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Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:13 PM

Buried my father today.

Found out about this senseless tragedy at his funeral luncheon.

My fucking state legislature (MI) responds by voting to allow concealed weapons in schools and day cares.

I have a two-year old son.

My broken heart is breaking anew for those parents.

I just can't even begin to process this.

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Reply Buried my father today. (Original post)
Barack_America Dec 2012 OP
Mnemosyne Dec 2012 #1
Barack_America Dec 2012 #8
Mnemosyne Dec 2012 #19
terip64 Dec 2012 #2
Barack_America Dec 2012 #25
terip64 Dec 2012 #26
Cerridwen Dec 2012 #3
grantcart Dec 2012 #39
TDale313 Dec 2012 #4
renate Dec 2012 #5
teddy51 Dec 2012 #6
AndyA Dec 2012 #7
TwilightGardener Dec 2012 #9
kaiden Dec 2012 #10
DainBramaged Dec 2012 #11
Mz Pip Dec 2012 #12
Walk away Dec 2012 #13
Barack_America Dec 2012 #18
MrMickeysMom Dec 2012 #14
ellisonz Dec 2012 #15
RainDog Dec 2012 #16
Lone_Star_Dem Dec 2012 #17
sheshe2 Dec 2012 #20
spanone Dec 2012 #21
Skittles Dec 2012 #22
midnight Dec 2012 #23
arthritisR_US Dec 2012 #24
Chorophyll Dec 2012 #27
niyad Dec 2012 #28
calimary Dec 2012 #29
OldDem2012 Dec 2012 #30
Lugnut Dec 2012 #31
mahina Dec 2012 #32
AgingAmerican Dec 2012 #33
nadinbrzezinski Dec 2012 #34
patrice Dec 2012 #35
The Wielding Truth Dec 2012 #36
KT2000 Dec 2012 #37
Whovian Dec 2012 #38
cherokeeprogressive Dec 2012 #40
myrna minx Dec 2012 #41
loudsue Dec 2012 #42
progressoid Dec 2012 #43
sellitman Dec 2012 #44
Panasonic Dec 2012 #45
malaise Dec 2012 #46
Arugula Latte Dec 2012 #47
GreenPartyVoter Dec 2012 #48

Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:14 PM

1. You and your family have my deepest sympathy. What a day.

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Response to Mnemosyne (Reply #1)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:22 PM

8. Thank you. I'm so glad he didn't live to see this.

My son was his world. My father suffered for so long, I'm glad he didn't live to see this sad reminder of the world his grandson will grow up in.

But I'm so, so sorry for all of our children. They deserve better than this.

Over my dead body will my son attend a day care or school that allows concealed weapons.

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Response to Barack_America (Reply #8)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:42 PM

19. Our children and grandchildren, certainly deserve better. Peace to you and yours, B_A. nt

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:14 PM

2. I am so sorry for you loss. I am so sorry for all of our loss. Please take care of yourself.

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Response to terip64 (Reply #2)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:56 PM

25. All I can do is shake my head and weep.

What those parents must be feeling. The loss is crushing.

And the fear of what might await the precious angel sleeping in the room next to me.

I probably shouldn't think about anymore of this tonight.

I'm praying for all of us.

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Response to Barack_America (Reply #25)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 12:06 AM

26. Try to sleep. You will need your sleep. Rest knowing that you are loved. And that you love. That

is all we have right now, and it is more than so many.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:14 PM

3. My condolences for your loss.

Losing a parent...I have no words for you.

Time heals. It is no consolation.



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Response to Cerridwen (Reply #3)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 02:13 AM

39. +1

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:15 PM

4. So sorry for your loss.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:16 PM

5. I'm so very sorry for your loss

How awful. You must feel as if your heart is raw and bruised... you have my deepest sympathy.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:20 PM

6. I'm very sorry for your loss, been there and done that. What can one say about this

 

senseless tragedy? How do we fix this? I'm not certain that there is a fix. Our country seems to focus in on senseless death, whether it be at home or abroad.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:21 PM

7. I'm sorry to hear about your father's passing.

I lost my Dad just over four years ago, and I think about him frequently. I miss him very much.

You would have always remembered this day anyway, but more so now.

Michigan's GOP-run legislature seems totally out of control.

Sending good thoughts your way.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:22 PM

9. I'm sorry about your father. I hope you and your family

are doing OK--will say a prayer for your dad.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:25 PM

10. Hugs and light to you, Barack_America.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:27 PM

11. I am so so sorry for your loss

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:32 PM

12. Sorry for you loss

It's painful to lose a parent but I can't imagine what it must be like to lose a child in such a horrific way.

I cannot wrap my mind around the thought of someone executing a classroom of Kindergarteners.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:36 PM

13. I am so sorry. Take good care of yourself and get some rest. nt

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Response to Walk away (Reply #13)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:40 PM

18. Thanks so much. That's excellent advice.

It's just so hard knowing that my father is in a better place (he truly suffered), but that my son, who he and I both live for, isn't.

Our children don't deserve the world we're giving them. And I don't know what to do about it.

My heart is so heavy tonight, for my family, and everyone else's.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:36 PM

14. The only thing I can think about with such sorrow within insanity...

... is that it has to get pretty awful before change a great change happens, and these certainly are interesting times.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:38 PM

15. A nation mourns tonight...

...my best wishes to you and your son.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:39 PM

16. condolences

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:40 PM

17. My condolences on the loss of your father.

You've a little bit too much on your plate to process everything right now. Just draw support from your friends and family members and worry about processing it all a little later.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:44 PM

20. I am so very sorry for your loss...

Your pain is twofold with the loss of the children today!

