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Silent thread for those alone on Christmas eve.

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Reply Silent thread for those alone on Christmas eve. (Original post)
Whovian Dec 2012 OP
virgogal Dec 2012 #1
NYC_SKP Dec 2012 #2
darkangel218 Dec 2012 #9
Divine Discontent Dec 2012 #14
NYC_SKP Dec 2012 #17
Divine Discontent Dec 2012 #48
NRaleighLiberal Dec 2012 #35
Divine Discontent Dec 2012 #47
LineReply .
ismnotwasm Dec 2012 #3
jwirr Dec 2012 #4
BigDemVoter Dec 2012 #5
LancetChick Dec 2012 #6
femmocrat Dec 2012 #34
LancetChick Dec 2012 #43
Ruby the Liberal Dec 2012 #7
NYC_SKP Dec 2012 #11
Ruby the Liberal Dec 2012 #20
darkangel218 Dec 2012 #8
NYC_SKP Dec 2012 #13
amerikat Dec 2012 #51
Divine Discontent Dec 2012 #15
fleur-de-lisa Dec 2012 #10
LineReply .
rhett o rick Dec 2012 #12
dhol82 Dec 2012 #16
breathe peace Dec 2012 #19
A HERETIC I AM Dec 2012 #18
Ruby the Liberal Dec 2012 #21
A HERETIC I AM Dec 2012 #27
KatyaR Dec 2012 #22
R. Daneel Olivaw Dec 2012 #23
Elmergantry Dec 2012 #24
A HERETIC I AM Dec 2012 #29
BlancheSplanchnik Dec 2012 #50
Elmergantry Dec 2012 #62
Elmergantry Dec 2012 #61
femmocrat Dec 2012 #36
Elmergantry Dec 2012 #60
Ter Dec 2012 #25
roody Dec 2012 #26
w8liftinglady Dec 2012 #28
freshwest Dec 2012 #31
daleanime Dec 2012 #30
Grey Dec 2012 #32
ChazInAz Dec 2012 #33
femmocrat Dec 2012 #37
Ruby the Liberal Dec 2012 #63
LTR Dec 2012 #38
dembotoz Dec 2012 #39
HipChick Dec 2012 #40
Disconnect Dec 2012 #41
Whovian Dec 2012 #42
TDale313 Dec 2012 #54
renate Dec 2012 #58
JI7 Dec 2012 #44
taxpayer2000 Dec 2012 #45
northoftheborder Dec 2012 #46
doc03 Dec 2012 #49
2naSalit Dec 2012 #53
onestepforward Dec 2012 #52
TDale313 Dec 2012 #55
entanglement Dec 2012 #57
entanglement Dec 2012 #56
amandabeech Dec 2012 #59

Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 07:03 PM

1. I'm alone by choice. Tomorrow will be chaos.

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 07:03 PM

2. You're never alone at the DU.

Here:

Be safe, take care, and know that this is a wonderful world and a wonderful time!

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Response to NYC_SKP (Reply #2)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 07:28 PM

9. +1!

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Response to NYC_SKP (Reply #2)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 07:41 PM

14. +2! I have spent plenty holidays alone. Sometimes it's not easy. We always have friends here.

Just reach out and say hi. people can even write someone they know well or pretty well on DU and just say they are spending a quiet night alone and just wanted to say hi. But, good point NYC_SKP!

I'm spending evening with my brother getting packages ready for our mom and her husband.


hope you're well SKP!

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Response to Divine Discontent (Reply #14)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 08:03 PM

17. Oh DD, how great to have you here!

I am with dog, and waiting for SO who has here share of family things.

Tough year on my end the the folks in a home but as you indicate, how much lonelier would it be without the DU!

First time every, I have actual physical holiday cards from DU members, I'm delighted.

If interested, I'd love to add you to my holiday contacts list.

Send a PM if interested!

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Response to NYC_SKP (Reply #17)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 10:34 PM

48. my version of a pet is a betta fish! he isn't too hard to maintain and comes up and wiggles at me

when I get close and stare in at him. I know how it's hard to have a parent in a home. My dad was in one when he was going through Alzheimer's back about 6 yrs ago. It's not easy to see them be kinda confused as to why they're there, and not going with you. Life is hard, but I know he's in a better place now. As we know, you gotta tell people you love them when you can. I am at ease about him, whereas my brother's who were closer to him aren't. They didn't get to say goodbye the way I did, and he told me he loved me, which was something he never really said before he got sick.

I hope you had a good time when you saw your folks last. I understand, it's tough. But bringing a smile and yourself is a light to them, I'm sure.



