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backwoodsbob Jan 2013 OP
stevenleser Jan 2013 #1
Democratopia Jan 2013 #4
stevenleser Jan 2013 #27
FarPoint Jan 2013 #41
Democratopia Jan 2013 #53
backwoodsbob Jan 2013 #6
stevenleser Jan 2013 #35
brush Jan 2013 #47
Democratopia Jan 2013 #2
hrmjustin Jan 2013 #3
Takket Jan 2013 #5
orpupilofnature57 Jan 2013 #13
BlueJazz Jan 2013 #7
backwoodsbob Jan 2013 #17
darkangel218 Jan 2013 #22
FourScore Jan 2013 #25
LeftofObama Jan 2013 #32
darkangel218 Jan 2013 #8
Democratopia Jan 2013 #12
darkangel218 Jan 2013 #19
Democratopia Jan 2013 #34
darkangel218 Jan 2013 #51
WinkyDink Jan 2013 #9
orpupilofnature57 Jan 2013 #10
backwoodsbob Jan 2013 #36
tridim Jan 2013 #11
RobertEarl Jan 2013 #14
darkangel218 Jan 2013 #15
vilify Jan 2013 #16
stevenleser Jan 2013 #29
darkangel218 Jan 2013 #44
orpupilofnature57 Jan 2013 #31
karynnj Jan 2013 #40
stevenleser Jan 2013 #42
MarianJack Jan 2013 #18
yellerpup Jan 2013 #20
graywarrior Jan 2013 #21
NoOneMan Jan 2013 #23
dballance Jan 2013 #24
darkangel218 Jan 2013 #26
Son of Gob Jan 2013 #28
leftstreet Jan 2013 #38
orpupilofnature57 Jan 2013 #43
greatauntoftriplets Jan 2013 #49
Democratopia Jan 2013 #50
Warpy Jan 2013 #30
SummerSnow Jan 2013 #33
avebury Jan 2013 #37
Jack Sprat Jan 2013 #39
orpupilofnature57 Jan 2013 #45
arthritisR_US Jan 2013 #46
morningfog Jan 2013 #48
tavernier Jan 2013 #52

Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:32 PM

1. Lets back up a minute...

1. Are you going to Virginia with the express purpose of visiting her family?

If so, why? Not just why but WTF why? Cancel the trip. Period. Dont go near them.

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Response to stevenleser (Reply #1)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:34 PM

4. You have a good point. However, the OP should not control what his wife chooses to do.

 

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Response to Democratopia (Reply #4)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:46 PM

27. Where did I suggest control? I dont have enough information to even suggest it. I dont know, for

instance, whose idea the trip is.

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Response to stevenleser (Reply #27)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:51 PM

41. You didn't suggest control ....sometimes folks read what they "feel" ....

I like your suggestion....setting healthy boundaries....there are other options.

Co-dependency no more stuff.

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Response to stevenleser (Reply #27)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 08:01 PM

53. You said "Cancel the trip. Period." Sorry, but that would be trying to stop his wife going

 

or, at least, making it more difficult for her to go. I wouldn't treat my wife life that, if she had finally revealed something so devastating.

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Response to stevenleser (Reply #1)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:34 PM

6. her parents are near death

she wants to spend time with them

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Response to backwoodsbob (Reply #6)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:49 PM

35. Then I agree with posters down thread. Do not stay in the same house. And do not drink alcohol. nt

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Response to stevenleser (Reply #1)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:54 PM

47. Exactly right. DO NOT GO! nt

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:33 PM

2. Gee that is terrible. How long ago did this happen?

 

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:34 PM

3. I am so sorry to hear this.

I understand your feelings completely. All I can say is do you guys really have to visit these people. Maybe she told you so that you will tell her it is ok not to go visit these people. I am so sorry for you guys that this happened to her.

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:34 PM

5. why in the world is your wife taking you to visit her rapists????????????????? nt

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Response to Takket (Reply #5)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:37 PM

13. +1000 !!!!

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:35 PM

7. Christ!...you're a better man than I am. I could not go...could not go.. to see them.

At some point, I might lose it and blow up at them.

I couldn't take the chance...but you know yourself..

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Response to BlueJazz (Reply #7)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:39 PM

17. you have no idea

taking lots of alcohol with me

It's killing me

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Response to backwoodsbob (Reply #17)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:42 PM

22. Both of you need to stay in a hotel/motel, whatever.

Just don't stay at her parents house.

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Response to backwoodsbob (Reply #17)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:44 PM

25. Alcohol would NOT be my recommendation. n/t

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Response to FourScore (Reply #25)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:48 PM

32. ^^This!^^ n/t

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:35 PM

8. I wouldnt go, if i was you.

I guess your wife somewhat "forgave" them, if she's willing to visit. But if it was me, I would stay as far as I could from these monsters.

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Response to darkangel218 (Reply #8)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:37 PM

12. Yes, but if you were in that situation, wouldn't you want to be there so you could protect your wife

 

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Response to Democratopia (Reply #12)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:40 PM

19. When i said i wouldnt go, i was refering to both of them!

Of course he's not gonna leave his wife alone!

