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Sun Feb 10, 2013, 09:28 AM

Please send love, care, prayers, healing thoughts, blessings -- hearts would be nice, too.

Dearest DUers:

I have not been around for a bit -- I am fine. But my friends' 21 year old son is battling cancer. I just got an email from his dad and Steven, the son, has taken a turn for the worse. Steven was handicapped at age 4 from a blood disease and has spent all of his life in a wheelchair because of this. He graduated from HS, was a very popular student, was included in everything and struggled to make the best out of his life. He is a very intelligent boy and got good grades. Wonderful personality and I just love him.

He now has cancer. It has spread from his liver to his brain and he has taken a turn for the worse. His dad emailed me this AM. I think all of us have known he most likely is not going to make it. His dad wrote that he, the dad, is horribly scared -- more like terrified -- and I can understand. I just went through this with my beloved Ben.

So...for Steven and his family -- please most of all send love by leaving him a heart -- if you have one to spare, a blessing, a prayer, healing thoughts, whatever comes from your heart. I believe his is about to pass over and I am sending support that his journey is an easy one. He has been in horrible place on this earth and I am wishing him peace. I am trying spiritually to wrap my arms around him and give him strength to heal or to pass over peacefully. This cancer has been eating away at him for at least a year and he has endured horrible bouts of chemo and all the ugliness that results from this.

Blessed be...and thank you to my loving, caring and special Dues. Love to all of you and thank you in advance for whatever you give to this young man and his family.

Hep

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Reply Please send love, care, prayers, healing thoughts, blessings -- hearts would be nice, too. (Original post)
Hepburn Feb 2013 OP
niyad Feb 2013 #1
Hepburn Feb 2013 #2
Jackpine Radical Feb 2013 #6
niyad Feb 2013 #7
Hepburn Feb 2013 #9
siligut Feb 2013 #3
Hepburn Feb 2013 #5
Hepburn Feb 2013 #4
SammyWinstonJack Feb 2013 #8
Granny M Feb 2013 #10
Hepburn Feb 2013 #11
nradisic Feb 2013 #12
Hepburn Feb 2013 #16
OneGrassRoot Feb 2013 #13
Hepburn Feb 2013 #17
cate94 Feb 2013 #14
Hepburn Feb 2013 #18
riderinthestorm Feb 2013 #15
Hepburn Feb 2013 #19
magical thyme Feb 2013 #20
Uben Feb 2013 #21
WinstonSmith4740 Feb 2013 #22
susanr516 Feb 2013 #23
ReRe Feb 2013 #24
NEOhiodemocrat Feb 2013 #25
H2O Man Feb 2013 #26
LeftishBrit Feb 2013 #27
Liberal In Red State Feb 2013 #28
RKP5637 Feb 2013 #29
me b zola Feb 2013 #30
OldDem2012 Feb 2013 #31
840high Feb 2013 #32
Smilo Feb 2013 #33
Laelth Feb 2013 #34
Sienna86 Feb 2013 #35
MoonRiver Feb 2013 #36
LiberalEsto Feb 2013 #37
LiberalLoner Feb 2013 #38
renate Feb 2013 #39
Terra Alta Feb 2013 #40
WillyT Feb 2013 #41
arthritisR_US Feb 2013 #42
Demonaut Feb 2013 #43

Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 09:30 AM

1. wish I had hearts to send, but prayers for love, healing, comfort and ease I can do, for you,

and for your friends in this difficult time. Please keep us posted, and let us know if there is anything else your DU family can do to help.

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Response to niyad (Reply #1)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 09:33 AM

2. Thank you so much...

...you have sent your heart with your reply...blessed be.

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Response to niyad (Reply #1)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:02 AM

6. One for you and one for Steven.

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Response to Jackpine Radical (Reply #6)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:03 AM

7. THANK YOU so very much--what a lovely thing to do. hope you are having a good day.

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Response to Jackpine Radical (Reply #6)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:07 AM

9. Blessed be...

...and thank you for the hearts.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 09:36 AM

3. Blessings to aid his journey

It sounds like he has very supportive friends and family.

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Response to siligut (Reply #3)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 09:41 AM

5. I have known his family before Steven became ill as a toddler

His dad is my IT guy and he runs the computers for the L.A. Unified School District and does the adult learning center computer classes. He is one of the best people I have ever met. The could not afford a fancy van with the motorized ramp, etc, for the wheelchair. His dad is a few years younger than me, early 60s, and he has carried this young man into the van, into bed, bathed him, fed him, and most of all loved him. The mom is just like this, too. They have devoted their lives to their son.

Edit for typo in title

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 09:38 AM

4. Thank you for the rec's

I would like to say a word about Obama-Care: Because of what our beloved president did -- Steven was able to stay on his father's med insurance through the L.A. Unified School District. This family could have NEVER in any manner afforded the care and all the ER visits for pain that this young man has been through. I know it might be odd to think of this at a time like this, but it is one blessing bestowed on this family because we have Obama in the WH.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:04 AM

8. ...

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:09 AM

10. Sending love and prayers, and a wee heart

My thoughts are with your friends. I will hope for the best for Steven.

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Response to Granny M (Reply #10)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:13 AM

11. Thank you...

...I love my DUers. I wish I could give each and everyone a heart -- not just for Valentine's Day....but forever.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:18 AM

12. Battling my own grief...

yet it seems to be not quite the battle Steven is going through...Godspeed...

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Response to nradisic (Reply #12)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:27 AM

16. I understand completely

I lost my beloved Ben not quite a year ago. Blessed be...

