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Wed Feb 27, 2013, 05:50 AM

Shut up for one tiny second, Mark Morford

Not long ago or maybe it was just last week, my friend had an epiphany.

She said, in a surprised and exasperated voice, in that tone you normally reserve for discovering you have obscenely bad breath or a third nipple or maybe a clump of shiny black hairs sticking out of your nose and no one bothered to tell you, she said, Oh my God! Do you know what I just realized? I talk way too much.

This was no small discovery. This was no inconsequential awakening. My friend who was, by the way, wholly correct was not one normally prone to sudden bouts of self awareness, much less a startling, quasi-spiritual confession that something was seriously amiss in how she was interacting with the world, and she needs to do something about it.

She was stunned. I was stunned. She said she just recently grasped, to her horror, that she never really heard a single thing anyone else said, never really connected to a conversation, never really listened for anything except a pause in the conversation so she could jump back in and fill it with an opinion shed been manically forming while others were talking.

The rest: http://blog.sfgate.com/morford/2013/02/26/shut-up-for-one-tiny-second/

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Reply Shut up for one tiny second, Mark Morford (Original post)
madokie Feb 2013 OP
Flashmann Feb 2013 #1
reflection Feb 2013 #2
steve2470 Feb 2013 #3
lunatica Feb 2013 #4
steve2470 Feb 2013 #6
BuelahWitch Feb 2013 #7
steve2470 Feb 2013 #8
Skidmore Feb 2013 #5
BuelahWitch Feb 2013 #9
steve2470 Feb 2013 #10
Raine1967 Feb 2013 #11

Response to madokie (Original post)

Wed Feb 27, 2013, 08:54 AM

1. Sounds like

He's met my wife........

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Response to madokie (Original post)

Wed Feb 27, 2013, 09:15 AM

2. Bookmarking.

There is someone in my life that needs to read this, and I am going to meditate on this until I figure out how to make that happen. Thank you for the link, it was a very compelling read.

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Response to madokie (Original post)

Wed Feb 27, 2013, 09:21 AM

3. great quote here:

She was never one to ask how youre doing or what was going on in your life with anything resembling genuine interest or concern.

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Response to madokie (Original post)

Wed Feb 27, 2013, 09:28 AM

4. Then there are those who look for the flaws in what the other person is saying

So they can nail them to the wall.

I must confess, I am guilty of that, though not so much after my epiphany.

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Response to lunatica (Reply #4)

Wed Feb 27, 2013, 09:35 AM

6. then there are those of us who "don't talk enough"

Too much listening, not enough gabbing.

Oh well.

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Response to steve2470 (Reply #6)

Wed Feb 27, 2013, 09:37 AM

7. Sometimes you can't get a word in edgewise though

because they won't shut up.

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Response to BuelahWitch (Reply #7)

Wed Feb 27, 2013, 09:42 AM

8. so true ! nt

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Response to madokie (Original post)

Wed Feb 27, 2013, 09:31 AM

5. Hallmark of American society--

everyone talks incessantly and no one listens. Best epitomized in the hallowed halls of Congress.

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Response to madokie (Original post)

Wed Feb 27, 2013, 09:45 AM

9. But yet she was his "friend"

How is it that these types of people *have* friends or are even "popular" (and many are)?

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Response to madokie (Original post)

Wed Feb 27, 2013, 10:06 AM

10. side note, some pretty nasty comments

Trolls or just people who aren't fond of MM ?

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Response to madokie (Original post)

Wed Feb 27, 2013, 10:25 AM

11. Many years ago, a friend said to me:

"We have two ears and one mouth. Too many people forget that basic fact."

I love listening to others -- I love hearing them as well. Thank you for posting this!

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