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Mon Jan 14, 2013, 11:17 AM

Jodie Foster Is Gay, and It’s None of Your Business


By J. Bryan Lowder | Posted Monday, Jan. 14, 2013, at 12:53 AM ET

When Sunday’s Golden Globes ceremony reached its celebration of Jodie Foster, the recipient of this year’s Cecile B. DeMille Award for lifetime achievement, the montage of clips from Contact and Nell was predictable. What was not predictable was Foster’s acceptance speech, at once charming, forthright, swerving, a little unhinged and strangely elegant. In it, Foster thanked all the usual colleagues up front, but then she quickly moved into a much more personal register in which, through making a joke about her new status as a single lady, she kind of, sort of, maybe a little bit came out of the closet. Annoyingly, the internet quickly went bananas trying to decide if Foster’s statement was militant enough to count, and so I was pleased when she went on to eloquently explain just why her romantic life should be none of our business.

Of course, as anyone who’s been following Foster’s career knows, she’s been essentially unguarded about her lesbianism for some time—at least, as Buzzfeed points out, since acknowledging her longtime partner in 2007. But she has never made an outright political statement of the sort increasingly popular among gay celebrities today.

In her speech, Foster seemed to take issue with the expectation—from LGBT activists and elsewhere—that simply because she’s a public figure, her personal life is anyone’s business but those with whom it directly intersects. "I already did my coming out back in the Stone Age,” she said. “In those very quaint days when a fragile young girl would open up to trusted friends and family and co-workers and then gradually and proudly to everyone who knew her – to everyone she actually met." She then bemoaned the decline of this kind of privacy, pointing out that when you’ve been in the public eye as long as she has, a modicum of the stuff is required to keep you sane.

I say we let her have it. As far as I’m concerned, as long as a gay person hasn’t been actively pretending to be straight (like a number of people in that hall tonight are probably doing), I don't think she is required to be an activist or even a "role model" for younger LGBT people if she doesn’t wish to be. It is, of course, wonderful when big names like Zachary Quinto and Anderson Cooper have the courage to give up their hetero-privilege in a public pronouncement, and undoubtedly the increasing recognition that so many of our culture-makers are gay has the power to challenge perceptions. But in the midst of the noisy demand that celebrities be “loud and proud,” as Foster put it, the ostensible endgame of the LGBT equality movement can get drowned out: the ability to live our lives as we wish, freely and gently, in peace.

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http://www.slate.com/blogs/browbeat/2013/01/14/jodie_foster_at_the_golden_globes_did_she_come_out_as_gay_in_her_speech.html?wpisrc=newsletter_jcr:content

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Reply Jodie Foster Is Gay, and It’s None of Your Business (Original post)
DonViejo Jan 2013 OP
closeupready Jan 2013 #1
cali Jan 2013 #3
closeupready Jan 2013 #5
backwoodsbob Jan 2013 #4
Myrina Jan 2013 #22
FrodosPet Jan 2013 #33
progressoid Jan 2013 #6
closeupready Jan 2013 #7
Major Nikon Jan 2013 #44
WooWooWoo Jan 2013 #2
KamaAina Jan 2013 #17
AtheistCrusader Jan 2013 #18
Rex Jan 2013 #8
zonkers Jan 2013 #9
NYC Liberal Jan 2013 #12
Major Nikon Jan 2013 #45
Fumesucker Jan 2013 #10
Nye Bevan Jan 2013 #11
closeupready Jan 2013 #14
Yavin4 Jan 2013 #13
TheMightyFavog Jan 2013 #30
brooklynite Jan 2013 #15
AtheistCrusader Jan 2013 #19
msongs Jan 2013 #24
marble falls Jan 2013 #16
Lex Jan 2013 #20
Ed Suspicious Jan 2013 #21
Lex Jan 2013 #23
glowing Jan 2013 #36
TahitiNut Jan 2013 #27
Hulk Jan 2013 #25
physioex Jan 2013 #31
BlueStreak Jan 2013 #26
FreeState Jan 2013 #28
4Q2u2 Jan 2013 #34
tabasco Jan 2013 #37
4Q2u2 Jan 2013 #43
rocktivity Jan 2013 #46
cali Jan 2013 #47
TahitiNut Jan 2013 #29
Spitfire of ATJ Jan 2013 #32
Orrex Jan 2013 #35
ailsagirl Jan 2013 #38
MineralMan Jan 2013 #39
Taverner Jan 2013 #40
RebelOne Jan 2013 #41
Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Jan 2013 #42
devilgrrl Jan 2013 #48

Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 11:32 AM

1. Um, yeah it is our business, sort of.

She's a public figure.

