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Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:14 AM

what do you need to start out in a basic single man apartment? Our nephew has stayed with us 4 yrs

Graduated from College a couple weeks ago. YEA. First one of the grandkids to graduate college. That makes in our combinded families My self, my brother, my wonderful hubby and now our nephew. He has a new full time job in his profession and it starts late Jan.

Currently he is scoping out apartments in his new city. He is excited and we are as well. We were happy to provide our home to him so he could get his degree and not have to owe tons in loans after graduation, and have come to view him as our son to some extent. We will be very sad to see him go, but proud of his job and ambition!

My question: What does a young kid with no obligations need to start up a "home of his own" I want to do a basket of necessities to start him off right. I was given 3 crockpots for Christmas ( I use them a lot) I think I will give him one of those and some of the recipies I use with them. Especially the recipies he asks for when I make dinner.

What else could go in the basket?

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Reply what do you need to start out in a basic single man apartment? Our nephew has stayed with us 4 yrs (Original post)
demtenjeep Dec 2012 OP
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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:17 AM

1. My dear demtenjeep...

Bedding; dishes; silverware; pots and pans; you name it!

Towels; shower things; bath mats; and etc!

I could go on, but I'm tired!

Good luck to him! It is an exciting time.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:18 AM

2. can opener, corkscrew, coffee maker, extra knives and cutlery, pepper grinder, maybe some

basic spices and herbs. . . . .

by the way, how big a basket, or are we talking metaphorically?

on the other hand, perhaps a gift card to something like target, bed bath and beyond or to a dollar store if there is one near him.

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Response to niyad (Reply #2)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:53 AM

31. A big laundry basket would be useful. n/t

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Response to niyad (Reply #2)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 01:34 AM

47. I would not have any use for a corkscrew, coffee maker or pepper grinder

maybe a pizza cutter, measuring cups, and I do use coffee cups for drinking glasses, plates, bowls, a two quart pan some plastic tubs with lids - I would say tupperware, but I re-use coffee tubs and carmel corn tubs and cool whip tubs, etx.

basic tools might be handy too - screwdriver, hammer, pliers, and duck tape.

a set of towels - bath and dish and hand. Maybe even paper towels and band-aids.

a linen set - sheets and pillow case. Some blankets.

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Response to niyad (Reply #2)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 01:54 AM

50. i'd go for the gift card. let the young man decide what he needs. i, for one, would never put

 

'pepper grinder' on any 'most needed' list.

but maybe he's the gourmet type.

or pay for a trip to a second-hand shop -- he can get all the basic dishes etc there for a fraction of what it would cost first-hand.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:19 AM

3. When I set off on my own, I got a toaster oven.

Today, the equivalent would be a microwave (but a toaster oven is still cool!).

Apartments that he might get might already have a microwave, a crockpot might be useful but I wouldn't know what to do with it.

I might recommend a cordless phone with answering machine, but nobody needs them anymore.

Maybe something not useful, but instead just decorative or fun, like a nice houseplant or set of spices, or cutlery or kitchen tools?

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Response to NYC_SKP (Reply #3)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:23 AM

7. my daughter will be moving out in the summer

I have been trying to brain storm what I can get her. I was thinking about getting her a Roku. It's suppose to be a cheaper way to watch tv if you have internet service. Of course what everybody else has been saying. The basics like towels, silverware, maybe a vacuum.

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Response to liberal_at_heart (Reply #7)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:48 AM

26. i love my roku

That and an antenna for local programming and you're set.

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Response to NYC_SKP (Reply #3)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:31 AM

15. Toilet paper--really. nt

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Response to NYC_SKP (Reply #3)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 04:07 AM

52. I agree,

a microwave. And a set of dishes, silverware, some cups and glasses.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:20 AM

4. Kegerator

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Response to JVS (Reply #4)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:29 AM

13. On a serious second thought, give him cash or a gift card to Target

My reasoning is:
1. Over the course of college he has probably accumulated some kind of collection of stuff. Unless this is truly his first time away from the parents' home, he'll have some but not all of what he needs to be on his own. Nobody knows what he needs better than he will himself.
2. He has shown responsibility in graduating school and looks to be starting a nice career for himself. I think he can be trusted with the decision that cash/giftcard gives him. If it were someone just starting college, you might want to give the gift in a way that prevents it being blown on something frivolous.
3. I've moved a lot of times. I didn't always need anything, but it almost always bumped my expenses for the month. Stuff like new condiments in the fridge, lightbulbs, a lamp for that space in the new apartment always cost some money and are unavoidable incidentals of moving.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:23 AM

5. a french press for coffee would be helpful and simple to use. A television and a couch.

