Tue Feb 19, 2013, 02:22 AM
The Straight Story (41,438 posts)
Mindy McCready Worked On Video About Suicide The Day Before Her Death
A few days before her death, Mindy McCready enlisted the help of her friend Danno Hanks to make a video. Her late boyfriend David Wilson produced a song prior to his death with an up-and-coming artist named Courtney Dashe. The two women had since met and bonded over the song, and Mindy was hoping to put together something special that would help those who lost a loved one to suicide. At the time, Hanks thought the project was a tribute to Wilson, who recently took his own life, but after McCready shot herself and the family dog yesterday, he’s now convinced the video was some kind of macabre suicide note.
Here’s a portion of the actual quote he gave to E! News… "I thought she was talking about sending a message about suicide for David's death but this is unbelievable. She was sending me a message. I wish I had been more alert to what it was. Everybody wants to reach out after the fact but nobody wants to be there when it is happening. I just didn't think she would do this. She had two kids to live for. I still can't fathom the whole thing." The song in question is entitled “I’ll See You Yesterday”. Dashe went to one of Mindy’s concerts and personally gave her the song, along with a blessing to record it. The track was apparently a great comfort to McCready in the last weeks of her life, and those around her thought working on it and possibly even doing a cover version had given her a reason to live. Unfortunately, it now seems it gave her a way to say goodbye. http://www.cinemablend.com/pop/Mindy-McCready-Worked-Video-About-Suicide-Day-Her-Death-52720.html
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| Author | Time | Post | |
| The Straight Story | Feb 19 | OP | |
| Skittles | Feb 19 | #1 | |
| Gorp | Feb 19 | #5 | |
| Skittles | Feb 20 | #26 | |
| Gorp | Feb 20 | #34 | |
| Skittles | Feb 20 | #45 | |
| catbyte | Feb 19 | #2 | |
| Skidmore | Feb 19 | #3 | |
| catbyte | Feb 19 | #4 | |
| easttexaslefty | Feb 19 | #9 | |
| Dash87 | Feb 19 | #17 | |
| nobodyspecial | Feb 19 | #20 | |
| Skittles | Feb 20 | #27 | |
| Skidmore | Feb 20 | #31 | |
| easttexaslefty | Feb 20 | #39 | |
| Skittles | Feb 20 | #46 | |
| ChazII | Feb 19 | #6 | |
| nobodyspecial | Feb 19 | #21 | |
| rusty fender | Feb 19 | #7 | |
| easttexaslefty | Feb 19 | #8 | |
| loyalsister | Feb 19 | #10 | |
| catbyte | Feb 19 | #11 | |
| loyalsister | Feb 19 | #12 | |
| easttexaslefty | Feb 19 | #14 | |
| catbyte | Feb 19 | #15 | |
| easttexaslefty | Feb 19 | #16 | |
| catbyte | Feb 19 | #19 | |
| SammyWinstonJack | Feb 19 | #24 | |
| easttexaslefty | Feb 20 | #25 | |
| catbyte | Feb 20 | #32 | |
| easttexaslefty | Feb 20 | #38 | |
| nobodyspecial | Feb 19 | #22 | |
| Floyd_Gondolli | Feb 20 | #37 | |
| nobodyspecial | Feb 20 | #41 | |
| Floyd_Gondolli | Feb 20 | #43 | |
| DearHeart | Feb 21 | #50 | |
| joeybee12 | Feb 19 | #13 | |
| nobodyspecial | Feb 19 | #23 | |
| catbyte | Feb 20 | #33 | |
| joeybee12 | Feb 20 | #35 | |
| veganlush | Feb 20 | #29 | |
| nobodyspecial | Feb 20 | #42 | |
| Floyd_Gondolli | Feb 20 | #44 | |
| veganlush | Feb 20 | #47 | |
| Floyd_Gondolli | Feb 21 | #48 | |
| veganlush | Feb 21 | #49 | |
| liberal_at_heart | Feb 19 | #18 | |
| SoCalMusicLover | Feb 20 | #28 | |
| NaturalHigh | Feb 20 | #30 | |
| CBGLuthier | Feb 20 | #36 | |
| hamsterjill | Feb 20 | #40 |
Response to The Straight Story (Original post)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 03:16 AM
Skittles (86,204 posts)
1. hard to believe she was alone after the suicide of her partner
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considering her history
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Response to Skittles (Reply #1)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 11:18 AM
Gorp (716 posts)
5. She'd been in a 3-week court ordered rehab and her father was there until that morning.
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He said when he left her that she seemed upbeat. Unfortunately, a positive mood swing is often the sign that suicide is impending - coming to terms with death so to speak.