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:45 PM

21. sorry....

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:50 PM

22. so sorry, Barack_America

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:54 PM

23. Sorry about this sad day being made even more heartbreaking for you and your family...

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 11:54 PM

24. My gawd, what a heavy day you have had to

endure. I am so sorry for your loss, my deepest thoughts are with you and your family. Please take care

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 12:09 AM

27. I'm so sorry, Barack_America.

I'm just so sorry. My heart is broken today too. I have decided to make gun control my first priority from now on. I can't fix what's already happened, but I can't sit here and let it happen anymore either.

My condolences to you and yours.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 12:18 AM

28. so very, very sorry for your loss, BA. you and your family have my deepest sympathy, with

all the prayers for ease and comfort that you can find, as I pray for those families in CT. what a dreadful world we are giving the next generations.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 12:35 AM

29. It's just mind-numbing, isn't it! Senseless and completely numbing.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm so sorry... what a heavy day. It's all the more painful when you're a parent and you realize that your little one is only three years younger than the youngest victims of the latest domestic terrorist.

Much sympathy and solace to you, Barack_America. One thing that sure helped me when my mom died several years ago, was what you've just done, yourself. You've posted about this on DU. Let DU buoy you up. Many shoulders here to help you carry your burdens and get through it. Besides, we're ALL kind of in mourning today.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 12:40 AM

30. My sincerest condolences. Know what you're going through...lost my Dad in 2009. nt.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 12:48 AM

31. I'm so sorry about your father.

Please accept my condolences for your loss.

It's been a really crappy day all around for you and the rest of us.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 12:55 AM

32. Better days, man.

We will get this done.

Aloha.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 01:30 AM

33. I remember when my Dad died

For a couple years afterward I felt a longing sort of sorrow. Hard to describe it. I guess it was an emptiness. The bond between a father and son is strong.

My condolences to you on the loss of your father.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 01:31 AM

34. Hugs.

May you know peace.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 01:45 AM

35. Light, Life, and Love in AllOne with your whole family, Barack_America.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 01:50 AM

36. Your Dad has most likely raised you to get through these bad days. You will be stronger because you

had him in your life. Remember the sweetness of a love like this. Our spirits are with you too.

I wish you good things to come.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 02:04 AM

37. I'm sorry for your loss

peace to you and yours.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 02:06 AM

38. Like so many others here I am very sorry for your loss.

 

I hope your days get better soon.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 02:31 AM

40. I don't have words that could in any way make your loss easier to bear...

I live in constant dread of that phone call... the one from my Mom or someone else... telling me my 78 year old Dad has passed. You have my deepest and most heartfelt sympathy BA.

I spent the whole day alone at my job, as I always do, and no matter how I twisted it I couldn't process the horror of what happened.

I wish I had an answer that might mitigate the problem of gun violence, but I don't. I'm willing to entertain ideas though.

For what it's worth, my Grandfather (the REAL Native American) was my Hero. The day he died, I was standing in front of a classroom full of students when the phone rang. A secretary in the front office told me "Mr XXXX wants to see you in his office. Your Grandpa died this morning". I don't remember much about the next few minutes other than him telling me "You take as long as it takes... I'll see you when you get back" and giving me a hug the likes of which I've never had before or since. My Sister and I left for Idaho not two hours later in a rented car. Long story short, I sat in the front row at my Grandpa's funeral service and listened to his Pastor and by the time he was done talking, I was ready to drag him outside and beat his ass. That afternoon, he took me outside and sat me down. I was a mess. He told me that the hurt and hate and grief I was feeling was selfish emotion, and that I was grieving not for my Grandfather's death, but for the whole in my life it was going to leave. That was the gist of it anyway... It took me a while, but I came to understand that he was right. Instead of celebrating my Grandpa's life and all he accomplished, all he gave and passed on to me, I was feeling sorry for myself that he was no longer there. I still get weepy when I think about my Grandpa, but now I'm able to look at it from a different perspective. He helped me to become a man... even more so than my own Dad. That was more than a decade ago.

I'd give you a huge hug if I could, the same kind my Principal gave me. I feel your pain and live in fear of the day I'll have to deal with it myself.

DU is full of people who, together, will get through this bad bad thing that happened today. Don't let the anger that is being thrown back and forth take your focus away. This too will pass.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 04:52 AM

41. I am so sorry for your loss, Barack_America.

Peace to you. :grouphug.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 05:16 AM

42. Sooooo sorry, barack_america....

My heart aches for you today. I'm so sorry for your loss, and the mess that Michigan did today. It's too much, I know.

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Sat Dec 15, 2012, 02:25 PM

43. ...

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 05:23 PM

44. As if your day could be any worse

My deepest sympathies. I hope your memories burn brightly forever.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 05:25 PM

45. I'm sorry B_A - my dad had a heart attack Thursday night but he is home already.

 

his first, and one artery is blocked. A stent was inserted. He was already up and about 12 hours after his heart attack.

I'm sorry about your dad - and seeing that, made me cry.

Take care of yourself, and your son too - I have a 3 year old too.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 05:25 PM

46. Deepest sympathy to you and your family

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 05:26 PM

47. This country gets more and more insane and off the deep end. I don't get it.

I'm so sorry about your father.

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Response to Barack_America (Original post)

Sat Dec 15, 2012, 05:28 PM

48. I am so very sorry. *hugs*

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