A Leatherman multi-tool.

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Response to Ed Suspicious (Reply #5)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:29 AM

14. Check Craigslist

There are many items listed as "giveaway" there and in some of the weekly newspapers.
Often people are moving out-of-state, etc and just want to empty their space.

Sofas, tables, chairs, TVs, etc - all can be available for the one that gets there first.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:23 AM

6. 1) First months rent 2) last month's rent 3) damage deposit and 4) a toothbrush. nt

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Response to lumberjack_jeff (Reply #6)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:24 AM

9. yes help with rent is always a good idea

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:23 AM

8. Crockpot is a single person's best friend!

If he doesn't know how to cook you might want to show him a few basics as dining out all the time is pricey. Blankets, towels, bedsheets,dish towels and maybe a starter set of pots/pans. If he'll use them.
You could get him going with pantry spices and again if he doesn't have a clue maybe a crash course in how to be the cook would be useful.

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Response to Dyedinthewoolliberal (Reply #8)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:53 AM

32. Crockpots rock

You can throw dinner in there and it is ready when you get home!

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:25 AM

10. How about giving a little housewarming party for him

among family?

My son has recently purchased a condo and requested useful items for Christmas.
I gave him several versatile pieces of Pyrex, which can both go in microwave and oven, and other uses.

He'll find his way - they always do.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:26 AM

11. How about ...

Measuring cups: one for liquid, and a dry set
Measuring spoons
Ice cube trays (if the freeze doesn't automatically make them)
Extra light bulbs
Bandaids / Ibuprofen / Pepto Bismol
Vacuum, Mop, Broom and Dustpan
Windex/Pledge/PineSol/Vanish
Toilet Paper/Paper Towels/Laundry Soap



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Response to Tx4obama (Reply #11)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:38 AM

20. And for a 'junk drawer'

A package of rubber bands
Scotch tape and duct tape
Screwdriver and a pair of pliers
Flashlight


And for safety...
Small fire extinguisher
Smoke alarm if there isn't one in the apartment and a couple spare batteries

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Response to Tx4obama (Reply #20)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:41 AM

21. Philips and straight head on the screwdrivers n/t

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Response to Tx4obama (Reply #20)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:46 AM

23. Vise grips and a crescent wrench too




They come in handy often.

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Response to Tx4obama (Reply #20)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 03:01 PM

71. Have to say

The flashlight and fire extenguisher are great ideas. My mother gave me an oil lamp and I still have it, and use it. Anything that helps prepare for the eventual fact that the power will go out is good. Candles, flashlight, oil lamp, hand can opener, hibachi.

Fire extinguisher ... a must have.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:27 AM

12. Spices he's likely to use, salt, pepper, garlic and so on

Cooking utensils, spoons, spatulas, ladle, tongs, microwave bacon cooker, ovenware of various shapes, toaster, aluminum foil, cling wrap, storage bags, small fry pan, small to medium cook pots.

Ice trays.

Three or four of each dinner plates,smaller plates, bowls, cups, glasses, knives, forks, tsp, tbsp.

I use a cooking timer a lot and that would be a nice thing to get.

ETA after reading some of the responses: A toilet plunger

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:31 AM

16. food storage containers

To freeze the leftovers from the crock pot meals he will make.

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Response to riverbendviewgal (Reply #16)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:33 AM

17. any kind of storage containers really

I remember first starting out using those plastic drawer sets to store clothes in.

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Response to riverbendviewgal (Reply #16)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 01:05 AM

42. Rubbermaid has a great set...freeze, microwave, stacking and bpa free.

 

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:34 AM

18. Congratulations to your nephew and your family.

Both a degree and a new job, lucky young man.
Besides the crock-pot and recipes he will need a few kitchen utensils, like a large stirring spoon and a bottle opener. Maybe a box of noodles (for the shelf) and the ingredients to make a few meals (so he doesn't have to shop for food while settling in). The support you've provided for the last four years and your good advice and love is more than most ever get to offer a nephew.
In his new town, you nephew should shop for dishes, if someone doesn't supply him with some, at the Goodwill. Other kitchen stuff and furniture can be found there too. He will not need to have everything at once and can pick up stuff at thrift stores for nothing.
The "starter" stuff people buy from Ikea is dumped at the Goodwill all the time so if he is attracted to Danish Modern he can still find it secondhand.
What an exciting time for your family.
Oh, give him something from your home, something dumb that he likes and that will remind him of you and the shelter and comfort you represent.