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Response to Divine Discontent (Reply #14)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:40 PM

35. Hey DD! Merry Christmas to you!

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Response to NRaleighLiberal (Reply #35)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 10:20 PM

47. Hello NRL! Hey buddy, Merry Christmas to you!

thank you for the greeting. Lifting up a drink in your honor, have a great evening.

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 07:11 PM

3. .

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 07:13 PM

4. Alone because my grandson is with his wife's family. I am taking the opportunity to completely

clean the house for tomorrow. It is my gift to them.

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 07:16 PM

5. Sorry to break silence, but some are alone by CHOICE! :)

But I know what you mean--for those who aren't alone by choice. . . .

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 07:17 PM

6. So glad I'm alone tonight!

Been without electricity since yesterday morning (just got it back a little while ago) and I'm reveling in the heat and light and an internet connection that isn't going to die with my phone's battery. Now that I have a stove and a fridge I'm making a peanut butter pie to take to my parents' house tomorrow, but tomorrow's not a big deal. Just another holiday, no gifts, no tree, no lights. A perfect excuse to celebrate good food with my right-wing ding-dong parents!

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Response to LancetChick (Reply #6)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:40 PM

34. Welcome to DU, LancetChick!

I'm happy that your power is back on. We have been there many times and each time when it comes back on it's like the greatest relief in the world!

Enjoy your holiday with your family!

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Response to femmocrat (Reply #34)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:58 PM

43. Thank you for your kind welcome!

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 07:22 PM

7. Already heard the guilt trip, but missing the Eve dinner by choice

Just did 6 back to back 55-60 hour weeks, working 6 days a week, and came down with some cold/flu thing on Friday that is kicking my ass from here to Albany. Can barely speak above a whisper and feel like I have been beaten.

I'll go tomorrow (and my sister is bringing me food later tonight), but I feel like a million bucks here in my yoga pants crashed on my couch in front of the fire.

Thrilled to be here hanging out with you fine folks rather than out in the snow.

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Response to Ruby the Liberal (Reply #7)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 07:33 PM

11. NO SHIT RUBY!!!!

I got shit to do tomorrow, and halelooooyaaaah, nobody barking up my goddam tree tonight.

Except this dog who needs a home and no you can't have her!

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Response to NYC_SKP (Reply #11)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 08:13 PM

20. Sometimes alone + rest is just what the body needs.

The mind can catch up tomorrow.

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 07:28 PM

8. Im alone but i have my fav blankie :)

And ill be at work in an hour.

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Response to darkangel218 (Reply #8)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 07:35 PM

13. Well, so much for the "silent" part of the thread!

PARTAY!





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Response to NYC_SKP (Reply #13)

Tue Dec 25, 2012, 01:33 AM

51. Best Christmas present

EVAH

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Response to darkangel218 (Reply #8)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 07:41 PM

15. enjoy that blankie!

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 07:31 PM

10. Spent today with my mother about 90 miles away from where I live . . .

Home now with no plans to leave. I will spend tomorrow at home with my critters and I will love every minute of it!

My beloved daughter lives in Europe and won't be home until February. That will be my holiday!

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 07:34 PM

12. .

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 07:45 PM

16. what do mean by alone?

geeze, i am really happy right now, alone, sitting at the computer, getting ready to watch a movie (one of the bourne things) and have no problem with any of this.

tomorrow, i will meet a friend and her boyfriend for a lovely dim sum lunch and then go do a walking tour of the lower east side of new york.

don't know how anybody could even think that i did not have a full life.

tomorrow will be on the phone with family from distant parts of the country. that is a good thing. don't need the bunch of relatives thing to make my life complete. my life is happy. hell - I'VE GOT MY DOG!!!!!!!!! what more does one need?

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Response to dhol82 (Reply #16)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 08:11 PM

19. alone by choice

Some folks feel understandably sad that they are alone tonight....you sound totally contented...terrific..enjoy. And to those who feel too alone, I hope you get some comfort from DU and other communities you are a part of. Peace...

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 08:05 PM

18. Ummmm...I'm alone and a silent thread seems sorta redundant.

I mean....I have all the silence I need. What I need is a bunch of friends clinking glasses and making me laugh.

Unfortunately, all those people I know are spread out all over the country!

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Response to A HERETIC I AM (Reply #18)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 08:17 PM

21. Raising a glass to you now, AHIA



Mine is half nyquil, but I topped it off with some yeagermeister from the freezer. Because holidays.

