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Fri Dec 14, 2012, 05:25 PM

DU parents who have kids old enough to understand

what has happened today, what are you saying to your kids?

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Reply DU parents who have kids old enough to understand (Original post)
sufrommich Dec 2012 OP
AldoLeopold Dec 2012 #1
mercuryblues Dec 2012 #2
sufrommich Dec 2012 #5
Warren DeMontague Dec 2012 #3
sufrommich Dec 2012 #6
Cooley Hurd Dec 2012 #4
sufrommich Dec 2012 #7
mercuryblues Dec 2012 #16
sufrommich Dec 2012 #17
mercuryblues Dec 2012 #18
seabeyond Dec 2012 #8
sufrommich Dec 2012 #9
TrogL Dec 2012 #10
sufrommich Dec 2012 #11
laundry_queen Dec 2012 #13
Happyhippychick Dec 2012 #12
gkhouston Dec 2012 #19
Brickbat Dec 2012 #14
Luciferous Dec 2012 #15
seabeyond Dec 2012 #20
Luciferous Dec 2012 #21

Response to sufrommich (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 05:32 PM

1. Finish your homework!

Before you go see your girlfriend!

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Response to sufrommich (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 05:34 PM

2. What can you say?

I was honest as I could be and answered his questions to the best of my knowledge. Letting him know that as much as I hate the check-in system at his school, it is there for a reason. In a sense I gave him false security, they do go outside for reccess and PE.

Then he told me I was breaking his neck from hugging him too tight.

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Response to mercuryblues (Reply #2)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 05:41 PM

5. "he told me I was breaking his neck from hugging him too tight"

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Response to sufrommich (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 05:34 PM

3. Gonna have to fry that fish at 3 o'clock.

Not looking forward to it, either. But at least mine is coming home.

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Response to Warren DeMontague (Reply #3)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 05:42 PM

6. My son is an adult. I can't even imagine trying to

explain this to a child. My heart goes out to you.

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Response to sufrommich (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 05:34 PM

4. Just as we taught our kids to ID and run away from potential child abusers...

...apparently, we will have to teach them to spot and run away from crazed shooters.

Jeebus...

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Response to Cooley Hurd (Reply #4)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 05:43 PM

7. I honestly try to imagine what I would say

to my child and can't think of anything that would ease their fears.

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Response to sufrommich (Reply #7)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 06:25 PM

16. My youngest

was just a few months old on 9/11 and I remember holding him and saying, "this is the world you are inheriting"


There really is no right thing to say. I think being as truthful as you can be depending on their age is best. Later tonight we will talk about what he can do IF he is ever in a situation like this. I think several smaller talks works best with my youngest, rather than a long talk that he will get frightened. I will suggest knocking a desk over and getting behind it, playing dead, bookbag over his face. For the first time ever I am thinking about buying one of those bullet resistant bookbags.

http://www.bulletblocker.com/bulletproof-school-safety-protection.html

I don't know if this is more for me or him. I do know that one way to ease fear is to have some plan in place.

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Response to mercuryblues (Reply #16)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 06:33 PM

17. Oh God, I just can't even imagine having

to tell a child to "play dead".

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Response to sufrommich (Reply #17)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 07:03 PM

18. He is doing well

right now he is practicing his trombone. He has been playing for 2 months and asking me to guess the names of songs he is trying to "play" LOL. So far I have gotten exactly 1 right.

Kids are resilent. My youngest is a thinker, he will most likely as me questions over the next few days. I will be as honest as I can be. There is no need to go into every detail. When I talked to him, he told me they do tornado drills and the way he described them it sounds like this type of incident is covered in it. Get away from the doors, the teacher's job is to lock them, stay low and go to the corner of the classroom that isn't visible from the doors.

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Response to sufrommich (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 05:44 PM

8. our generation of kids have had this a lot. columbine in prek. 911 1st grade

has it stopped? this is the world our kids are in.

son born a week after oklahoma city bombing

we talk. we have to be aware. but as someone said, sad, but not a whole lot to say. my kids are older so they can put it in a proper place. younger.... i would address differently

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Response to seabeyond (Reply #8)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 05:45 PM

9. ....

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Response to sufrommich (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 05:46 PM

10. sadly, if they ask, "That happened down in the States. Things are different there"

Yes, it could happen here. We have a shooting a week but it's mostly asian gangs trying to take each other out.

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Response to TrogL (Reply #10)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 05:49 PM

11. I wish we would join our neighbors to the north

and stop this insanity.

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Response to TrogL (Reply #10)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 06:12 PM

13. That's pretty much how it went today

with my own kindergartener. I told her it was far away, and it was very sad but that she was safe here. But, really, for how much longer until it spills over? The more guns south of the border, the more illegal guns end up here. And yes, it could happen here, too. Less likely, but still could.

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Response to sufrommich (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 05:53 PM

12. I told my 12 year old as I knew she would find out. She was horrified.

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Response to Happyhippychick (Reply #12)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 07:22 PM

19. My 12 year old watches the news pretty much every night. She wasn't even surprised.

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Response to sufrommich (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 06:12 PM

14. The truth.

10 and 13. I told them exactly what happened.

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Response to sufrommich (Original post)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 06:17 PM

15. I have a 13 year old and a 5 year old. The 13 year old heard what happened

from a teacher at school, and she was crying when I picked her up. I did not tell my son anything about it, but gave him an extra big hug when I picked him up from school. I don't want him to be scared to go to school, so I'm not going to bring it up.

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Response to Luciferous (Reply #15)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 07:50 PM

20. you might be lucky that it is a friday and no one will say anything by monday.

i hear ya with the five yr old

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Response to seabeyond (Reply #20)

Fri Dec 14, 2012, 09:04 PM

21. I hope so. The school district's official response is to keep quiet about it at the

elementary schools so the kids aren't scared. I just hope that people use common sense and it doesn't get back to any of the kindergarteners.

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