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Response to iemitsu (Reply #18)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:54 AM

35. All the suggestions on this thread are good ones and may meet

your nephew's needs but I would encourage him to lead a materially simple life.
At least while he is single, he is better off (IMO) to carry a light load. He may move several times over the next few years and moving stuff is a burden. Expensive stuff one has to take. Secondhand furniture can be re-donated, on his way out the door, if he has not become attached to it and new, used stuff can replace it in new space.
Nice towels and sheets are expensive and something people need. Like underwear, these can not be bought secondhand and they make a great gift.

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Response to iemitsu (Reply #35)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:16 PM

68. you can get good items

At charity/2nd handshops and yard sales. This recycling and benefits all.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:37 AM

19. Room by Room

Bedroom: Bed frame (unless platform bed), box spring mattress, dresser, 1-2 lamps, side table, closet hangars, storage racks. Curtains, binds, pillows, pillow cases, sheets, comforter.

Bathroom: Shower curtain, soaps, bath mat, TP, towels, hair dryer, razer, etc.

Living area: Sofa, chair(s) TV, Cable with High Speed Internet (almost mandatory now), vertical blinds and curtain for windows/slider, Computer table or desk, side table/coffee table (though becoming obsolete), lamp(s) floor and table, dinner table (unless kitchen table will be used),

Kitchen: Coffee maker with coffee, toaster, mixer (or hand mixer), cookware set (pots, pans), cookie sheet, muffin pan, tea pot with tea, spice assortment, colander, microwave (if not supplied), kitchen table or stools if eat-in bar, various kitchen appliances, dishes, glasses and mugs,cutlery, dish towels, paper towels, tissues... for a guy - NO Crockpot

Medicine: Pain killers, bandages, cold medicine, anticeptic, vitamins.

Laundry: Basket, soaps, dryer sheets.

Utility: Broom, dustpan, cleansers, vacuum, cleaning towels, a combo tool set (hammer, pliers, wrenches), a combo electrical set (stripper/crimper, connectors, electrical tape, etc).

Entry: Hangers (wooden - higher quality for heavy clothing) and on-line there are various covers for door peepholes.

Security: Since it's a small apartment, check out X-10 for entryway alarms and internet cameras to remotely record people who enter the apartment. YOu have no idea who has keps to that apartment or can bump-lock the door locks to open them.

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If he cooks around your house, he'll probably cook by himself. If he doesn't cook, plan on mainly carb, such as ramen, pasta, soups, pizza, prepackaged... microwaveable.

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Response to TheBlackAdder (Reply #19)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:47 AM

25. no crockpot for a guy. That's funny

How about a cast iron skillet? Every guy I've ever known loves cast iron skillets. And a chili or stew pot and a grill. Now that is guy cooking.

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Response to liberal_at_heart (Reply #25)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:59 AM

40. Anybody can cook in a crockpot

Chili, beans, stew, you throw it in and it's done when you get home.

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Response to liberal_at_heart (Reply #25)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 11:11 AM

64. My dad might take offense. He makes awesome soups

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Response to liberal_at_heart (Reply #25)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 02:44 PM

69. My son finally got one and cooks everything

in it. He lives overseas and doesn't have an oven in his new apartment. You can do roasts and chicken, soups and chili, just everything.

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Response to TheBlackAdder (Reply #19)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:56 AM

37. i have an exboyfriend

Who had a crockpot when we dated. He was a student at the time w an off campus apartment. His sister-in-law gave it to him,showed him how to use it and then made him a small recipe book. He made chili all the time for his friends. In the winter he made other soups and would also use it for a roast .

We still talk. He said that his wife says she fell in love with him the first time he made her dinner in that crockpot.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:41 AM

22. A Betty Crocker cookbook, the red and white checked one.

It has all the basics in it that somebody who doesn't know how to cook needs. It was my first one and I really didn't know a thing about cooking. But it's comprehensive enough to be quite useful past the learning stage, too.

