the creation of a phallus out of his body tissue. He had serious health problems through all of it. He was very ill for a while. Anyone who thinks SAS is like going shopping, needs to have their head examined.

Through it all he never complained, it was all just matter of course to him, and us. He never looked back or doubted his decision.

The state recognized the change, and all of his official documents were changed from female to male and in the eyes of the law, but not ignorant busy bodies. He was what he was.

When he had troubles to go through (mentioned in my post above) he also did not complain about bigotry, but instead he focused on the matter at hand, not hurt feelings. He was used to being miscategorized and didn't give a damn about what others thought about his sexual identity.

The safety of his little girl was all that mattered and his chance to be a father and live his life as he was. Still, it was an awful time for all of us, but he just kept plowing through the whole thing, never questioning himself as he'd gotten over that as a 'little girl.'

I think some people are mixing the issues of what they have learned about Manning's more private details with the politics. They can't help it. Just as there are some who see attacks on PBO as racist.

Some remarks on either, while not consciously bigoted still come from a place of finding something deeply wrong with both, with misjudging, that is not justified. But I empathize with the pain of those like Manning.

When one looks at the actions of the person and what they are working to do with their lives, which transcend the bodies that we live in and so many have prejudices about it, it is unavoidable.

I'm still seeing articles terming Manning as a homosexual. What does it matter, in terms of what a person does, we might ask. And we are talking about media that is going to overdo everything to make a buck.

Many people like me don't take anything that reminds them of family and friends being put down without a fight.

I don't feel that is what the Democratic Party is about, either. We are not the party of denying minorities, gays and women their rights as human beings. JMHO.

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Response to freshwest (Reply #191)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 01:52 AM

243. I'm sorry...

I'm no familiar with your acronyms. What are BNL and SAS?

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Response to RudynJack (Reply #243)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 02:07 AM

248. No problemo. BNL = Brother-In-Law; SAS = Sexual Assignment Surgery.

It probably should have been SRAS but we referred to it as SAS. For him, it was repairing what nature had not made for him.

The fundie ex's family not only got him in court for being TG, but Jewish, and then told his daughter that he was not really her father as he was not a man and he had to answer that for her.

He explained to her at that young age that he had a very small penis (in the womb some tissue ends up as a clitoris or a penis, IIRC) so he was dissembling in a way, but how do you tell a 4 year old?

But these are just some of the stumbling blocks and the invasion of privacy that TGs face in society.

It should have never been brought up. Who, other than women who now have to submit to transvaginal ultrasounds, have so many people getting into their private parts? And for good measure, by the same people that scream about the 4th and privacy rights?

It pisses me off.


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Response to freshwest (Reply #248)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 05:10 AM

253. Thank you.

I agree.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 06:46 AM

68. ...

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 06:47 AM

69. Everyone in this country has the right . . .

Last edited Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:30 AM - Edit history (1)

Some people will go to any lengths to protect the NSA's intelligence empire and our government's policies and practices generally. Others are simply narrow-minded. Despite those exceptions, however, I think it is safe to say that most people posting on Democratic Underground realize everyone in this country has the right to what Thomas Jefferson called, "The pursuit of happiness." Surely that must include choosing one's own sexual identity?

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 06:48 AM

70. Soidarity

For all the transgenders here,including myself
I offer I am with y'all.

Transphobic people need to grow up and get past that ignorant middle school mentality,bullies I have no tolerance for.

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Response to undergroundpanther (Reply #70)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:26 AM

85. I too have no tolerance

so we need to stick together.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 07:20 AM

72. Can you oppose Manning and not be transphobic?

Certainly my feelings about her have nothing to do with transphobia. I could care less about which sex she wants to be. The persons action are what matter.

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Response to davidpdx (Reply #72)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 07:33 AM

74. I agree. My opinions were formed well before I knew of his gender identity.

Doesnt matter to me as far as his actions are concerned.

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Response to 7962 (Reply #74)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:44 AM

88. Please either changes your gender pronouns,

or delete. It is offensive to refer to someone who has expressly asked to be referred to using female pronouns using the pronoun "his."

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Response to Ms. Toad (Reply #88)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:09 AM

93. Actually you responded to the wrong post

I used she, the person who responded to me didn't. Not my fault.

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Response to davidpdx (Reply #93)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:25 AM

98. No - follow the links on the right corner of the post.

The response you just responded to was to the person who used male pronouns.

