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Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:29 PM

New York couple looking for nanny asks insane questions: “How often do you wash your hair”

A New York couple has been mocked mercilessly across the Internet for advertising for a nanny on Craigslist and including a 65-question survey with highly personal questions such as, “How often do you wash your hair,” “What’s your high school GPA” and “Do you smoke weed?”

The posting opens with a cutesy description of the couple’s dream nanny:

Grab your umbrella! You are a magical Mary Poppins, a wizard, or a giant spiky Triceratops. You love to play, pretend, create, teach, and nurture. You are reliable, warm, and fun, but also know how to say “no” when necessary.


The ad goes on to say that the couple has two boys, 2 and 5, who need to be cared for from 11:30 a.m. to 5:30 p.m. The parents are offering $15 an hour.

The Craigslist ad was posted on Jan. 5 and pulled from the site this week, but we were able to cull some of the most ridiculous questions from stories in the Daily Mail and Gawker.

Are you an American citizen?

If your family is from outside America, do you see yourself becoming homesick and needing to return to them?

How often do you bathe?

How often do you wash your hair?

Choose the following instances when you would wash your hands with soap and water, or clean your hands with a hand sanitizer (No, we’re not expecting you to choose them all. Just answer truthfully):
Before eating

After eating

Before bedtime

Upon waking

After touching a public door

http://blog.sfgate.com/sfmoms/2013/01/11/new-york-couple-looking-for-nanny-asks-insane-questions-how-often-do-you-wash-your-hair/

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Reply New York couple looking for nanny asks insane questions: “How often do you wash your hair” (Original post)
Liberal_in_LA Jan 2013 OP
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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:34 PM

1. If I were a parent, I'd want to know the answer to many of their questions.

The hair question is relevant to lice infestation.

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Response to Tempest (Reply #1)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:36 PM

2. uh, no...

Lice infest clean and dirty heads alike

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Response to mcctatas (Reply #2)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:41 PM

4. Not the point, now is it?

The point is that if you don't KEEP a clean head, lice will multiple.

How frequently you wash your hair determines how well you keep lice away.

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Response to Tempest (Reply #4)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:46 PM

8. Sorry, but that is completely wrong.

Google it.

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Response to HappyMe (Reply #8)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:57 PM

17. Google is no substitute for experience

And my experience is that the kids with clean hair were not the ones being pulled out of my classes for lice.

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Response to Tempest (Reply #17)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:07 PM

24. Sure.

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Response to Tempest (Reply #17)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:15 PM

33. CDC says otherwise, your experience not withstanding.

They have just a tad more experience with head lice than you do.

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Response to Tempest (Reply #17)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 06:02 PM

57. Lice prefer clean hair.

Trust me. I know.

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Response to Tempest (Reply #17)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 11:23 AM

71. My daughter got lice last year in kindergarten

and I washed her hair every day. I was mortified. My son is 5 years older and he never had it so this was all new to me, so I did my research. The schools were having such bad breakouts the health dept had to come in.

Cleanliness has nothing to do with it.

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Response to Tempest (Reply #4)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:50 PM

13. No, avoiding close contact with an infested person is how you keep head lice away.

How recently you washed your hair has nothing to do with it. Lice will multiply regardless of how clean your head is unless you use a special lice killing shampoo AND use a special comb to remove the nits.

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Response to yellowcanine (Reply #13)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:52 PM

52. Anyone who has had a kid probably knows this. Plain soap and water has no effect on lice......

One kid in a first grade class comes down with lice and every parent in the class gets to have the joyous experience of keeping a screaming six year old in the bath tub while you wash their head off with stuff that makes used motor oil smell good.
You need the help of a special comb and Uncle Jack.
Uncle Jack helps after you get the kid to bed.

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Response to Tempest (Reply #4)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:13 PM

32. Wrong. Lice like clean hair.

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Response to Tempest (Reply #4)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 05:12 PM

54. The schools send me flyers when the lice are bad

telling me that lice like clean hair and that if I put spray-in conditioner in the hair after washing it so it isn't so clean, the lice won't like it as well. They also suggest washing hair less often.

One of mine got lice once. It was horrible. Her hair was very clean. I spray stuff in it every day now and either we've been lucky or she's smarter about not sharing hats and stuff, but neither has gotten lice since then.