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Response to Ruby the Liberal (Reply #21)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:24 PM

27. Hmmmm....Yeager & Nyquil.....

Seems to trump Beer & liquorless Eggnogg!


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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 08:36 PM

22. Alone's not so bad....

I always have a couple of offers for the holidays, but I never take them up. I'm perfectly happy to be at home, just me and the dog. Tonight we're watching old TV shows and waiting for the blizzard that's supposed to hit with artic temps tomorrow. I have nowhere to go until Thursday, and then I'm done again until Jan 2. Perfect holidays!

Merry Holiday of Your Choice!

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:01 PM

23. My wife and daughter flew to Chicago to see my inlaws.


I stayed to help out my mom, dad and see this side of the clan. Wife and daughter have had a swell time so far.

I may be physically alone, but I have many in my thoughts tonight.


May all be well.

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:13 PM

24. Maybe a better title would be..

.."for those who are lonely on Christmas Eve"...

One can be alone, yet not lonely, and vice versa..

May the newborn Christ fill the hearts of the lonely with his love.

Amen.

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Response to Elmergantry (Reply #24)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:29 PM

29. Welcome to DU.

"May the newborn Christ fill the hearts of the lonely with his love."

On the other hand....

May the promise of the returning SUN, marked by the passing of the winter solstice and the now ever longer days till the spring equinox arrives, fill the hearts of everyone with hope for renewal and love for the entirety of the human family,

Since.....you know....that's REALLY what the reason for the season is.

Spoken by a former Christian, BTW.

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Response to A HERETIC I AM (Reply #29)

Tue Dec 25, 2012, 12:45 AM

50. yes, the promise contained in the Universal rhythm and the return of the sun

The original Spirituality. Co-opted and subsumed by the spread of Christianity and its power seeking patriarchy.

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Response to BlancheSplanchnik (Reply #50)

Tue Dec 25, 2012, 06:36 PM

62. May you be blessed too :) (NT)

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Response to A HERETIC I AM (Reply #29)

Tue Dec 25, 2012, 06:35 PM

61. May you be blessed! NT

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Response to Elmergantry (Reply #24)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:41 PM

36. Welcome to DU, Elmergantry.

Wishing you a very joyous Christmas.

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Response to femmocrat (Reply #36)

Tue Dec 25, 2012, 06:29 PM

60. Likewise to you!

Had a great day with family.

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:16 PM

25. Alone because whenever I am seeing someone, it never works out

 

The last breakup (October) was rough, so I'm on break for a little while.

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:18 PM

26. Alone and savoring it.

If you call 3 dogs and 2 cats alone!

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:26 PM

28. Hey,Hugs...

I'm watching all my favorite movies tonight.
Shawshank Redemption
A Beautiful Mind
Year of Living Dangerously


It's not so bad...

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Response to w8liftinglady (Reply #28)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:36 PM

31. Reminds me, I have a lot of movies I converted to watch. Guilty pleasures, all.

Hope your interview went as we hoped, your head isn't hurting much, and I'm taking this moment to tell you how much I appreciated your activism and stories this year. If you do get some snow tonight or tomorrow, I hope you enjoy it very much.




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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:30 PM

30. .....

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:38 PM

32. (((...)))

Hugs

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:39 PM

33. Thanks.

This is my second holiday season alone. 5 December was the second anniversary of my wife's death, after thirty-three years together. I still miss her, but the pain is mostly gone, now. She was a big Christmas fan, unlike your humble, who dislikes the whole scene. By some weird twist of fate, if I lose someone in my life, that person passes away in December: both parents, my wife, several beloved uncles and aunts, hell....even pets! So, I rather dread this time of year.
Right now, I'm here on DU with people I like. Natasha, my Munchkin cat, is grumbling about something in the hall. Hastur The Unspeakable, my Savannah cat, is wriggling around on my lap and preparing to climb up on my shoulder to nibble on an ear lobe.
Tomorrow, my daughter and her husband will have me over at their home for posole and other Mexican goodies.

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Response to ChazInAz (Reply #33)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:44 PM

37. A peaceful Christmas Eve to you, Chaz.

And to all those who are missing loved ones at this time of year.

I hope you have a great day with your family tomorrow.

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Response to ChazInAz (Reply #33)

Tue Dec 25, 2012, 07:30 PM

63. Savannah cat?

LOVE them! You must post pics of both when you have a minute.

Pretty much any cat will look like a Munchkin next to a Savannah - even my oversized Bengal is dwarfed by most.

Hope you had a great Mexican-food-themed day!

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:50 PM

38. LA LA LA LA LA LA LA!

Sorry, thought I'd make some noise so nobody feels alone.

