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Tue Dec 11, 2012, 06:42 PM

He bought food for a homeless person.

Mr. Bmus often buys food for homeless people on a whim, the sweetest thing I've seen him do is buy a bag of dog food for an old guy who always carries his best friend with him in a shopping cart.

He always has a hard time sleeping after he does this, but today is really bad.

He saw an old man early this morning, skinny, under-dressed, walking back and forth to keep warm in front of the supermarket.
He went in, bought the biggest sub sandwich he could find and asked for mayo and mustard packets; the deli was closed and they didn't have any handy, so he drove to the McDonald's across the lot; cashier asked why he needed them and he explained about the old man, cashier said he'd been out there since 4am.

By the time he got back he couldn't find the man, looked all over for him.

What he did find was an old couple sleeping in a pre-1980 Toyota pick-up truck with rags stuffed all around the windows and covering the windshield.

And it's Cold here. Not cold, Cold - three inches of rain this weekend, windy and temps in the teens last night.

He gave them the sandwich and came home.

But he can't stop thinking about the first man he saw. And he's not sleeping well, tossing and turning, mumbling, you know the deal.

The last thing he said to me before I tucked him in was "Why didn't anyone else see those people? And how many others are there if we look?"


He has an idea, he wants to get the guys on his shift to take the weekly $20 they each put in the kitty for the lottery and use it to help these people. Those jerks won't even chip in a lousy $5 or buy a card for a coworker in dire straits.

What do I do? Prepare him for the disappointment that's sure to come, or encourage him and watch his heart get broken?

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Reply He bought food for a homeless person. (Original post)
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 OP
former-republican Dec 2012 #1
GreenPartyVoter Dec 2012 #4
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 #5
elehhhhna Dec 2012 #19
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 #20
SidDithers Dec 2012 #2
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 #6
upaloopa Dec 2012 #3
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 #7
upaloopa Dec 2012 #12
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 #14
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 #8
Raine1967 Dec 2012 #10
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 #11
Raine1967 Dec 2012 #9
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 #13
iwillalwayswonderwhy Dec 2012 #15
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 #16
FirstLight Dec 2012 #17
CrispyQ Dec 2012 #27
Nevernose Dec 2012 #33
renate Dec 2012 #36
nadinbrzezinski Dec 2012 #18
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 #21
jackbenimble Dec 2012 #22
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 #23
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 #24
In_The_Wind Dec 2012 #25
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 #26
In_The_Wind Dec 2012 #30
southernyankeebelle Dec 2012 #28
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 #31
southernyankeebelle Dec 2012 #35
fredamae Dec 2012 #29
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 #32
fredamae Dec 2012 #42
shireen Dec 2012 #34
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 #38
shireen Dec 2012 #41
renate Dec 2012 #37
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 #39
beam me up scottie Dec 2012 #40

Response to beam me up scottie (Original post)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 06:49 PM

1. He sounds like a good man and a person I would be honored to call my friend

 

The part about buying dog food for the man really hit home.

As to what he should do?

He can try telling his co workers his thought.
I have a feeling he won't be as disappointed as you think though.

He seems to know how cruel and uncaring people can be already.

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Response to former-republican (Reply #1)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 06:52 PM

4. Hear, hear!

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Response to former-republican (Reply #1)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 06:53 PM

5. Thank you.

He is a broken man but that's what, I believe, makes him a good one.

I just want to protect him.

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Response to beam me up scottie (Reply #5)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 08:14 PM

19. just tell him how wonderful he is

you can't protect him from his own heart -- he's a tender guy. just love him.

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Response to elehhhhna (Reply #19)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 08:26 PM

20. Thanks, I do :)

He never tells anyone else about his kind deeds so I'm the one who has to help him keep the faith.



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Response to beam me up scottie (Original post)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 06:50 PM

2. bmus!...

long time no see!

Sid

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Response to SidDithers (Reply #2)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 06:54 PM

6. How are you and yours, Sid?


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Response to beam me up scottie (Original post)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 06:51 PM

3. Not sure. I give money whenever I can

Saturday I saw two guys working for Salvation Army ringing their bells. There also was a homeless guy there with a cardboard sign. I said to the bell guys why not give the money to the homeless guy and cut out the middleman. I've told this story a few times and so for people would give money to the bell guys but not to the sign guy.

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Response to upaloopa (Reply #3)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 06:57 PM

7. We boycott the SA droids.

They don't care about empty stomachs and cold feet, they care about souls. They are also extremely anti-GLBT.

I'm surprised the bell guys didn't have the other run off.

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Response to beam me up scottie (Reply #7)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 07:16 PM

12. The sign people are regulars SA is only there

for the holidays

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Response to upaloopa (Reply #12)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 07:22 PM

14. How sad.

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Response to beam me up scottie (Original post)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 07:02 PM

8. He suggested that I photograph some of these people.

To post on the board at work.