However, I know that this is a common belief so certainly the people asking the question could have thought that as well, and so I think your general point - that they asked because of lice - could be right even if their information was outdated. (I think when I was in school in the 70s the theory was that clean hair = safe from lice.)

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Response to mcctatas (Reply #2)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:43 PM

6. Thank you

for dispelling an erroneous assumption. Regardless, if I were hiring a nanny to look after my children, I would have a long list of questions of my own...but concern over dirty hair harboring head lice would not be among them.

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Response to mcctatas (Reply #2)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:12 PM

30. OK, so what? Lice or no

cleanliness is important for a child care provider, no?

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Response to demwing (Reply #30)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:21 PM

39. Yes but it is poor form to ask those kinds of questions like that.

References and face to face interview will give you enough information to weed out the slobs.

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Response to yellowcanine (Reply #39)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:25 PM

44. I disagree - when it comes to my kids

there's a whole range of questions I'll ask, regardless of whether anyone thinks it inappropriate.

Of course, the point is moot for my family, my youngest is now 18. While he sometimes acts like he needs a Nanny, I'd worry more about leaving her alone with him than the opposite.

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Response to demwing (Reply #44)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:39 PM

50. What's the point? If someone is a slob they are going to probably lie

about something like that anyway. And by asking a long list of very personal questions up front with the application you are just going to miss out on some otherwise good candidates who will steer clear of working for someone who is that anal.

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Response to demwing (Reply #44)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 08:42 AM

67. I think the point is that your observations in the face to face interview

will and should completely outweigh the answers to the questionnaire. If she said she watched her hair twice a day and four times on Sunday - yet her hair looked unclean, what would you believe?

I agree that face to face interviews are clearly better and assume that the questionnaire was merely intended to screen the applicants, but what troubles me is most questions deal with the prospective nanny - not her views and experience dealing with children.

My youngest is now 22, but when the three kids were young, we had 4 au pairs (each could stay only one year under the program). The decision was made by looking at the applications that the organization had them fill out AND to use the phone number given to call them. The best question I found was "Why are you applying?" and to ask them to describe a favorite time they had caring for another child. On the latter, the specifics mattered almost less than whether speaking of that relationship sounded warm and happy. By the way, we are still more than a decade and a half later still in contact with 3 of the 4 women.

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Response to karynnj (Reply #67)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 10:48 AM

69. On second thought, you all are right, the questions are silly

I stand by the statement I made, that I'll ask anything in the interest of my children, and if the Nanny applicant doesn't think the question relevant, he or she is welcome to not answer, or to leave.

I've performed many interviews over the years, and have often enjoyed asking highly unusual (but never inappropriate) questions, just to see how the applicant handles unexpected bumps in the interview, but the list of questions given in the OP is too much. If I were the applicant, and I was faced with those questions, I would lose respect for the parents, and determine that this was not a work environment I would enjoy. I would end the interview politely, and explain that I was not the candidate that they were searching for. EOS.

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Response to Tempest (Reply #1)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:43 PM

5. The cleanliness of a person's hair does not determine whether or not they have head lice and

regular shampoo will not kill or prevent head lice. They can spread like wildfire through a classroom of squeaky clean kids and be taken home to parents and siblings before they are discovered.

Some questions are important and deserve to be answered, but some of the questions that this couple asked are an invasion of privacy.

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Response to Arkansas Granny (Reply #5)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:47 PM

10. When I went to school it wasn't the kids with clean hair that got lice

It was the kids that didn't have clean hair and had poor hygiene.

No one in my family got ever lice. But then we were taught good hygiene.

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Response to Tempest (Reply #10)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:00 PM

21. Well, good for you. When my kids were in school they got head lice on a few occasions.

I can assure that my kids were clean, had clean hair and we practiced good hygiene. Head lice were epidemic in grade schools in our area for a couple of years and it was a rare child who didn't have to be treated for them at one time or another.

How did my child get head lice?
Head-to-head contact with an already infested person is the most common way to get head lice. Head-to-head contact is common during play at school, at home, and elsewhere (sports activities, playground, slumber parties, camp).