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:53 PM

39. ...

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:55 PM

40. Alone with my toys...

Mac Pro
IPad 2
Ipod
Mini Ipad
Iphone 5

People suck...who needs them? We are one big happy Apple family.. It will be like that for Xmas Day too, I might take them out to the local Chinese Buffet, they have Free Wi-Fi..

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:56 PM

41. ALONE

 

This my 4th Christmas without my son, Thomas. I found him dead, hanging on a rope Father's Day 2009. He was a very nice, wonderfully intelligent 19 year old. Worse yet is that all signs point to murder rather than suicide, but apparently the local cops didn't want to bother themselves. Merry Christmas Thomas, You are forever loved and missed!! Dad

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Response to Disconnect (Reply #41)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:58 PM

42. What an unbearable loss. You are in my thoughts.

 

How terrible a thing for any parent. Be strong.

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Response to Disconnect (Reply #41)

Tue Dec 25, 2012, 01:55 AM

54. So sorry for your loss.

You're in my thoughts.

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Response to Disconnect (Reply #41)

Tue Dec 25, 2012, 02:10 AM

58. oh no... I am so very sorry

That must have been horrific. I cannot even begin to imagine the tiniest speck of your pain.

Words fail me completely. I am so sorry.

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 09:59 PM

44. i prefer to be alone or with a few people

but i know what you mean. there are people who either lost those they would like to be with or just are not able to be with them at this time because of things like money, location etc.

and for anyone else who feels lonely.

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 10:06 PM

45. Thanks! Not alone by choice ...

 

Missed my flight yesterday cuz my 4yo epileptic dog Daisy had a nasty cluster of seizures yesterday before I was supposed to leave to the airport. It's not easy living with an epileptic dog but shes very healthy most of the year and I love her beyond words.

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Mon Dec 24, 2012, 10:11 PM

46. Alone but not lonely!

All the rest of my family is down with the coughs and colds, so we canceled our get-togethers. I would rather stay well and have our visits when they get well. I sort of enjoyed having my BLT fried egg sandwich for supper, along with hot honey/lemon tea with a splash of wine to ward off the winter sniffles! Surfing DU, watching Christmas performances on TV.

Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, and all the good stuff to all!

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Tue Dec 25, 2012, 12:36 AM

49. Thanks but I don't mind being alone, what bothers me is when

other people feel bad for you and think you should feel bad. Last fall I went on a six day bus tour by myself, I enjoyed the trip except for other people on the bus trying to be nice, I guess, seemed to pity me for being alone. I am not married and I like to travel and since I didn't have someone to travel with I went by myself and enjoyed it. I am thinking of taking another tour this year but am reluctant to because of other people feeling sorry for me. The other day I was listening to a talk radio show and the host of the show was telling about her, her husband and son eating somewhere and she saw a man eating by himself and felt so sorry for him it made her cry. I am a loner I like it that way most of the time.

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Response to doc03 (Reply #49)

Tue Dec 25, 2012, 01:44 AM

53. I traveled alone for over twenty years

because I was a truck driver. It was actually rather nice to be out there with very few other vehicles around, and there were always other "drivers" to talk to so it wasn't completely "alone" though there was nobody in my vehicle with me. I didn't have that sympathy issue and I could stop when I wanted. Back then we didn't have cell phones, just the CB radio. But it was a chosen solitude, I had time to think and dream all while I was doing my job.

Most people seem to have a need for company but not everyone. There were a few times when I felt a little lonely but I got over it without much trouble. For those who do have that desire to be in the company of others or who miss someone who has passed, I wish you strength and a peaceful heart into which joy can find its way. I've been through a lot of personal hardship in my life but for me it made me find what I need in being alone.

Peace and comfort to all...

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Tue Dec 25, 2012, 01:35 AM

52. Hugs and well wishes to anyone who needs them

and I'll take a few myself...

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Response to onestepforward (Reply #52)

Tue Dec 25, 2012, 01:58 AM

55. Adding mine.



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Response to onestepforward (Reply #52)

Tue Dec 25, 2012, 02:05 AM

57. Adding mine.

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Tue Dec 25, 2012, 02:03 AM

56. Thank you.

I realized early on that solitude is the lot of a certain (contemplative) subset of humanity and I happily count myself as a member of that subset.

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Response to Whovian (Original post)

Tue Dec 25, 2012, 02:15 AM

59. At home recovering from bronchitis.

Will be traveling next week for a postponed holiday.

Merry Christmas and best wishes for those who have no where to go for this or any holiday.

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