Obviously, I don't mean hounding her or prying, and I applaud her for coming out.

But Lowden is wrong.

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Response to closeupready (Reply #1)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 11:37 AM

3. fine but she doesn't owe it to you or anyone else

to make public pronouncements about her personal life

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Response to cali (Reply #3)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 11:40 AM

5. 100% agreed.

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Response to closeupready (Reply #1)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 11:39 AM

4. she is a public figure because of our societies obcession with public figures

it doesn't make her private life your business

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Response to backwoodsbob (Reply #4)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 01:40 PM

22. +100

Thank you.

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Response to backwoodsbob (Reply #4)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 02:50 PM

33. And all this time we thought it was because she was an actress

Who has played in a large number of award winning, critically acclaimed, even culture changing films.

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Response to closeupready (Reply #1)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 11:41 AM

6. And I need to know if her lymph nodes are swollen and what she ate for breakfast.





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Response to progressoid (Reply #6)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 11:44 AM

7. Which, if you watch Entertainment Tonight or read Huff. Post,

you would find out. Plus, who her dining companions were, where the restaurant is, if they take reservations, and are their veggies organic.

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Response to closeupready (Reply #1)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 04:09 PM

44. I think most people probably feel the way you do

But I don't think it has to be our business. Who she decides to partner with has absolutely no bearing on her acting or anything else she does. It should be no more relevant than any other straight actor that doesn't have to put up with the nonsense.

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 11:35 AM

2. i would want to keep as much of my life private too

if I was a young girl who was once used as the reason to shoot a sitting president.

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Response to WooWooWoo (Reply #2)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 01:12 PM

17. This is the correct answer.

She managed to avoid unwanted attention at our alma mater Yale by associating primarily with the townie punk rock fans who always hung out on the wall by Beinecke Library. There were a few sightings at Rudy's bar near campus, but that was pretty much it.

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Response to WooWooWoo (Reply #2)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 01:16 PM

18. Bingo.

She's had plenty of non-career media attention that she did not want and did not deserve.

Why can't we just let people alone in peace?

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 12:05 PM

8. Don't remember asking.

Who cares what the Internets thinks.

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 12:38 PM

9. She uses the whole "privacy" beef to deflect attention from what's ultimately a mediocre body work.

She is an overrated actress, a passable director and ultimately a pseudo-artist who should have learned a hell of a lot more making movies as long as she did. I mean, look at Ron Howard. Now that is a hollywood career with artistic growth and trajectory.

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Response to zonkers (Reply #9)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 12:53 PM

12. Nonsense. MANY actors and directors, great and not, want and have wanted

to keep their private lives private.

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Response to zonkers (Reply #9)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 04:17 PM

45. Nominated for an Academy Award 4 times and won it twice

Her peers don't agree with you. Perhaps her accomplishments behind the camera aren't as great as in front of it, but she is by no means an overrated actress. Ron Howard is a phenomenal director and producer, but he never was all that great as an actor.

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 12:42 PM

10. If that's the case then why is this author blithering on about Foster's private life?

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Response to Fumesucker (Reply #10)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 12:45 PM

11. There is a certain amount of irony in this headline and article (nt)

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Response to Fumesucker (Reply #10)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 12:56 PM

14. "Physician, heal thyself" is the expression that comes to mind.

Directed at the author, not you.

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 12:54 PM

13. John Hinckley: "So.... I never really ever had a chance? Boy, do I feel dumb." n/t

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Response to Yavin4 (Reply #13)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 02:10 PM

30. *snerg*

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 01:03 PM

15. Doesn't announcing it on a primetime network awards show sort of make it public?

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Response to brooklynite (Reply #15)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 01:17 PM

19. I think you missed the point of her speech.

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Response to brooklynite (Reply #15)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 01:45 PM

24. pretty much nt

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 01:12 PM

16. If it doesn't matter, why is it part of the discussion?

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 01:19 PM

20. No one asked for "details" about her life, but to at least acknowledge that she is gay

is not an invasion of privacy, imho.