Although uncommon, head lice can be spread by sharing clothing or belongings. This happens when lice crawl, or nits attached to shed hair hatch, and get on the shared clothing or belongings. Examples include:

sharing clothing (hats, scarves, coats, sports uniforms) or articles (hair ribbons, barrettes, combs, brushes, towels, stuffed animals) recently worn or used by an infested person;
or lying on a bed, couch, pillow, or carpet that has recently been in contact with an infested person.

http://www.cdc.gov/parasites/lice/head/gen_info/faqs.html#transmit

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Response to Arkansas Granny (Reply #21)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:08 PM

25. The bottom line is that good grooming lessens the chances of getting lice.

I believe the question was valid.

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Response to Tempest (Reply #25)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:10 PM

27. No. Still wrong no matter how many times you repeat it.

http://www.cdc.gov/parasites/lice/head/gen_info/faqs.html

Personal hygiene or cleanliness in the home or school has nothing to do with getting head lice.

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Response to yellowcanine (Reply #27)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:12 PM

29. My experience says otherwise. And that's the only valid research I need. n/t

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Response to Tempest (Reply #29)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:17 PM

35. This statement is why humans went around for a long time thinking the World was flat

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Response to snooper2 (Reply #35)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:20 PM

37. Unlike those people, I have years of evidence to go on.

No one in my family, nor any of our friends.

Parents were educators, three siblings are educators. It's a conversation we've had MANY times.

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Response to Tempest (Reply #37)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:29 PM

47. All that proves is that teachers are sometimes as ignorant as anyone else about head lice.

And that your family likes to talk about people they deem to be less than themselves. Your family has more experience with head lice than the CDC? Okay.

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Response to snooper2 (Reply #35)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:21 PM

38. Ba-ZAM!!!

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Response to snooper2 (Reply #35)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:42 PM

51. excellent point. Also why would be Senators spout nonsense about rape.

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Response to Tempest (Reply #29)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:23 PM

40. Can't help it.... "A statistical sample of one isn't valid."

http://mailer.fsu.edu/~slosh/MethodsGuide4.html

What can I say, it was the most useful information I learned in Statistics for Psychology...

*runs and hides now*

(Edit to add: this page is perhaps more relevant to explaining why a large sample size is required, and why "case study" research is not nearly as compelling). http://mailer.fsu.edu/~slosh/MethodsGuide3.html

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Response to Tempest (Reply #29)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:23 PM

41. OK. I won't confuse you with any more facts.

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Response to Arkansas Granny (Reply #41)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:56 PM

53. "Just the facts, ma'am." Which btw also is apparently a factoid.

According to Snopes, Sgt. Friday did not use that phrase. At least not in that form. http://www.snopes.com/radiotv/tv/dragnet.asp

But clearly this poster has mastered the art of the factoid.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Factoid

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Response to Tempest (Reply #10)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:08 PM

26. You are repeating grade school gossip about head lice.

"Children with poor hygiene" tend to be bullied and gossiped about by school children. Maybe no one in your family ever got head lice but I will guarantee you that there were plenty of children not identified as "having poor hygiene" who did. Check out the CDC site on head lice if you doubt it.

http://www.cdc.gov/parasites/lice/head/gen_info/faqs.html

Head lice move by crawling; they cannot hop or fly. Head lice are spread by direct contact with the hair of an infested person. Anyone who comes in head-to-head contact with someone who already has head lice is at greatest risk. Spread by contact with clothing (such as hats, scarves, coats) or other personal items (such as combs, brushes, or towels) used by an infested person is uncommon. Personal hygiene or cleanliness in the home or school has nothing to do with getting head lice.

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Response to yellowcanine (Reply #26)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:11 PM

28. Sorry, but they were the ones being pulled out of my classes to get deloused. n/t

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Response to Tempest (Reply #28)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:27 PM

46. Nonsense.

Repeating untruths doesn't make them true.

I thought we all learned that during Bush43's 8 years of up is down, day is night and wrong is right.

Apparently it skipped a few.

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Response to yellowcanine (Reply #26)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:18 PM

36. When I was a child, a million years ago,

my mother sent me to a private boarding school on Miami Beach. I got head lice. I remember her washing my hair with kerosene, which got rid of those little bastards. She quickly took me out of that school.

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Response to RebelOne (Reply #36)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 06:19 PM

58. My mother remembered the kerosene treatment circa 1918.

We never acquired head lice though my children did in the '80s.

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Response to Tempest (Reply #10)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 05:57 PM

56. Your experience does not negate

the facts. Lice don't care if the hair is clean or dirty.