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Response to Gorp (Reply #5)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 01:57 AM
Skittles (86,204 posts)
26. too bad he didn't take the guns with him
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very glad they had the sense to get the children away from her
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Response to Skittles (Reply #26)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 10:07 AM
Gorp (716 posts)
34. It isn't hard to hide a gun in a house. I don't know if he took any of them,
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but all it takes is one that he missed finding. And yes, getting the kids out was important, but I thought her ex (the kids' natural father) initiated that process. Maybe that was a different story. Anyway, shooting the dog was not necessary and rather disgusting. The dog didn't do anything wrong and I'm sure the kids loved it.
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Response to Gorp (Reply #34)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 02:41 PM
Skittles (86,204 posts)
45. there wasn't a "hidden gun"
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her beau had been a certified gun nut before he killed himself
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Response to The Straight Story (Original post)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 07:43 AM
catbyte (3,945 posts)
2. Why shoot the family dog? That just compounds the children's trauma
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I know she had "demons", but what an awful, selfish thing to do to kill the family pet too.
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Response to catbyte (Reply #2)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 08:26 AM
Skidmore (29,006 posts)
3. Suicide is an inherently selfish act.
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It punishes those who remain by removing the person who commits suicide from all the scene and never allows for resolution of issues for that person or others around them.
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Response to Skidmore (Reply #3)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 08:56 AM
catbyte (3,945 posts)
4. I know. Kill yourself, fine, but to take others with you is monstrous. You are right.
Response to Skidmore (Reply #3)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 12:19 PM
easttexaslefty (1,144 posts)
9. ****sigh****
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No it's not.
Please read up on suicide. For real. www.afsp.org |
Response to Skidmore (Reply #3)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 01:43 PM
Dash87 (1,504 posts)
17. A lot of suicidal ppl actually believe they're doing
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The world a favor. Yeah, it makes no sense, but suicide is also irrational.
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Response to Skidmore (Reply #3)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 11:44 PM
nobodyspecial (2,006 posts)
20. You have no clue what you are taking about it.
Response to Skidmore (Reply #3)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 01:58 AM
Skittles (86,204 posts)
27. you don't understand suicide
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BE GRATEFUL FOR THAT because you sound clueless to those of us with more insight
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Response to Skittles (Reply #27)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 07:17 AM
Skidmore (29,006 posts)
31. I strongly disagree with your charge.
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It speaks to your ignorance of me and how I have experienced issues of depression and suicide in my lifetime. I don't know your experiences. I do know that there is a very real element of punishing others through self-inflicted violence in the act of suicide.
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Response to Skidmore (Reply #31)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 11:25 AM
easttexaslefty (1,144 posts)
39. You know of your experience.
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Your experience is not the statistic norm.
You cannot speak for others, but research does and can. www.afsp.org |
Response to Skidmore (Reply #31)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 02:43 PM
Skittles (86,204 posts)
46. you speak of a very small element of suicides
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VERY small
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Response to catbyte (Reply #2)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 11:49 AM
ChazII (3,143 posts)
6. The loss of the dog
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when it was one thing that may have brought her sons comfort was an act of selfishness. May she finally rest in peace and may her boys get through this tragedy.
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Response to ChazII (Reply #6)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 11:45 PM
nobodyspecial (2,006 posts)
21. Or, in the irrational mind of a suicidal person
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it was a way of reuniting the couple with the dog on the other side.
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Response to catbyte (Reply #2)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 12:00 PM
rusty fender (768 posts)
7. Yeah, that was a triple blow to those boys;
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and to top off how utterly contemptuous she was, her youngest son was only 10 months old. If her entire life did not show what a POS she was, her final act sure did.
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Response to rusty fender (Reply #7)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 12:16 PM
easttexaslefty (1,144 posts)
8. Would you say someone with cancer
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was a piece of shit?
You do know that mental illness is a disease, right? And that 90% of people who die by suicide have a mental illness? Educate yourself. www.afsp.org |
Response to easttexaslefty (Reply #8)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 12:23 PM
loyalsister (6,879 posts)
10. + 1000
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The lack of empathy here is really really disappointing. People here talk about how worthless she was without realizing that they are agreeing with her.
