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Wed Jan 30, 2013, 11:33 PM

 

The root of all problems with guns

I was doing a reply to the post about "Cops handcuff and interrogate boy, 7, for hours over missing $5: family" http://www.democraticunderground.com/10022285356 when I realized I had presented the perfect case why assault rifles should be banned. I was talking about my son:

I do not believe in corporal punishment. I take away things he wants and send him to his room, but he still does not listen, or attend school if he feels he has something better to do. He is now 15 and I am very worried about him. He hits his *girlfriend* and always gets in fights that are *never his fault*. What can I do. I have sent him to psychiatrist but he will not talk to them. He knows I will never hit him, so he has no respect for me or anyone. A little police terror might get his attention.


I have been dealing with this for five years. He knows that I love him, and he is not a bad kid. He just loses his temper rapidly when he feels he is disrespected. Why he hits his girlfriend, I do not know, he certainly did not learn that from me. He is a good looking, even handsome, boy and she gets jealous when he talks with other girls. He says she has to know her place. I tell them both, they are too young to be more then friends, but it goes in one ear and out the other and never stops in the brain. I think I have spoken to every therapist in town. He is smart and he knows it, gets straight A's in school, although he does not attend half the time, and dismisses therapy as just being mumbo-jumbo. If you take every bad thing you heard about Mitt bossing people around when he was young, that is my son. The world has to follow his rules, he does not have to follow the world's rules. This is why I wish the police would put a little respect and terror in him. I do not know what I can do!!!


I have never been a gun owner and have no weapons in my home. My son has never shown an interest in guns. But what kind of fear would I live in if I had weapons in my home and my son had an interest in guns. This is something we should think about. My son is not crazy, he gets into a lot of fights but it has never been something bad enough to involve the police. He does not fight on school grounds. Right now it only involves bloody noses and black eyes, but what if he had access to an AR-15.

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AverageMe Jan 2013 #12
freshwest Jan 2013 #17
AverageMe Jan 2013 #21
Zoeisright Jan 2013 #9
freshwest Jan 2013 #10
Berserker Jan 2013 #11
galileoreloaded Jan 2013 #13
ErikJ Jan 2013 #15
backwoodsbob Jan 2013 #34
aikoaiko Jan 2013 #2
AverageMe Jan 2013 #5
backwoodsbob Jan 2013 #36
GreenStormCloud Jan 2013 #3
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GreenStormCloud Jan 2013 #27
KharmaTrain Jan 2013 #22
hack89 Jan 2013 #23
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hack89 Jan 2013 #25
Myrina Jan 2013 #28
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slackmaster Jan 2013 #14
Jenoch Jan 2013 #16
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ManiacJoe Jan 2013 #18
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Remmah2 Jan 2013 #26
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TheKentuckian Jan 2013 #32
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Response to AverageMe (Original post)

Wed Jan 30, 2013, 11:42 PM

1. Have you taught him what is moral, what will succeed in life?

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Response to freshwest (Reply #1)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 12:09 AM

4. I have tried, as I said he is a good kid and is smart

 

He has anger control problems, thinks he knows what is best, and is in love with himself. But he is responsible in his household chores, is a wiz with computers, and a leader with his group of friends. But he feels no connection to other people, everyone is responsible only for themselves, and is very material in his viewpoint. In a material sense I have no doubt he will be successful, but if things do not go his way he deals with it very poorly. He is always right and everyone should realize this,

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Response to AverageMe (Reply #4)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 12:28 AM

8. You sound bambozzled by your own kid. I have to admit, I was religious when my kid was small.

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Took 'em to church and read all the stuff about violence being wrong, selfishness was wrong, practicing forgiveness and love and turn the other cheek. No matter what and I'm wondering if you had those talks with him.

But the other issue is you say your kid knows you love him, but I know that my kid loved me very much, thought I was wonderful, smart and right about things. I was the moral guide. Because we cannot just be buddies and pals to our kids, they have those elsewhere. We bring them into this world and it's our duty to teach them how to survive and have the values that will protect them when no one is looking over their shooulders or forcing them to behave. It has to be ingrained, come to their understanding that there is much more important things that having your own way.