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Response to Tempest (Reply #1)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 09:20 PM

61. More likely they didn't want to employ a black person.

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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:39 PM

3. Craigslist?



That's smart. There are top notch agencies for this, especially in NYC.

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Response to HappyMe (Reply #3)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:44 PM

7. probably not many agencies..when you plan to only pay $15 an hour for TWO kids

in New York..

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Response to SoCalDem (Reply #7)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:49 PM

11. That's true.

Shouldn't the 5 year old be in school?

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Response to HappyMe (Reply #11)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:54 PM

16. Sounds like he's in morning kindergarten

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Response to HappyMe (Reply #11)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:58 PM

19. Depends when the child was born. My granddaughter turned 5 in December so she couldn't

 

be in school. She started at 6 when she started. Back when I was a child we didn't even have kindergarten. My birthday was in January and I started first grade at 6. There was also a time when kindergarten wasn't mandatory and I think it is now.

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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:47 PM

9. I've been interviewing for various jobs for almost a year ...

... insane questions are normal. I think it's called "behavioral interviewing" or some such nonsense.

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Response to JustABozoOnThisBus (Reply #9)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 01:10 AM

63. I have been trained to do Behavior Interviews at my company

Nothing makes me feel more ridiculous. We have these scenarios we ask about.

Tell me about a time where you......

And these poor people, already nervous at the interview, then scour their brains for something that could potentially apply the crazy situtation we have described.

And then, I'm supposed to be able to effectively rate their response to these ridiculous situations at the "concensus" meetings.

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Response to 2theleft (Reply #63)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 07:39 AM

65. And based on these questions and answers, ...

... you're supposed to be able to determine whether the applicant can (and will) do the job.

I was also trained in this, way back. But when I interviewed people, I couldn't bring myself to ask those questions. I wanted to hire competent people, not see if I could induce an emotional train wreck.

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Response to JustABozoOnThisBus (Reply #65)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 11:26 AM

72. Yes. Exactly.

I typically ask the question but make sure they understand WHY I'm asking them crazy questions. I do this part quickly so I can fill out the stupid form, and then I spend the rest of the time doing a normal interview and getting to know the person.

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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:49 PM

12. 15 bucks an hour for 2 kids?

 

Hey Mom or Dad one of you could stay home and care for your own damn kids. Fuckwittage!

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Response to HangOnKids (Reply #12)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:05 PM

23. I'm thinking that's what should happen.

Not enough money for the amount of bullshit I bet these people demand.

I think the potential nanny should be allowed to ask questions.
How often do the kids have tantrums? Are they toilet trained? How did the last nanny die? Do you have a stick up your ass? How far? Are they horrifically spoiled, or just badly spoiled?

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Response to HappyMe (Reply #23)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 05:24 PM

55. "how did the last nanny die?"



you win this thread!

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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:50 PM

14. "Are you prone to hangovers?"

wow smarties.

But you can guess how wise they are from their decision to give this century to their two babies.

Maybe it's my most proudly fecund neighbors to the left! They have two little boys and the ages are right.

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Response to stuntcat (Reply #14)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:35 PM

48. What an ingenious question - I love it.

 

Answer yes, and you're an irresponsible drinker. Answer no, and your an experienced drinker with good tolerence.
Either answer is incorrect.

The correct answer is "other" - I don't often drink and nearly never to excess.

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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:53 PM

15. Well if the response is "I've never washed my hair" then it isn't an insane question

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Response to tularetom (Reply #15)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:59 PM

20. Only once a week wouldn't be acceptable to me as a parent. n/t

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Response to Tempest (Reply #20)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 01:14 AM

64. This is really unfair statement

My hair is THICK, curly, unruly. More unruly right after washing. I have learned over the years that less washing is better. I rinse it every day, but the shampoo and conditioners and what not make it completely unmanageable. My stylist (at a high dollar salon, btw) recommended cutting back to shampooing only once a week.

My hair is clean, my hair smells good. I have NEVER had lice, even when my boyfriends children came home with it. They do wash their hair every day and still got it.

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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 03:58 PM

18. Ummmm, no. Just no.

"Will you provide a letter from your doctor listing all your current prescription drugs?"

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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:03 PM

22. You know know it takes a special kind of person to take care of children. I sure wouldn't

 

want that job unless it is in a day care. I love working with the 4,5,6 and 7 year olds. They are so much fun. Many times they want to be there and are excited to see you when they come in.