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Response to loyalsister (Reply #10)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 12:42 PM
catbyte (3,945 posts)
11. My issue is her killing the family dog. I understand despair and it's tragic, but
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killing the dog was inexcusable--shooting him? No excuse at all. I am glad no humans were there, actually.
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Response to catbyte (Reply #11)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 12:56 PM
loyalsister (6,879 posts)
12. Oh the poor dog
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Probably her thoughts exactly. "No one will love the dog like she did." "No one will be there to take care of it." People act like the logic they are familiar with was at play here. It wasn't.
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Response to catbyte (Reply #11)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 01:08 PM
easttexaslefty (1,144 posts)
14. She doesn't need our excuses.
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She's dead.
She was not thinking rationally. She was ill. I can have compassion for all involved. So can you. |
Response to easttexaslefty (Reply #14)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 01:25 PM
catbyte (3,945 posts)
15. Who said I didn't have compassion?!? Lord have mercy...
Response to catbyte (Reply #15)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 01:34 PM
easttexaslefty (1,144 posts)
16. You language.
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"11. My issue is her killing the family dog. I understand despair and it's tragic, but
killing the dog was inexcusable--shooting him? No excuse at all." That is not an expression of compassion. It is a judgement. |
Response to easttexaslefty (Reply #16)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 11:03 PM
catbyte (3,945 posts)
19. So I am not supposed to care about that innocent victim? That dog didn't want to get shot.
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I am sure it was a scary, painful death. What's wrong with you? Would you feel the same if she'd shot her child? Sorry, just because someone is suicidal does NOT give them a right to take another life. If you call that judgemental, so be it. I still think it is wrong.
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Response to catbyte (Reply #19)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 01:32 AM
easttexaslefty (1,144 posts)
25. They are all innocent victims
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ALL.
That's the point. |
Response to easttexaslefty (Reply #25)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 09:10 AM
catbyte (3,945 posts)
32. So you absolve McCready of any responsibility? How about Adam Lanza? Columbine?
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Last edited Wed Feb 20, 2013, 09:11 AM USA/ET - Edit history (1) They were suicidal too.
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Response to catbyte (Reply #32)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 11:21 AM
easttexaslefty (1,144 posts)
38. I'm not a deity. I don't have the power to "absolve"
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I'm no ones judge and jury.
Sad that you feel the need to be. That usually means you need to feel superior to someone. What I did say, was 90% of people who suicide have a mental illness. I gave you a link to a foundation that knows about suicide. I'm not going to condemn anyone having any illness. Mental illness is a illness. Just because you don't understand that, does not change that fact. |
Response to rusty fender (Reply #7)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 11:50 PM
nobodyspecial (2,006 posts)
22. Wow, what ugly thoughts
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She was so damaged at that point, she probably thought she was doing the children a favor. And to say her life showed she was a POS -- you mean when an older man seduced her out of her teen years, or the times she was verbally abused by her mother or the time the boyfriend beat her up, or the love of her life killed himself?
Buy a clue. This woman was damaged beyond her ability to cope. |
Response to rusty fender (Reply #7)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 11:10 AM
Floyd_Gondolli (1,103 posts)
37. Best thing that ever happened to them
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Last edited Wed Feb 20, 2013, 11:12 AM USA/ET - Edit history (1) She coveted the struggle. We all know people like that. If there's a sliver of happiness in their lives they lose their shit and go off the rails. Now, at least the kids will have a chance to be raised by someone mentally stable instead of a lifetime of being forced to bear the burden of her immense and largely self induced emotional baggage.
Flame away....... |
Response to Floyd_Gondolli (Reply #37)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 12:19 PM
nobodyspecial (2,006 posts)
41. Yeah, people are verbally abused, sexually expoited, beaten
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and abandoned through suicide because that's what they really desire, not happiness. Or that is "happiness" for them. It's just that simple.
Or, perhaps it is more complicated than that. Perhaps each incident chips away at a persons self worth and dignity. That there lives become so twisted that abuse feels like love, or is at least most comfortable than love, that a person gets so low that they don't believe they deserve any better. Self-preservation is the most primal of instincts. Do you realize how twisted in your own mind to take your life (with the exception of those facing terminal or incapacitating illness, which I think is a rational choice and should be legal.) I certainly hope no one in your life relies on you for emotional support. |
Response to nobodyspecial (Reply #41)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 12:25 PM
Floyd_Gondolli (1,103 posts)
43. Boo hoo
Response to Floyd_Gondolli (Reply #43)
DearHeart This message was self-deleted by its author.
