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Tue Mar 26, 2013, 10:03 PM

I just got a letter today from my Aunts

It was just the usual chatty letter, with pictures of their cats and dog they took and printed with the camera and printer we sent them - nothing political, except my Aunts are a couple in their 80s who have been together longer than I've been alive.

When I hear homophobes gasp about "the gay lifestyle!!11," I think of this couple; one an engineer and the other, a telecom worker (both retired now); their modest yet pretty little house; how much they love animals; how one loves loves loves gadgets as I do, and the other who loves the kind of work I'm doing on our house - but mostly how incredibly, quietly and stubbornly brave these two women are and how nothing has diminished their devotion to each other. They are no 'threat' to my (or anyone's) marriage; they are role models, and not just for a long, strong marriage, but for being courageous, kind, smart, funny and all-around great.

I really admire courage - the hard kind, of going on even through the most difficult circumstances. I think that all GLBT people show this type of courage - quietly, with dignity, and every day - which makes them some of the bravest people on earth.

Just like my 80+ year old aunts.

And I hope that very soon, just living life won't require that kind of strength every day.

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Reply I just got a letter today from my Aunts (Original post)
REP Mar 2013 OP
Control-Z Mar 2013 #1
REP Mar 2013 #6
PDJane Mar 2013 #2
REP Mar 2013 #15
Lifelong Protester Mar 2013 #3
REP Mar 2013 #13
NJCher Mar 2013 #4
REP Mar 2013 #9
niyad Mar 2013 #5
REP Mar 2013 #12
joesdaughter Mar 2013 #7
idwiyo Mar 2013 #8
REP Mar 2013 #10
Hekate Mar 2013 #11
REP Mar 2013 #14
trocar Mar 2013 #21
Heidi Mar 2013 #16
REP Mar 2013 #17
Heidi Mar 2013 #19
OneGrassRoot Mar 2013 #18
nolabear Mar 2013 #20
BlancheSplanchnik Mar 2013 #22
Helen Reddy Mar 2013 #23
William769 Mar 2013 #24
pauljulian Mar 2013 #25
hrmjustin Mar 2013 #26
auntsue Mar 2013 #27
REP Mar 2013 #29
paleotn Mar 2013 #28

Response to REP (Original post)

Tue Mar 26, 2013, 10:07 PM

1. Thak you, REP, for sharing

your aunts' life and love with DU.

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Response to Control-Z (Reply #1)

Tue Mar 26, 2013, 10:29 PM

6. I was blessed with remarkable Aunts

My maternal Aunt was an amazing woman in her own right; she had other things to overcome (a northern Catholic convert married into a very old Southern Jewish family in the 50s). She was first chair viola with the Charleston Philharmonic and had wonderful stories (including the time they managed to set the symphony hall on fire during a performance of the 1812 Overture). Like they do to me, inanimate objects often attacked her for no good reason. We both loved old first editions, even - or especially - not particularly rare or valuable ones. She died 12 years ago, and I still find myself thinking, "I should send this to H! She'd love it! Oh." I miss her.

These two Aunts are my husband's, but I have their permission to claim them as mine as well One thing cramping an Aunt's "gay lifestyle" - she has to give up knitting for a bit due to bursitis, but on the other hand, it'll give her more time to read. Pretty decadent stuff!

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Response to REP (Original post)

Tue Mar 26, 2013, 10:08 PM

2. I agree. I hope this happens soon.

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Response to PDJane (Reply #2)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 03:25 AM

15. Tomorrow would be nice ... :-)

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Response to REP (Original post)

Tue Mar 26, 2013, 10:09 PM

3. For all in the LGBT community, but especially

for the 'oldsters'. They deserve to be treated with dignity, and spend their remaining years in whatever union (if that includes marriage) they want.

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Response to Lifelong Protester (Reply #3)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 03:23 AM

13. Every single person deserves it, period!

Life can be hard enough without being made to live in a way that makes who you are a burden to you. And yes, I'm pretty sure we agree on that!

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Response to REP (Original post)

Tue Mar 26, 2013, 10:17 PM

4. your aunties sound wonderful

I have an 80+ aunt and I know how lovable they can be.


Cher

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Response to NJCher (Reply #4)

Tue Mar 26, 2013, 10:36 PM

9. The thing is ...

... in many ways, they're just ordinary folks. Things like their love of animals makes them special and wonderful, and any couple having such a successful relationship is, well, hopeful to anyone in a relationship! But their day-to-day lives aren't that much different from their neighbors, yet for their entire lives, and lives together, they've had to steel themselves for the ugliness that gets thrown too often at nice, hardworking couples like them just because they're both women. It makes me in awe of their courage, and sad that they've had to be so brave every day just to be who they are: a nice quiet hardworking couple.

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Response to REP (Original post)

Tue Mar 26, 2013, 10:26 PM

5. thank you for sharing your amazing aunts with us--they sound like exactly the kind of people

I love meeting and knowing.

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Response to niyad (Reply #5)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 03:12 AM

12. I think they're the kind of neighbors anyone would want

And their kitties and doggie are just adorable!

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Response to REP (Original post)

Tue Mar 26, 2013, 10:29 PM

7. Thanks for sharing n/t

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Response to REP (Original post)

Tue Mar 26, 2013, 10:29 PM

8. K&R thank you for sharing. All the best to them, their pets and you.

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Response to idwiyo (Reply #8)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 12:42 AM

10. Thanks!

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Response to REP (Original post)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 12:46 AM

11. Aw REP, you made me smile

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Response to Hekate (Reply #11)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 03:24 AM

14. Aw, thanks!

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Response to Hekate (Reply #11)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 01:49 PM

21. Lovin' it, y'all go girls

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Response to REP (Original post)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 03:52 AM

16. Kick!

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Response to Heidi (Reply #16)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 06:30 AM

17. Spleen!

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Response to REP (Reply #17)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 07:41 AM

19. I can't help but believe those cool aunts of yours

had a hand in how cool you are, lil Miz SPLEEN!!!

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Response to REP (Original post)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 06:49 AM

18. Huge K&R!!! n/t

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Response to REP (Original post)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 12:26 PM

20. So many wonderful aunties and uncles out there.

Much lOve to yours.

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Response to REP (Original post)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 03:06 PM

22. beautifully said!

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Response to REP (Original post)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 05:24 PM

23. Your aunts sound like

 

my kinda gals!

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Response to REP (Original post)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 07:35 PM

24. kick & recommended.

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Response to REP (Original post)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 08:04 PM

25. Yeah... that ol' gay lifestyle...

Get up, feed the dogs, have breakfast, go to work... how dare they! <grin>

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Response to REP (Original post)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 08:15 PM

26. K and R

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Response to REP (Original post)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 08:16 PM

27. Shhhh you've just

given away the secret gay agenda. Now everyone will know.........we just want to live our lives!!!!

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Response to auntsue (Reply #27)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 09:44 PM

29. How dare you! Enjoy your life in peace? Harrumph!

I was a really naīve kid, even by naīve kid standards. I thought the 'I Have A Dream' speech, especially judging people by the content of their character, was an agreed-upon goal that everyone was trying to achieve. I was so mad when reality dawned on me (I was a really, really naīve kid).

But I never really gave up on hoping that it was goal we can achieve.

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Response to REP (Original post)

Wed Mar 27, 2013, 08:53 PM

28. That does my heart good. Thanks! K & R

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