My post to you was regarding the use of the word "sex" rather than "gender" and the phrase "wants to be" rather than "is." Those are more subtle issues, but they are important to trans* individuals because the former is a misunderstanding that being a transgender individual has to do with gender (mind) rather than sex (body parts, or activity). The latter is more troubling, because it denies the reality of what she has just told you - that she is a woman, not that she wants to be one, and further implies that she must do something to achieve that status.

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Response to davidpdx (Reply #72)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:47 AM

89. Gender, not sex -

and "is" not "wants to be."

Feel free to oppose Manning - but how you speak about her suggests that you may need to spend some time learning how to be respectful of trans* people, in general.

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Response to Ms. Toad (Reply #89)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:29 AM

99. Has nothing to do with that

Has everything with twisting words to make people seem "phobic". My statement stands, I have no problem with her.

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Response to davidpdx (Reply #99)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:42 AM

101. It isn't twisting words -

The way you speak about transgender individuals is important - and a refusing to acknowledge, or attempt to learn from, individuals who your comments hurt says a lot more about where your heart is at than inadvertently slipping out of a lack of familiarity with language preferences in the first place.

It isn't just about using the right pronoun.

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Response to Ms. Toad (Reply #101)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:51 AM

104. I admit I don't know much about it so I'll use Google and learn

The thing that I see is people can't separate the person from the actions. That was my point.

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Response to davidpdx (Reply #104)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:55 AM

107. And that is a valid point.

Thanks for making the effort to learn!

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Response to davidpdx (Reply #72)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 11:06 AM

117. I dunno, when one compares hormone treatment to wanting a 50" tv, probably not.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Reply #117)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 02:23 PM

182. Do you think everyone who opposes what Manning did thinks that?

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Response to davidpdx (Reply #182)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 03:50 PM

195. no. Nor have I ever said that, so I'm wondering why you are persisting in beating this particular

strawman to death.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Reply #195)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:34 PM

222. I wasn't beating it, just looking for an answer

Also I wasn't necessarily implying you were saying that, but that some on the board don't seem to be able to separate the two.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Reply #117)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 12:00 AM

229. That's fucked up. You can still go back and alert that. it's TOS. They shouldn't be here.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 07:40 AM

78. That's the result of having...

... DINOs among us. They have no integrity or compassion.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 07:43 AM

79. Not only that, I had a post deleted calling out the ugliest bigotry I have ever seen here.

 

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:53 AM

91. Skinner's House is always hateful during such times and should be avoided by good people

I skipped most of yesterday just to avoid the hate flowing from those same old handful of constant haters, the ones who hide behind Obama's name as they hurl slurs and invective at others for sport.

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Response to Bluenorthwest (Reply #91)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 02:15 PM

178. so true. nt

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:17 AM

97. First, you must de-humanize "the enemy". nt

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:47 AM

103. Manning's punishment has nothing to do with being transgender.

 

He broke the law. He will go to prison.

Since when does someone going to prison get what they wanted?

I wonder how many here would even care about Manning if he wasn't transgender.

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Response to MjolnirTime (Reply #103)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:51 AM

105. So you don't think he should receive medical care in prison?

 

What about dental?

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Response to The Link (Reply #105)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:55 AM

108. He is not sick. If he does get ill, he will be treated.

 

Elective surgery is not provided.

Who would pay for it?

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Response to MjolnirTime (Reply #108)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 11:11 AM

119. First - care for trans* individuals does not necessarily involve surgery.

Second, hormone therapy can be a very effective treatment for some mental health issues which are created or exascerbated by being forced to live as a man when you are a woman.

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Response to MjolnirTime (Reply #108)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 11:46 AM

127. Oh, I think he might have been sick.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/wikileaks/8964543/Bradley-Manning-attacked-female-soldier-and-sent-picture-of-himself-as-a-woman.html

Unfortunately, the reported circumstances are such that we might suspect he had a problem with women, one that went untreated. His treatment in custody can't have helped, and seems to have involved torture.

I couldn't join a chorus calling for transition until I thought Manning was entirely sane and able to decide on such a course. I could understand someone in the same situation's wanting desperately to be someone else, but are we just going to celebrate his declaring himself a woman without caring for what might be best for the soldier?

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Response to MjolnirTime (Reply #108)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 11:47 AM

128. No she is not sick but she has a medical condition

And deserves medical treatment just like any other inmate.

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Response to maddezmom (Reply #128)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 01:03 AM

235. It's a well-known condition, not a choice. See my reply on thread. Doctors at the trial agreed.

And people have gotten the surgeries in prisons in the past, IIRC.