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Response to DevonRex (Reply #22)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:46 AM

24. My nephew gets all of his tips and recipes from the internet. nt

That's why internet service is key.

In NYC, there might not be many options for him where he is at and some solutions are really pricey.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:48 AM

27. Costco membership

would be a good gift.

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Response to donco (Reply #27)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:54 AM

34. I was just thinking that too

Buying in bulk may not seem practical for a single person but there's lots of stuff you can get there even if you're single and the food can always be vacuum sealed and frozen.

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Response to liberal_at_heart (Reply #34)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 01:54 AM

49. Its a good

place to buy some quality furniture, if you get in online its delivered.Some assembly required of course.



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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:49 AM

28. I'd recommend giving him the address of the nearest Ikea.

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Response to Kablooie (Reply #28)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 10:51 AM

61. Yep. Particularly for those sets of dishes they have.

http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/90131657/

Set of 6 for $19.

Or hit up the local thrift store, which always seems to have some of the old, indestructible Corelle dishes.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:51 AM

29. Dishes definitely

Glasses and plates. A clothes hamper, too. Basic cleaning stuff is nice, as well (toilet brush, kitchen sponges, a sink brush). Just thinking of basics.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:51 AM

30. Just like to add...

that anything you use around the house will be useful. But most importantly, it doesn't have to be new. In fact, when I was on my own for the first time, it brought me a lot of comfort to use the old colander and mixing bowls that mom used to make me dinner back at home. It was a nice way to still feel connected to my family even though I was a 1,200 miles away from home.

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Response to FightForMichigan (Reply #30)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:55 AM

36. Very nice idea

and thoughtful, too

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Response to FightForMichigan (Reply #30)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 04:49 PM

81. I have my grandmother's iron skillet and she died in the 50's.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:53 AM

33. thanks- those are pretty great suggestions. He basically went from his parents (my sister) to us

he has some things but not much in the kitchen/bath department.

HE is not a real great cooker, although I have been teaching his the basics. He did shoot a deer so we have tons of meat in the freezer and I have about a month to teach him the basics ...roasts, tenders things like that.

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Response to demtenjeep (Reply #33)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:57 AM

39. Cleaning supplies will probably be helpful

and not something he may think of on his own. A laundry basket or two for clothes, and basic cleaning stuff can go a long way.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:57 AM

38. A seasoned cast iron skillet

And a couple of sauce pans.

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Response to GObamaGO (Reply #38)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 02:02 AM

51. i have noticed there are a lot of young people who don't know how to use cast iron these days.

 

they burn the pan or get it rusty and think it's wrecked, don't know anything about seasoning, etc.

if you give cast iron, include instructions.

i think cast iron is the best, but just saying --

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Response to HiPointDem (Reply #51)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:05 PM

66. I agree

I no longer use teflon because of the chemicals leaching into the food. The cast iron well seasoned is the best non-stick surface around.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:59 AM

41. A toolbox with tools, a flashlight, and...

a variety of batteries (including batteries to replace the ones in a beeping smoke alarm) and a few candles with matches/lighter in case the electricity goes out. Those things don't depend so much on personal taste, but cookware and other household supplies can, so I love the idea of a gift certificate. And maybe one thing that's not necessary (a comfy throw blanket?), but makes the place seem more like a home. My sister gave me a bowl of wooden fruit when I moved into my house, which I thought was ridiculous at first, but it looks so real on the table, and never rots, and for some reason I've learned to really appreciate it!

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 01:16 AM

43. The Essentials:

Based on what I have learned on DU recently, you should consider first things first:

- A pump action shotgun for basic home defense.

- A 9mm semi-auto pistol for venturing outside of the house.

- An AR-15 with a 100 round ammunition drum for zombie apocalypse or overthrowing the government whenever the need arises

- body armor because, well, there are a lot of crazy people out there

- A revolver for formal occasions

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Response to jberryhill (Reply #43)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 01:25 AM

46. Perfect!

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 01:23 AM

44. I had to do the same for my daughter when she was in college and moved to a rent house

You don't realize how hard it is to start/shop for a place from scratch until, well, you start a place from scratch!

Having lived in the dorm for 2 years she had nothing except what decorated her dorm room.

So we trudged thru Wal Mart at the time trying to think of necessities that she would need to start off with...the basket was overflowing with just "basics". Things an established household takes for granted.