You seem to be saying that your kid is all powerful and you are helpless. I was big on building my kid's self-esteem, didn't spank, etc. There were anger problems, but more to a lack of understanding what was expected and wanting approval. I acted with respect and demanded the same, to me and everyone else.

No way would I have permitted my kid to get involved with anyone and hit them, that would be grounding until time to leave home. If that was my kid, he'd've heard he was wrong from the time the sun rose until it set until he agreed to change. You have to do something to let him know that his life will be destroyed if he keeps on this path.

You don't need religion to do it either, we're not religious anymore, but the lessons stayed. No one gets to tell anyone, especially a girlfriend to stay in her place. That's abuse.

Something is seriously wrong with your story here, and I'm almost at the point of thinking you are shining us on. It sounds like you have taken every criticism of liberal child rearing and said you did it, but that's not what you are decribing.

To say that just because you didn't hit him is why he's gone bad, or needs to be terrorized. That's full conservative abuse speak right there. Liberal families I know did not spank, but the children knew that using violence was simply not done. You are painting your child as all powerful, and there is not way that is so.

I'm done I guess, because I'm having trouble believing you here and I'm sorry. Someone else may know better and continue with you. If this is really what is happening and you are this overwhelmed, get help and good luck.


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Response to freshwest (Reply #8)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 02:00 AM

12. I am his Step-father and entered his life when he was eight years old

 

His mother had to work and he was raised by his grandmother for his first eight years. I am 16 years older then his mother and tried to be a friend to her three children first. I have never had any children of my own, before becoming a father to them. I always respected them as little people who can be reasoned with and never said "because I said so". I never lost my temper with them and always explained why they were being punished. This is one reason I do not understand his issues with anger, he was the middle child, and I have never had any problems with the other two. I was never religious so I did not require the go to church, although their grandmother was very religious and I know they went to church when they lived with her.

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Response to AverageMe (Reply #12)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 02:49 AM

17. Okay, you just added another dimension here. Step-father.

This often does not go well, at least not with boys in my experience, which I admit is limited. And you weren't with him in those very important first few years, so the connection isn't as strong. Is grandmother still involved or do other people in the family discuss the issues of violence with him?

Fortunately guns are not involved even though some may want to think that's the issue. His level of violence, having been brought up with women, and I'm hoping that there was no violence in growing up before you got on the scene and into this family, is a puzzle.

If he is the only one acting out, it seems like he would benefit from a strong dose of attention from you. Middle children can have issues about attention. The older and younger kids sometimes get more attention due to parents learning and just practical matters. The middle just has to shift between siblings.

I'm wondering if you are able to devote a lot of time to this child, soon to be a man, and get him to realize that he doesn't need to control his girlfriend ((although I'm old fashioned and don't think he's old enough if he's having troubles already)) or defend himself from this 'respect' issue with other kids.

I think sometimes when a kid does that, it's not about feeling he's right, it's wanting to prove something. People that are truly confident don't feel the need to prove anything or demand respect from their adolescent friends. That's the wrong focus at that age.

Maybe a lot more attention from you, so much so that he doesn't have time for this girlfriend or these fights, if you have the time, would help as a diversion?

Because any kid beating on people is going to get in trouble. If not other people in the community, from the law. And if he and this girlfriend are this involved, is pregnancy on the horizon? What do her parents think about this, what do the school counselors know?

This could blow up and ruin his life as well as hers, if it's as bad as you think. The fights with other kids, this is serious stuff. Most school districts do not allow it, they have zero tolerance and no matter how smart he is at school, he will have consequences.

You're in a very bad place if it's as bad as you say it is, because the world is not going to put up with him much longer. Fifteen is fast to becoming an adult in the eyes of the community and the law. Now it may be less severe than I'm imagining, but something is wrong. Do you have money to get him counseling, something really good? I know some people don't and some communities don't offer help. What do the other family members say?