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Response to alp227 (Reply #183)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:04 PM

214. I'm starting to feel a bit guilty for attracting bigots to the admin bug zapper.

Nah.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:57 AM

110. My dear Warren, I wish I could absorb your pain away

but if it can be of some consolation, we ARE winning even if the progress is slow, way too slow.

I thought this was a settled manner at DU after the vicious wars we had about this last year and thought we won but it looks like we won important battles and not the whole war yet.

Just know they WILL NOT WIN.

Now I understand better how we became such natural allies Warren. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this all fucking over again here but our allies then are our allies NOW, and if anything we've grown in numbers.

They. Will. Not. Win.



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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 10:05 AM

113. Yes indeedy they are, and also have issues with HC for all, and numerous other mytsifying...

 

things that one would THINK that people on a Democratic board would just have as basic core beliefs.

I am very sorry that you have to see this kind of crap. Manning should be given the care she needs AND be taken care of for her gender change. Why is this so hard to get?

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 10:41 AM

116. A lot of it is about power. It is easy to bully on the internet. Righteous bullying.

Take a side that you rationalize as righteous, then you are justified (in your own mind) for just about anything.

Supporting a Democratic president is to some justification for righteous bullying.

Supporting the Authoritarian State over individual whistle-blowers is another. And also LGBT issues are chosen by bullies.

Bully = authoritarian.

I recommend "The Authoritarians" by Bob Altemeyer. I think it's still free on the internetz.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 11:10 AM

118. Phobic or Intolerant?

Phobia - an exaggerated usually inexplicable and illogical fear of a particular object, class of objects, or situation

I submit that phobic is not the term you're looking for here.

Dale

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Response to NashuaDW (Reply #118)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:40 PM

171. In its general usage it also covers bigoted assholes. nt.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 11:23 AM

121. It's a learning curve that people will be going through.

I'm going through it myself.
I certainly don't want to hurt anyone but since I haven't had much direct contact with this issue before and I found that I've been insensitive without realizing it.
I would bet that once people understand what kind of things hurt you'll find that it is ignorance, not prejudice, and this will be corrected in time.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 11:28 AM

123. k&R n/t

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 11:38 AM

125. Hope for the change I see in post on inmate rape

There was a time when, even here on DU, I would often see folks say, "well I hope they get raped in prison like they deserve".

Now I rarely see that because the rest of us on DU said over & over again, "NO ONE ever deserves to be raped... especially vulnerable inmates" because that's wrong, that's not who WE are. We, as a community say NO DESERVES RAPE."

Surely we'll see that change on DU. We did what we did when we didn't know better. When we knew better, we did better. Poorly paraphrasing Maya Angelou.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:09 PM

131. Well, untill...

their surgery and name change, it seems to me we are still talking about Bradley Manning. Post-op and post-court, then she will be Chelsea. For their sake ("their" now being an acceptable singular pronoun, my elementary school teacher be damned) I hope it isn't too long. I cannot imagine how horrible that must be to feel such a way about one's self (I can make a barely-educated guess, and then multiply that a couple dozen times to get closer). FI wish him a speedy, successful and comfortable transition.

That doesn't make one transphobic (I don't think... I'm not transgendered, so I don't know what is offensive or not... unlike knowing how every nickname used for minorities in my area MUST be incredibly offensive, judging by the characters using them). I think it's an interesting process and would like to learn more about it. Definitely not for me, but it's NOT "for me," so it doesn't matter what the hell I think as long as I treat people by how they act and what they say, rather than what they look like or whether their appearance conforms to their genetics.

You are certainly right, people screaming about using it as a cover, saying things like "Oh, well he is one messed up dude" and crap like that is hurtful. It sounds like most people in my (red) area talking about, well, anything but being a white cracker-ass "manly-man" who gets their kids killed by leaving loaded guns around the house.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:10 PM

132. Yep! Shameful isn't it? There's quite a few of them on this board.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:12 PM

133. So sorry you had to witness that.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:13 PM

134. So many bigoted slugs, and not enough salt...

Pizza's on back-order right now.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:22 PM

136. I've learned more and more that DU is NOT what I used to think it was! DU can be

a very hurtful site.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:25 PM

137. I understand, I've seen it too

I am sorry you've had to experience that here. You'd think DU could be a place to go for understanding and compassion. But I understand how hurtful it can be, I've seen hurtful comments by people here on other issues as well. I'm one of those some talk about who've been here for years but doesn't comment much. I used to love coming here to see the back and forth conversation on progressive issues, to feel not alone in my thinking or to get useful information about an issue I've been confused about myself. I feel like more and more, though, there are just hateful comments or just plain lack of compassion and understanding for difference here. Instead of conversation, insults. Instead of information, ignorance and lack of thoughtfulness. It's sad. I still log on every day to see information and find useful conversations, but have to pick and choose a lot more than I used to. I feel like the right-ward movement of politics in this country has affected us even here on DU, where expressions of prejudice and lack of understanding are just growing all the time. I wish we didn't have to combat that here on DU. I wish it were not true, but it is.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:27 PM