One of the last things I thought of as we were about to leave...a toilet PLUNGER! Not something she had had to worry about since she had been sharing the bathroom with her entire dorm floor and didn't have to worry about bathroom maintanence.

It was harder to shop for boring, everyday basics instead of bells/whistles..we spent alot of time in the house cleaning aisle...broom, mop, laundry/dishwasher detergent/dusting stuff...then onto things like eating utensils, cups/plates, basic cooking utensils/pots/pans. Like I said, "boring" kind of stuff, but stuff she would need to get started.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 01:24 AM

45. Several surge protectors.

 

Different sized cutting boards, a decent set of knives, kitchen shears, corningware grab it bowls with covers.

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Response to dkf (Reply #45)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 04:59 PM

86. Definitely surge protectors.

They are a must as I have learned because I have lost a microwave, TV, refrigerator and DVD player because of power outages. All my electrical appliances are now plugged into surge protectors.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 01:46 AM

48. A potato peeler, an iron, and some towels.

Guys don't need much.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 04:08 AM

53. Box of rubbers

Eventually he's going to meet a nice young person and these will then be critical.

I am sadly the wrong guy to ask about basic man apartment stuff because you can nearly equip a commercial pastry kitchen with the contents of my apartment. But thinking out loud...

Set of dishes
Set of nonstick pans. Yes, I know cast iron is fantastic but let the guy learn to cook first!
Good cookbook. The current Betty Crocker looks like it was updated by Sandra Lee.
Two hundred dollars, the Saturday classifieds and use of a pickup for a day so he can hit yard sales for furniture.
Mindless noise box - either tv or radio

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Response to jmowreader (Reply #53)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 05:11 PM

90. Box of rubbers? Wouldn't one pair of rain boots be more practical?

Oh!

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 09:40 AM

54. or you could do what my old man did...

gave me a handshake and that was it.



Nice to know that you want to help him out.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 09:45 AM

55. Microwave, TV, Computer

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 10:39 AM

56. Essential DD Bag for the first time solo dweller

Ok I assume you are actually looking for an essentials list for him.

Let me start off...

He is a GUY! screw the crock pot he will never use it...

Take your pick or add to the list..here are the essentials.

If it is already furnished some of this is not required...

Toaster oven
small microwave
small dorm fridge or regular fridge if already furnished apt.
TV or small portable tv (I like this can take in any room)
ipod or small cheap stereo

Personal essentials...

dishwashing soap
laundry soap
SOS pads or plastic scrubber
hand soap
toothpaste
toothbrush
deodorant
paper towels
toilet paper
q-tips

4 person set of dishware plates, saucers, bowls
8 person set of utensils (yes guys will eat and live off paper and plastic but that is a waste of money compared to having just a few place sets.
spatula
cutting board
nice small 6 or 8 piece knife set
bath towels (8)
hand towels (4)
Sheets (4 sets of 2)
pillows (2) and pillow cases. (4)
Blankets (2)
Vacume for floors
Mop and bucket
floor cleaner
Coffee cups (6)
Plastic drinking Glasses (6)...(big ones from dollar general)
skillet
Small cooking pot
Large cooking Pot
4 inch deep baking pan
paper plates
paper bowls
Tupper ware (lots)
plastic freezer bags
Aluminum Foil!
A nice cook book
Peanut butter and Jelly and a loaf a bread...
a quart of milk
Instant soup (ramen noodle type)

a plant to nurture...helps keep the lonelies away

This is the bare essentials for him to walk in and begin to live...The rest he can go buy himself

Hope you like the list.

Drew.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 10:40 AM

57. First person to say he needs a gun wins troll of the year.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 10:44 AM

58. A fouton, a toilet, a refrigerator & Playstation.

n/t

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Response to Myrina (Reply #58)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 04:32 PM

74. and a microwave

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 10:45 AM

59. A set of screwdrivers, a roll of good duct tape, and a spray can of WD-40

 

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 10:46 AM

60. Congratulations.

Young men can do well with very little and work towards building up things they need. Make sure he has a microwave. When he starts his new job he will find he has less time on his hands. After a long day he will sometimes just want something quick. Also make sure he has the necessities for laundry.

Most importantly, call him regularly and make sure he knows you expect the same. Things will come out in the conversations. It can also be very lonely living alone after you have been in a home with a family.