Anyway, good luck, I'm not a pro, just a faceless person on the internet, do what you can to prevent the boy from going down the wrong path. It's got to be very disturbing to know one's child is causing problems. We're anonymous here, but somewhere in real life this is not, and there are serious consequences coming.

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Response to freshwest (Reply #17)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 06:42 AM

21. Thank you Freshwest for caring.

 

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Response to freshwest (Reply #1)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 12:41 AM

9. You think THAT is the answer to gun violence?

My god, how incredibly naive.

The point is that guns make anger a deadly emotion. When you have a gun, a flash of anger can turn into murder. Gun humpers just don't get that connection.

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Response to Zoeisright (Reply #9)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 12:51 AM

10. Wow...

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Response to Zoeisright (Reply #9)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 12:57 AM

11. Do you think

 

That calling people "Gun Humpers" makes you above those who have guns. Do you have a sexual fetish about guns?

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Response to Zoeisright (Reply #9)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 02:06 AM

13. ZoeisHyperbolic!

 

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Response to Zoeisright (Reply #9)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 02:22 AM

15. Agreed

Thats why a gun in the home increases your chance of being killed by guns by 400%. When people lose their temper too many reach for the gun.

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Response to Zoeisright (Reply #9)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 10:22 AM

34. gun humpers?

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Response to AverageMe (Original post)

Wed Jan 30, 2013, 11:45 PM

2. Respectfully, I don't see a happy future for your son.


If he continues he will likely end up in jail. Someone will file charges eventually.

Worse yet, he may meet someone who is bigger and meaner than him.

I wish you and your family well, but sometimes bad things have to happen before someone is motivated to change.

Good luck.


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Response to aikoaiko (Reply #2)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 12:13 AM

5. I fear you are correct, but he does not understand this

 

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Response to AverageMe (Reply #5)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 10:23 AM

36. sorry but...he sounds like a sociopath

you seriously need to get him help.

Best of luck

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Response to AverageMe (Original post)

Wed Jan 30, 2013, 11:50 PM

3. Why should you take my guns away from me, because your son is troubled? N/T

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Response to GreenStormCloud (Reply #3)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 12:21 AM

6. Because people like my son exist

 

My son is not the only *troubled" young man out there. To many people he is very successful and is a role model. They have no idea the number of fights he gets into.

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Response to AverageMe (Reply #6)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 09:42 AM

27. Anyone who has been convicted of a violent crime should be on the NICS list.

At present, due to age, he can't legally buy a gun. His GF should press charges against him for hitting her. And laws on who is on the NICS list should be broadened.

But that is no reason to try to take my guns away from me. I am now a senior citizen and have been around guns for my entire life with no problems.

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Response to GreenStormCloud (Reply #3)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 06:43 AM

22. The Root Of The Problems Right Here...

Instead of looking at what might be a turbulent person who would abuse a weapon and end up taking someone's life, all that matters is "taking MY guns away from ME". There's nothing in that post that mentions that, but it's the leap that's automatically taken when a situation like this is brought up. The son of the poster sounds like someone who should be monitored for anger issues and could be a danger if allowed to legally purchase a weapon. A strong case for both background checks, but all that is being "interpreted" here is .we're gonna "grab guns". Yet another example of people talking past one another and why this murdering spree will continue...

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Response to KharmaTrain (Reply #22)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 06:48 AM

23. "why assault rifles should be banned."

seems pretty clear to me.

Why didn't the poster reach the conclusion that "in my particular case it would be best to not have guns in the house." and just leave it at that?

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Response to hack89 (Reply #23)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 06:55 AM

24. Cause He Has An Opinion...

...and while decorum around this place has gone to shits, I still like to afford the person the benefit of the doubt. So do you think his son should be allowed to purchase or own a firearm? I don't care if its automatic, semi-auto or instant reverse...it's still a gun in dangerous hands. There's the issue...or do you think gun laws should be one-size fits all?

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Response to KharmaTrain (Reply #24)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 09:35 AM

25. His son should not be allowed to purchase or own a firearm

the trick is to devise a process that respects his right to due process.