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:22 AM

13. Good vibes, prayers, healing hugs of support...

to Steven, his family, and you, Hepburn.







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Response to OneGrassRoot (Reply #13)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:29 AM

17. Thank you...

...and the same back to you.



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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:24 AM

14. sending thoughts and prayers

along with a heart -for all concerned.

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Response to cate94 (Reply #14)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:29 AM

18. Thank you...

...blessed be.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:26 AM

15. So young! May all of you find the strength to be there for Steven in this dark time

because its so hard for all of you too.

No hearts to give but you have some big hugs from me, and blessings for the days ahead. Godspeed Steven....





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Response to riderinthestorm (Reply #15)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:31 AM

19. Thank you...

....yes, the tears are here...but I do believe that he will soon be free of the pain...horrible pain...which he has suffered.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:59 AM

20. sending more light, love and healing energy...

That Steven may have a swift and easy passage into his next journey, and that his parents may lose their fear and find peace in Steven's freedom from suffering and the knowing that he lives on in their hearts.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 11:04 AM

21. Dear Hep, you've had a load, and I am sending prayers

Hello friend, haven't spoke in a while. I'm so sorry that you have yet another cancer victim so near to you. You've had more than your share of this horrible disease. God bless you and Steven. I have lost two more friends to breast cancer since Carol passed, so I can empathize with you. It sucks!

Uben

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 11:14 AM

22. Sending you healing thoughts and love.

And this...it brought me great comfort during my late husband's final days.

Gone From My Sight
by Henry Van Dyke

I am standing upon the seashore. A ship, at my side,
spreads her white sails to the moving breeze and starts
for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength.
I stand and watch her until, at length, she hangs like a speck
of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.

Then, someone at my side says, "There, she is gone"

Gone where?

Gone from my sight. That is all. She is just as large in mast,
hull and spar as she was when she left my side.
And, she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port.

Her diminished size is in me -- not in her.
And, just at the moment when someone says, "There, she is gone,"
there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices
ready to take up the glad shout, "Here she comes!"

And that is dying...



I know how hard this is, but you need to stay strong for your friends...they need comforting arms. Cherish your remaining time with Steven, and remember when his time comes, he's being released from all the health issues he's dealt with since he was 4. I'm not a "heaven & hell" believer, but I do think our energy continues on in some form. Steven will be whole again on the other side, and the physical problems will be gone...the blood disease that put him in a wheelchair, and the cancer that is taking him will no longer have any power. Peace.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 11:23 AM

23. Sending loving and peaceful thoughts

to Steven, to his family, and to you.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 11:25 AM

24. Sending love, care, prayers, healing thoughts, blessings and a heart

First to Steven, then his father, and mother and to you. It sounds like his father is taking this very hard. I hate this part of life, when we at times must let go of our dearly beloveds, and then go on with life. It is truly the most difficult thing to do in life. I send all of you a ton of strength to face the coming days and months and years without Dear Steven. And be reassured that Steven's Drs are doing everything possible to make him comfortable and to ease his passing, if death is imminent.

Peace to all, ReRe

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 11:28 AM

25. I will keep him in my thoughts

Such a sad situation.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 11:38 AM

26. Will do.

This old man will walk out to the sweat lodge in the late afternoon/early evening hours for ceremony. I will pray for your friends.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 11:38 AM

27. Very best thoughts - this is truly horrible.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 11:40 AM

28. Oh, my friend, it's not what they take away from you that counts . . .

it's what you do with what you have left."

- Hubert Humphrey, after cancer surgery in 1978

He sounds like a young man that has accomplished much with what life gave him. My prayers and hearts for him, his family and you in this difficult time.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 11:46 AM

29. Good vibes ...

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 11:47 AM

30. I just bought a new prayer candle yesterday

Mr MbZ looked at me and asked me what I needed it for. I didn't have an answer other then there is always someone who needs a candle lit for them. I will light it for your friend and their son.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 11:49 AM

31. Best wishes to your friends, and to you as well. nt.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 11:51 AM

32. Sending good thoughts and hugs.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 12:00 PM

33. Sending love and light to Steven,

his family and yours.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 12:00 PM

34. Sending the best vibes I can muster. k&r n/t

-Laelth

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 12:06 PM

35. Sending love and prayers

To your good friend and his son Steven. Hugs to you.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 12:23 PM

36. I'm so, so sorry.

My prayers are with you, your dear friend and his family.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Sun Feb 10, 2013, 12:32 PM

37. Holding you all in light, peace, blessing

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Sun Feb 10, 2013, 08:24 PM

38. Sending prayers

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Mon Feb 11, 2013, 01:19 AM

39. such heartbreak... I am so sorry

So sad for you and your loss of Ben, so sad for your friend's impending loss of his beloved son.

I hope it gives them a little comfort to know that many, many strangers are keeping him in their thoughts and in their hearts and sending him much love and wishes for a peaceful passing, if that is what must happen.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Mon Feb 11, 2013, 01:23 AM

40. sending love, prayers, and good vibes to Steven and his family

in this difficult time. May he be healed, and if not, may his passing be a peaceful one.

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Mon Feb 11, 2013, 01:27 AM

41. (((((((for Steven and his family)))))))



Peace...

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Mon Feb 11, 2013, 01:32 AM

42. Sending them all the love I posess, having just

lost my Mum I know then pain you all are in

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Response to Hepburn (Original post)

Mon Feb 11, 2013, 01:39 AM

43. my thoughts are with him

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