138. Many being 1 out of 10, 1 out of 20, 1 out of 50?

Every post I see that is transphobic/has transphobic leanings has at least 20 replies saying what a piece of scum the poster is-

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Response to snooper2 (Reply #138)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:34 PM

140. What percentage would you find acceptable?

 

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Response to The Link (Reply #140)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:37 PM

145. just asking for a definition of "many"

don't do the twisty on me

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 12:35 PM

141. Most of them are transignorant.

A few have even had the courage to admit that and be educated.

Brava to PFC Chelsea Manning for starting a second important national conversation!

And to those who truly are transphobic:

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Response to Name removed (Reply #151)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:03 PM

154. Wow

Just wow.

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Response to Name removed (Reply #151)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:06 PM

155. Genitalia is NOT the same as gender

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Response to Name removed (Reply #151)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:08 PM

156. You are ignorant. Educate yourself, please. n/m

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Response to Name removed (Reply #151)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:10 PM

158. Alerted. Why is this bigotry tolerated on DU? n/t

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Response to Name removed (Reply #151)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:13 PM

160. Wrong. A person may have female chromosomes and male genitalia. Identity is not genitals or DNA.

Maleness or femaleness is an identity. Period.

Some transexuals are happiest to have both breasts and penises. Some to have both vaginas and beards.

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Response to Name removed (Reply #162)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:23 PM

164. Who cares if it is fabricated! You must hate veterans who have fabricated limbs! You have no logic!

Why do you hate fabricated limbs?

Have you ever had surgery? Do you hope to live long enough to survive cancer by surgery or other fabricated means? Artificial heart valves? Stents? Knee replacement? False teeth?

If you have testicular cancer and have a ball removed, then goodness help you because you have declared here (by logical implication) that you will have severe psychological problems from being less of a man (by your logic), whether or not you replace the ball with a plastic one or nothing.

Do you wear glasses? Yes or no.

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Response to Name removed (Reply #172)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:51 PM

175. BOOYAH! Pizza has been served!

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Response to backscatter712 (Reply #175)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 03:57 PM

197. Who was it?

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Response to L0oniX (Reply #197)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 05:01 PM

207. A low-post-count Beavis & Butthead troll.

I think this one:

At Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:09 PM you sent an alert on the following post:

LGB = Sexual Preference, T = Psychological Delusion
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=3520526

REASON FOR ALERT:

This post is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, over-the-top, or otherwise inappropriate. (See <a href="http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=aboutus#communitystandards" target="_blank">Community Standards</a>.)

YOUR COMMENTS:

More transphobia. How much of this shit do we have to tolerate?

JURY RESULTS

A randomly-selected Jury of DU members completed their review of this alert at Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:17 PM, and voted 3-3 to LEAVE IT ALONE.

Juror #1 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: Of course it's ignorance. Of course it's transphobia. Of course it's painful to see that kind of ignorance and fear on DU. But it's better to hand this ignorant . . . . person his head on a platter with an explanation and a lesson than to just boot his sorry ass out of here. I just had to explain this very same issue to one of my dearest and best and longest friends on DU. You don't teach someone by locking them out of the classroom.
Juror #2 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: Clearly the poster is not informed on transsexual issues, but his display of ignorance here does not warrant censorship.
Juror #3 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: No explanation given
Juror #4 voted to HIDE IT and said: No explanation given
Juror #5 voted to HIDE IT and said: No explanation given
Juror #6 voted to HIDE IT and said: Transphobic to the max.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:02 PM

152. Consider that phobia

as a sign of a lack of insight and a reflection as to what degree of maturity a person has realized. Old legacies die hard and cultural taboos are self-serving, to say the least.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:32 PM

168. This country needs to grow up

and seriously rearrange their priorities. I am simply amazed at this wonderful young person who has so much to teach others through her bravery and dignity. I think she must be an inspiration to others who have not felt a part of this world and have had to hide their real selves.

This is an opportunity to learn, I have learned a lot myself, including how important it is to support each other because of all the truly thoughtless people there are in this world.

