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Tue Feb 12, 2013, 01:22 PM

How hard is it to explain homosexuality to your childern?



I really love this tweet ...

here is a picture of my kids with their uncle Glenn and his partner Tom



Glenn in back in sweater, Tom holding Abby, Lori, and me this was about 20 years ago.

We all loved Glenn so much.

We lost Glenn to AIDS 17 years ago.

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Reply How hard is it to explain homosexuality to your childern? (Original post)
ashling Feb 2013 OP
Sheldon Cooper Feb 2013 #1
patrice Feb 2013 #2
bullwinkle428 Feb 2013 #3
Zorra Feb 2013 #4
Skraxx Feb 2013 #5
LiberalEsto Feb 2013 #6
sinkingfeeling Feb 2013 #7
SHRED Feb 2013 #8
Skittles Feb 2013 #9
MynameisBlarney Feb 2013 #14
Moostache Feb 2013 #10
Chorophyll Feb 2013 #11
LibertyLover Feb 2013 #12
MynameisBlarney Feb 2013 #13
yardwork Feb 2013 #15
cbayer Feb 2013 #16
ashling Feb 2013 #19
ChazII Feb 2013 #17
Spitfire of ATJ Feb 2013 #18
ashling Feb 2013 #21
krispos42 Feb 2013 #29
Spitfire of ATJ Feb 2013 #31
Ikonoklast Feb 2013 #20
glowing Feb 2013 #24
redstatebluegirl Feb 2013 #22
LeftofObama Feb 2013 #23
Arugula Latte Feb 2013 #25
duhneece Feb 2013 #32
hedgehog Feb 2013 #26
Saphire Feb 2013 #27
krispos42 Feb 2013 #28
RebelOne Feb 2013 #30

Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 01:28 PM

1. That's great, I like that.

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 01:29 PM

2. PERFECT! The truth about love should be the highest priority, because everyone will be

"blessed" by that, even if they get it wrong sometimes, BECAUSE THAT'S THE WAY LOVE **IS**.

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 01:30 PM

3. K&R. Very sorry about Glenn's loss.

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 01:34 PM

4. Beautiful post and photo, thanks for posting this.

And so sorry for your great loss.

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 01:35 PM

5. "Daddy, Ty Has Two Mommy's"

Me: "Oh yeah, buddy, that's nice!"
Son: "Why does he have two mommy's?"
Me: "Because sometimes two women love each other, like mommy and daddy do and sometimes two men love eachother, and they have families too, just like us!"
Son: "Oh, ok!"

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 01:56 PM

6. I gave my daughters the gift of a gay godmother

at their dedication ceremony - by a gay minister - at our former UU congregation in NJ.

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 02:25 PM

7. Great Tweet!!

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 02:36 PM

8. Love is the greatest

I agree with Jesus on this.

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 02:38 PM

9. clearly those kids are traumatized

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Response to Skittles (Reply #9)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 03:40 PM

14. Clearly

They're going to need therapy for sure.

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 03:10 PM

10. Very sorry for your loss, but thank you for sharing the story with us (n/t)

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 03:10 PM

11. What a great tweet!

My mom explained "gay" to me in very simple terms, without any judgment: "some men fall in love with other men, some women fall in love with other women." This was around 1975 and I guess I'd begun to hear the word on TV. Good mom, huh?

I'm sorry about Glenn, ashling.

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 03:19 PM

12. I loved the tweet and the photo

Honestly, it wasn't that hard. Two of my female cousins are in committed same-sex relationships and my daughter knows both them and their partners. And the women who run the coven we circle with are lesbians whom my daughter has known from the day she came home.

Daughter: Mom, does Sean have two mommies?
Me: Yes, both D and Z are his mommies.
Daughter: Why?
Me: Because D and Z love each other like mom loves daddy.
Daughter: Oh, okay. I'm going to play Wii.

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 03:39 PM

13. The horror

the horror.

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 03:42 PM

15. I am so sorry for your loss.

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 03:43 PM

16. Your personal story at the end brought a tear to my eye.

My kids were all surrounded by GLBT friends who loved them dearly from the time they were born.

We lost many to AIDS. That was difficult. That was scarring.

Being loved by them was not.

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Response to cbayer (Reply #16)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 04:00 PM

19. Being loved by them

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 03:43 PM

17. That is the way

I handled it with my son. Only instead of an uncle it was a cousin.

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 03:55 PM

18. This is easier than "Why is the sky blue?"

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Response to Spitfire of ATJ (Reply #18)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 04:04 PM

21. BTW

why is the sky blue?

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Response to ashling (Reply #21)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 04:56 PM

29. Oxygen scatters blue light

So when the sun's rays piece the atmosphere, the blue gets scattered all around while everything else more or less goes straight through.

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Response to ashling (Reply #21)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 04:59 PM

31. Scatter!

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 04:01 PM

20. Way easier than the inevitable, "Where do babies come from?".

My kids: "Why does Bill live with Uncle Tommy?".

Me: "Because they are best friends, and love each other very much."

My kids: "Oh. Why don't you buy us neat toys like Bill and Uncle Tommy do?"

Me (gritting teeth): "Because I need to talk to those two about it, they're making me look bad."

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Response to Ikonoklast (Reply #20)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 04:29 PM

24. Yes, way easier than where do babies come from?

And why do women have an inny pee pee and boys an outie?

I did get the gay question because of actors on TV kissing. I said, when people get older, they are can love whomever they want. As far as "sexy adult kissing", children aren't allowed to do that. Don't kiss in the lips (spreads too many germs and I don't trust an adult who isn't family that would want a lip on lip kiss from a child). A simple hug and for family kiss on the cheek is all you need. When you are older, and like someone that you would want to "sexy kiss", then we will discuss that then... Until then, it's for adults!!!

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 04:06 PM

22. A whole lot easier than explaining Sandy Hook!

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 04:24 PM

23. I'm so sorry for your loss, ashling.

I've lost many many many friends to aids.

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 04:34 PM

25. This was the way the conversation with my son went when he was five:

Him: Mama, can men marry men?

Me (not wanting to get into a technical discussion of what "marry" meant): Yes. Men can marry men, women can marry women, and men can marry women. All ways are fine.

Him: Okay.

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Response to Arugula Latte (Reply #25)

Wed Feb 13, 2013, 10:28 AM

32. Similar to my discussion w/my 5 yr daughter

I was Executive Director of Alamogordo Area AIDS Awareness & when my daughter asked about Bob & Tim, "Most men want to marry women; most women want to marry men; some women & men don't want to marry anyone; some men want to marry men; some women want to marry women. Adults get to choose who they want to marry, if anyone at all"

No need to discuss sex or babies...then. Now she's 25 & open-hearted, open-minded & very loving. Actually, she's become quite the animal rights activist. I am so proud of her.

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 04:44 PM

26. I am so sorry for your loss. I still dream of the cousin I

lost, and wake up from the pain of realizing it's only a dream.

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 04:51 PM

27. kids are so smart. i told my 2 kids pretty

much the same thing. my 6 yo son exclaimed "THAT explains EVERYTHING " lol. they are prouldy introdicing their kids to theIr wonderful aunties.

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 04:54 PM

28. Not too hard

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Response to ashling (Original post)

Tue Feb 12, 2013, 04:59 PM

30. I never had to. They learned on their own,

They grew up in Miami where homosexuality is not an oddity.

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