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Wed Feb 13, 2013, 07:28 AM

VAWA matters

It matters to the woman who sobbed in my office having just learned that her husband beat her children while she was at work. And I could say, "You will be safe."

It matters to the woman who met with me, and the prosecutor, and the victim's advocate because we all believed her husband would try to kill her when he got out of jail. And I could say, "We will get you a security system." And the prosecutor could say, "The police will watch." And the advocate said, "You can stay with us."

It matters to the daughter who told her mother after she got an order for protection, "Safe never felt so good before."

It matters to woman who showed me the brake cables her mechanic gave her, before we went to court to get her custody of her kids.

It matters to the woman who moved three times just to stay safe, who learning her mother-in-law had changed the address at the bank so that her statements were sent to her ex-husband, now has a "safe at home" address.

It matters to the wife, the "mail order bride", who told her English as a second language tutor, "He hits me." And it mattered to his second "mail order bride" as well.

It matters to the woman who sat in the office at the women's shelter with her knees up to her chest, her arms wrapped around knees, shaking as I said, "We will get you custody of your kids."

It matters to the 16 year old girl, brought here from South America at age 12, who was sexually abused from her first night in the country as I tell her, "I can help you."

It matters to the woman who told me, "You gave me my voice. You gave me my dignity back. Do you know what it is like to not have dignity."

It matters to me.

VAWA helps Legal Aid represent victims of domestic violence and sexual assault. It helps prosecutor's develop new systems to hold abusers accountable. It helps shelters keep victims safe so that the system has time to work. The word unconscionable is used frequently, but not always accurately. But I choose it purposefully when I say, "Failing to pass VAWA is unconscionable."

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wellstone dem Feb 2013 OP
ananda Feb 2013 #1
Starry Messenger Feb 2013 #2
japple Feb 2013 #3
Omaha Steve Feb 2013 #4
duhneece Feb 2013 #5
wellstone dem Feb 2013 #7
duhneece Feb 2013 #8
rustydog Feb 2013 #6
wellstone dem Feb 2013 #9
smirkymonkey Feb 2013 #10
smirkymonkey Feb 2013 #11

Response to wellstone dem (Original post)

Wed Feb 13, 2013, 07:52 AM

1. Yes it does matter.

Thank you.

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Response to wellstone dem (Original post)

Wed Feb 13, 2013, 08:13 AM

2. k&r

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Response to wellstone dem (Original post)

Wed Feb 13, 2013, 08:41 AM

3. Thank you for posting this and for what you do to

make the world safer for women and children.

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Response to wellstone dem (Original post)

Wed Feb 13, 2013, 08:44 AM

4. K&R!

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Response to wellstone dem (Original post)

Wed Feb 13, 2013, 10:34 AM

5. VAWA funds our Sexual Assault Nurse Examiners' program

VAWA helps raise the awareness of our community to the rapes happening every day...right in our community.

Now, maybe if we quit wasting legal resources on prosecuting non-violent drug offenders, MAYBE we could provide better funding for labs, investigations, training for police & the DA's to actually raise the rape conviction rape, which is sickening low.

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Response to duhneece (Reply #5)

Wed Feb 13, 2013, 01:44 PM

7. SANE nurses are amazing

They make such a difference!

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Response to wellstone dem (Reply #7)

Wed Feb 13, 2013, 05:55 PM

8. I am in awe of the SANE nurses

I'm also concerned about the apparent (here, anyway) burnout rate for SANE nurses & pray they are able to take care of themselves. Our first SANE program organizer inspired me so much in so many ways.

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Response to wellstone dem (Original post)

Wed Feb 13, 2013, 11:33 AM

6. When Obama mentioned it at the SOTU, I did not see one Goddamn Republican applaud

Their "Golden Boy" Rubio voted against it...Big tent my ass.

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Response to wellstone dem (Original post)

Wed Feb 13, 2013, 07:13 PM

9. k and r for the evening crew

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Response to wellstone dem (Original post)

Wed Feb 13, 2013, 07:54 PM

10. +10.000

"Failing to pass VAWA is unconscionable." I would take that one step further and say "Failing to vote in FAVOR of VAWA is unconscionable". Actually, its disgusting.

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Response to wellstone dem (Original post)

Thu Feb 14, 2013, 09:21 PM

11. K&R

Kick for the evening crew.

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