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Fri Aug 23, 2013, 01:48 PM

173. Gender is defined by the brain.

Race, as the bullshit social construct that it is, is defined by physical appearance and lineage. Apples and oranges.

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Fri Aug 23, 2013, 02:57 PM

186. K&R.

Strongly.

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Fri Aug 23, 2013, 03:09 PM

187. I must admit, I'm ignorant when it comes to transgender.

In my ignorance sits my base attitude on the subject, to each his/her own, it is not my business. I generally believe however, that a male is someone who has a penis, and a female is someone who has a vagina. I leave room for those who identify as something other than what their genitalia says they are, but I admit, I don't understand it.

With all of that said, I believe people should be loving and caring toward each other rather than aggressive and abusive. So even if I don't understand someone else, I allow room for tolerance of their rights and perspectives without judgement from me.

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Response to DrewFlorida (Reply #187)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 04:54 PM

205. It seems like

You leave room for people to exist out of penis=male, vagina=female. Thats all thats really matters.

Understanding it isn't necessary, honestly. Some trans*people take most of their lifetime, or counseling to understand it. Hell, some trans*folks say to hell with understanding it, I am what I am and it doesn't matter how it works.

I don't know how my spleen works, but I know it's important, and if someone tells me theirs doesn't function quite the same way and they need medical treatment to correct it I believe them!

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Response to DrewFlorida (Reply #187)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 05:03 PM

208. Gender is determined in the brain, not between the legs. n/t

She was born with her brain wired as a female brain, and as she stated, she's known this since childhood.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 03:10 PM

188. Some People Just Lack Any Kind Of Empathy For Anyone.

It goes for anyone they see as the other. Black, Latino, Poor, GLBT. It's ignorance and it's actually sad, they are out of step with history.



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Response to colsohlibgal (Reply #188)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:25 PM

217. That's the definition of a sociopath. n/t

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 04:06 PM

198. Thank you for your heartfelt OP

I inadvertently mixed up my pronouns in a reply and find myself much in the same place as Skinner:



Speaking as someone who wants to do the right thing, I will admit that it is not easy to suddenly change gears and start referring to any person using a different name and different pronoun. This is not something that I have a lot of experience with. As I speak, I have to catch myself when I use the name "Bradley" and the pronoun "he" and make a deliberate effort to say "Chelsea" and "she." But it is the right thing to do.



As the brother in law of a person who had pronounced transgender identification from the age of 4 (50 years ago in a remote Thai village) and has suffered with it I can only imagine the unique struggles that your family has faced and I am sure that your child is most fortunate to have enlightened parents to help with them.

I have only a few minutes a day so I only read a few threads and haven't seen the expressions of prejudice that you refer to. It is unfortunate.

Regarding Chelsea Manning and her struggle I have from the beginning felt and her recent announcement makes me wonder if Assange did not take advantage of a person who was vulnerable because of her personal struggles. I believe that Chelsea's case was substantially undermined by the wholesale volume of downloaded files and if instead she had leaked a few dozen or few hundred items that focused on specific actions rather than everything that she had access to that she would be facing a much much different sentence.

Again I think that she has gotten, and probably is still receiving, very poor advice from people that are more interested in promoting a cause than her interests.

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Fri Aug 23, 2013, 06:34 PM

212. People fear what they don't understand

That fear turns to hate and bigotry, unfortunately. Luckily, I have traveled in many circles where I've had a number of transgendered acquaintances and quite a few friends. I'm always astounded, given the level of crap these people put up with, that anyone would think this was anything but a necessary thing that transgendered people do. Why would anyone choose to be transgendered? Because they've lived in the wrong body for as long as they were able, nothing more, nothing less.

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Fri Aug 23, 2013, 08:43 PM

220. Honestly, its not something I think about easily

In spite of having a pretty open mind, gay friends for many years, and a gay daughter myself I'm very happy with. Its still baby steps I suppose.

I'm almost 50, so grew up in a culture where intolerance was taken for granted. When in doubt about the value of my own "instincts" (or whatever you want to call them) on the subject, I do try to keep my mouth shut. And grow a bit more.

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Fri Aug 23, 2013, 09:44 PM

223. I'm sorry you've had to experience this sort of bigotry

anywhere, but it must especially hurt coming from supposed allies.

As a good friend of mine once said, in one of my real down moments caused by the unfeeling hatred of others, "Illegitimi non carborundum."

Best wishes to you and yours.

Thucy

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Response to Warren Stupidity (Original post)

Sat Aug 24, 2013, 02:47 PM

257. Here's a nice historical explainer...

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