Response to catbyte (Reply #2)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 01:04 PM
joeybee12 (41,659 posts)
13. That really bothers me, too...I feel bad for her...
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But killing the dog....selfish.
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Response to joeybee12 (Reply #13)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 11:51 PM
nobodyspecial (2,006 posts)
23. Nice to see people are more concerned
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that she shot the dog than killing herself.
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Response to nobodyspecial (Reply #23)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 09:12 AM
catbyte (3,945 posts)
33. She had a choice. The dog didn't. Can't you see the difference?
Response to nobodyspecial (Reply #23)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 10:42 AM
joeybee12 (41,659 posts)
35. Nobody said that...try re-reading what people wrote...
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Killing the dog colors what she did...you can't just see that she killed her self, you see that she killed the dog also, and the dog had no say in that matter. I could easily say to you, "Nice to see some people don't get a rat's ass about dogs."
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Response to catbyte (Reply #2)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 02:33 AM
veganlush (1,902 posts)
29. exactly. leave the animals out
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Of your madness. Dogs, like pigs and most other animals want to live
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Response to veganlush (Reply #29)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 12:21 PM
nobodyspecial (2,006 posts)
42. "Of your madness"
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Therein lies the problem. You condemning an irrational person for not making a rational choice. Do you see the issue with that?
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Response to veganlush (Reply #29)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 12:29 PM
Floyd_Gondolli (1,103 posts)
44. The dog was just the beginning
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Last edited Wed Feb 20, 2013, 12:30 PM USA/ET - Edit history (1) The next time the gun could have been turned on one of the kids during one of her "moments" of pathos.
Crisis averted IMO. |
Response to Floyd_Gondolli (Reply #44)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 07:12 PM
veganlush (1,902 posts)
47. she shot the dog
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first, obviously, then herself. I know the dog doesn't matter, animals are just property. So i have no issue with what she did, I just wish she had reversed the order.
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Response to veganlush (Reply #47)
Thu Feb 21, 2013, 11:57 AM
Floyd_Gondolli (1,103 posts)
48. I couldn't agree more
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And the dog does matter to some of us.
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Response to Floyd_Gondolli (Reply #48)
Thu Feb 21, 2013, 07:08 PM
veganlush (1,902 posts)
49. yes
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the dog matters immensely. I despise the way our society views animals as property. As Henry David Thoreau said: "I have no doubt that it is a part of the destiny of the human race, in its gradual improvement, to leave off eating animals, as surely as the savage tribes have left off eating each other when they came in contact with the more civilized."
HENRY DAVID THOREAU, Walden |
Response to The Straight Story (Original post)
Tue Feb 19, 2013, 02:19 PM
liberal_at_heart (3,583 posts)
18. It's a good thing they had the children removed from the home. If she was willing to shoot the dog
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would she have shot the kids if they had been there? Such a tragic situation. Those kids will have emotional scars for the rest of their lives.
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Response to liberal_at_heart (Reply #18)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 02:00 AM
SoCalMusicLover (322 posts)
28. She Would Have Killed The Kids
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Thankfully we'll never know. But when I heard she shot the dog, that was my first thought.
I'd say the odds are about 70-30 she would have shot the children if they had been in her company or care. |
Response to The Straight Story (Original post)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 03:08 AM
NaturalHigh (4,568 posts)
30. Very sad.
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This woman was obviously suffering. May she be at peace.
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Response to The Straight Story (Original post)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 11:05 AM
CBGLuthier (8,851 posts)
36. a human being in pain vs. one more dead dog.
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Interesting to see where concerns lie.
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Response to The Straight Story (Original post)
Wed Feb 20, 2013, 11:29 AM
hamsterjill (4,292 posts)
40. I should be ashamed of myself, I guess. But I am so tired of this story being in the news.
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This poor woman had more than her share of hell on earth. I'm so sorry that she felt she couldn't go on, and I am sorry she killed the dog (sincerely) because he had no choice. It's all simply very sad.
But I'm really ready for the publicity of this story to stop. (This is NOT a cut to the OP for posting, just a commentary that these stories seem to perpetuate in the media indefinitely). |