But I feel like that would be exploitation.

None of these people asked for charity, they might not even be there next week.

Maybe if it wasn't organized, maybe if each employee did their own thing.

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Response to beam me up scottie (Reply #8)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 07:07 PM

10. Just tell the story.

I think that would go a long way.

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Response to Raine1967 (Reply #10)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 07:16 PM

11. He will.

If there's an interest, maybe I can meet them all for lunch one night and hash it out.

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Response to beam me up scottie (Original post)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 07:05 PM

9. Have Mr. Bmus tell this story to the guys on his shift.

Maybe they can cut the weekly $$ down to 15 bucks and toss the other five to help.

Encouragement is always better even if a broken heart is impending. I'd rather my heart be broken over a noble idea than a shallow one. The former ensures ensures the will heal.


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Response to Raine1967 (Reply #9)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 07:19 PM

13. Thank you.

If it was easier for M to express his feelings I'm sure that's what he'd say.

And asking for a lesser amount is a great idea.

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Response to beam me up scottie (Original post)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 07:59 PM

15. Every payday I put twenty one dollars bills in a baggie in my car

And I hand them out in ones and twos to homeless people I see. I don't care what they do with it. Somewhere along the line of doing this, my husband and I started calling it "giving a dollar to Jesus" (neither of us is religious, I reckon it started out as sarcasm and somehow took on meaning for us). Last week I had my granddaughter in the car, she saw a homeless man and asked me if I had a dollar for Jesus. I hadn't even realized we'd said it out loud around them. "Hi Jesus", the 6-year-old said when I rolled down the window.

I started doing this when I saw a friend do it. Maybe, me telling the story will start somebody else doing it.

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Response to iwillalwayswonderwhy (Reply #15)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 08:05 PM

16. That's a wonderful thing to do.

And you've inspired another generation to follow in your footsteps, kudos!

I will pass it on.

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Response to iwillalwayswonderwhy (Reply #15)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 08:09 PM

17. sharing!!!!

I love the idea, love the concept...it's all about Heart cuz we are all in this together!

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Response to iwillalwayswonderwhy (Reply #15)

Wed Dec 12, 2012, 10:54 AM

27. "Hi Jesus!"

I love this story!! Such a great idea! Hugs to your little one!

I take public transportation & in the winter I carry extra bus passes & hand them out. I figure when it's cold out a ride in a warm bus might be appreciated.

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Response to iwillalwayswonderwhy (Reply #15)

Wed Dec 12, 2012, 11:50 AM

33. "But they'll spend it on booze and cigarettes!"

"What am I afraid of? That they'll beat me to the liquor store?"

Can't remember which comedian that was...

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Response to iwillalwayswonderwhy (Reply #15)

Wed Dec 12, 2012, 01:23 PM

36. that is really, really lovely!

It's corny of me, but although I'm not the church kind of religious I have always been moved almost to tears by the sentiment behind the song "What If God Was One of Us"--I believe that God (not some dude in the sky but the loving and compassionate life force of the universe) really is in each and every one of us, and even though you started using the "Jesus" term sarcastically, I think it might mean much the same thing to you as it does to me.

"Hi, Jesus"--what a sweet and touching story.

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Response to beam me up scottie (Original post)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 08:13 PM

18. Every so often I do the same

The one that tugged at my heart was a homeless teen the other day.

Tell him to be ready for nastiness...that is all I can say.

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Response to nadinbrzezinski (Reply #18)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 08:29 PM

21. I'm all in this time.

I will help if needed and comfort when necessary, but I will be by his side.

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Response to beam me up scottie (Original post)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 09:30 PM

22. Tell him Thank You from me.

If everyone did some random act of kindness like your husband did it would add up to a whole lot of help for the folks who need it most.

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Response to jackbenimble (Reply #22)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 09:40 PM

23. I will.

He prefers to give anonymously but I think tonight he could use a few atta-boys.

If everyone who had just a little extra would pass it on... who knows?

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Response to beam me up scottie (Original post)

Wed Dec 12, 2012, 10:36 AM

24. He's gone back to see if he can find the first homeless man.

And put $20 gas in the couple's pick-up so they can stay warm tonight.

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Response to beam me up scottie (Original post)

Wed Dec 12, 2012, 10:44 AM

25. Sounds like mr. bmus is a wonderful man.

Just be there for him (as you always have been) while his heart is broken.

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Response to In_The_Wind (Reply #25)

Wed Dec 12, 2012, 10:53 AM

26. He is, thank you.

I have almost no faith in humanity, it's why I prefer the company of animals.

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Response to beam me up scottie (Reply #26)

Wed Dec 12, 2012, 11:13 AM

30. Sad but true.

I've always preferred animals to humans.
At least they're honest about their feelings.