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Response to Lex (Reply #20)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 01:40 PM

21. Would there be an expectation of a Heterosexual

acknowledgment if that we're her sexuality? Simply because we have voyeuristic tendencies does not an obligation for confirmation of sexuality make.

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Response to Ed Suspicious (Reply #21)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 01:44 PM

23. People are presumed to be straight, yes.

At least right now in our society that is the case.

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Response to Lex (Reply #23)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 03:04 PM

36. Perhaps, because I'm younger, and have grown up

with the idea that GLBT aren't some odd weird thing to "fear", I don't assume that. I would say that people below a certain age don't automatically assume that someone is straight.

In the "dating world", the questions are more like, "what's your sign, r u single, and are you gay/ straight/ or bi". It's not really assumed that you are a preferred gender. And I'll admit, when I was single and completely uninterested, I would tell men I was a lesbian. I had NO problem doing so. And when I was looking for scholarships to try to apply for in college, there was one that qualified if your were gay. I told my mom, can I apply, the scholarship doesn't have a lot of qualifying academic necessities for application. My mom has been "growing" in acceptance of GLBT is ok or normal, but at that time, she was mortified that I would tell the world I was gay to qualify for a scholarship. (And the only reason I thought anything about it was because of the movie where a white boy pretended to be black to get a scholarship to Harvard Law). I told her I didn't care what the world thought of me, I'm trying to get an education, however, I won't cheat someone else who is actually gay or lesbian from getting the scholarship because in the long run, my moral, internal guidance would feel like I was doing wrong and harming others. I was mortified that she felt it would be a bad thing to say I was a lesbian.

Thankfully, she's evolved and doesn't give a flying whoop. And is at the point where she believes that 2 people who want to enter into a contracted marriage ought to have that right. As it is now, families that are living as a family unit don't have the protections they should have with property, child rights, or ability to make decisions for a loved one without outside interference of other family members or from asshat hospitals/ Drs/ nurses causing more pain for families by denying access to one another during critical times in people's lives.

I hope that my frankness and "let live" attitude has helped to change her mind a bit, along with more families living their lives as "out" partners in VT. It's hard to say to someone's child that their parents love and family is "less" than anyone else's... And she's a teacher now. Thank God!

Even the MTV "reality show" of strangers living together were first in having GLBT community members represented and living together. And as time has moved on with this show, the question is now "who's the gay or bi roomie?"; and much less of having some tool on the show that doesn't believe "gay is right". Now, we have a President who believes openly that marriage should be equal and that's a wonderful thing.

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Response to Ed Suspicious (Reply #21)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 02:02 PM

27. "Show us your tits!"

.. is often the NEXT demand when somone in the 'public eye' surrenders their privacy.

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 01:47 PM

25. She sticks it in your face and then...

...says "It's none of your business"? I'm a bit confused. I mean, she's a great actress. She's played some amazing parts, and she's a very attractive woman. Other than that, I know nothing about her personal life. Well, now I do, and I'm not sure I really care.

It just seems a bit hypocritical to me to stick it in our faces, and then tell us to not pay any attention to it. I'm glad she feels good with herself. Apparently she's been living a pretty open life, as she should, with her sexuality. I'm sorry, but I just think she is a hypocrite on this one.

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Response to Hulk (Reply #25)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 02:23 PM

31. I agree....

What is to be achieve by saying, "It's none of your business"? She practically had the attention of millions if not billions and she could have used it as a voice for people who do not have equal rights.

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 02:00 PM

26. Really funny that a person choses a career that is all about having us look at them all the time

and treat them as a celebrity, and they they feign disdain that people don't give them privacy.

All these people are attention whores. That is why they chose a career in the attention whore business.

And if they aren't getting enough attention, they will be tempted to come out with a story to call more attention to themselves -- such as "Oh, I'm gay but it is none of your business."

I wouldn't exactly call it courageous to come out in 2013. It was courageous in 1997. Maybe even 2005. But not in 2013. It is (yawn) ...

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 02:03 PM

28. I think she has a moral obligation to come out

Gay kids still kill themselves because they are gay. LGBT people can still be fired in 34 states just for being gay. Gays and lesbians can only get married in a little less than 20% of the country. LGBT people in America are currently treated as second class citizens by our governments and much of the public. One of the many reasons for this is LGBT people that have power do not come out and demand better. The next generation of LGBT people depend on the current one to make life better for everyone.