Once again, congratulations.

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Response to NCTraveler (Reply #60)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 10:57 AM

62. I know for sure we will be in regular conversations. He and my husband have become very close

not sure who will be more lost, my nephew or my husband. For the last 4 years, they have done so much together it will be sad for both of them.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 11:07 AM

63. One often forgotten item - vacuum cleaner

 

Get him a decent vaccum cleaner. Not only will he live in a cleaner place, it will save him money on the security deposit when he moves out.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 11:16 AM

65. all the suggestions here are very good. introduce him to the wonderful world of thrift shopping

(goodwill, salvation army, arc, etc) and whatever dollar stores (not family dollar, actual dollar stores) in his area.

oh, and if he is going to buy new, the after-christmas sales can turn up some really good bargains.

best wishes to all of you as you start this new chapter in your lives.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 12:16 PM

67. Snow shovel if he has a car, parks on the street and lives where it snows. n/t

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 02:53 PM

70. This is a dude...

 

A mattress on the floor, TV, computer, cable & internet and $20 worth of toiletries.
Maybe a Foreman Grill, Crockpot, and coffeepot if he wants to live large. Futon optional.

That's pretty much single young-guy life.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 04:07 PM

72. a bed, a towel, and a toothbrush

he'll figure the rest out

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 04:15 PM

73. Ikea does a basic kitchen ware box -

or used to.

A good basic cookbook - something that won't scare him. But "Joy of Cooking" is a great resource.

Dish towels - always useful.

A set of Pyrex bowls.

At least one good chef's knife - high carbon stainless.

Bamboo chopping board.

An electric kettle - better and faster than stovetop or microwave.

A cast iron frying pan - it will last forever.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 04:34 PM

75. An electric grill is very handy

I'm talking about the George Foreman type grills.

It's great for cooking most meats because it cooks both sides simultaneously, and most of the grease from said meat runs off into a collector container. It only takes a few moments longer to cook basic meals than using a microwave, and the food can be seasoned to taste while cooking, and will taste better. While it's technically a luxury, I find myself using it to cook far more often than pans and skillets.

About the only meat it can't cook efficiently is unshaped, ground meat, such as ground beef chopped up for Mexican dishes or ground sausage for spaghetti. However, if the meat is shaped into a patty, the electric grill will handle it just fine. I live by myself, and the electric grill does far more cooking than pots and pans

Just be sure to maintain it properly. Provided you're careful, it's easiest to scrub down while it's unplugged but still hot.

Also, as others have mentioned, a couple of cookie sheets are a must...

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 04:36 PM

76. Beer.

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Response to leveymg (Reply #76)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 04:47 PM

79. And more beer


It's tough to have beer, because sooner or later, you are going to need more beer.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 04:36 PM

77. renter's insurance is required in a lot of areas now

your nephew was very lucky; I was in the military when I was 18.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 04:43 PM

78. A basic set of pots and pans.

Nothing cheap but not Wolfgang Puck quality either.

A tea kettle

A couple of good basic cookbooks

A pair of matching dinner plates, salad plates, bowls, cups, and saucers, forks/knives/spoons/soup spoons

A couple of coffee mugs

A drip coffee thingee to make a single cup of Joe along with #2 filters

Two cans of ground coffee

A basic set of kitchen knives

Couple of dish towels

A decent comforter for his bed in the winter

Either a hamper or a good-sized duffle bag for dirty laundry

And maybe a gift card from the supermarket so he can buy some staples

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 04:49 PM

80. Trust me on this: Batteries (AA & AAA), Light bulbs, a step ladder....

...extension cords with surge protector cords, a wall clock and yes, that screwdriver or small toolkit.

This is for anyone moving into their own place. One never knows where the plugs are and how many extension cords might be needed (and extra plugs) for things like crockpots And in this day and age, most of the things he has will need batteries and he'll be thankful for having them on hand--be it that Blue Tooth keyboard or the clock on the wall.

The clock is something most young adults don't think about because they're used to their alarm clocks or phones, but a good wall clock is a useful thing--able to glance at it from the breakfast table, he'll know how much time he has before he has to get to work.

Finally, most apartments don't provide enough light. He may not know whether he'll need lamps or not, but he will need bulbs for both those lamps and for overhead lights. Again, he'll be glad to have those there and to hand.

