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Mon Jan 28, 2013, 11:36 AM

We Are Coming Home

I want to extend a special greeting to all adoptees and fostered individuals. And to all our birth parents and other relatives who spend the years we are away from them wondering, worrying about us always praying we will some day return home. We thank you for those prayers for it those prayers that has kept us here and brought us home. Our voices have been silent for many years. Now the time has come to tell this side of the story.http://wearecominghome.com/ComingHome.php


I have found my way home thanks to a wonderful search angel. I have found my mother...and two sisters!!!!!!

Blessed be the children and women of relinquishment, we will find each other eventually!!!!

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me b zola Jan 2013 OP
JustAnotherGen Jan 2013 #1
el_bryanto Jan 2013 #2
me b zola Jan 2013 #3
Lesmoderesstupides Jan 2013 #4
me b zola Jan 2013 #5
Lesmoderesstupides Jan 2013 #6
me b zola Jan 2013 #7
me b zola Jan 2013 #8
me b zola Jan 2013 #9
EastKYLiberal Jan 2013 #10
me b zola Jan 2013 #11
Mojorabbit Jan 2013 #14
me b zola Jan 2013 #12
lynne Jan 2013 #13

Response to me b zola (Original post)

Mon Jan 28, 2013, 11:43 AM

1. rec

Many years ago I was engaged to a man whose father was taken from his grandparents. HIS father was a german immigrant that died during the course of his work (railroad) and his mother was a Mohawk. Instead of letting him stay with his maternal family - they put he and his siblings into the 'system'. Where they suffered horrible abuse.

It's time - the time is now to rip the duct tape off of our mouths and let the truth be told at last.

This warms my heart.

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Response to me b zola (Original post)

Mon Jan 28, 2013, 11:47 AM

2. I was adopted. I have no real desire to meet my birth parents and never have.

My sister did feel that desire, I believe. I don't know what to make of that. Maybe I'm just kind of a bastard. I loved my adopted parents quite a bit.

Bryant

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Response to el_bryanto (Reply #2)

Mon Jan 28, 2013, 11:54 AM

3. The search has nothing to do with how much we love our adoptive parents

...it is almost always about filling out the puzzle pieces that is our selves. I very much loved my adoptive parents, but my adoptive brother is like you...until I told him that I found my family, now he wants to know. Its always there, those missing pieces...

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Response to me b zola (Original post)

Mon Jan 28, 2013, 12:04 PM

4. I enjoy being a bastard!

 

I have no desire to find my birth parents; I was put up of adoption for whatever reason they had back then, why open old wounds. Were my adoptive parents perfect and great, no but I did not want for anything either, always had food, clean clothes and a roof over my head. One canít really ask for much more.

I have no problem with those that do find their birth parents, that is their choice and right, I just hope when people do go through the search it all works out for everyone in the end.


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Response to Lesmoderesstupides (Reply #4)

Mon Jan 28, 2013, 12:58 PM

5. Old wounds fester

...and become necrotic. I love my adp0tive parents, but this is about me, and about others searching...home is there

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Response to me b zola (Reply #5)

Mon Jan 28, 2013, 02:19 PM

6. Did you always know you were adopted?

 

I know many who did not which cause problems later in life with the adoptive family, I knew even as a young child I was adopted it was never hidden from me.

My adoptive parents were told my birth parents died in a car crash but the adoption was through the Catholic Church and we all know the church would never lie about something like that.

To me home and family is what you decide it is. Glad it worked out for you.

Every once in a while I think about searching for my birth parents, maybe I am the result of youthful indiscretion of a 1%er, could be some $$$$ís in it for me, but most likely not.

It would piss me off knowing I was a member of the lucky sperm club and was cast out.

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Response to Lesmoderesstupides (Reply #6)

Mon Jan 28, 2013, 02:36 PM

7. Yes, I have always known

My adoptive family was wonderful, I am very thankful for ending up in their home After finding my biologic family both maternal and paternal, I indeed was placed very well in a very similar family, for that I am very grateful. I am not, though, grateful for a system that required young women to relinquish their children against their will which resulted in my adoption. I am currently working to relieve my biologic mother of the pain that she endured being forced to relinquish me...it wasn't her fault. Sweet Jesus if I could only sooth her pain...

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Response to me b zola (Original post)

Mon Jan 28, 2013, 09:34 PM

8. I found my mother and *this* is DU's response?

Freaking sad

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Response to me b zola (Original post)

Mon Jan 28, 2013, 10:14 PM

9. Kicking to give others hope!

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Response to me b zola (Original post)

Mon Jan 28, 2013, 10:16 PM

10. Hope everything works out for you.

 

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Response to EastKYLiberal (Reply #10)

Mon Jan 28, 2013, 10:20 PM

11. Thank you!

Everything *has* already worked out! I have spoken to my mother for the first time in 49 years. I have seen her picture and heard her voice. I am golden. She could tell me to bugger off and it would not change the feeling I have right now. The picture of me is as close to complete as its going to get, I am at peace.

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Response to me b zola (Reply #11)

Tue Jan 29, 2013, 12:48 AM

14. I am so happy for you!

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Response to me b zola (Original post)

Mon Jan 28, 2013, 11:15 PM

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Response to me b zola (Original post)

Mon Jan 28, 2013, 11:58 PM

13. Congratulations!

My husband was adopted but knew it all his life. What he didn't know was that his biological mother had another child by his biological father and he had a full blooded brother. They met in their mid-30's and it has been a wonderful experience for the both of them.

Like you, he finally felt complete and most of his questions were answered. Wishing you much success as you step into this new relationship with your birth family.

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