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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsWhy do we treat having sex with someone as some form of punishment?
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People are forever writing "fuck this" or "screw that," often referring to some person or another in an angry way, treating the act as a punishment of some heinous kind. Maybe I'm weird, but I've always reserved that act for people I like a lot. I've always considered sex to be a good thing. It's just odd that references to sexual intercourse are often made as though it would be a punishment.
Why is that? Can someone explain?
ETA: I ask, because someone else in GD suggested having intercourse with (fucking) Papa John, and I couldn't quite figure out why. It's not appealing. I'd rather boycott his pizza chain.
johnq45
(33 posts)This is only about sex and not access?
BlueMan Votes
(903 posts)try running that one past your mother...
slackmaster
(60,567 posts)It's hilarious.
MineralMan
(146,286 posts)Certainly, I've had it said to me as a term of endearment, or perhaps encouragement. Generally, it has spurred me on to greater effort.
What do you think the word means?
snooper2
(30,151 posts)This was already covered as noted by someone much smarter than people here
BlueMan Votes
(903 posts)kinda like the word "dude".
MineralMan
(146,286 posts)The inflection merely acts as an adjective for that noun. Same with "fuck" or "screw." The core meaning's always the same in this context.
MineralMan
(146,286 posts)I could run it by her when I talk to her next weekend, and see what she thinks. I'll have to speak up, though: She's 88 and her hearing aid doesn't work very well with the telephone.
slackmaster
(60,567 posts)For them, sex may be seen as dirty or just a chore that has to be done for various reasons.
MineralMan
(146,286 posts)Thanks.
BeyondGeography
(39,369 posts)MineralMan
(146,286 posts)Lucinda
(31,170 posts)(or it's variants) and point out that using that phrase as an insult in front of a woman would not make women think that it was an activity that engenders much respect.
And I'm probably going to get my first hidden post with this one.
MineralMan
(146,286 posts)In one setting, it is a plea. In another it is a curse. How interesting, isn't it. Perhaps there some ambivalence regarding sexual matters. Or perhaps it's a power issue, which is unfortunate in its own right.
BTW, I can't see why your post should get hidden.
Lucinda
(31,170 posts)when matters of sex are discussed.
I've never had a good answer to my question BTW... The usual response is a goofy grin.
treestar
(82,383 posts)This version of use of the word is from the old patriarchal view of sex, where it is looked at at something a man got at the expense of a woman. It is something a woman gets "used" for, considered an unpleasant experience for her, and something a man obtained from her, which she would not have given up had she known he was just going to take it and go.
Like in the old book, Don Juan. He "enjoyed" the lady and she was "deceived."
MineralMan
(146,286 posts)Rather an old-fashioned way of thinking about it, isn't it.
BTW, I asked the question because someone in another thread was suggesting having intercourse with Papa John. It made me think a bit about the phrase. I couldn't see how it was a kindly suggestion or even a realistic one. It just gave me pause for a minute.
closeupready
(29,503 posts)Consider the adage that frequently substitutes: "Don't shit where you sleep."
THAT one makes sense, intuitively.
The expression as you describe it being used is a mystery to me.
Mr.Bill
(24,282 posts)Those that think sex is something you do with someone, and those that think sex is something you do to someone.
Most women know the difference.
unblock
(52,196 posts)usually involving insertion into a straght man's rectum.
MineralMan
(146,286 posts)Why not just beat the crap out of someone. It would be more effective, and wouldn't require sexual arousal. That last thing is the odd part, I think. Anger has never been something that gets me going, somehow. There's a lot of ambivalence in that usage, somehow.
BlueMan Votes
(903 posts)the appropriate response is "well fuck my ass!".
leftstreet
(36,106 posts)It's a power wielding phrase based on patriarchal views wherein a man 'does' something to someone with his penis
Waltons_Mtn
(345 posts)The meaning behind it is to perform the act without permission. In other words RAPE. But "rape you" doesn't sound as good.
It falls under the same misguided language of wishing the really bad man gets "put in a cell with Bubba."
Just my opinion.
MineralMan
(146,286 posts)But still...
BlueMan Votes
(903 posts)MineralMan
(146,286 posts)Kinda makes my point, really.
My favorite line from the video: "Fuck me twice on Sunday!" I don't think she meant it literally, though.
HopeHoops
(47,675 posts)As for the pizza, haven't you ever seen a porn clip with the pizza delivery guy having a hole cut out in the center of the box? Wait. Maybe that was MTV. I forget now.