And a step ladder is really invaluable unless, of course, he's a really tall young man. It'll allow him not only to change the batteries in the smoke alarm and the bulbs in the ceiling fan but also to get down the tool kit from a top shelf.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 04:49 PM

82. Plates that go in the microwave and instructions

When my son got his first apt someone gave him a plate for warming pizza slices. It said use in microwave oven. He put it in the oven and almost burned the bldg down.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 04:50 PM

83. Your nephew is lucky to have you. You can get him a microwave oven. At WalMart you can

 

get them really cheap now. Laundry basket for dirty cloths. Buy him the basics to wash cloths. In the kitchen you can the tools to cook with. In the bathroom buy him soap, toilet paper, razor blades. Better yet just give him the money or a gift card and he can buy what he wants and needs for his apartment. The crockpot is a great idea. I love mine and use it often. Good luck to your nephew.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 04:52 PM

84. The stuff they always forget -

Bathroom -
Towels (2 large bath, 2 hand, two washcloth)

Two or three small "rubbermade" or other plastic organizer bins that are either stackable or like drawers to keep his shaving/grooming stuff in and can fit on the toilet lid or on a counter.

A small 2 gallon bathroom trashcan, preferably with a cover.

Kitchen -
Two sets of oven mitt and kitchen towels.

A large set of microwavable, dishwasher safe refrigerator "leftover" storage container set.

Two or three large containers - quart and gallon for dry food storage (for the bagged stuff he uses regularly - rice, beans, cereal, etc). Similar to the old Tea, Coffee, Sugar, Flour cannister sets that are found in old fashioned kitchen sets.

A set of basic cooking utensils - 2 whisks (large and small), spatulas (1 metal, 1 non-stick), straining spoon, a ladle, 2 or 3 packs of wooden stirring spoons and 1 wooden fork(great for scrambling eggs or an omelet), pie knife (you won't believe how many times I use it - particularly for lasagna and casseroles), tongs, a carving fork, paring knife, vegetable peeler, a set of cup measures, a set of spoon measures, and a 2-cup liquid measuring cup.

Six Baking pans - 1 loaf pan, 2 cookie or sheet pans, 1 ea 8x8x2" square pan, 1 ea half sheet pan (8 x 14 x2") and 1 pie pan.

Five piece Stovetop set - 1 pint, 1 quart, and 1 gallon pots, 1 small skillet, 1 large/medium skillet.

Three Mixing bowls - 1 pint, 1 quart, 1 gallon.

A kitchen timer

A large (13+ gallon) kitchen trashcan with an easy-opening cover.

For eating utensils, he can live off plastic ware, paper plates, and plastic picnic bowls until he gets tired enough of eating on plastic and buys a set of Corelle dishes, mismatched glasses and silverware at a thrift store.

Bedroom -
An extra set of sheets
Two large storage bins for off-season clothes and bedding. These can be stackable for the closet or under the bed storage.

Household cleaning -
Laundry Hamper
Two small Trash cans, one each for front room and bedroom.
Dust-buster or shop vac.
Two large pails, scrubbing brush, bag of shop rags
Broom, duster, dustpan and brush.

These are the things most young people starting out don't think of, but end up needing and using all the time.

It ends up costing the purchase worth of items using a $300 Ikea gift-card or $500 Target or BB and B gift-card - if they know how to shop correctly.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 04:57 PM

85. Suddenly being homeless

 

at the request of his aunt and uncle.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 05:05 PM

87. Take an inventory of everything

in your medicine cabinet, under your kitchen and bathroom sinks, and that junk drawer we all seem to have in our kitchens. That's a good start.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 05:07 PM

88. cash so he can get what he wants where he wants......and do not tear up too much

remember to be happy and excited and do not worry
I say cash because he may be frugal and want to get stuff 2nd hand or doesn't need things others deem as essentials(different generation)

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 05:08 PM

89. Lots and lots and lots of...

condoms

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 05:36 PM

91. Broom, dustpan, small, apartment sized vacuum cleaner.

Those were really important to me and I don't love cleaning.

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Response to demtenjeep (Original post)

Thu Dec 27, 2012, 05:42 PM

92. Duct tape and WD-40 -- the two essential tools for almost every occasion.

If it moves and it isn't supposed to: Duct tape.

If it doesn't move and it is supposed to: WD-40.

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