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Response to beam me up scottie (Original post)

Wed Dec 12, 2012, 10:58 AM

28. Maybe he should go to a church near his home. They might have resources or know where you can

 

get them help. This is awful. My heart goes out to people on the streets. There are many reasons they are there but people please don't judge them.

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Response to southernyankeebelle (Reply #28)

Wed Dec 12, 2012, 11:27 AM

31. Churches and food banks require you to have a physical address.

And they almost always run out of food by the end of the first week.

Mr. Bmus adopted three homeless vets when we lived in the city, he found them good housing, paid their utility deposits, drove them to the Veteran's Hospital every month so they could get their medication, let them sleep it off at our house when they'd go on a bender, lent them money he knew he'd never get back.
Two of the three are now living happy productive lives, one got married, the other moved to Virginia to be closer to his children. Unfortunately the third vet is now in a mental hospital.

My guy is generous to a fault, he would never look down on anyone.




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Response to beam me up scottie (Reply #31)

Wed Dec 12, 2012, 01:01 PM

35. That's what I call god living angel.

 

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Response to beam me up scottie (Original post)

Wed Dec 12, 2012, 11:08 AM

29. I think Empathy and Compassion

are contagious---even if they only take a Portion of their lottery money to help--he would be a success---sometimes it takes awhile for folks to "see" what they are looking at...tell him it might take some time-maybe he could invite them to go with him next time so they can see for themselves.

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Response to fredamae (Reply #29)

Wed Dec 12, 2012, 11:41 AM

32. I had an idea last night, he could challenge them to do one good deed.

You know how guys are, who could resist?

And if you're right, if it's contagious, they may feel so good about it they'll keep looking for people to help.

When I saw my first homeless person digging through our dumpster (a long time ago and far far away) my now ex-husband was irritated because I was crying. He told me that if I was going to live in the city I had to learn to ignore them like everyone else.

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Response to beam me up scottie (Reply #32)

Thu Dec 13, 2012, 09:40 AM

42. How Sad!

For whatever reason a person falls on bad times, it could happen to anyone--Intentional Ignorance Is The Worst Enemy to Compassion.

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Response to beam me up scottie (Original post)

Wed Dec 12, 2012, 12:48 PM

34. Not all of them are jerks

Sure, some are jerks. But some of them are frustrated with their lives and long for something better. The lottery is a tenuous thread of hope. Even though the odds are near to impossible, the payoff is big and people do win it.

So, if people need to contribute to the lottery, even though the odds are overwhelmingly against them, let them be. If your friend wants to help the poor, he could set up a separate fund. Let people make their own choices, and he should accept their decisions without judgment. Some may contribute to both, some may split the money, some may realize the futility of the lottery and give all their share to the homeless fund.

There are other things he can do, like periodic food drives so people can empty their pantries. We do it at work, and I'm getting set to haul a car-load of boxes to the food bank on Friday.

Most important of all, he can lead by example. Simply by being an activist for the homeless, people will notice his work and become more aware of the homeless and if they feel compassion, they will join him.

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Response to shireen (Reply #34)

Wed Dec 12, 2012, 02:58 PM

38. Most really are.

Conservative christian racist republicans who don't hesitate to call President Obama a muslim ni**er and all signed the petition to secede from the U.S.

One of their coworkers had to have her hip replacement removed and another implanted but insurance didn't cover all of the cost. She owes the hospital thousands of dollars.
The supervisor left a card with a note asking for donations and by the end of the shift one person had donated $5. Mr. Bmus felt so awful he left all he had in his wallet, $46.00.
This woman is well liked and has worked there for years.

It's not about the lottery, it's about compassion.

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Response to beam me up scottie (Reply #38)

Thu Dec 13, 2012, 04:49 AM

41. that's really sad

i don't think i could stand to work around people like that.

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Response to beam me up scottie (Original post)

Wed Dec 12, 2012, 01:34 PM

37. being a person like him means going around with your heart cracked open

What makes him so extraordinary also means the world is going to be painful for him.

Maybe somebody here who's a therapist or social worker, who also deals with people's pain all day, can offer some advice for how he can give other people his love and compassion without letting their suffering impact him in a negative way. A Buddhist roshi once told me that simply being present with someone in pain, and letting them know that they and their suffering have been seen and acknowledged by another human being, is the greatest gift (not the only gift they need, of course). I think maybe just trying to let their pain into his heart without feeling as though he has a responsibility to 1) fix it and 2) not be happy himself until their pain is fixed might be a start for him.

He sounds like the sweetest person ever. No wonder you love him so.

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Response to renate (Reply #37)

Wed Dec 12, 2012, 03:05 PM

39. I'm like that with animals.

No matter how many you save it's never enough.

Thank you for your kind words, I was hesitant to post this on DU but I'm very glad that I did.

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