Gun laws should not be one-size fits all.

There are three groups responsible for gun deaths in America.

The biggest is suicides. The second is violent criminals. Then we have a tiny group of mentally ill mass killers.

Why not address each one separately? Mental health coverage to reduce suicides. A harsh crackdown on felons using guns and as well as shutting down sources of illegal guns. And for mass killers, besides mental health care, we need some system to identify potentially violent people and ensure that they are not allowed to threaten society.

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Response to hack89 (Reply #25)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 09:46 AM

28. ... until he breaks into your house and steals your gun ...

... and takes it (along with other fun stuff he's stolen and stockpiled) to a shopping mall or other crowded place & wreaks havoc.

Then what?

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Response to Myrina (Reply #28)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 10:02 AM

31. If you want 100% guarantees I can't help you

you pass good laws and enforce them as well as you can. What reasonable laws would prevent your scenario?

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Response to KharmaTrain (Reply #22)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 09:47 AM

29. Because he said that he wants to ban all assault weapons.

When he realizes that so-called assault weapons account for only a tiny portion of murders and that handguns account for most gun murders, he will want to ban them too.

I agree that this young guy should not have access to any gun.

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Response to AverageMe (Original post)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 12:24 AM

7. Hitting his

 

Girlfriend is bad and it's up to you to get that straightened out and fast. As for if he had access to a AR-15 he would go nuts is like saying if he had access to another mans hairy pimply ass he would turn gay.

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Response to AverageMe (Original post)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 02:10 AM

14. I demystified firearms for my stepson, as my stepfather did for me at age 10.

 

I always kept weapons locked up so he couldn't get to them. But I taught him the basics of safe firearm handling and how to unload both the Ruger 10/22 and the Smith & Wesson .38 revolver I've always kept in the home.

He was very interested in video games. When I first allowed him to shoot that little rifle, he got very good at hitting the target with amazing speed.

He wasn't really interested in them after that. I think he found the video games more entertaining.

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Response to AverageMe (Original post)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 02:23 AM

16. You need to get your step-son to a mental health professional.

I don't know what kind of therapists you have spoken to, but from family experience, the boy sounds like he is more than a little troubled. Your post describes some characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder. You seem to understand that this boy has serious issues and is not just 'acting up'. Of course you need to keep him away from guns. Good luck to you, him, and his mother.

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Response to Jenoch (Reply #16)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 06:29 AM

19. Thank you Jenoch

 

You hit the nail on its head. From what I read the best way to approach this is to say the whole family is going to counseling. He would then be going not for himself, but only as just a part of the family unit. I am lucky enough to be able to afford this, but what about those who can not afford this approach. What about those people who dismiss their son getting into fights and say "boys will be boys." (Excluding his actions with his girlfriend).

According to what I read 1 to 2% of the population may have, to some extent, "narcissistic personality disorder" when they are young. However, the majority outgrow it as they become older. There are nine different forms this disorder can take.

Of course, he will never be near a gun because it is not something I, or he, has any interest in. It is not a part of our urban upper middle-class culture. But for millions of Americans guns are a part of their culture, and there are millions of boys just like him, 1 or 2 in every hundred, whose family will say, "boys will be boys."

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Response to Jenoch (Reply #16)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 10:20 AM

33. Yes--NPD Narcissist Personality Disorder

is serious and not often identified until someone is much older. The fact that the OP dad is worried means that he is onto it already. NPD is difficult to treat, as it's an obsessive disorder, but improvement can be made.

The father is right. This type can be volatile, abusive, and should not be around lethal weapons. NPD is theorized as an early maladaptation to family stress-- and thus compassion, identification, and help is the best way to go. I'm not up enough on breaking the cycle in adolescents, but I think if the pattern can be seen clearly in a teen, it would be wise to seek help. If the son refuses, the parents should go--they need to know how to deal with it and that can go a long way to improving things.

Dad--you are onto something. Don't be afraid of this but if you care, don't ignore it. Thanks for posting.