If I am to believe anything she said in her speech or her long acting career she has to be genuine, I believe she should come out and do what she can to make life better for all of us.

I feel the same about any gay person, celebrity or not.

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Response to FreeState (Reply #28)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 02:57 PM

34. You have a name like FreeState

then proceede to tell others what their moral obligations are. What if she came out and said I am gay but I would like it kept private and I think all Gay people should. Why do we insist on running other peoples lives, when we our selves would never put up with such intrusions. She is an adult and gets to live her life the way she chooses to. That is a powerful message for all of us, on that a lot of people have forgotten.

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Response to 4Q2u2 (Reply #34)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 03:04 PM

37. Freedom includes the freedom to express an opinion

That's all FreeState did.

If we're free, we can't make moral judgments? That doesn't make sense.

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Response to tabasco (Reply #37)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 03:58 PM

43. Tag Line

They are telling her what her Moral obligation is. Yes hopefully we are all still allowed our opinions, but that is were it should end. Not telling others how to live. I guess I just broke my own rule. See what a slippery slope that turns out to be. Nothing like HOT Sauce!

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Response to FreeState (Reply #28)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 04:22 PM

46. Here's what I wrote when Anderson Cooper came out

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COOPER: "It's become clear to me that...I have given some the mistaken impression...that I am trying to hide something...that makes me uncomfortable, ashamed or even afraid..."

TRANSLATION: "It's become clear to me that so many people have known I'm gay for such a long time, my silence has begun to undermine my personal AND professional credibility."
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And here's what I wrote when Stephanie Miller came out:
...She said she'd gotten to the point where "cheering from the sidelines" for was no longer enough -- it was time for her to "get down on the field..."

"I can't imagine why I thought being out would be harder than being in." That's what a gay co-worker told me...Maybe, like my co-worker, Stephanie got to the point where being out HAD to be easier, regardless of the personal and professional consequences...
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I first learned about Jodie's sexual orientation about thirty years ago via a sign on a telephone pole in Greenwich Village (New York City). I don't recall reading her reaction to it, but I read many articles denouncing outing as a tactic -- a group felt that "going cold turkey" was a faster path to acceptance. I looked at outing as just plain mean-spirited, but on the other hand, looking at it that way gave me reason to believe the stories were false.

I guess Jodie has found herself in the same boat as Anderson and Stephanie: either her public silence about her homosexuality had become too deafening, or she felt guilty about reaping the fruit of the LGBT movement's labors without planting seeds of her own. Her claims to "privacy" in her speech made me wince: here's hoping that she can now be public enough to contribute something more to the cause.


rocktivity

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Response to FreeState (Reply #28)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 04:54 PM

47. what a steaming pile and how very, very American of you

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 02:07 PM

29. She walked the line adroitly.

The 'line' between honesty and privacy rights, between respect for her public supporters and disrespect for her public exploiters. It would be excessively mean-spirited of me to sneer at her acceptance speech. I found it interesting, entertaining, and noteworthy. I watched it for free. I got more than my money's worth. I'd be a real asshole to complain.

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 02:27 PM

32. There are STILL idiots in the media who act like this is a career killer....

Or that she should be banned from any role where she is a love interest. Especially for a male costar.

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 03:00 PM

35. I'm more concerned about her support of Mel Gibson

What a loon!

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 03:05 PM

38. Not to be rude but...

who gives a damn??

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 03:10 PM

39. I did not care what her sexuality was before I knew,

and I still do not care. I don't know the person, will never meet the person, and so it's a matter of indifference to me. For me, it is the roles actors play and how they play them that is interesting. I often have no idea what actor is playing a particular role, and even if I do, I pay no attention to anything about the actor outside of the performance.

I would not inquire about her sexuality. If she tells me, I still will not care, one way or the other.

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 03:11 PM

40. Why is this "news"?

 

She's been out as long as I remember...

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 03:45 PM

41. Who cares? I don't.

I do not care about her lesbianism. I just admire her for her acting.

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Response to DonViejo (Original post)

Mon Jan 14, 2013, 03:52 PM

42. That's what I thought

News saying she just came out of the closet is false. I recall her saying she was a lesbian earlier.

If she doesn't want to wear it on her sleeve 24/7 that's her business.

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