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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:13 PM

31. Obnoxious, self-absorbed, arrogant and tone-deaf New Yorkers?

NO!





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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:16 PM

34. Do they carry a portable sink around with them? Actually too clean can cause problems too.

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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:24 PM

42. Five Reasons Why Being Too Clean Is a Bad Idea

It weakens your immune system

Research has found that children who are exposed to farm animals tend to develop thugged out immune systems ready to pop a cap into a bacteria’s ass, which is why they’re half as likely to develop Crohn’s disease as other children. By killing all the germs right at the door, your immune system has absolutely nothing to do but go from being a young Olympic athlete to a fat, balding car salesman too busy scratching his crack then smelling his finger to fight off any germs that may have made it past your sanitizing wipe, causing you to get sicker quicker and more often.

It Causes Allergies

It Gives You the Sads

Being too clean eliminates the bacteria the immune system needs to keep inflammation away and inflammatory responses eventually lead to depression. There’s growing evidence that being too clean eliminates the ancient relationships with microorganisms in foot, soil and the gut, and can be a cause of the increasing rates of people suffering from depression.

And it can create super germs. Just like there are now bacteria that have morphed to resist antibiotic.

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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:25 PM

43. Not enough money

You can see that $15/hour is not even close to what this job is worth working. You'll need combat pay with these parents, and, I'd bet my right arm on this, the kids are brats. Good luck to whoever takes this job. They're going to need it.

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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:26 PM

45. Hey! They stole that "Grab your umbrella!" bit...

Grab your umbrella! You are a magical Mary Poppins, a wizard, or a giant spiky Triceratops. You love to play, pretend, create, teach, and nurture. You are reliable, warm, and fun, but also know how to say “no” when necessary.

...from the description of my ideal partner in my online dating profile!

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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 04:35 PM

49. weird

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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 09:03 PM

59. They're not paying enough to hire a mom.

They're trying to get a second mommy in the house. But the pay is pretty bad. They want the Mary Poppins experience at day care prices.

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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 09:07 PM

60. I have never had head lice. I think if I did I would have completely freaked out.

I know that it can't be helped in certain situations, but I am one of those people that would have rather jumped off a bridge than have had to tolerate lice.

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Response to smirkymonkey (Reply #60)

Fri Jan 11, 2013, 10:33 PM

62. funny how everyone assumes the "hair washing" question relates to lice

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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Reply #62)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 08:26 AM

66. My first thought was cleanliness in general...

Had no thought of lice until I read it here.

I don't think the questions are so odd. The real life questions I have seen are the ones where they try to determine if the person is overweight or not or if the candidate had a significant other. My niece was a nanny and we had some interesting discussions about some of the requirements. So many times people are looking for the fun, outgoing, educated, multi-lingual, creative person with absolutely no outside life and is willing to work for peanuts.

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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 09:09 AM

68. Sound like acceptable questions.

With the time they are putting in they should try to go through an agency. Not that an agency if foolproof, but it might help them. Sounds like money might be an issue with that.

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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 11:17 AM

70. What is the correct answer to that?

Every day? Every other day? Once a week? Inquiring minds want to know!

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Response to Liberal_in_LA (Original post)

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 11:44 AM

73. After the nanny killing the children incident in NYC recently, I'm wondering if this was an awkward

way of inquiring into mental health in general?

More likely it is related to just hygiene in general, because there are all those hand washing questions also. And I don't think there is anything wrong with those lines of inquiry - actually, I don't think any of those questions are out of line, or really that much is out of line if one is trying to interview someone to take care of their kids. I never had children; however, I'd ask anything I could that might give me insight, and I certainly wouldn't care if anyone found it amusing or strange. This person is going to take care of something that is irreplaceable, and I'd do my best to figure out if they were up to my standards for doing that task. These questions might give these particular parents an insight that you or I wouldn't get from them - even watching someone as they responded to them would tell me something as well. Not any one question would be a deal breaker, but a consistent response or manner of expression might add up to a warning bell.

Still, I'd imagine they knew about the dead kids in the bathtub, and it must be in the back of their brains as they interview.

What I can't figure out is the wage, which works out to be around minimum wage for each child (isn't that $7 something an hour now?). If you care about who is entrusted to care for your irreplaceable kids, then that is the one area that you probably should be looking for the lowest bid winner.



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