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Response to AverageMe (Original post)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 03:03 AM

18. You ask the wrong question.

> ... but what if he had access to an AR-15?

The question you need to be asking is, why would you let him have access to any gun, AR-15 or otherwise?

If you own any guns, you have a responsibility to keep them away from unauthorized users, like your son. In this example, a true gun safe would be required, not a lock box, not a cable lock, but a true gun safe. Obviously, you would not be sharing the lock combination with him.

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Response to ManiacJoe (Reply #18)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 06:36 AM

20. How many Gun owners take all the precautions that they should take?

 

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Response to AverageMe (Reply #20)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 03:54 PM

42. Most of the ones that I know.

However, as large as that number might be relatively speaking, the population is draws from is certainly not large enough to be a representable sample.

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Response to AverageMe (Original post)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 09:39 AM

26. Nobody is forcing you to buy a semi-auto cosmetically impaired firearm.

 

So why ban something you don't want to own anyway?

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Thu Jan 31, 2013, 09:58 AM

30. You can read here if you like

 

http://www.hriptc.org/content/aggressive.php

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Walsh,W: Zinc deficiency, metal metabolism, and behavioral disorders. Report of the Health Research Institute 1995. This study focuses on persons born with a metal-metabolism disorder often resulting in episodic violence, hyperactivity and conduct disorder.

Sever Y, Ashkenazi A, Tyano S, Weizman, A: Iron treatment in children with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. A preliminary report. Neuropsych 1997; 35(4):178-80.A study of 14 boys aged 7-11 years using iron for therapeutic treatment of hyperactivity. The report recommends further study based on the finding that increased blood iron resulted in the reduction of aggressive behaviors.

Department of Family Medicine, Pomeranian Medical Academy, Poland: The effects of magnesium physiological supplementation on hyperactivity in children with ADHD. Mag Res 1997; 10(2):149-56. The report from this institute states that dietetic factors can play a significant role in the origin of ADHD and that magnesium deficiency can result in disruptive behaviors.

Schoenthaler S: Vitamins Against Crime: Supplementation and antisocial behavior in institutions. Medical Nutrition 1990; 34-37. Brain function requires adequate nutrition, and correction of chronic undernutrition can improve antisocial behavior. Researchers have found that vitamin and mineral tests can be a good indicator of violent behavior.

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Thu Jan 31, 2013, 10:22 AM

35. so you KNOW he has physically assaulted...

...his girlfriend yet you didn't call the police? Do it next time, show him that actions have consequences. You may just save his, and her life!

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Response to actslikeacarrot (Reply #35)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 11:02 AM

38. The confused girl who is putting up with this

also needs help to get out of it. SHE needs to show him she will not be his punching bag.

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Response to marions ghost (Reply #38)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 12:28 PM

39. i think if the...

...young man was arrested, maybe she would see that its not her fault, and she dosent deserve the abuse?

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Response to actslikeacarrot (Reply #39)

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 12:42 PM

40. The disturbing thing is

why she thinks for a minute that she deserves abuse. Societal controls on him should not have to prove that to her. This girl has low self-esteem, maybe BPD (borderline personality). It is not normal for anyone to put up with being hit and then go back for more.

I once had a university student with this problem--she tolerated abuse and the seeds for that were sown in her own family & environment. Very weak sense of boundaries. She ended up being killed.

I advocate girls being actively engaged in this debate about relationship abuse --being taught exactly what is OK and what is not--at a young age. Girls need to be empowered--not merely protected by others.

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41. If I found out my son had hit a girl...

 

He better be more afraid of me than the cops. In fact, it would go easier on him if he just went to the nearest cop and handed himself over. There are some things for which no tolerance is warranted and that is certainly one.

He doesn't respect you or anyone else, because he has no reason to do so. Some kids can be reasoned with, and they should be reasoned with, but the parent has to be the authority, not the friend.

Your stepson sounds strong willed. How did his mom and grandma deal with him, was he much the same when younger? Throw tantrums? Ignore adults? Destroy things? Strong-willed children are very often extremely intelligent.

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