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Response to darkangel218 (Reply #19)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:49 PM

34. Well, it isn't right that he should control who his wife can see. Whatever they did, however bad it

 

was, she wants to go. He is her husband. He has a duty to support her. He needs to try to understand it, understand why it has taken all this time for her to tell him, to be there for her and give her the support she needs. In other words, he needs to be a good husband.

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Response to Democratopia (Reply #34)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:59 PM

51. Im not teling them not to go, i said I wouldnt, if it was ME.

He posted this so could get our input and opinion, no one is telling them what to do.

God...

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:35 PM

9. AWKWARD! No, seriously? You'd best discuss this trip further.

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:36 PM

10. I can't answer your question, so why would you go ?

She is doing worse than bomb dropping, she's asking you to revisit the Criminals .

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Response to orpupilofnature57 (Reply #10)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:49 PM

36. she is strong

I am worried about me

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:36 PM

11. OMG I'm so sorry.

The woman I'm courting recently told me she was raped, I felt the same way about her attacker. It's not a good feeling.

I don't have any advice, but good luck.

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:38 PM

14. Your wife forgives them?

Sounds like she wants no revenge?

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:39 PM

15. If you still go, i would rent a hotel room, and only visit during the day

It could really hurt your wife psychologically to be in such a close proximity with them.

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Response to vilify (Reply #16)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:47 PM

29. WTF?

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Response to vilify (Reply #16)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:48 PM

31. Whaaa? Every woman ?? What planet or Century are you from ???

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Response to vilify (Reply #16)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:51 PM

40. Every?? Most??? You know ONE Case - it is not the norm

and it is extremely ridiculous to say that most women are emotional and erratic. I am fortunate to have been surrounded by women who are completely the opposite - as a daughter of a strong incredible woman who had 7 strong, not erratic daughters -- and 2 sons who would never say something like that and who both have strong capable daughters.

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Response to karynnj (Reply #40)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:52 PM

42. I was wondering if my eyes were failing me because no one else seemed to be responding to that.

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:40 PM

18. All of my sympathy and support to your wife and you.

Why do you have to associate with these horrible people at all?

PEACE!

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:41 PM

20. If your wife has relatives she feels she must

see, then get a room in a town nearby instead of bunking with family. She may decide that 20 minutes is quite enough and you can just go home.

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:41 PM

21. Your wife needs your support if you do go

Maybe talk to a rape counselor?

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:42 PM

23. That trip is poison

 

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:43 PM

24. That is terribly unfortunate

However it's not exactly unusual. It is still so prevalent to blame women for their rape because they were being "provocative" or dressing too sexy. As a society we demand women dress provocatively then punish them for it. It is just so disgusting.

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Response to dballance (Reply #24)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:45 PM

26. +1.

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:46 PM

28. I tend to question the veracity of anything coming from

a poster who links to a Hitler was a leftist website.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10022165540#post8
http://www.democraticunderground.com/1240202805

or that Gun Control Advocates are murdering Gun Enthuisiasts
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=2167631
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=2167445

Any story from you should be taken with a 10 ton grain of salt.

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Response to Son of Gob (Reply #28)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:50 PM

38. LOL that was him?



I knew this OP smelled like bullshit

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Response to Son of Gob (Reply #28)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:52 PM

43. Good eye !!! I thought something Stunk in Denmark

Freeper !

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Response to Son of Gob (Reply #28)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:56 PM

49. I'm surprised that I had to read so far downthread before someone made the connection.

Have some

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:47 PM

30. Stay in a motel.

it's cheaper than a defense lawyer and bail.

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:49 PM

33. Oh my :(....Don't go....

If you go the tension will be great.They will notice. Then if one of them ask you what your problem is...then all hell will break loose.Nothing good will come from that visit. STAY FAR AWAY! !!

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:49 PM

37. Killing them is not a good idea.

You might want to consider having a chat with any of the brothers' spouses to alert them to the danger that their husbands might pose to any young girls, particularly any daughters. Your wife might not be the only victim out there.

Of real concern is whether or not you have any children. If I had children I wouldn't want them anywhere near people like that.

Does your wife really want to spend time with these creeps or is she doing it out of a sense of guilt that you spend time with your family no matter how horrid they have treated you in the past? Your wife's family has lost all right of expectation of maintaining a relationship with her by their treatment of her in the past. Did her mother come to her defense at the time?

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:50 PM

39. Just remember your Ma's words.

 

Don't take your guns to town, son
Leave your guns at home, Bob
Don't take your guns to town.

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:53 PM

45. Get a life Troll .

Sound like your kind of people lob .

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:54 PM

46. Don't drink in their presence, it will lower your

inhibitions and could net you a world of grief. Just tell yourself that they are sick fecks who don't merit your time of day. Pathetic peons in your presence and nothing more. Take care and I will be sending strengthening vibes to you and your wife

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:55 PM

48. Hope they fair better than the dog.

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Response to backwoodsbob (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 08:00 PM

52. Fa la la la laaaa

la laaa laa laaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

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